Tosinville:

Ladyj, yeah! u r right in some kind of ways but as a nigerian guy also, i have deal wit some of 'em nd to call a spade a spade, 85% of naija ladies are after money nd b4 u can meet d right girl dat is not after wat u got then u wil hook urself up wit an uptown girl, and if she fall in love her parents won't let dat rltnship grow nd later end it wit u jus because u r from downtown or they find out dat u r not from a good nd wealthy background etc. . . . . Thats nigerian stup1d mentality for u and i aint blamin those naija material girls tho cos d situation nd economic of dis country is not helpin matters.

I understand your dilemma----so I dare you to start your own thread- asking where are the quality Nigerian ladies hiding and lets see your responses!

(*¿*) well if someone here tryna tell me in an indirect way she's the right girl then i disagree. Gbam!!!

Tosinville:

(*¿*) well if someone here tryna tell me in an indirect way she's the right girl then i disagree. Gbam!!!

Uhmm,  I hope you were not referring to me, I  told you directly what I was trying to say,  no under line message there, and if it wasn't clear from my original post long ago on this---I want my man  currently living in the United States!! I am not in the business of giving out a visa! GBAM that,

Ladyj, well as a matter of fact no qualify nigerian women excludin those ones abroad dat as already make some money dat r only lookin 4 true love but as far as nigeria is concern, NO MONEY NO HONEY lol dats nigerian girls motto so i don't need to bother openin ma own thread askin dat kinda question cos ppl do pretend here as a qualify nigerian men/women but in real life they're foul lol

In united states? Why don't you wanna live wit him right here in nigeria?

Tosinville:

Ladyj, well as a matter of fact no qualify nigerian women excludin those ones abroad dat as already make some money dat r only lookin 4 true love but as far as nigeria is concern, NO MONEY NO HONEY lol dats nigerian girls motto so i don't need to bother openin ma own thread askin dat kinda question cos ppl do pretend here as a qualify nigerian men/women but in real life they're foul lol

Ok point well taken brother!

Tosinville:

In united states? Why don't you wanna live wit him right here in nigeria?

Because that is where I live currently! I can not date a man that lives thousands of miles away- it is not realistic~

Yeah! U r right about dat nd i really dig long distance too but there are alot of nigerian guys in d united states nd i also got some friendz nd families dat can hook u up, hangin wit a nigerian guy in d states aint a big deal only if they happens to be d kind of quality guys u want so its complicated 4 now but u can stil give a trial.

i really don't dig long distance relationship too i meant.

Wy all diz utimate search wen I'm here,
I've got all u need n can take any of u as a wife if u re hapi to accept me as i am.
I'm a Nigerian born guy, i can satisfy all ur desire en i'm ready anytime u want. Send me a Mail: deblla@yahoo.com
, Tanx dear

^^ Sorry guy- I am no longer looking right now, but maybe someone else will see this!

Ladyjide:

Uhmm,  I hope you were not referring to me, I  told you directly what I was trying to say,  no under line message there, and if it wasn't clear from my original post long ago on this---I want my man  currently living in the United States!! I am not in the business of giving out a visa! GBAM that,

lol am i glad my gf doesnt think like you.

To be honest, the above is one reason i stayed quite clear from nigerian women born here . . . the idea that you trying to date them is automatically because you need a visa is just annoying. I remember once my dad asking if i would get married before i finished school and i was adamant i'd want to make my own way first before thinking about marriage. The last thing i want is some silly snob thinking she can hold the blue passport over ur head.

davidylan:

lol am i glad my gf doesnt think like you.

Hush, now, that might have came out wrong, but where do you live now  David I already know-- so no need to answer that!! Where did you meet your girlfriend??  Bottom line what I meant was that I am not going to import my mate from another country! Just because that is not your intentions- does not mean that is not another, I do not put my self in those type of positions, so it doesn't apply to me, If you arent living in the US- I am not going to start a real relationship with you. Completely Unrealistic!

davidylan:

lol am i glad my gf doesnt think like you.

To be honest, the above is one reason i stayed quite clear from nigerian women born here . . . the idea that you trying to date them is automatically because you need a visa is just annoying. I remember once my dad asking if i would get married before i finished school and i was adamant i'd want to make my own way first before thinking about marriage. The last thing i want is some silly snob thinking she can hold the blue passport over your head.

