I am writing this based on some of the comments I read on this forum by males as regards female issues.

The African society focuses on training females more than males. They teach girls how to be good wives and mothers and they forget to train our boys on how to be good husbands and fathers.


I believe the average Nigerian man (some) are insecure, have low self esteem and lack self confidence hence why they derive pleasure in insulting women. Sometimes I wonder who raised these boys that they believe their manhood is validated by a woman subjecting herself to him and allowing him be the alpha and omega of her life. That is why a lot of them are obsessed with the word "submission", "captain" and "head of the house title".

A man with confidence, high self esteem would not be obsessed in wanting to control a full grown woman in 2019 who basically has the same rights as he does.
It is insecurity, lack of self esteem and self confidence that makes a man feel intimidated by a sucessful and independent woman.It is due to lack of self esteem that they want to feel on top or over a woman.
They believe their gender or sex makes them lord over every woman. They are obsessed with authority, power and do not know how to be leaders.

They feel it is okay to slut shame sucessful women call ladies despicable names and you wonder if these men have sisters or mothers.

They feel it is okay to lord over a full grown adult and that such adult(women) cannot be a partner but a subordinate.

I believe some of these men raised in Nigeria have personal issues that they need to deal with on their own before bringing an unfortunate woman to share in such misery and clean up their mess.

I blame society's double standard that fails to hold men accountable as much as women are held accountable maybe then this self entitlement mentality, the view of women as commodities and superiority complex would be a thing of the past. Our men need exposure and enlightenment. I hope we raise better boys to become good men in the future and not just women alone.

Liberalchick, bukatyne, cococandy,choccolate,daeylar, pocohantas and many others I would love to read your thoughts on this

Hmm

What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men.

donbachi:
What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men.

love your counter attack on this issue....

While i may not totally agree with all you say, the rate at which guys derive pleasure from insulting ladies on this forum is annoying and very childish!!

donbachi:
What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men.

Whats your definition of "Feminism" This is where the issue starts from!!

donbachi:
What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men.

Can a Lion submit to a goat?

Lack of jobs and productivity that’s why

France a developed country, have some of the highest cases of woman harassment in the world.


So it's not particularly a Nigerian thing.

Stop submitting to men!

Many of them are dull. They can't even control their own lives.

And you are an adult who can make decisions for herself.

Stop feeding their over bloated egos.

No body should tell me about what your Bible or Qoran says because I don't care.

hmm

All these baloney are for males like me, who are poor

Women keep saying one thing but doing the opposite.
Women are not seen or treated as commodities.

But it is what they have made themselves.

They have openly kept themselves as objects to be bought by the highest bidder -- applying the law of demand and supply. This hitherto, had been there albeit subtly.



Look at Ned and Regina. Why on earth did Regina leave the young, handsome boyfriend for Ned? Love?

The man bought her. Simple. Like you go to a car stand and buy a benz.
Look
Ubi franklin and his mamas
Iara and Oshiomhole
Davido, WizKids and mamas. Why would chioma stick with Davido for 5 years?

In these 5 years he had imprenated many girls, yet she stayed put. Why? Because of money, fame and affluence.


I admit that there are exceptions like the Jeff Bezoz's wife but it's just few.


So no need playing the victims. Women made themselves commodities. They aren't treated as such but they made themselves so.


At any rate, I won't support the slut shaming of women as seen in this forum. I also understand why men do it. It's survival instinct. Only a few would understand.

Shout out to my nigga franchasng.

PhenomenalMorgan:

Whats your definition of "Feminism" This is where the issue starts from!!

it's the equality of the sexes and you are worst than that...you're a matrimonial anarchist.

breakerofchains:


Can a Lion submit to a goat?

na 4 her village

Hence the 2019 ladies you used in your gibberish writing keeps hoeing around that when she passes the street 3to 4 guys would be discussing how deep, smelly, or disgusting her pvssy was, we Nigerian men will keep hitting hard on them till they change their ways and end up with an unfortunate man. That's if only they would change. Or when they stop asking money for exchange of their body and work for their own money, we the men would stop. I wonder where person would find a good woman to marry now in this country.

feminist taking over the country with their k leg

donbachi:
it's the equality of the sexes and you are worst than that...you're a matrimonial anarchist.

Feminism advocates equal "RIGHTS AND OPPORTUNITIES" for both sexes...
The purpose of a woman submitting to a Man is to prevent a
tossle of leadership when both are married!! Two captains cant lead a ship... And because God naturally endowed men with qualities that make them more suitable to lead than women...
It is possible for a woman to enjoy equal rights and opportunities as a man and still submit to her husband!!

breakerofchains:
Stop submitting to men!

