5thElement:


I'm sure you know what you can do with your opinion. I'll give you two options.

choke on it or

stick it up your ass.

your choice.

sandra50:

Same thing I want you to do with it sweetie.

Mizwisdom:


OK a 10 year old will comfort a crying mother most times. Note I didn't say boy or girl because any child will be moved to compassion towards a loving mother, even kids less than that. When my neighbor was sick her 5 year old daughter lost appetite cause of concern for the mother. You clearly have some stereotypes which is fine but not necessarily true. A selfish child will ask the mother not to remarry because he wants to be the only child and have her to himself, no adult should allow a 7 year old control him or her. One day that child will marry and leave you lonely, no spouse wants a mil with no life of her own. I don't know why someone should allow a child dictate how she lives her life, it's better to have your own companion than to be disturbing your kids because you're lonely.

1Sharon:

Did you get ur parents consent the first time you had sex too?

olumyde:


I know that is one of the popular advice one will get. But what if it is even because of God that you are making your decision. Then you will have to decide if God is first or your parents.

Anyways, this thread is for people to share experience. There are other threads full of different advices.

Advice is cheap! Talk is cheap! Don't we usually say, experience is the best teacher.

Ishilove:

The bolded ministered directly to my soul. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is so educative and inspiring.

God bless you.

Ghostmode2two:


I hope you can differentiate between sex and marriage

CAPSLOCKED:


SELFISH AND WICKED PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS DO EVERYTHING TO JUSTIFY THEIR EVILS.
WHILE TUMBLING AND RUNNING THEIR PARTNERS DOWN FOR MANY YEARS THEY NEVER BOTHERED WITH WHAT EVEN GOD HAD TO SAY.
WHEN IT'S TIME FOR FULL TIME COMMITMENT THEY SUDDENLY COME UP WITH EXCUSES OF WHAT THEIR PARENTS WOULD OR WOULDN'T ALLOW.
IF I WAS THE MAN OR WOMAN GETTING DITCHED BY MY PARTNER AFTER MANY YEARS BECAUSE OF WHAT THEIR MOM HAS TO SAY ABOUT ME DESPITE ALL MY INVESTMENT AND ENERGY COMMITTED, I'M GOING OVER THERE TO SET THE ENTIRE FAMILY AND THEIR HOUSE ON FIRE.

ImaIma1:



Ok too

But anyway, I can bet he's in social science. Na there them plenty.

alexistaiwo:
It depends on the kind of person you are.

If you are a mummy's boy, e don be for you be that.

My own parents can never object to any marriage proposal of mine because they know that getting them involved is just a formality.
I will go ahead and do what's on my mind like I have always done since childhood.


If it backfires, well, we learn everyday.

luminouz:
nawa for u oh!
if you were in social sciences,then i will know ur face.

Akious2k2:

Your last statement speaks volume... Not everyone live to tell the story though... It can degenerate to a life long problem, you know?

ImaIma1:


No I was in arts

alexistaiwo:
My friend, all actions have consequences.



You should be man enough to deal with the consequences of your actions.

CAPSLOCKED:


SELFISH AND WICKED PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS DO EVERYTHING TO JUSTIFY THEIR EVILS.
WHILE TUMBLING AND RUNNING THEIR PARTNERS DOWN FOR MANY YEARS THEY NEVER BOTHERED WITH WHAT EVEN GOD HAD TO SAY.
WHEN IT'S TIME FOR FULL TIME COMMITMENT THEY SUDDENLY COME UP WITH EXCUSES OF WHAT THEIR PARENTS WOULD OR WOULDN'T ALLOW.
IF I WAS THE MAN OR WOMAN GETTING DITCHED BY MY PARTNER AFTER MANY YEARS BECAUSE OF WHAT THEIR MOM HAS TO SAY ABOUT ME DESPITE ALL MY INVESTMENT AND ENERGY COMMITTED, I'M GOING OVER THERE TO SET THE ENTIRE FAMILY AND THEIR HOUSE ON FIRE.

Best1708:
I'm facing the same thing right now, my guy was accepted by all and sundries. His parent are late and his elder brother insisted that he will never give his consent. He went ahead and gave every other members of the extended family a wrong impression about me.That he has gone through my bf and i chats and discovered that i don't respect him,this and that.They treated me like a plague at a public function we attended together. Like seriously i wasn't happy,i almost cried my eyes out.I'm at a cross road coz i really do love my guy but his brother is giving me more than i can chew.

Best1708:
I'm facing the same thing right now, my guy was accepted by all and sundries. His parent are late and his elder brother insisted that he will never give his consent. He went ahead and gave every other members of the extended family a wrong impression about me.That he has gone through my bf and i chats and discovered that i don't respect him,this and that.They treated me like a plague at a public function we attended together. Like seriously i wasn't happy,i almost cried my eyes out.I'm at a cross road coz i really do love my guy but his brother is giving me more than i can chew.

ericbertrand:
Hello sis, your guy needs to grow cojones. He needs to stand up for you. I think his elder brother lusts after you. Probably angry his brother has you instead. Angry because he can't have you. It's just my theory but think about it

olumyde:


And you have not seen people who went against their parents and have a successful marriage?

Thank God for this thread, at least you have read good examples too.

Best1708:
Two people has said this too.

Tallesty1:
No experience so I will be sharing my senior brother's experience.


Dude came home one day with one tall bae like that from Anambra.


He called the fam together and introduced her as the girl he will marry, Oh Boy.... My old man no even let him finish before he provoke.


He said it ain't happening, that all his kids will marry from my state.

Mumsy calmed him but she sef no support the thing.

Later that night(after the girl don go) he(dad) called us together and started giving reason why we should not marry from another state.

My bro told him that he and the girl don tey so he no fit leave am like that.

I told them to let him marry whoever he likes after all nah he go live with am.


But the reason I supported him be say me sef dey date one girl from Anambra that time.

Mumsy later gree but palee refused so with mom's support, we do strong head go marry her.


To cut the story short, the lady is my dad's favorite daughter in law till today and they're happily married with 4 kids.

2 boys and 2 girls.

Excel70:

Happy birthday Best1708 wishing you long life and prosperity

chris31:

Go make peace with ur mum ur making a bigger mistake forget wives they are only there to give u children u wont understand but someday u will

ivolt:
Sharing experience would be bad advice because people's parents and relationships differ.
Don't marry her because she is a cultist or unfaithful is a good advice.
But don't marry her because I don't like her mother, aunty or face is hogwash. You are the one that will live with your wife, not your mother.

Know thyself and your parents before you decide. While some parents will soften with time, others may cut you off completely. You must examine the worst case scenario to know what you are prepared to sacrifice.

Are you the only child who happens to be mommy's boy? Then going against her might be too much for you to bear.
Are you a person who have always make important decisions for themselves, then follow your heart.

Whatever you choose, you will always regret your decision, there is no escaping it. If you follow your heart and you later face challenges, you will think it is because you went against your mother.
If you bow to your mother's pressure and became unhappy with another woman, you will regret not marrying the love of your life and would blame your mother.

chisco82:

Even God said you should honour your parent, even God will not support you to do that. Pray to God to help change ur parents heart.