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Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 11:26am On Nov 18, 2019 |
duduade: True |
Re: Is This Normal? by nautybride: 11:44am On Nov 18, 2019 |
nahzyla:Few singles are mature though. Except she wants to leave the marriage, she has to adapt. |
Re: Is This Normal? by baby124: 2:00pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
nahzyla:Well... what a sad marriage that will be. I don’t know about many Nigerian men who are like this o. Except they have their own circles. Not my experience. |
Re: Is This Normal? by doitforyou(f): 2:10pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
OP, since he’s doing his own thing, you too go do your own thing. What were you doing before you got married? We women take “and two shall become one” too literally! “See finish” is not only in dating o, the same rules apply here. When you become unavailable, you become interesting to him again. I know it sounds counterintuitive in a marriage but we’ve being lied to, two individuals with different personalities, hobbies, quirks etc can never become one. When the dust settles, it’s natural for human beings to try to go back to their default mode. Some people are too selfish to compromise, for the unselfish ones, some start to resent you for trying to change them. Like many posters have said, do your own thing, bond over your experiences and if you’re lucky, your separate activities will rub off on each other. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 2:19pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
Acidosis:True fact. He might be lucky to father one. By the time he knows what's up, he will be training another man's child Men always learn the hard way. U don't eat your cake and have it. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 2:41pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
@op, u have to shift ground a bit. U don't like movies, u don't like football, what do u like? My husband loves rap music with passion and Nigerian musicians. I hate these group of people but because of him, I know about davido and wizkid etc. Phyno, òlamide, American rappers, name them. All of us are nigars (ABI whatever u wanna call them) in this house . Imagine me, rapping 8 wonders of the world He too has adjusted to some of the things I like. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Normal? by bukatyne(f): 2:43pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
Jadeobee: Could it be that he feels your irritation and goes further from you? Or why would a man marry you and do everything possible to be away from you? |
Re: Is This Normal? by bukatyne(f): 2:46pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
Jadeobee: Na wa for you. He takes you to his friends place, you don't like their discussions. Should they discuss what you like? Doesn't these friends have wives? Don't you have a common thing to discuss or worse case, entertain your husbands together. Once in a while, when he watches ball at home, make/buy some snacks, put his feet on your laps and massage them while he watches. Seeing hot men run around the field chasing a ball with passion is enough incentive to watch football. |
Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 2:46pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
Jadeobee: Unless they have questionable characters, it's advisable u become very friendly with them. Ur husband's friends should be your friends and vise versa. It's always encouraged and bridges gaps and also very healthy. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal? by bukatyne(f): 2:47pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
RoyalBlu: They don't sound like they have common interests. |
Re: Is This Normal? by crackhaus: 2:51pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
sassysure:She probably only likes to cuddle, have sex, and listen to him whisper sweet nothings into her ears from morning till night. She has no interests, has nothing to talk about, and is also a complainer. The man even suggested they stay home to watch movies together, but aunty nagged him back to his friends place again. Such a bore. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is This Normal? by bukatyne(f): 2:51pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
KillerBeauty: I think OP is exaggerating. 7hrs hours 4 times a week? That is like 4pm - 11pm 4times a week. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal? by temi4fash(m): 2:56pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
liberalchick: OP: Dont ignore this |
Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 2:56pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
bukatyne: I think she is very insecure. Even if she dont want to contribute to what they arr discussing, she should carry crochet and follow him. As they are gusting about football, she should be crocheting na Chuk mouth one or two times. Another day they will come to her house. Like that, she will appeal to his emotions and when he win those guys, her man will be so proud of her and all these will reduce. Most times we don't know how to give in order to receive back. Guy is not domesticated. Most guys are not. But how u handle your guy will determine if he will come closer or continue to run away from you. 3 Likes |
Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 3:04pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
crackhaus: Don't call her that. She don't know. And they are new in marriage. U are a guy so help her out here. We fantasize na After reading all these romantic novels |
Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 3:06pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
bukatyne: I think it might be to buttress her point. But yeah, some guys will rather stay outside at any given opportunity than stay in the house with their women. |
Re: Is This Normal? by crackhaus: 3:10pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
sassysure:She should keep reading the romantic novels to kill time 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 3:14pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
crackhaus:Gerarahia jòr |
Re: Is This Normal? by Baldwretch: 3:34pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
fatymore: Fatima, you signature though. Lmao!!!! |
Re: Is This Normal? by fatymore(f): 4:02pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
Re: Is This Normal? by pocohantas(f): 4:28pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
OP, you have heard na. Start following him to his friends house and do what he/they do. When you come back from work, you change and follow him there. Or go have your own girls time. Since he comes back about 12am. You have to try and come back before him. Lets say 10-11pm. Hopefully you both are not too knackered to knack and gist. Naija marriage. No wonder the men are lonely in old age, while the women will be policing their sons, dragging him with the DILs. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 4:59pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
Lmao @ carry crochet and follow him. I always chuckle when I read your posts. You're too funny. sassysure: 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 5:47pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
Can you guys try a movie night? Some movies you both like. Download and watch on the tv. They must be movies that appeal or can appeal to both of you. Some of my happier memories are me and the missus watching Gran Torino , mad max fury road . That’s something you can try and do together. Spice it up with some pizza. You can also try the Netflix and chill route and end up knacking. Unfortunately in these parts most of us do not really consider compatiblity when dating. Or maybe it doesn’t really exist. If you decide to wait for some chick that ticks all the boxes and also likes video games or adult swim or is a free thinker or is into football, you will just grow old. So you find one that is wife material and go with it. |
Re: Is This Normal? by crackhaus: 5:53pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
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Re: Is This Normal? by Nobody: 6:00pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
theButterfly: Wetin u wan make I talk na We want happy families o. Some problems can be handled using common sense. If na me, I will follow him, when I start feeling sleepy,will enter the room and occupy bed. Anytime he is ready to go, he should wake me up. Shikena. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal? by Lonelypacifist6: 8:35pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
Ladies have to learn to choose one Working like a typical African or Romantic like an European I can't come and kill myself I'll provide for your needs and still expect me to be romantic Kuku kee me. |
Re: Is This Normal? by Lonelypacifist6: 8:52pm On Nov 18, 2019 |
ornicus:See compatibility is a lie, I'm divorced right now, These women always wanna eat their cake and have it, before marriage she'll follow me to hell hole if I go, but when I got married to her she wouldn't even lemme see my mother in France, last time we went was 2015 After Charlie hebdo, my friends even stopped visiting because they noticed her countenance when they're around, and I stopped going out with her after she and her sisters ganged up and was trash talking men on our way to the cinema my wife couldn't even chip in to defend me and say not all men are like that honestly they made me feel like a paid driver that day, lemme not write an epistle here. |
Re: Is This Normal? by Mpcoll001: 6:49am On Nov 19, 2019 |
pocohantas:the bold part got me |
Re: Is This Normal? by Viking007(m): 9:14am On Nov 19, 2019 |
liberalchick:I like this. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Normal? by chukzyfcbb: 9:15pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
sassysure:lool for some wierd reasons, this made me laugh. Yes we all are nighurs, lol |
Re: Is This Normal? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:30am On Nov 20, 2019 |
crackhaus: But I just said the truth. You're a joker. How you men fail to dish out advice without being lopsided is what never ceases to amaze me. |
Re: Is This Normal? by Lonelypacifist6: 1:17am On Nov 20, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Why? just why. |
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