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Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by thorpido(m): 10:43pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
etiosa97:I can relate with what you're going through especially because you're even still young.I actually believe you've done much for her. However,you have to make one of two choices; abandon her and move on with your life or help her as long as she lives. If you choose to help her,then I want you to do it with some planning.Determine what you will give her monthly and stick to it.Let it cover her feeding and other basic needs. Use the rest of your funds to plan your own life and future. It's too late waiting for your mom's love.Get love from your hobbies,interests and a few good friends you decide to keep. I will also recommend your mom visits a psychiatrist if you can arrange that. 1 Like |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by thorpido(m): 10:50pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:The Op will overcome.That's why he is here to get some support. She is his mom and he could decide to abandon her or keep her and help her.He has to make a choice. |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by FreeMejoor1(m): 10:54pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
etiosa97:God bless your hustle bro..never stop hustling..keep the light on.. |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by midnighter(f): 11:00pm On Nov 13, 2019 |
etiosa97: Thorpido is right. Be giving her a set amount of money and don't deviate from it. Stop answering her calls all the time, don't be too available for her to abuse you but at the same time don't totally abandon her. Be unpredictable...she has seen that you are vying for her affection and she is using it against you. If she knows you will always give her more money then what's the use in her watching her spending? The amounts of money you are withdrawing for her are too variable and outrageous You asked her what happened to the money you gave her and she started laughing...terrible. that is totally unacceptable behaviour..if you don't want to scold her directly then just slowly draw away from her. As for the depression she may be suffering from it and taking her frustrations out on you which is not fair. You can as well tell her that you won't send her any more money until she agrees to get help You can also get her to account for her spending in a notebook and tell her that she must write down what she buys (with receipts where possible) otherwise you will reduce or stop the money And you really don't need to take all those insults of hers. Even the next time she does it you can shout at her not to speak to you like that and cut the call, refuse to answer or send anything for a while..it may make her sober or your siblings may even start to get angry with her when there's no money again Also it doesn't sound like this issue has ever been confronted...how old are your siblings? You may call a family meeting and table this matter because N2 million cannot get lost just like that and all she can do is laugh...maybe you should get her to sign for money in the future in the presence of one of your family elders so that at least we will know if she doesn't have shame 1 Like |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by extremelygolden: 12:20am On Nov 14, 2019 |
She's probably not your biological mother. Why not try renting an apartment somewhere out of her reach? That could help save you from all the wahala. |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by Amhappy(f): 12:50am On Nov 14, 2019 |
Your mother This is strange. Something is wrong here. Young man save your money and only give her what she needs to survive. |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by Nobody: 7:15am On Nov 14, 2019 |
etiosa97:sorry brother, please I want you to know that if you choose to abandon your mum henceforth to seek for your happiness, you have done nothing wrong in the sight of God and human.Your mum's case is beyond you,she can't give what she doesn't have "love". You need help and she needs help as well.Find your own happiness first before thinking of pleasing her any further. All those saying no mater what don't abandon her ain't putting you into consideration here,don't be brainwashed with that mentality that a child must worship the parent even at the detriment of their own life,you are Gods child first before been their child.your mum has failed God by not loving you and taking care of you since your tender age,God will surely question her on that.Don't be brainwashed bro,God is never biased,both religion has children's rights which most parents don't follow because they believe they are to be worshiped by their children even if all they bring is evil at all times.Please try and quit drugs first,then stand up to that woman and free yourself from her manipulative grip.She's also a narcissist.It is well 2 Likes |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by greatme2good(f): 12:20am On Nov 15, 2019 |
Stop giving her money and concentrate on yourself and your siblings. You can't buy her love and maybe you need to stop forcing the love. Be happy with your life and done let her out you in any form of depression. Be happy and make more money, finish school and then face her squarely. Man is not God just know that. 1 Like |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by meezynetwork(m): 5:35am On Nov 15, 2019 |
The money u have been giving her May hv been diverted to her boyfriend. etiosa97: 2 Likes |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by mrjojo: 8:18am On Nov 15, 2019 |
Listen Bro, you need to accept this facts 1. Your mum doesn't LOVE you. 2. She doesn't give a tiny sh.it about you 3. You are just a cash cow to her 4. You will never be able to buy her affection even with 5billion. 5. You are going to hurt even kill yourself trying to please her. 6. You don't owe anybody a dime. 7. If you die, they will move and survive. Africans and their entitlement mentality, smh. See you are just 21, you should not be responsible for anyone, in fact you should be the one collecting, but as it. Place your siblings on a strict budget that you can afford, do not deviate from this. Send foodstuff to the house once in 2months. Stay very far away from "home",cos if you are like me, you might not be able to turn your eyes from some responsibilities. You need to start saving ASAP,as much as you can, because you have no one, when shit hit the fan, you have no one to call. You are all you got,save, save save. You need your mental health, stay away from drugs, it doesn't help, it will only make thing worse at the end of the day. If you run mad because you of drug abuse, no one will take care of you. These are cold facts you have to face bro. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by Lamanii22(f): 10:54am On Nov 15, 2019 |
etiosa97: Are you an only child? |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by pocohantas(f): 11:39am On Nov 15, 2019 |
Why are people saying she is not his biological mum? We want to deceive ourselves yet again, that all mothers are nice and the gfs/wives are the only bad ones? Please, some mothers are bad. Lots of Nigerian mothers have this entitlement mentality. They are also very good at emotional blackmail. Add it a very bad character like this and you can't live with them. For reasons best known to them, the full extent of their attitude shows more in their dealings with the male children. I guess guys are more humane Give her some space for your own good. You still have a whole lot ahead of you. The time to break free is now, else you will suffer it a lot in future. Your relationship and marriage will suffer it too. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by Nobody: 11:50am On Nov 15, 2019 |
pocohantas: The curse of most wives is that they will also warp into entitled MILs |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by pocohantas(f): 12:53pm On Nov 15, 2019 |
ornicus: Exactly, it is basic metarmophosis o. |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by etiosa97(m): 10:27pm On Nov 15, 2019 |
mrjojo: I appreciate a lot. God bless you for this. I'll do everything you've said. I appreciate once more dam |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by etiosa97(m): 10:28pm On Nov 15, 2019 |
Lamanii22:My dad was polygamous. But I'm the first child from my mom. I have 3 younger siblings 1 Like |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by 2pens: 8:16am On Nov 16, 2019 |
I can totally relate to your situation, my mum straight out told me she hate me the most since I was like 5 years old and she always act. Growing up I have a theory that maybe I've sinned in heaven and am here for the purnishment, that kind of prepared my mind - I will advice you to stop looking for love where isn't but do what you can for her to the point where it doesn't affect you because mentally and the society won't let you abandon her - You will need a close/good friend or an intimate relationship for your mental state. Trust me I know it is hard to believe someone loves you when your own mother don't. 4 Likes |
Re: Help.. I Feel My Mom Don’t Like Me by Nobody: 1:16pm On Nov 16, 2019 |
Like someone said up there, you just have to accept the painful truth that your Mother will never love you. Now , you have to be selfish for your own sake. Put her on a strict allowance and sever all communication. Put your siblings on a monthly allowance too but don't let her use them to get to you. Now concentrate on yourself, thank God you have your own money now, make yourself happy with it. Travel, see the world and get a stable girlfriend. Be intentional about your happiness and just believe that you are an orphan. And please stay away from hard drugs, I believe God has a wonderful plan for your life. It is well with you. 2 Likes |
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