In the society U and I live, it's no more news that promiscuity is higher in men than women. since men do this with women,
i guess women standing for themselves would help somehow.Seeing women Know and date married men is absurd.

Do these women care at all about the other woman whose husband they are happy plirting around with? Do they hope to get
happily married and know that thier husband is cheating with some other woman? it's sad that some women and young girls do know about some guys marital status but go ahead anyway giving flimpsy excuses as the reason for thier decision. U hear stuffs like " his wife is bad", " he came after me"" his wife is not good in bed" "Do i care, she is the one who does not know how to keep her man"

They often say things to make u see why the other woman is not competent, they fail to ask themselves if they can ever prevent a man whose heart is bent on sleeping around happy.

I had to write this cause,I look around and see alot of women work so hard to keep thier marriages and all the men sometimes do is sit back, make no effort to
making the marriage work, they just lay back give reasons and sometimes no reason to flirt around.

It's sad that Men Most times hav the fault, but worse still is seeing some women enjoy hurting thier fellow woman, pretned to be in love with this married man,
and we both know the things she gets in return is what matters more.

Point: Women should be wiser dealing with Men cause when things always go wrong love, war, health, family ,women bear the brunt.
A city can never be holier than it's women.

This is my opinion, i could be wrong, but it makes sense, Dosen't it nairalanders?

You try.

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I agree with u, What part don't u get. i explained it all there. men are to balme and indeed are the main culprit. but women being smarter, caring for thier fellow woman, being wiser in thier decisions could help tame the scourging tide. Does that make some sense? Women resisiting such men, would send some message to the men that they need to take thier vows more seriously.

Just my opinion, i could be wrong.

sigh.

u dont understand. do u

OP no vex,abeg u be male or female??

Don't do anything because you are a man, woman, Yoruba , Hausa etc

Do it because you are comfortable with it, you believe in it and it is right.

Point: Women should be wiser dealing with Men cause when things always go wrong love, war, health, family ,women bear the brunt.
A city can never be holier than it's women

true talk.

What's good for the goose is equally good for the gander

Makes sense
Applies to men going after married women too.

Deep Soul:

True talk. Gone are the days when single women were ashamed of dating married men and hid it if they did.
These days, it's now almost like a thing of pride. Same goes for the men. It has now become scarily normal, people no longer bat an eyelid!!

But poster, I also know sha, that karma has got nothing to do with it.
i.e if you date a married man, another woman will follow your husband. Na lie oh!

If you like be Virgin Mary, if you marry an a$$wipe, they will pursue him in droves and he will reciprocate.

What an insult to the men folks.

@OP Hw wud u say promiscuity is higher in men? For men 2 b promiscuous, they need a female accomplice. If it still takes 2 to tango, hw come men r more promiscuos?

^It is higher in men. The men practise their promiscuity with different women, 2 or 5 or 10,etc. Not just one woman so your statement doesn't really make sense.
Disgusting animals that can't control their urges.

If only women CAN resist, thé rate Will not be as high as it is today
Like i used to say when i was younger that i will never in My Life date someone's husband.
I stood by it and i overcame it, it's in thé mind, all thèse excuses thé Poster game are just what thèse salope girls always give.
And also, Some of Our men are just good for nothing runing after single girls and they are married.
It's a dirty act. What i know is that, any woman or girly who pretendly date a married Man.
Despite her excuses, ( she is a thief and a slot) she should know that when she Will become Mrs somebody, then some little girls Will Côme and pay her back, and to thé cheating husband(hé is alone causing his entire family) e nô dey lost.

I had to write this cause, I look around and see alot of women work so hard to keep thier marriages and all the men sometimes do is sit back, make no  effort to making the marriage work, they just lay back give reasons and sometimes no reason to flirt around.

Serves them right.
What else would you expect from desperate, needy Nigerian women?

When a man decides to leave his matrimonial home, he has made his choice/s.
It is either she accepts it or leaves the marriage.
No need to disturb the man and his girlfriend/s.

If she had what it took, her husband would not look outside for the real thing.
It is his choice to move around, so is it her choice to leave the marriage.

Marriage vows were never meant to be kept. Why people keep deceiving themselves beats my wild imagination always.

If you cannot take the heat, get out of the kitchen and stop disturbing the peace.

Too bad, it is a man's world and will forever be a man' world. If the women feel so badly about the whole situation, let them cheat themselves.

Hopefully, they are not married to those kinds of men who beat women to death in some parts of Nigeria or stone women to death for committing adultery.

The world and its issues.

^^i think you need to change your mentality.

check the article i just posted about the lack of positive black male role models in the black community.


this kind of attitude only comes back to bite you in the behind when you least expect it.

later you start whining the white man is keeping you down.

surely there ought to be more to life than just looking for the next lay or am i being unrealistic.


http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/07/03/AR2009070302498.html

^^^


I don't think your write-up there applies to this topic.  The link you provided up there has some good stuff too, but highly irrelevant in this situation.

Read the title of this thread again and read my response.
Finally, read yours.

WHY WOMEN HURT THEMSELVES

Then, come back and tell us what is reaaaaaaaaally on your mind.
Have you been hurting yourself lately?

