5 Signs You Are Dealing With A Dangerous Female Narcissist

A narcissist’s greatest fears are exposure and a victim that they cannot control.

It is quite easy to overlook female narcissists and their even more ruthless cousins, sociopaths. Since female narcissists engage in the same type of relational aggression that teenage girls do, they can easily fly under the radar as the “mean girl” motif coming to life in high definition – something we all assume they will eventually grow out of.

Yet research indicates that adolescent girls who use high levels of relational aggression also demonstrate low levels of empathy and caring towards others (Centifanti, et. al 2015). This suggests that the behaviors of gossiping, exclusion and sabotaging relationships may actually be more common among those with existing narcissistic and antisocial traits.

The problem is, the malignant female narcissist rarely outgrows her excessive sense of entitlement, lack of empathy and thirst for interpersonal exploitation – she merely adjusts these traits to her changing environment. The female malignant narcissist is not just vain and self-absorbed. She is also a covert bully who ensnares fellow female friends, relationship partners and family members into her toxic web.

The female narcissist (or sociopath) is just as dangerous as her male counterpart and yet she is protected by prevailing stereotypes of the “gentle young girl,” the “maternal mother,” the “sweet old grandmother,” or minimized by archetypes like the “catty best friend.” No one suspects the older woman, assumed to be nurturing and sweet, to be vindictive, cruel and ruthless. Nor do they expect mothers to abandon, neglect or abuse their children.

Yet what happens when the demented narcissistic mother drives her adult children to suicide after years of chronic childhood abuse? Or when the catty best friend from middle school becomes the conniving co-worker in the corporate world, employing underhanded tactics to sabotage her colleagues? Or when the malignant narcissistic girlfriend uses her harem of male admirers to terrorize her significant other?

Female narcissists do not “grow out” of their childhood aggression; eerily enough, they evolve into even more effective aggressive behaviors in adulthood, using their manipulative tactics to serve their selfish agendas and to exploit others.

While it has been estimated that 75% of narcissists are male, this may be due to a bias of women being more likely to be labeled as borderline or histrionic; it may also be due to confusion resulting from differing presentations of certain disorders due to gendered socialization (Sansone & Sansone, 2011). It’s becoming clearer from survivor stories, however, that there are a far greater number of female narcissists than one would assume.

Female narcissists, especially if they also possess antisocial traits, can cause just as much psychological harm as male malignant narcissists. Here are the top five traits and behaviors to watch out for if you suspect someone might be a malignant narcissist and some tips on how to cope:

1. A sadistic sense of pleasure at someone else’s pain.
Perhaps one of the most understated qualities of the female malignant narcissist is the pleasure and joy she takes in bringing down others. She enjoys making covert jabs and watching gleefully as the formerly confident victim looks crestfallen, shocked and offended. She displays a lack of empathy when the conversation turns to more serious emotional matters, engaging in shallow responses or cruel reprimands that invalidate her victim’s reality.

She is ruthless in her ability to first idealize, then devalue and discard her victims without a second thought. She cannot engage in healthy, emotionally fulfilling relationships, so she enjoys sabotaging the relationships and friendships of others for her own personal entertainment.

2. An insatiable sense of competitiveness, due to pathological envy and the need to be the center of attention.

Relational aggression is thought to be a more common method of bullying among girls, who are socialized to be less physically expressive in their aggression than their male counterparts. The female malignant narcissist is no different; in fact, perhaps some of her most abusive tactics are deployed in the realm of female friendships.

In her group of female friends, the female malignant narcissist scopes out who is a threat and who is a blind follower. Those who threaten the female narcissist in any way (whether it be through their success, appearance, personality, resources, status, desirability or all of the above) must be extinguished, while those who are obedient will be kept around until their resources have been sufficiently depleted.

Those who present a threat are initially placed on a pedestal to keep up appearances in the social circle, but later set up to fail and promptly thrust off. The malignant female narcissist’s starry-eyed admiration of her target is soon revealed to bear an undercurrent of contempt, envy and rage.

As psychotherapist Christine Louis de Canonville puts it, “When it comes to envy, there is no one more envious than the narcissistic woman.”

