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Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by essenceplus: 3:19pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
bukatyne: Now I've been thinking of this lately, sexually expressive and crazy ladies before marriage automatically becoming sexual repressed and suppressed for no justifiable cause. The excessive hype of the value of women whereas the combined value of both parties not been taught empowers this lifestyle I choose to say and believe. I find it very very ddisturbing that due to too much indoctrination, ladies are setting themselves up with prize tags for almost anything even in marriage. What's consent in marriage,if consent is to be sought, then marriage shouldn't be necessary. Marital rights enshrined within the roles and responsibility in marriages should guide the roles of both gender with tolerance and consideration for one another. I find it very disturbing when people want to dictate how couples should ibtimiate. What's more disturbing is 90% of the so called marital rape many times. Started from the position of one party weaponizing their value or hurting the others psychological person hood than otherwise. People are hypocrites. If my daughter doesn't want to have sex in future, then marriage isn't for her. You f she wants to be married she and her husband should choose what works best for them, which is why the choice of who one marries is by far one of the most important choice to make in life when building ones destiny Cc Missjoy29 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by crackhaus: 3:24pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
essenceplus:What to do... Dimwits will always be a part of society no matter how advanced or developed the society is. Which is why there is nothing I enjoy more when I'm around dimwits than letting them know they are dimwits. 1 Like |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by essenceplus: 3:26pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
I've always said it too much knowledge will run this generation mad,everything is reduced to the battle of wits,win the debate and your position stands supreme no matter how crazy your logic and standpoint maybe. Tueh 1 Like |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by essenceplus: 3:53pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
Excessive feminine sympathy is spoiling our ladies rotten worldwide. I'll start the process of leaving this shit hope forum from now. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by LilMissFavvy(f): 4:51pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
Tanx dear! essenceplus: |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 10:24pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
Ladyhippolyta88: Ok. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 10:31pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: I sympathize your posts were wiped off. It is sometimes hard to get stuffs penned down twice. I read some of his miseducation threads and I agree with the sentiments of one (sex on credit) even though it could be more robust. Men & women develop/bloom at different stages. Women earlier than men so it pays women to marry in their 20s preferably early so they can marry their choices unpressured. The guy who seems awkward at 22 becomes a stunner at 35 especially if he takes care of himself well. It is good to read such stuff with an open mind and pick what you can. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 10:33pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
essenceplus:I agree with you. Thanks |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by essenceplus: 10:35pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
bukatyne: I was going to ask this evening jare. Wanted matured female to discuss with especially around the subject of how females quickly transit from sexually expressive pre marriage to sexual repressed after marriage. This issues are pusing me towards publishing oh. Considering there's no pro Christin life magazine anymore. Its private jets they are pushing upandan. What do you think? |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 10:36pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
essenceplus: There is a thread on that here: https://www.nairaland.com/4436386/transactional-vs-validational-sex I also believe that anyone intending to marry must realize they cannot hoard sex or hold their partners to ransom via consent or not. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 10:38pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
essenceplus: I opened a thread on over emphasis of the girl child. Hopefully, the world doesn't become too gynocentric that it tilts towards pre-feminism days again. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 10:39pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
essenceplus: If you want to open a thread, I will contribute my thoughts on it. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by essenceplus: 10:42pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
bukatyne: People don't listen objectivity and are quick to pick a stone than listen. Been listening to the marital rape saga since the term was coined and have been following this debate for as long as possible. One thing I find consistent in most cases, is one party hordes it weaponizes it which then creates the atmosphere for forceful getting. To all those pro women 100% queen treatment stand against pro family life values which is both parties are important in the union. This makes me state with boldness that over 90% of marital rape cases the ladies horded intimacy but before marriage they could be sexually free as possible. I think somewhere along the line their passions eroded with their libido in the process of their experimentation leaving their partners to bear the consequence of their actions in marriages. This is besides hoarding sex so I don't see how I'll purely support anyone that is quick to condemn a man in a marriage if he wants sex because marriage itself is consent, and there shouldn't be secondary consent as marital laws places responsibility on both parties to perform their roles as expected in a marriage |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by essenceplus: 10:43pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
bukatyne: I'm wondering where can be private. Matured adults private Congo on a public forum I don't care much about peoples comments cause I almost learn nothing from this site. I've been saying this for sometime now |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by essenceplus: 10:44pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
bukatyne: Hate to tell you were there already |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Nobody: 11:40pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
bukatyne: I'm actually happy that your thread was deleted. Your title is misleading & you know Africans don't read. Coupled with the fact that you also used Religious views to express your points. Then I was also supporting some of your points which I felt was valid & people starting looking a me with one sided eye like I was/am a Rapist. Abeg oh, Thank God for vindicating me Praaaaise da Lord 1 Like |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Nobody: 1:12am On Jun 05, 2019 |
That’s why it was deleted. In NO scenario does a human being have the right to another human being’s body. The definition of rape NEVER changes, “sex without consent” I am glad it was deleted. bukatyne: 3 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Gloriagee(f): 7:07am On Jun 05, 2019 |
Frankly, I think it was the religious views to buttress her opinion on rape that I felt was rather misleading. truthsayer009: 2 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by eyinjuege: 8:38am On Jun 05, 2019 |
