tolani91:
Hello all. I am Tolani. I live and work in Italy. I shared my relocation experience from Nigeria on a previous thread. For reference, you can check here
https://www.nairaland.com/5089540/how-selling-cars-helped-me

I am in a dilemma now. I need your help with advice. Some months ago, I met a lady here. She's Italian. In April, we started dating. The problem is that I have always had the intention to come back to Nigeria to marry. Like come back to marry a yoruba girl like me. But this girl is Italian. And she told me she wants to settle down. Specifically, she wants to settled down with me. She's young. Not those old mama Nigerians marry for papers. I did not really bother about her settling down goal. In my mind, we will just date and rest later. But her character is giving me confusion. She's a real lady.

See what happened recently that busted my brain. There's this 5 star hotel she always wished to go and relax. I had a good week. Sold 2 cars. So I decided to give her a threat. I told her I will take her there last Friday. She accepted. We lodged on Friday together. The hotel was dope. On Saturday, time to checkout, I told her that I budgeted for just one night. We should be going. She said no she wants to stay till Monday. I said I didn't budget for 3 nights till Monday. Just for Friday night. She said I should not worry. She called reception and paid for 2 more nights. Since Saturday till now, we are still at the hotel. She has being attending to the bills.

I think you get the picture of her kind of person now. I am considering following her wish and settling with her. But one mind wants me to follow my initial wish of coming back home to pick a yoruba sister.

Please I need your advice. Help me with matured advice please.

I am sharing a pic I took for her at the hotel this afternoon. The hotel is really cool.

tolani91:
Hello all. I am Tolani. I live and work in Italy. I shared my relocation experience from Nigeria on a previous thread. For reference, you can check here
https://www.nairaland.com/5089540/how-selling-cars-helped-me

I am in a dilemma now. I need your help with advice. Some months ago, I met a lady here. She's Italian. In April, we started dating. The problem is that I have always had the intention to come back to Nigeria to marry. Like come back to marry a yoruba girl like me. But this girl is Italian. And she told me she wants to settle down. Specifically, she wants to settled down with me. She's young. Not those old mama Nigerians marry for papers. I did not really bother about her settling down goal. In my mind, we will just date and rest later. But her character is giving me confusion. She's a real lady.

See what happened recently that busted my brain. There's this 5 star hotel she always wished to go and relax. I had a good week. Sold 2 cars. So I decided to give her a threat. I told her I will take her there last Friday. She accepted. We lodged on Friday together. The hotel was dope. On Saturday, time to checkout, I told her that I budgeted for just one night. We should be going. She said no she wants to stay till Monday. I said I didn't budget for 3 nights till Monday. Just for Friday night. She said I should not worry. She called reception and paid for 2 more nights. Since Saturday till now, we are still at the hotel. She has being attending to the bills.

I think you get the picture of her kind of person now. I am considering following her wish and settling with her. But one mind wants me to follow my initial wish of coming back home to pick a yoruba sister.

Please I need your advice. Help me with matured advice please.

I am sharing a pic I took for her at the hotel this afternoon. The hotel is really cool.

AwkaetitiBabe:
So are you indirectly saying a Nigerian lady can't do same
So because she paid for 2 extra nights, she's now a wife material?


Marty her o but don't come crying about feminism or being a sitting duck in your own home

Joromi12:
Nigerian gals need to learn. In 2008 while schooling in the uk. I hooked up with a gal online. We lodged . 40 pounds. It was split. I no gv am tfare after. But 9ja gal u will gv her tfare foot the whole bills

SageMK:
Is she a virgin? — If she's not don't settle down with her.

Seriously though, you didn't even admit you are in love with her which is very important. You want her because she is young and she seem to be doing okay financially.

Anyway, I'll never advice you to drop her and come back home to scavenge. Chances are what you'll meet here are lazy gold diggers that will crawl up into your pocket.

If she loves you, why not give it a try at dating first.
But don't rush into what people are running out of.

PS. We don't need to see her picture to advise you bro.

Charelsz:
As if Nigerian women are not feminist

babyfaceafrica:
she seems independent and good.. but I am always wary of white female..they can do and undo if u mess up,they are less forgiving than naija ladies

tolani91:
Hello all. I am Tolani. I live and work in Italy. I shared my relocation experience from Nigeria on a previous thread. For reference, you can check here
https://www.nairaland.com/5089540/how-selling-cars-helped-me

I am in a dilemma now. I need your help with advice. Some months ago, I met a lady here. She's Italian. In April, we started dating. [
The problem is that I have always had the intention to come back to Nigeria to marry. Like come back to marry a yoruba girl like me. But this girl is Italian. And she told me she wants to settle down. Specifically, she wants to settled down with me. She's young. Not those old mama Nigerians marry for papers. I did not really bother about her settling down goal. In my mind, we will just date and rest later. But her character is giving me confusion. She's a real lady.

See what happened recently that busted my brain. There's this 5 star hotel she always wished to go and relax. I had a good week. Sold 2 cars. So I decided to give her a threat. I told her I will take her there last Friday. She accepted. We lodged on Friday together. The hotel was dope. On Saturday, time to checkout, I told her that I budgeted for just one night. We should be going. She said no she wants to stay till Monday. I said I didn't budget for 3 nights till Monday. Just for Friday night. She said I should not worry. She called reception and paid for 2 more nights. Since Saturday till now, we are still at the hotel. She has being attending to the bills.

I think you get the picture of her kind of person now. I am considering following her wish and settling with her. But one mind wants me to follow my initial wish of coming back home to pick a yoruba sister.

Please I need your advice. Help me with matured advice please.

I am sharing a pic I took for her at the hotel this afternoon. The hotel is really cool.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Compare the two societies, compare the culture, compare the economic infrastructures in place.

At one time European women depended solely on their men for survival, they were relegated to the kitchen without a voice.

Personally I think Nigeria will get there if things get better economically.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Do we?? Really?

AwkaetitiBabe:
So are you indirectly saying a Nigerian lady can't do same
So because she paid for 2 extra nights, she's now a wife material?


Marty her o but don't come crying about feminism or being a sitting duck in your own home

MJBOLT:

marry the italian lady then travel back to nigeria and marry a yoruba lady

Joromi12:
Nigerian gals need to learn. In 2008 while schooling in the uk. I hooked up with a gal online. We lodged . 40 pounds. It was split. I no gv am tfare after. But 9ja gal u will gv her tfare foot the whole bills