Don't mind them
a lot of them are approaching early 30's with no prospects
By the time they wake up at 35,they will be looking for a Mexican and they won't find

0hsisi:

Don't mind them
a lot of them are approaching early 30's with no prospects
By the time they wake up at 35,they will be looking for a Mexican and they won't find

I guess you live in Nigeria- as well, Your response is expected!

0hsisi:

Don't mind them
a lot of them are approaching early 30's with no prospects
By the time they wake up at 35,they will be looking for a Mexican and they won't find

many of them ask you straight up if you would be needing her to apply for a green card. I heard that a couple of times and i simply quit bothering with them.

Ladyjide:

Hush, now, that might have came out wrong, but where do you live now  David I already know-- so no need to answer that!! Where did you meet your girlfriend??  Bottom line what I meant was that I am not going to import my mate from another country!  Just because that is not your intentions- does not mean that is not another, I do not put my self in those type of positions, so it doesn't apply to me, If you arent living in the US- I am not going to start a real relationship with you. Completely Unrealistic!

1. it might have come out wrong but you cant deny its the prevailing thought pattern among nigerian women with US passports.

2. What's wrong with "importing" a husband? I've seen it happen to no less than 3 of my family friends and they are having fabulous marriages. Actually my good friend was in Enugu working when he met and married his NY-based wife. They are happily married with 2 kids today.

I'm not sure you really are serious with your search. When you're serious, all these pseudo-conditions wont exist.

Ladyjide:

I guess you live in Nigeria- as well, Your response is expected!

lol it might interest you to note that she's a US citizen. The way many of you think impulsively and without much rational is amazing.

davidylan:

lol it might interest you to note that she's a US citizen. The way many of you think impulsively and without much rational is amazing.

Uhmm- It might interest you that I am also a Nigerian citizen- with a green passport, so you say all that to say what Dont judge when you do not even remotely know me, Talk what you know, What is unrational about someone who wants to live in the same country as their mate Just my personal preference!!

Ladyjide:

Uhmm- It might interest you that I am also a Nigerian citizen- with a green passport, so you say all that to say what Dont judge when you do not even remotely know me, Talk what you know, What is unrational about someone who wants to live in the same country as their mate Just my personal preference!!

take ur own advice then. see your response to ohsisi.

What stops your husband from moving from nigeria to live with you here? it happens all the time. What stops you from moving over to nigeria or perhaps europe to be with ur husband? You need a man YET you want it all on your own terms? good luck searching.

davidylan:

many of them ask you straight up if you would be needing her to apply for a green card. I heard that a couple of times and i simply quit bothering with them.

1. It might have come out wrong but you cant deny its the prevailing thought pattern among Nigerian women with US passports.

2. What's wrong with "importing" a husband? I've seen it happen to no less than 3 of my family friends and they are having fabulous marriages. Actually my good friend was in Enugu working when he met and married his NY-based wife. They are happily married with 2 kids today.

I'm not sure you really are serious with your search. When you're serious, all these pseudo-conditions wont exist.

1. I am not sure what Nigerian women with Us passports do as I can only speak for myself-- I have never have had anyone date me for citizenship yet- and it hasnt even crossed my mind per say-- If i dated a guy who lived here but was not a US citizen is not a problem, I am just not going to go to Nigeria to look for a date- what about that is so hard to understand,

2.I am not interested in importing a husband, No need to explain anything there--- I am glad for your friends and congrats on their marriages, It is just not what I am in to, or going to do. I need time with my mate and I can not get that when we are thousands of miles apart.

I guess I am not that serious or desperate yet,

davidylan:

take your own advice then. see your response to ohsisi.

What stops your husband from moving from nigeria to live with you here? it happens all the time. What stops you from moving over to nigeria or perhaps europe to be with your husband? You need a man YET you want it all on your own terms? good luck searching.

I say no mind am
let her do yanga now
By the time she clocks 30 with no serious man in sight ,she'll change by force.
If you see how these American born Naija girls  and their parents rushed some single guys who came from Naija for  a kporakpo convention fear go catch you.
Men were seriously trying to introduce their daughters.

0hsisi:

I say no mind am
let her do yanga now
By the time she clocks 30 with no serious man in sight ,she'll change by force.
If you see how these American born Naija girls  and their parents rushed some single guys who came from Naija for  a kporakpo convention fear go catch you.
Men were seriously trying to introduce their daughters.

lol i've experienced it myself. i no dey mind them at all.

Ladyjide:

I guess you live in Nigeria- as well, Your response is expected!

