erifeoluwasimi:
He is hurting and angry.give him time to heal.
Send important people he respects to plead on your behalf, like l pastors, friends etc

Chubhie:
Your husband lack compassion. That's too extreme from him. Regardless, you should stay strong. Its not the end of the world if your husband seeks divorce and wants nothing to do with the kids. You could go far away and start a new life with your kids.

Hopefully, you've learnt your lessons albeit in a very painful manner. Be open to love again. A man that matches your energy could come along and see you as the centre of his universe.

sisisioge:
Chai! You confessed! Lordylordy!

I always knew you weren't much of a bright woman, didn't know it was this bad. Well, take heart. Remember he wasn't so appealing to you before now. Simply gather yourself together and forge ahead.

You will be fine last last.

greatcrown:
Honesty is still the best policy.

Stay strong, it will end well though I can't say when.

Don't follow him to your parents, beg him not to report you to your parents however if he's determined to doing thats ok.

If your parents call later to ask, just tell them you believe your husband won't lie against you and that some things in your opinion are expected to stay within married folks.

Ask them to forgive you for your shortcomings. Ask for their support as things are though emotional.

Be strong the Lord will see you through.

Remember to ask God for forgiveness and healing.

generationz:
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Tallesty1:



On a serious note(assuming the story is true) what you did is just the right thing. Your husband will come back to his senses and if he has parents like mine, they will talk sense into his head and I am sure your parents will also plead on your behalf. Don't be scared to meet them, in fact you should call them(your parents) already. They will know how best to handle this.


If in the end he still refuses to take you back then move on, life goes on.

Omoluabi16:
Let him divorce you. But he will always respect you deep down. Peradventure he may accept you back. Your conscience is clear now..just see your travail as a consequence of getting that destructive pleasure. I salute you all the same. You did the right thing NY confessing.

Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont

I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.

I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.

I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.

I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.

I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.

truthsayer009:


You berra speak your mind oh. Don't just be dropping Z Z Z like ZORO.

Amanee:
Not everything works out as planned, you should have also prepared for this outcome when you decided to confess... I think you should be more concerned with your peace of mind now that you've fessed up than any fake bliss you were enjoying. You did the right thing by confessing and if your marriage has to end for it, then so be it. Take this as a crucial lesson and move on

Beckham14:
When you were spreading your legs like blue band you never thought of the love you had for that innocent man who put a roof over your head, you never thought of the "marriage" you wish to protect, Now you have lost the trust your parents had for you, and might as well lose the love of your kids when your "ex" husband tells them how promiscuous their mother is and how adventurous she can be with the dick in an hotel room.
Some mistakes are avoidable and you don't have any excuse to give for this silly mistake you brought upon yourself.
May God bless that your "ex" husband for handling that heart shattering news with such calmness, not all men can wait till you finish your sexcapdes without registering some thunderous blows on your face.
The m0ron who fuucked you like a cheap slut has dump you like a piece of trash.
Before you think of killing yourself by yourself, take those innocent children to your parents. I won't stop you from doing what you feel best for you, After all, you didn't seek for our opinions when you wanted to collect the dick.
Put yourself together and accept your fate.
Rest well.

generationz:


ahahahah

I actually typed something very long but decided to cancel it when I realized the story might be fake.

Are you IBO?

Tallesty1:
I don't understand, you stated clearly in the previous post that you'd love to shag that guy over and over again right? Now the opportunity is standing right before you and you're complaining.


Go get more fvck. You need it.


And while on it, please remember that you're on your own in this life. All those feminists that encourage women to fvck because men fvck won't come to your aid now that everything about you is fvcked, both your life and pussy.


On a serious note(assuming the story is true) what you did is just the right thing. Your husband will come back to his senses and if he has parents like mine, they will talk sense into his head and I am sure your parents will also plead on your behalf. Don't be scared to meet them, in fact you should call them(your parents) already. They will know how best to handle this.


If in the end he still refuses to take you back then move on, life goes on.

truthsayer009:


Story is obviously Fake. The emotions running in a woman mind who tells her husband the truth & now asking for Divorce will not allow her to even post it online anymore. No, I'm Yoruba.

generationz:


Exactly

I wonder what makes people come up with such stories.

truthsayer009:


Because they're paid by Seun to write stories & make Nairaland a fun place. Who do you think hire fiction writers?

DukeNija:
That colleague of yours will reap the rewards of his action. He won’t go scot free.

9japrof:


Infidelity never ends well, when you posted your first story line, about cheating on your husband with a colleague and keep wishing that you would have a repeat of it, I then knew you were a certified fool...

You are a bloody leach, you left guys of late 20's and early 30's to marry a money bag whose age difference with yours is 20 years and you think you would remain attracted to him, that's why ladies like you, tonto and Regina would always have a very bad pay day, story lines like your never end well... you are a bloody gold digger, subtract ur Hubby's deep pockets, would you have married him, ask yourself that question?

To cap it off, you are way way dumb, as much as I hate infidelity, if my wife should by lapse judgement engage in one, she better keep it to herself cos if she tells, she's going that day...

God bless that man for saving him from Jezebel

***buh why is it when you people wanna make senseless posts about una nonsense acts, you quickly create a new profile to hide your true identity since you idiots paint a near perfect life on your original profiles***

I do not support cheating in any guise neither do I support the lynching pharisees of this world. Let her go to God and ask for wisdom. She might tell her husband and the man murders her or divorces her or hates her forever. She might go to God in genuine repentance and confess her sins and ask for mercy and turn out to be the best wife ever. Let her seek wisdom.

Unless you can provide a biblical basis for your assertion that she must confess to her husband to be forgiven by God then this debate is over.

Beckham14:
When you were spreading your legs like blue band you never thought of the love you had for that innocent man who put a roof over your head, you never thought of the "marriage" you wish to protect, Now you have lost the trust your parents had for you, and might as well lose the love of your kids when your "ex" husband tells them how promiscuous their mother is and how adventurous she can be with the dick in an hotel room.
Some mistakes are avoidable and you don't have any excuse to give for this silly mistake you brought upon yourself.
May God bless that your "ex" husband for handling that heart shattering news with such calmness, not all men can wait till you finish your sexcapdes without registering some thunderous blows on your face.
The m0ron who fuucked you like a cheap slut has dump you like a piece of trash.
Before you think of killing yourself by yourself, take those innocent children to your parents. I won't stop you from doing what you feel best for you, After all, you didn't seek for our opinions when you wanted to collect the dick.
Put yourself together and accept your fate.
Rest well.

rafhell:
Something tells me the OP is a big liar.
Let us read between the lines. You put out your post 11 days ago asking for advice. In eleven days, all these drama had played out.
You even got a 2 bedroom accommodation close to your work place and you already moved in with the kids.
Madam or whoever you are, not everybody on nairaland is daft.

generationz:



Hmmm

Quite possible


Well most are terrible at it.

Imagine telling us she rented an apartment in eleven days and moved in.


How did you discover this?