Many of them are dull. They can't even control their own lives.

And you are an adult who can make decisions for herself.

Stop feeding their over bloated egos.

No body should tell me about what your Bible or Qoran says because I don't care.

The reason why the bible commands women to submit to their husbands is to prevent leadership crisis and most importantly because men are naturally endowed with qualities that make them better leaders than women...
If you feel you can't submit to a guy cause he is "weak" and can't control his own life then don't marry him!! Simple!!
Marry a man you know you can submit to, be convinced he is strong, wise and matured to lead you.

OP I have someone like you. She’s approaching 40 and single.



You can’t sit behind your phone and trying to upturn practices that has been in place since inception.


Ofcourse slut shaming women is bad and if that’s really what prompted you to create this thread, then I’m afraid you have taken nairaland and it’s content too serious.

donbachi:
What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men.

@bold, I am not them and my mom is not a submissive type and my parents are still together. My dad is not a control freak.
I never claimed to be a christian neither did I bring religion in my post.
How many times have you told your fellow men to love their wives to the extent of dying for their wives you are only comfortable telling women.Maybe if men took apostle paul's instruction they would be better husbands.
The definition of submission cannot be literally applied in today's world because during the time apostle paul instructed women to be submissive slavery was permissible women had little or no rights so it was okay to easily submit but today women have rights are educated, have choices etc so it would definitely be hard to submit in the literal sense.

tydi:
Hence the 2019 ladies you used in your gibberish writing keeps hoeing around that when she passes the street 3to 4 guys would be discussing how deep, smelly, or disgusting her pvssy was, we Nigerian men will keep hitting hard on them till they change their ways and end up with an unfortunate man. That's if only they would change. Or when they stop asking money for exchange of their body and work for their own money, we the men would stop. I wonder where person would find a good woman to marry now in this country.

And the men who patronise them are moloshos and shovels right?
Focus your energy on your fellow men.

AmazonTopaz:

And the men who patronise them are moloshos and shovels right?
Focus your energy on your fellow men.

You did economics in sec school

I believe you know the law of demand and supply..

They close legs, we zip up.

stupidity:
OP I have someone like you. She’s approaching 40, single and she hates men.



You can’t sit behind your phone and trying to upturn practices that has been in place since inception.


Ofcourse slut shaming women is bad and if that’s really what prompted you to create this thread, then I’m afraid you have taken nairaland and it’s content too serious.

Stop likening a faceless person to a friend of yours.
I don't hate men so keep your comparison.
The only thing constant is change. No wonder society is dysfunctional some of our men need help.

AmazonTopaz:

@bold, I am not them and my mom is not a submissive type and my parents are still together. My dad is not a control freak.
I never claimed to be a christian neither did I bring religion in my post.
How many times have you told your fellow men to love their wives to the extent of dying for their wives you are only comfortable telling women.Maybe if men took apostle paul's instruction they would be better husbands.
The definition of submission cannot be literally applied in today's world because during the time apostle paul instructed women to be submissive slavery was permissible women had little or no rights so it was okay to easily submit but today women have rights are educated, have choices etc so it would definitely be hard to submit in the literal sense.

i have seen where you got it from.

PhenomenalMorgan:

The reason why the bible commands women to submit to their husbands is to prevent leadership crisis and most importantly because men are naturally endowed with qualities that make them better leaders than women...
If you feel you can't submit to a guy cause he is "weak" and can't control his own life then don't marry him!! Simple!!
Marry a man you know you can submit to, be convinced he is strong, wise and matured to lead you.

You still had to mention your Bible even after I clearly stated that you shouldn't.

Comprehension skills 101 has left the chat

tydi:


You did economics in sec school

I believe you know the law of demand and supply..

They close legs, we zip up.

You forget that the power of the consumer is to dictate what the producer produces go figure

Besides enlighten me on the law of demand and supply what does it state?

donbachi:
i have seen where you got it from.

It is irrational to liken a parent to a child and vice versa.
A parent and a child are two different entities are you insinuating that my father had no part to play in my upbringing?

AmazonTopaz:

It is irrational to liken a parent to a child and vice versa.
A parent and a child are two different entities are you insinuating that my father had no part to play in my upbringing?

are u male or female?

breakerofchains:



You still had to mention your Bible even after I clearly stated that you shouldn't.

Comprehension skills 101 has left the chat

Our men are so quick to jump on religion and culture to back up outdated practices.
Always quick to forget their own instructions and what it means to be a leader in biblical sense.
That is why they turn a blind eye to fornication and adultery when it favours them but open their eyes to the word sibmission on the part of women.