3. She sabotages your friendships and relationships, stirring chaos within social groups.

The female narcissist may use her affiliation with her target to gain access to resources or status, but as soon as the idealization phase is over, the devaluation and discard follows. She then engages in rumor-mongering, smear campaigns and creates ‘triangles’ where she feeds others false or humiliating information about the victim. She may pit her friends against each other by claiming that they are gossiping about one another, when in fact, it is her falsehoods that are actually manufacturing conflict within the group. By subjecting her victims to covert and overt put-downs, she is able to then confirm her own false sense of superiority.
You are probably dealing with a female narcissist or sociopath in your group of female friends if:

You notice an uncomfortable silence, a covert exchange of looks or odd energy when you enter the room. The friend who is overly friendly in contrast, happens to be the very person who is speaking about you behind your back.
You are idealized by your female friend, sweet-talked, admired, praised and shown off in the beginning of the friendship. You might have found yourself sharing your most intimate secrets early on, due to her disarmingly sweet and trustworthy demeanor. Later, you find yourself being excluded by them in group conversations, social events or invites. You hear about your deepest secrets being spoken about with derision among the group or rumors based on vulnerabilities and fears you confided in your friend about. You also notice a chilling smugness when your female friend talks down to you or as she devalues your accomplishments.
You bear witness to the narcissistic female friend frequently speaking ill of your other friends in an excessively contemptuous tone, while appearing friendly and engaging with them in public. This is evidence of her duplicity and ability to deceive. An authentic person might vent about others occasionally in the event of stress or conflict, but would not engage in excessive gossip or indiscriminate character assassination. He or she would be more likely to cut ties with those they thought were toxic or address it to them directly rather than bashing them unnecessarily. Make no mistake, the way they’re speaking about others is the way they’ll eventually speak about you.

4. She has an obsession with her appearance as well as a high level of materialism and superficiality.

This could also translate into a haughty sense of intellectual superiority, if the narcissist in question is more cerebral than somatic (focused more on her mind rather than her body).

As Christine Hammond, LMHC (2015), notes in her article, The Difference Between Male and Female Narcissists, the female narcissist “battles with other females for dominance” and while male narcissists use their charm along with their appearance to achieve their goals, “females use it to gain superiority.”

Female narcissists fit the ‘femme fatale’ stereotype quite well. Many of them are conventionally attractive and, much like the male somatic narcissist, use their sexuality to their advantage. Since females in our society are also socialized to objectify themselves, the female narcissist follows this social norm to use whatever physical assets she has to assert her power.

Hammond (2015) also observes that while males are more likely to obtain money, female narcissists tend to excessively spend it. This may result in a highly materialistic female narcissist who enjoys adorning herself with the best designer clothing, indulging in luxuries at the expense of her loved ones or allowing herself to be excessively catered to by a wealthy significant other. Female narcissists can also accumulate their own wealth and use it as an indication of her superiority as well.

For the more cerebral narcissist, the female in question might use her accumulation of credentials, degrees, and accomplishments to control and terrorize others. For example, a narcissistic female professor may routinely subject her students to hypercriticism, bullying and cruel taunts under the guise of “constructive criticism,” usually targeting her most talented and brilliant female students in the classroom. This is because, despite her own expertise and position of power, she is still threatened by any other female whose intellect might surpass hers.

5. A blatant disregard for the boundaries of intimate relationships, including her own.

In keeping with typical narcissistic behavior regardless of gender, the female narcissist is likely to have a harem of admirers – consisting of exes that never seem to go away, admirers who always seem to lurk in the background and complete strangers she ensnares into her web to evoke jealousy in her romantic partner. She frequently creates love triangles with her significant other and other males (or females, depending on her sexual orientation). She rejoices in male attention and boasts about being the object of desire. She engages in emotional and/or physical infidelity, usually without remorse and with plenty of gaslighting and deception directed at her partner, who usually dotes on her and spoils her, unaware of the extent of her disloyalty.

She also crosses the boundaries of her female friendships by attempting to “make a move” on the partners of her friends. She is disappointed and envious when her “seduction” falls flat or when her friends enjoy more attention from their partners than she does. To a baffled outsider, a female narcissist’s betrayal is incredibly hurtful and traumatizing – but to the observant eye, it is a clear sign of how far the female narcissist’s pathological sense of entitlement goes.

Understanding Female Narcissism
I suspect I am dealing with a female narcissist. Now what?