How condescending!
Is there some special advantage attached to you because you live in the US
Rubbish!

davidylan:

lol i've experienced it myself. i no dey mind them at all.

I was at a wedding recently
This man was seriously searching for single men for his daughter in med school.
Meanwhile the groom at this wedding was imported straight from Naija for this American born Naija girl

davidylan:

take your own advice then. see your response to ohsisi.

What stops your husband from moving from nigeria to live with you here? it happens all the time. What stops you from moving over to nigeria or perhaps europe to be with your husband? You need a man YET you want it all on your own terms? good luck searching.

What stops your husband from moving from nigeria to live with you here?
How is he to become my husband when i cant even get to know him because he lives thousands of miles away.  
Nothing stops that when the time comes, but I need to get to know the person I am dating before that happens, and telephone calls and once a 6 month visits just wont do for me!!!

 You need a man YET you want it all on your own terms?  I  think that is where you are mis informed- I do not need a man- as I do not think I have ever had a problem getting one of those, and since when cant you get a mate on your own terms??

Marrying someone in Nigeria has it's gripes and all. It is all a personal choice. Not everyone wants to marry someone and bring them here
For one the issue of if they married the said girl/guy for real or just because they want to come over. These things aren't that black and white jare

0hsisi:

How condescending!
Is there some special advantage attached to you because you live in the US
Rubbish!

I wonder.

Ok- let me shut all of you guys down quickly- Everyone has their preference in their mate, Some folks like their mates, skinny, fat, tall or short, I like my man to be LOCAL, what is the big dealSo no I am wrong for that, Cut it out!!!!

0hsisi:

I say no mind am
let her do yanga now
By the time she clocks 30 with no serious man in sight ,she'll change by force.
If you see how these American born Naija girls  and their parents rushed some single guys who came from Naija for  a kporakpo convention fear go catch you.
Men were seriously trying to introduce their daughters.

At no point in my life- will I  be in a position to send for a man in Nigeria, and  make him my husband-----I will bet my house on that! Ask me how I know?

0hsisi:

How condescending!
Is there some special advantage attached to you because you live in the US
Rubbish!

It has nothing to do with a special advantage-- do not try to make it into that---It has to do with the fact that you are quick to defend the comment that girls should be willing to import a man from Nigeria-and if they do not by 30 we will be willing to settle for any thing ( Mexican) Never in this life time , Now that is some rubbish!

0hsisi:

I was at a wedding recently
This man was seriously searching for single men for his daughter in med school.
Meanwhile the groom at this wedding was imported straight from Naija for this American born Naija girl

Congrats for them-sorry for the man searching for men for his daughter, but  I am not willing to  do it, nor will I ever been in that position to do so, and the world still moves in a circle,

davidylan:

I wonder.

Nothing to wonder about, it is what it is!! Seems like that part is whats bothering you guys!!

chika98:

Marrying someone in Nigeria has it's gripes and all. It is all a personal choice. Not everyone wants to marry someone and bring them here
For one the issue of if they married the said girl/guy for real or just because they want to come over. These things aren't that black and white jare

Exactly at least you understand - it is a personal choice, and if someone choices other wise- It is not the end of the world,

@Osisi,

I am a Nigerian in USA kinda new in America, Less than 3yrs. I am in my late 20's and I am looking for cool Nigerian girl who are doing very good for herself. I wont mind a medical doctor or a Pharmacist too.

I am a working professional and make six figures so I need someone in my social status too maybe a 24-27yr old Nigerian in America would be cool. If she was born here, She needs to identify with my Nigerian culture since I am still very Nigerian.

please I am not needing a girl for papers I am arranging my own stuff by myself.

Sorry ladyjide for hijacking your thread.

kennylat:

@Osisi,

I am a Nigerian in USA kinda new in America, Less than 3yrs. I am in my late 20's and I am looking for cool Nigerian girl who are doing very good for herself. I wont mind a medical doctor or a Pharmacist too.

I am a working professional and make six figures so I need someone in my social status too maybe a 24-27yr old Nigerian in America would be cool. If she was born here, She needs to identify with my Nigerian culture since I am still very Nigerian.

please I am not needing a girl for papers I am arranging my own stuff by myself.

Sorry ladyjide for hijacking your thread.

Hey go for it, u never know!! I am glad my thread could be of services to some people on here! lol

Interesting thread.

Why are people vexing about the poster preferring a guy who's also in the States as she is? It's reasonable and a personal preference.

@topic, I dunno but Good luck!