It just does not make sense for women to keep whinning about this and that when the women themselves will not allow the men out there a moment's rest.

Panties, bras, weaves, acrylic nails, false teeth, eye-lashes, contact lenses, tampons. . . .name it. All come off without asking. Especially when it is cold like in heat in dead cold. Sorry to say the women are readily available, married or single.

Okay you are married, and the man decides he wants to 'move around' a little, the wife complains.

All I am saying, if the contract is no longer valid, terminate it. Don't hurt yourselves please. No man is worth that kind of attention. Nothing to do with the next lay. Men will always be men. They sniff, look, touch and do to various degrees. Or WE think it without doing it. Instead of being needy and clingy, women should not suffocate their men. Or they get hurt real bad. Please allow us to indulge once in a while, but respectfully of course. We still love ya.


Sometimes, love ain't just enoff.

^^you still need to change your mindset.


this is what you were replying to:

I look around and see alot of women work so hard to keep thier marriages and all the men sometimes do is sit back, make no  effort to making the marriage work

with this:

Serves them right.
What else would you expect from desperate, needy Nigerian women?

When a man decides to leave his matrimonial home, he has made his choice/s.
It is either she accepts it or leaves the marriage.
No need to disturb the man and his girlfriend/s.

If she had what it took, her husband would not look outside for the real thing.
It is his choice to move around, so is it her choice to leave the marriage.

Marriage vows were never meant to be kept. Why people keep deceiving themselves beats my wild imagination always.

If you cannot take the heat, get out of the kitchen and stop disturbing the peace.

Too bad, it is a man's world and will forever be a man' world. If the women feel so badly about the whole situation, let them cheat themselves.

Hopefully, they are not married to those kinds of men who beat women to death in some parts of Nigeria or stone women to death for committing adultery.

not good


far too many black males have this attitude you typify here and feel they have a license to just be irresponsible.


why is this so.

do we blame the whites and slave trade for this?

the point of the article about the lack of black males in the teaching system is it highlights the absence of positive black male role models in society.

Sometimes, love ain't just enoff.

nobody said it was.

love is fickle and many marriages have issues because the couple assume love/infatuation alone is what sustains a marriage.

not to mention some people assume lust is love.

Panties, bras, weaves, acrylic nails, false teeth, eye-lashes, contact lenses, tampons. . . .name it. All come off without asking.

dont know what you mean by this and neither do i hear any man complaining when yall are drooling over beyonce or any other celebrity who have all these things on your list and some with butt and bosom implants to boot.

and if women are putting up with your beer gut and funky breath then why so much whining.

^^^

You are not paying attention.

^^^

Blazay, is this how you treat madam?

Be more gentle with Tpia, as you can tell she is hurting
She has her own agenda, valid or not

She has a point though, but she is exhibiting what in psychiatry we call, misplaced aggression.

Anyway, how's life
and how are your escorts?

Saw a black escort yesterday, and it was bananas.

na una own i dey tell una.


end of.

black males in general have relatively few positive male role models compared to other ethnicities.

why is this so and do any of you male nlers understand the implications of this fact?

better wake up- these are some of the reasons why other races leave you in the dust.

ability to impregnate a woman or get Hot all the time isnt the be all and end all of life.

small time now you'll start asking if blacks are less intelligent than other races.

tpia@:


better wake up- these are some of the reasons why other races leave you in the dust.

Thanks omonua85 for your beautiful post. These husband snatchers who go about breaking up people's marriage think they are having fun. The men also tell the ladies, "you are the only honey in my tea." On the long run, their irresponsible act create problems for couples. The most painful aspect of the whole thing is that, should couples with kids break up, the kids are the worst hit. Those women who continue to perpetuate this irresponsible behaviour will never go unpunished. Most of them are already serving punishment. What goes around must always come around. What you do to others MUST be done to you. It is an immutable law. So go on, enjoy yourselves & break homes. Your reward awaits you.

Thanks omonua85 for your beautiful post. These husband snatchers who go about breaking up people's marriage think they are having fun. The men also tell the ladies, "you are the only honey in my tea." On the long run, their irresponsible act create problems for couples. The most painful aspect of the whole thing is that, should couples with kids break up, the kids are the worst hit. Those women who continue to perpetuate this irresponsible behaviour will never go unpunished. Most of them are already serving punishment. What goes around must always come around. What you do to others MUST be done to you. It is an immutable law. So go on, enjoy yourselves & break homes. Your reward awaits you.

NAJALYN:

What you do to others MUST be done to you. It is an immutable law.

Where did you get this? This does not happen, it is what Nigerians use to try and scare others into behaving the way they want.

From johndoe200 on Today at 01:57:19PM "Where did you get this? This does not happen, it is what Nigerians use to try and scare others into behaving the way they want." My friend johndoe200 how are you today? What you do to others MUST be done to you. It is an immutable law. It is a Law of Life, which no one escapes; even if it takes long to come, people MUST pay one way or the other for their wrong-doing. That is why people should exercise caution at all times in all they do, so they dont fall foul of the Law. Without Laws, a Society will become a mad house. So if there are Laws governing Society, do you think God will not put Laws in place to govern His Creation? Have you forgotten the Ten Commandments, or you think they were meant for the Israelites alone? I hope the picture is clearer?