Gloriagee: Many evils are perpetuated under the guise of religion. There is always one reference or the other to back it up. However, its left for decency and humanity to see through and know what is evil is evil. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Gloriagee(f): 8:44am On Jun 05, 2019 |
I agree with you on this. Typically, I tell people that people often pass on their cultural and personal preferences as religious positions and then look for Bible verses to (mis)quote. eyinjuege: 3 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Toxay(m): 10:39am On Jun 05, 2019 |
I think you seem a little confused about your ideas in this reply. You stated how a woman should seek redress if violence is involved but almost all cases of rape(marital or none)would involve some sort of physical dominance and subjugation except the woman is drunk or paraplegic. Now to address this issue Your whole argument is based on the premise that sex become a duty courtesy of marriage.This is quite reasonable but what you fail to prove is why it is justified for the husband to force(often with some sort of violence) the wife to perform such duties. Fundamental rights such as right of choice is always paramount irrespective of whatever responsibilities you have and that is why a student can't be bundled up and forced to write his exams even if he/she has such duty.This is akin to the fact that a man can't be forced to take a bullet for his wife or give her his organs because he is supposed to be the protector or provider. The whole essence of human rights is the choice to make personal decisions as one see fit as long as it is not detrimental to another's person fundamental rights. bukatyne: 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Toxay(m): 10:57am On Jun 05, 2019 |
Your take is quite laughable as you are just looking for irrational excuses to justify rape aside the fact that you are also quite ignorant. Firstly, rape is not justified punishment for how a woman lived her life before marriage but what you don't even know is the libido is mostly regulated by hormones and their secretion is dependent on many factors such as genetics,age, environmental factors, diseases and many others factors. Also there are reward centers in the brain for several activities such as sex,drug use etc.......The intensity and extent of how this centers are stimulated differs from person to person. Also some women have a condition called vaginismus which is characterized by painful intercourse and if such women are not even sexually active before marriage and consequently unaware of their condition before marriage,they should still be raped according to you marital rape supporters because she has a duty. My points is most women reception to sex is mostly by factors they have no control over and so everything you've been saying is pure fallacy Hope you learnt a thing or two essenceplus: 3 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by essenceplus: 11:49am On Jun 05, 2019 |
Toxay: Who justified rape? That first line even discouraged me from reading. Best regards. Learn to comprehend before rushing to type. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by doitforyou(f): 2:12pm On Jun 05, 2019 |
Yea, you did "One thing I find consistent in most cases, is one party hordes it weaponizes it which then creates the atmosphere for forceful getting." Sorry marriage is NOT consent. No human being has the right to another human beings body. I actually pity your wife or your future wife if you are not married.There is NO scenario where rape is justified, whether someone hoards sex or not. Sex with your wife is NOT a right but a privilege. How do you even enjoy the sex when one party is not interested? that is sick and twisted. essenceplus: 1 Like |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by essenceplus: 2:26pm On Jun 05, 2019 |
doitforyou: Indeed. You folks will learn Coting I did just made me passed it over without reading. Folks should learn how to own comment without enforcing ideas on people Ibjumped over a part and I saw sex with marriage being a privilege. Lol. You folks are exhuberating the same errors I talked about. Good luck. You will learn your sons will grow to marry, when their wives do the act with them you'll reflect then |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by doitforyou(f): 2:41pm On Jun 05, 2019 |
Number one you are not even making a lot of sense. I doubt English is your first language. Yes! I am teaching my son to respect women and for him not to be entitled! and for him to know that he has NO right to a woman's body, just like his father treats his mother and how I saw My father treat my mother. yes marital sex is a privilege NOT a right, I am sorry that you were taught differently growing up. Sometimes, I wonder if you people were raised by wolves! talking about raping your wife because she is not momentarily interested in sex, animals! essenceplus: 2 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 2:57pm On Jun 05, 2019 |
essenceplus: Sex has truly been weaponized in marriage. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 3:00pm On Jun 05, 2019 |
truthsayer009: Hahahahahaha You have a babe you are toasting on NL? I also quoted the Nigerian constitution So you are one of the people doing me? Please live up to your username, it sometimes wouldn't be easy. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 3:14pm On Jun 05, 2019 |
TheNaijanBlog: You have a blog, you should be more open to critical thinking and discussions. In marriage, the husband has right to his wife's body and the wife has a right to her husband's body. The below is the Christian wedding vows: Groom: I,____, take thee,_____, to be my wedded Wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I plight thee my troth. Bride: I,_____, take thee,_____, to be my wedded Husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, and to obey, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth. Then, as the groom places the ring on the bride's finger, he says the following: With this Ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen. Do you know that a marriage can be annulled if it is not consummated i.e. one party can't or won't have sex? Can a marriage be annulled if not consummated? You can apply for a decree on the following grounds: The marriage has not been consummated because one party can't, or won't. Consummation means normal sexual intercourse. If either party to the marriage did not consent to the marriage, because of pressure placed upon them, mistake, mental illness or any other reason. Can your marriage be annulled? | Blanchards Law www.blanchardslaw.co.uk/blog/can-your-marriage-be-annulled/ |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 3:18pm On Jun 05, 2019 |
Toxay: I love the bolded: If a spouse no longer wants sex in a marriage, then they should seek for divorce. It is quite simple. What happens is that the spouse wants to eat his/her cake and have it. If there is physical subjugation or injury, seek redress. It's not so hard. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 3:19pm On Jun 05, 2019 |
doitforyou: Sex in marriage is NOT a privilege; it is a right. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by essenceplus: 3:21pm On Jun 05, 2019 |
bukatyne: My dear sister. I duff my hat to you for seeing the lies behind the mask. Let them keep weaponizing it and giving approval. Their sons will grow up to marry. As for me, I'll teach my daughters marriage is consent. Moderation,frequency and all in betweens should be discussed by both parties. No responsible husband will rape his wife unless he's psychotic. |
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