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Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by pyrex23(m): 8:32pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
frankman365:Children not parents |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by ImaIma1(f): 8:32pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
LynnnCHI: Believe me...it will be an issue when it keeps happening. A friend of mine always had her mum inlaw visiting and spending like a month... getting in between husband and wife. And such times, the couple used to fight a lot. Right now, the mum inlaw is to keep her distance to allow the couple bond. Even the wife's mum hardly visits. Mum's should learn to stay away. 6 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by LadySarah: 8:36pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
My mums only bro came after 5 of them girls.Everybody wanted to have a say of his choice of a wife.he brought his love home an ogoja woman from cross river state and my grandma refused.For yrs he pleaded even when there was a preg scare they didn't budge.She would curse with her flat breasts that he suckled . Her crime-not Igbo. Last last,she later brought her choice,a week before his traditional wedding he died.His trad date was used for his burial.He was 35yrs and had been ready to marry the non Igbo woman for 9 yrs but for my grandma. They later travelled to Lagos to meet the lady and enquire whether she actually had a child for him but nothing. No son ,no grandchild. Who she gon blame?What does the Igbo woman have that the cross riverian didn't have.She bitterly regrets it today and hasn't recovered since 2012 from it. If she/he is worth it ,go for it.Life is too short for another creature to make yours filled with regret. If they quote Eph 6 vs 1,quote verse 2 for them. 27 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Femeto: 8:39pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
loffyloffy:Easier said than done. 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 8:39pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
ImaIma1: Ok. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by ovanda(m): 8:44pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
I am currently facing the same issues with my family but I will stand my ground. My mum is just making trouble for everybody. Because the girl I intend to marry is not serving her like a slave, she doesn't qualify to be married. she's gotten away with behaviour such as this for far too long but in my tenure, she go learn lessons. I don't care if I am isolated from my family after all they don't feed me. it should be noted that I have dated this girl for 10yr now and somebody is telling rubbish because her papa no be dangote abi? na me and them, make we see as e go be. And for people who are saying God forbid they marry without their parents consent are nothing but over pampered kids!! 22 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Alum34(m): 8:45pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
OP follow your heart, but remember your parents are gods sent by God to guard your steps. There are two sides to a coin. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 8:46pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
LynnnCHI:Nope, the control has been there all along. She just don't want to share. When he don't have secrets, always doing to her bidding. See, this control started when he was young. Mothers see it as their right, sometimes relegating the dad to the background. That you gave birth and trained your child is your complete obligation. As long as you chose to give birth, u should take responsibility for the outcome. It's not a privilege. You didn't do your son any favour so no emotional blackmail there. The mum should reach out to her son's wife. It's not always wife that should do the reaching out. Nothing spectacular about being a mum. Mad women have children too. The moment our men stand up to their mum and be bold enough to say will make my own decision about marriage no matter the outcome, the better for everybody. This control start when a mother think that her marital life revolves around her son. That her son is the reason she is living or enduring her marriage, so the boy automatically becomes her asset. 7 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 8:51pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
sassysure: Well,in all caution should be exercised. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DavidEsq(m): 8:53pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
zicoraads:Have u watched "desperate house wives" I think season 7, where Porter brought a Russian lady home and his mother objected? Wat exactly wr the reasons she objected? Experience makes u see most ppl tru. Our parents have that experience. However, some ladies na baba for pretence and some of our parents have flimsy reasons, while others parents have sinister reasons (I have seen that o and it shocked me to smithereens). So we shld be able to tell wat exactly are our parents' reasons for objecting to our choice of spouse. Lastly, Jehovah is th originator of family, so he wants us all to have a happy family and he has provided in his word, the bible the formula for choosing our mates. All those of una wey dey talk of vision, on top all the visions wey pastors dey see upandan, shebi divorce yakata for ground for naija? 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Baoo4eva(m): 8:53pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
I will like to share my experience. My mom wanted me to marry a different lady who I had always seen as part of our family. My mom was citing God prophesy as reason. She dey fight all ladies she saw with me. But I didn't just like the girl enough to marry her. So I went to NYSC in 2014 and met this lady. My mom refused like die, even went ahead to meet the other ladies parents that as long as she is my mother , I won't marry another person. As God will have it, the new lady FELL PREGNANT and I took responsibility. We fixed a date for the marriage but my mom refused to accept. I already planned going ahead with the marriage without her and invited someone else to stand as mother for me. But my sisters and her pastors told her that if she doesn't attend the wedding, she should forget she has children. So she came on the Friday before the wedding. We have a beautiful baby girl and now, my mom is all over my daughter. She and my wife get fairly well along but she doesn't speak to my in-laws. As for me, I am almost 3years married and it's looking like we are still date, I am enjoying every second of it. Bottom line, it's your marriage, if you love each other , go for him/ her. 20 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by TEYA: 8:55pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
clemmonce:Their children nko? Shay sickler no dey? |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 8:56pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
LynnnCHI: Can you see that ur first comment i qouted was emotional outburst like most of the comments here? And that is what most men use instead of brain. Take care 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by FlyingTOMATOE: 8:57pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
