hello,
Didn't find personals, didn't know where to put this, so I decided here. Why, it'll perhaps get more responses.
Just wanted you guys to advise someone dying for it. I don't get to talk to a lot of people, so it's diffifult finding out.
I just happen to be too nice, I guess. I'm always inclined towards helping people, even when it puts me in some dire situations. Why can't I just stop? I dunno. I try, I try, but it's like my life is dependent on it.
Somehow, I get the awkward feeling that people don't appreciate it when they know you'll be willing to help them. Why is this for Christ's sake? I mean, can't they just be glad there's a helping hand? Then again, I just wanted to know what you guys think of those who help "a lot", I mean in any situations, or go the length others scarcely go, perhaps even in a relationship, though not necessarily in a relationship.
I'm just less of a Nigerian to understand all of this.
Then when I try to be harsh, I find it incredibly nauseating; yet my desire is not to be in people's radar all too frequently. Apparently, helping them puts me there, albeit in bad light. Then coupled with this, I go my way; won't fight when annoyed by others, and am extremely polite ( I guess). All of these appear to me to be put-offs, and not in the general line of being "cool". Of course, it isn't that I am dying to be cool, but of course, I don't want to be uncool either!

Note: yab if you want to. you think it will matter?

eNKe!:

hello,
Didn't find personals, didn't know where to put this, so I decided here. Why, it'll perhaps get more responses.
Just wanted you guys to advise someone dying for it. I don't get to talk to a lot of people, so it's diffifult finding out.
I just happen to be too nice, I guess.

I'm always inclined towards helping people, even when it puts me in some dire situations.

Why can't I just stop? I dunno. I try, I try, but it's like my life is dependent on it.

Somehow, I get the awkward feeling that people don't appreciate it when they know you'll be willing to help them. Why is this for Christ's sake? I mean, can't they just be glad there's a helping hand? Then again, I just wanted to know what you guys think of those who help "a lot", I mean in any situations, or go the length others scarcely go, perhaps even in a relationship, though not necessarily in a relationship.
I'm just less of a Nigerian to understand all of this.
Then when I try to be harsh, I find it incredibly nauseating; yet my desire is not to be in people's radar all too frequently. Apparently, helping them puts me there, albeit in bad light. Then coupled with this, I go my way; won't fight when annoyed by others, and am extremely polite ( I guess). All of these appear to me to be put-offs, and not in the general line of being "cool". Of course, it isn't that I am dying to be cool, but of course, I don't want to be uncool either!

Note: yab if you want to. you think it will matter?

That's my problem also.

Today is a new day, I will still help but, I have to be 99% I am doing the correct thing.


Help if you can BUT be careful who you help. If being harsh causes you pain ( I know the feeling) then don't be harsh.

I think you just need to hang with peeps who are like minded, no need to change the way you do things (maybe )

Yawn

OMGosh, i think me like you already. But what d'you think people say about you? Nice people are simply what they are - Nice people.

can some one tell me what this thread is about

cos i cant grasp the meaning of this message,

^^^It's about being nice to peeps, very rare on this hmmmm these days.

If you must be nice, be nice to mature people.

When you go around being kind to stuupid people, they'll just end up making a fool of you.

Speaking from experience.

^^That's very good advice (4real)*** noted***.

my dad was and is still nice to the extent they almost drained his life out for him
and that same nice ness runs in the family
but one way or another power must change hands cause there are some many peeps out there who doesnt deserve the nice attitude from me
it is said once beaten twice shy, if it is gonna take me rippin this heart out literally am ma do it

Two years later and I'm still the same!!

^^ do ppl rili change?

Nice to have as friends as they will do anything to please you. You could count on them anytime.
Try not to get pissed off when they are 'too nice'.
Reciprocate their friendship and care.
Be there for them too whenever you can.
Stand up for them and defend them whenever the need arise.

op, continue with the act. you don't know where your reward will be. just don't stop no matter what happens.

KILLZ

If any of your gay biiitches has beaten you up before for being too nice tell them a certain BREEZY says that's. Very UNMANLY of them.

@ topic


just dont do it.

Get a pet instead, or simply learn to put yourself first- nothing wrong with that.

Nice people are designed to b nice,evn wen u frustrate them.
OP,jst be ur humble sef