If you are dealing with a female malignant narcissist in a friendship, relationship or in a formal or professional setting, be on guard. Remember that they can “turn” at any moment, so don’t be fooled into thinking you will ever be the exception to their interpersonal exploitation. If you are dealing with one in a professional context, stick to e-mail or small talk that can be easily documented. Do not reveal personal information in the early stages of a budding relationship that can later be used against you.

If a female narcissist wants to spend all her time with you and is pressuring you to spend time with them constantly, minimize communication and slow things down. According to life coach Wendy Powell (2015), this can be an excellent way to discourage narcissists from dating you as well. In addition, it can reveal her ‘true self’ more quickly, whether in a relationship or friendship.

A female narcissist’s response to your boundaries will tell you all that you need to know. Most narcissists cannot stand to be ignored; they feel entitled to your constant attention, so they will continue to make persistent efforts until they get it or attempt to sabotage you if they fail.

If you notice that a female friend of yours tends to spread rumors or engages in malicious gossip, try to cut the interaction short and excuse yourself – remember that the toxic person will try to convince others that you are the one speaking ill of them, so anything you say in agreement can and will be used against you.

Stay calm whenever a female narcissist tries to provoke you; your indifference and courage in the face of their threats or insults is actually your greatest ‘tool’ against their tactics. It unsettles them when a target is not so easily rattled, because that means there is something more powerful about their victim than they expected.

If you’re being smeared by a female narcissist, calmly state the facts of the situation to your friends and take note as to who stands up for you and who believes in the female narcissist.

Remember that in the presence of a persuasive narcissist or sociopath, there will always be a few people who are fooled. Do not waste your energy on trying to convince them; if they are that easily fooled by someone else’s claims rather than your track record of loyalty and support, they do not deserve your friendship. You’ll find that they will uncover the truth for themselves eventually – and even if they continue to enable the narcissist’s behavior, they still get the short end of the stick because they chose the fake friend who can turn on them at any point.

Detach from the narcissist’s harem and stick with the people who do support and defend you. Do not be swayed by flattery or charm in the early stages of any interaction – if it is genuine, it will be given as positive feedback throughout your friendship or relationship and you will not be blindsided by a sudden personality transplant.

Remember that a narcissist’s greatest fears are exposure and a victim that they cannot control. So long as you are deeply grounded in your own self-validation, any narcissist – whether male or female – cannot truly use the threat of tarnishing your reputation or friendships against you, because they know you will see any loss of such disloyal friends as a gain. They also know that deep down, while they will spend their entire lives trying to protect their false image, your own integrity will continue to speak for itself.

Culled from :-
https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/01/the-female-narcissist-is-just-as-dangerous-heres-why/

Informative.

We need to talk extensively on this subject matter


But first many males like me never believed a female narcissist existed and didn't plan ahead before we met ourselves. I regret till today. So I want to counsel men on the subject cause I've been there personally


First, throw away the brief they don't exist in our climes. You'll be surprised


Also the power of a female marcisst is their cover. The moment you see any aldy place hevay emphasis on hiding your relationship keeping it private. Be guarded, her motives aren't pure and she wants you boxed in a.corner where she'll play you hands down. Hence from the beginning before May attachment forms. Run. A few popular biblical examples of female narcissist includes Jezebel and Samson's wife. Notice both women loved power and control and had mad lust for wealth and pleasure



2. A female narcissist is a high class LovePeddler. Believe it or not. You may not see her self herself forsex publicly. But her whole emphasis on her appearance and getting the luxuries of life is to ultimately sell herself to the highest bidder. This is more reason why she'll want relationship private cause she can't bring her self to settle for one person because she has to keep making herself available to multiple persons at the same time with the hope of selling herself at an exhorbitant price. To the person who she'll later destroy and dispossess of his status. Hence a female narcissist can never play a supportive role as she's only interested in benefits, immediately and on the long run


3. Don't fall into the trap of advising a female narcissist. Most times they are victims of rape at na earlier age, or a had partner and the shock forced their new psyche, their past would almost make you thru pity want to be there to offer a shoulder,support,ears and counsel but a female narcissist can almost not change at all. Don't water your time. That baggage isn't yours to deal with. Run


4. It's a clear sign. Astrong desire for wealth. She'll keep saying she's waiting for a rich man mad won't mind staying this and staying single for 20years waiting for her vicitm. Once you spot may chick shouting money, money, it's a clear indicator. Run for your life

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This part is important


If you’re being smeared by a female narcissist, calmly state the facts of the situation to your friends and take note as to who stands up for you and who believes in the female narcissist.

