5p1naz:

haha welcome to the women's world. . . haha

49cents:

hey you are funny bro, women's world of what exactly?

Spyker:

Guy, read in between the lines, if the demand is unneccessary, quit.
I know many women use the slogan "no money, no honey" as their foundation for love but not all women.
I suggest you stop spending on her and focus on only what you think she needs. Don't grant her every want.
If you cannot continue and you think the love is fake, quit.

5p1naz:

"women's world of dependence" this is a part of em where some of them depend on their "partners"

Ladyjide:

[size=15pt]Run and don't look back.[/size] You are simply trying to date her and not be her father! How has she been managing before meeting you?

no1madman:

Don't let her play u ojoro. . . .no sex,no money.

andromida:

So u knw she needs moni to make her hair and yet you refuse to give,tomorrow you will post"my gal embarrassed me with her hairstyle" some weeks later you will be wondering why she has become distant,.years later you will say she is too arrogant and not submissive when she is the one doing everything for her self.You will begin to miss the days of our forefathers when women were seen but not heard and the men totally took care of them.Tomorrow you will say Nigerian gals are copying American gals by becoming too independent all the while not realizing you and only you pushed her to it.YOU can decide areas where you choose to give financial assisstance to her without making yourself into a sugar daddy so if you give her money to make her hair now she will only love you for your money?

You also mentioned that she asked too take things slow and you also are tinking futuristic so why comparing that to like she wants to take it slow but rush u to spend money,how much money?successful life is give and give and give as against give and take esp in a futuristic r/ship and really intimacy with you what does that prove?

oversharpness kills r/ships in alot of cases,Be the Man in charge and stop wondering if she is using your head,Afterall the worst scenario would be that you have helped someone accomplish something worthwhile in life which eventually will only make you a better person esp you have established that she is a poor person and needs your generosity.

googles:



whoever said a woman needs a man to fix her hair ??

if she does not have money to fix her hair she should crop it all off den  

why wait on a man to pay for yur hair  

googles:



whoever said a woman needs a man to fix her hair ??

if she does not have money to fix her hair she should crop it all off den

why wait on a man to pay for yur hair

philip0906:

hehehe. . .Googles is vexing

googles:



i just hate it wen some girls talk like dat later they will say man no respect them

wen you are always begging for peanuts how will he respect yuh ?

dress the way yuh want to be addressed. . . if you act like a peasant you will be treated as one

if i nor get money for my hair i ll use wig nah. . . some girls are just overly materialistic and dependent

49cents:

i am nt a woman hater but 9ja girls keep pushing me too hard, i think it is time 9ja bro start splitting bills on a dtae like they do in wesstern societies, that way we can instantly know you whether you really dig us or u r just hungry for Chicken republik

49cents:

met her in my office, she told me of how she is working to sponsor herself through school i felt i should give her a try cos i like hard working girls who dare to dream and realize it without resorting to illicit means; i ask her out and she thinks i came 4 intimacy (for she says she wants a God-fearing man) but i made it clear that's not my goal and i meant it from the depths of my heart cos am thinkin long term even life time with her then i seek her response she says wants to observe me too and that we shud take it slow,

I concur, then she began mentioning her unpaid school/hostel fees as if by the way in our conversations, she points at the black skirt suit, shoes and bags in every boutique we pass by in our very first stroll when i went visiting (i can easily afford it, but bought her provisions cos she look looked too lean and she told me she was feeling dizzy), i feign deaf, until she asks for money for making her hair, now i reason aloud to myself "you said we should not rush love yet you are rushing my spending on you!" I gave an excuse of distance and my sweetheart went sour each time i call her on the phone until i get pissed and asked her whats up,

I know she aint having much cash (she just gave her first salary in a new job she just got as first offering, i find it quite amusing and chide for it she says it her a Divine investment i let it rest) with all she is saying now the proof of a guys love, among other things like commitment, must be in his taking care of her needs, assume i grant this what now is the proof of her love towards me since s.ex is neither involved nor the goal in our nascent relationship? I dont want her to love me becos i foot her bills or is my model of what love should built on to idealistic and unrealistic?

your thots guys!

Ujujoan:

Just another broke guy crying foul! I'd suggest you put in more effort into making money so you can buy your GF those precious things she wants and let peace reign again!

49cents:

thanks was waiting for this (assuming am one broke guy like you assume) what can she put in more effort in?

Ujujoan:

Why dont you stop bothering yourself about what is right, what she wants and what you should do.

I bet you are a full grown man with a mind of your own. Do what feels right and let it be. If she likes she can stick around, if she likes, she can walk.

But quit whinning, you sound lame!

TewMuch:

That is why you are in a relationship.To help each other, financially and growth wise.With a focus on achieving great things in future as a couple.You are obviously still a child.I don't think any woman will want a man that never gives her gifts or helps her when she knows he can.I don't mean go out of your way to steal, if you can afford it and you love her, why not? This person is struggling to be productive and is not prostituting herself to get there.The best you can do is help her with what matters, the school fees or books.If you don't drop the money when she knows u can afford it, forget getting kitty. She will put u in the "just useless" friends category.So be help your GF, even if you don't end up together and she becomes something in future, you have a lot to be proud of.