alexistaiwo:Thanks for this. We learn everyday 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DavidEsq(m): 8:59pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
ovanda:Guy exactly na so my own be o! But I know who my babe be. I do my marriage I no send dem. If u se the kind things wey I don achieve becos of this my wife ehn. Happiness yakata, savings make sense, common sense full ground, peace dey overflow. As in ehn. I don dey do my will sef to give my wife maximum protection. Dem don dey call me dey beg me tire for visit but me I cannor fit shout o. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I am striving to be same to her. 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 9:04pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
pyrex23:lol actually, after God, when married, next is your spouse because you have become one |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by MurphyInc(m): 9:07pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Dear OP, Thanks for opening this thread.Personally, my marriage (not wedded though) is going through cios because I did not listen to my mothers advice not to marry a lady from Ondo, single mother and a Christian (I was a Muslim).its so sad some people are derailing from the OP purpose of creating this thread. I met this lady in Lagos when she was still single and studying at a university in Lagos.i fell in love with her at first site cos she was outspoken, friendly, tall and very beautiful. Though she told me she had a boyfriend and not intended to double date.I didn't believe her and I wasn't ready to back down because i was blindedly in love with her. Even though she was dating this guy (I later met him) we were seeing each other (without sex at first) and something terrible happened to her, this guy decided to put her hand in marriage but later dumped her as she got pregnant. She felt so bad, she cried everyday and night.i felt really bad but because of the love I have for her i never left her, instead I stayed by her side and her mothers (her father is late) till she delivered. When I told my mother (my dad is late at that time) about her, she refused her immediately I mentioned that she's a Christian and from ondo town.She said I will never marry a Christian,after one and ondo girli.I felt really bad cos i love this girl with all my heart and I was ready to be with her no matter what. To cut the long story short, I decided to marry her to 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DavidEsq(m): 9:11pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Moneystopnonsen:Chuck knuckles bro. U dope |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DavidEsq(m): 9:18pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
agaliboy:Guy, the simple reason u are a divorcee today is because of ur long distance relationship which caused u not to see the obvious. Except u at suggesting that ur mom knew all these facts (as in based on spiro tinz) and still refused telling u. U wld have seen wat ur mom saw, if u had not done watsapp relationship. Pretense is not hard to see for me sha, provided I pay enof attention to possible red flags. 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 9:18pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
ImaIma1: The story still falls under parental nonconsent marriage. My brother allow emotions becloud his sense of reasoning and judgment 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by idu1(m): 9:20pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Truckpusher:You still dey Nairaland? E don tey wey I see you last. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DavidEsq(m): 9:22pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
DrOBD:Oya say it na. Why keeping us in suspense? If have, just mention me abeg . Make I hear correct gist. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by clemmonce(m): 9:22pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
TEYA:o boy they do before birth abortion ... They will check the child's genotype before the baby is born... |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by SUXXI(m): 9:23pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Marriage is union of two families and as such parental consent is important.In some cases,you have to follow your heart even if parent(s) do not agree.This happened to my younger brother who was about to marry.My dad was totally against it even though my mum was in support.He came with his sisters and children and they beat us all up that my brother can and will never marry the girl.How can his son marry her without seeing the colour of her panties?How can he marry the said girl without him (my younger brother) first having sex with his wife to be.That he is suppose to carry enough girls,make like 5 girls pregnant before my dad will select the one he is to marry.My dad's sister on the other hand said this thing can never get pregnant.That over her dead body will my brother marry her.She even went to threaten the girls family.My mum believe in abstinence before marriage while my dad believes in getting the wife/numerous girls to be pregnant before marriage.After we all collecting beating from my dads sister and her children.We decided to continue with the marriage without his consent.My dad is a hardcore womanizer so we his children that do not carry women was a big disgrace to him.Today my brother is happily married with 3 wonderful kids.My mum encouraged all of us to keep ourselves until we marry.I am happily married with a kid. 15 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DavidEsq(m): 9:27pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
DrOBD:Awwwwww! This wan sweet die o. Abeg come chop banga soup with starch . Just being chilled gulder come sha 2 Likes
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Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Ishilove: 9:29pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
bedspread: Is this like hearing the 'small, silent voice', or an inspiration? Conviction? How did you 'hear' God? 4 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Mizwisdom(f): 9:38pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
What of people without parents? you better live your life cause they won't be here forever 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by DrOBD(m): 9:38pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
sampete: Your parents eventually gave their consent na. We are talking about parents who refused to give consent no matter what.... 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Formularcr7: 9:42pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
martin1772:something dey ur head 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by olumyde(m): 9:44pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
LadySarah: Imagine?! What a sad occurrence. 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Jtmanager(m): 9:45pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Richkid97: Baby mama 1 Like 1 Share |
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