Another very important part


So long as you are deeply grounded in your own self-validation, any narcissist – whether male or female – cannot truly use the threat of tarnishing your reputation or friendships against you, because they know you will see any loss of such disloyal friends as a gain. They also know that deep down, while they will spend their entire lives trying to protect their false image, your own integrity will continue to speak for itself.

Another crucial section



The problem is, the malignant female narcissist rarely outgrows her excessive sense of entitlement, lack of empathy and thirst for interpersonal exploitation – she merely adjusts these traits to her changing environment.

Take note




She enjoys making covert jabs and watching gleefully as the formerly confident victim looks crestfallen, shocked and offended. She displays a lack of empathy when the conversation turns to more serious emotional matters, engaging in shallow responses or cruel reprimands that invalidate her victim’s reality.

An insatiable sense of competitiveness, due to pathological envy and the need to be the center of attention.

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The female narcissist may use her affiliation with her target to gain access to resources or status, but as soon as the idealization phase is over, the devaluation and discard follows. She then engages in rumor-mongering, smear campaigns and creates ‘triangles’ where she feeds others false or humiliating information about the victim. She may pit her friends against each other by claiming that they are gossiping about one another, when in fact, it is her falsehoods that are actually manufacturing conflict within the group. By subjecting her victims to covert and overt put-downs, she is able to then confirm her own false sense of superiority.

She has an obsession with her appearance as well as a high level of materialism and superficiality.

This could also translate into a haughty sense of intellectual superiority

while males are more likely to obtain money, female narcissists tend to excessively spend it. This may result in a highly materialistic female narcissist who enjoys adorning herself with the best designer clothing, indulging in luxuries at the expense of her loved ones or allowing herself to be excessively catered to by a wealthy significant other. Female narcissists can also accumulate their own wealth and use it as an indication of her superiority as well.

In keeping with typical narcissistic behavior regardless of gender, the female narcissist is likely to have a harem of admirers – consisting of exes that never seem to go away, admirers who always seem to lurk in the background and complete strangers she ensnares into her web to evoke jealousy in her romantic partner.

Hi thanks for this

healthserve:
The moment you see any lady place heavy emphasis on hiding your relationship keeping it private. Be guarded, her motives aren't pure and she wants you boxed in a corner where she'll play you hands down.

Well known trick of women. They isolate a man from his friends and family so that when they start dealing with him, there is no one to give him good advice or refuge because his evil wife / partner has chased away those who could save him.

healthserve:
She has to keep making herself available to multiple persons at the same time with the hope of selling herself at an exorbitant price. To the person who she'll later destroy and dispossess of his status. Hence a female narcissist can never play a supportive role as she's only interested in benefits, immediately and on the long run

Why do women succeed so much at destroying great men Classic example is the sad story of the Great Warrior called Samson in the Bible and the way Delilah seduced and destroyed this mighty man of valor.

healthserve:
Don't fall into the trap of advising a female narcissist. Their past would almost make you thru pity want to be there to offer a shoulder,support,ears and counsel but a female narcissist can almost not change at all. Don't waste your time. That baggage isn't yours to deal with. Run

A lot of these women were in long lasting violent abusive relationships in the past and they are so bitter that they automatically hate the guts of any man that they are in a new relationship with but because they need the sex and money the new man gives them they accept him but slowly but SURELY their veil begins to slip to reveal their true sinister self as NASTY, BITTER, controlling, psychopathic, narcissistic female sociopaths.

healthserve:
It's a clear sign. A strong desire for wealth. She'll keep saying she's waiting for a rich man and won't mind saying this and staying single for 20 years waiting for her victim. Once you spot any chick shouting money, money, it's a clear indicator. Run for your life

Some of them are still waiting for their male victim and they are already in their 50's. Just check dating websites and you will see the shameless cows there. Gone were the days when you would never see a black woman show her picture on a dating site but these days the shameless old hags are beginning to realise that the nastiness to men that they indulged in in their youth is coming back to bite them big time.

Their circle of female friends is reducing daily as the smart ones have clinched onto a man and left them and their man hating habits behind and don't want them too close lest they drive away the new man they managed to trap.

These single and rapidly ageing women are already entering menopause with no man, their teeth are already falling out and being replaced with dentures and white hair is beginning to grow out of certain places BUT YET THESE OLD HAGS WILL NOT WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE AND CHANGE THEIR WAYS.

Ilekokonit:


Well known trick of women. They isolate a man from his friends and family so that when they start dealing with him, there is no one to give him good advice or refuge because his evil wife / partner has chased away those who could save him.



Why do women succeed so much at destroying great me Classic example is the sad story of the Great Warrior called Samson in the Bible and the way Delilah seduced and destroyed this mighty man of valor.



A lot of these women were in long lasting violent abusive relationships in the past and they are so bitter that they automatically hate the guts of any man that they are in a new relationship with but because they need the sex and money the new man gives them they accept him but slowly but SURELY their veil begins to slip to reveal their true sinister self as NASTY, BITTER, controlling, psychopathic, narcissistic female sociopaths.



Some of them are still waiting for their male victim and they are already in their 50's. Just check dating websites and you will see the shameless cows there. Gone were the days when you would never see a black woman show her picture on a dating site but these days the shameless old hags are beginning to realise that the nastiness to men that they indulged in in their youth is coming back to bite them big time.

Their circle of female friends is reducing daily as the smart ones have clinched onto a man and left them and their man hating habits behind and don't want them too close lest they drive away the new man they managed to trap.

These single and rapidly ageing women are already entering menopause with no man, their teeth are already falling out and being replaced with dentures and white hair is beginning to grow out of certain places BUT YET THESE OLD HAGS WILL NOT WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE AND CHANGE THEIR WAYS.

I hope young ones coming behind will take heed mad learn with all these warnings. I love the point you raised about revealing their cute psychopathic underlying nature. Men oughtnnot to be carried away by the wary stages romantic trimmings.


Cunny ladies don't just settle for relationships just like that or act just on a whim everything is a plan. So men need to read signs and make accurate interpretations early on in the game with such kind of ladies.

kunleweb:
Another crucial section
The problem is, the malignant female narcissist rarely outgrows her excessive sense of entitlement, lack of empathy and thirst for interpersonal exploitation – she merely adjusts these traits to her changing environment.

Well spotted.

So, the advice for men is that THE MINUTE you realise that the woman you are dating or married to is a female narcissist (malignant or benign) JUST CANCEL THE RELATIONSHIP / MARRIAGE and run for your life because they will never change for the better and your life is at risk in all ways - be it financial, mental, physical, emotional or spiritual.

Such a woman WILL NOT give you peace of mind as she has no peace to give as she is NOT a peaceful person and deep down she hates men with a passion due to a former abusive partner or maybe she is just a plain old NASTY WOMAN.

SUCH WOMEN CANNOT GIVE YOU PEACE because she is NOT a peaceful person and like the well known legal rule says, Nemo dat quod non habet , literally meaning "no one can give what they don't have".

Ilekokonit:


Well spotted.

Men need to be wary of ladies that come into relationships with terrible baggages. They're coming with very bad mental psyche which isn't healthy for good relationship

kunleweb:
Take note

She enjoys making covert jabs and watching gleefully as the formerly confident victim looks crestfallen, shocked and offended. She displays a lack of empathy when the conversation turns to more serious emotional matters, engaging in shallow responses or cruel reprimands that invalidate her victim’s reality.

Again well spotted.

21st Century women are worse than armed robbers. These men hating feminazis cum UNDIAGNOSED LUNATICS are so calculating and are constantly watching you like a hawk to see something you do or say so that they can attack you.

MGTOW

Ilekokonit:


Again well spotted.

21st Century women are worse than armed robbers. These men hating feminazis cum UNDIAGNOSED LUNATICS are so calculating and are constantly watching you like a hawk to see something you do or say so that they can attack you.

MGTOW

I swear down your comments remind me of someone I know who was pulling all this strings on me that caused me to learn/understand and know their antics

kunleweb:
An insatiable sense of competitiveness, due to pathological envy and the need to be the center of attention.

The number one competition that Nigerian Wive's engage their Husband in is to be richer than their husband.

A Lot of Nigerian men are MARRIED TO A HOUSEHOLD ENEMY and they are shouting my wife, my wife up and down.

Try an EXPERIMENT :- Tell your so called wife that you have just lost your source of income and see how she WILL transform WITHIN 2 DAYS into a crazy demon who now treats you with disrespect and like a servant IN FRONT OF YOUR OWN KIDS.

Ilekokonit:


The number one competition that Nigerian Wive's engage their Husband in is to be richer than their husband.

A Lot of Nigerian men are MARRIED TO A HOUSEHOLD ENEMY and they are shouting my wife, my wife up and down.

Try an EXPERIMENT :- Tell your so called wife that you have just lost your source of income and see how she WILL transform WITHIN 2 DAYS into a crazy demon who now treats you with disrespect and like a servant IN FRONT OF YOUR OWN KIDS.

My brother you've said it all. Bad upbringing and terrible past relationships has damaged their psyche. It took me time to understand this and if I stall change my mind to want to roll with these things,the moment I spot any form of competition between me and a lady, I'll cut her off straight. No time. Once a lady competes with her man she has become an enemy and before you know it she can go diabolical and destroy the man's life. I had two experiences with two according to them classy, two ke. Up to four of such ladies in the past 24months. So, for guys who don't meet these alpha ladies it's luck. But for guys that aren't so sure it's better to play the game like a mafia and leave no room for mistakes.


Respect to good women out there though

kunleweb:

Cunny ladies don't just settle for relationships just like that or act just on a whim everything is a plan. So men need to read signs and make accurate interpretations early on in the game with such kind of ladies.

That's why I wrote somewhere that on meeting a new lady, the man SHOULD NOT go to her house or take her to his house to avoid having sex too early in the relationship AS SEX TOO EARLY IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP tends to trap men into abusive relationships with psychopathic women as not every man is MENTALLY strong enough to turn their backs on readily available sex even if the woman is an abusive psychopathic lunatic.

Ilekokonit:


That's why I wrote somewhere that on meeting a new lady, the man SHOULD NOT go to her house or take her to his house to avoid having sex too early in the relationship AS SEX TOO EARLY IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP tends to trap men into abusive relationships with psychopathic women as not every man is MENTALLY strong enough to turn their backs on readily available sex even if the woman is an abusive psychopathic lunatic.

True. Spot on. We makes get carried away with the assumption that the other party is what we imagine them to be by projecting our imagination rather than knowing the person beyond the face. Before you know it all sorts of entanglement and issues. At that point the female psycopath/narcissist unleashes hell. Even before sex emotional ties/bonds are not easily broken off. HenceAmna should read and understand the signs well before he commits his emotions. The lesser the invested emotions,the easier it is to break off from a female narcissist

Ilekokonit:


Well known trick of women. They isolate a man from his friends and family so that when they start dealing with him, there is no one to give him good advice or refuge because his evil wife / partner has chased away those who could save him.

Why does this sound like Merghan and Harry to me.

Ilekokonit:


Well known trick of women. They isolate a man from his friends and family so that when they start dealing with him, there is no one to give him good advice or refuge because his evil wife / partner has chased away those who could save him.



Why do women succeed so much at destroying great men Classic example is the sad story of the Great Warrior called Samson in the Bible and the way Delilah seduced and destroyed this mighty man of valor.



A lot of these women were in long lasting violent abusive relationships in the past and they are so bitter that they automatically hate the guts of any man that they are in a new relationship with but because they need the sex and money the new man gives them they accept him but slowly but SURELY their veil begins to slip to reveal their true sinister self as NASTY, BITTER, controlling, psychopathic, narcissistic female sociopaths.



Some of them are still waiting for their male victim and they are already in their 50's. Just check dating websites and you will see the shameless cows there. Gone were the days when you would never see a black woman show her picture on a dating site but these days the shameless old hags are beginning to realise that the nastiness to men that they indulged in in their youth is coming back to bite them big time.

Their circle of female friends is reducing daily as the smart ones have clinched onto a man and left them and their man hating habits behind and don't want them too close lest they drive away the new man they managed to trap.

These single and rapidly ageing women are already entering menopause with no man, their teeth are already falling out and being replaced with dentures and white hair is beginning to grow out of certain places BUT YET THESE OLD HAGS WILL NOT WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE AND CHANGE THEIR WAYS.

Funmisticqueen2 come and learn a thing or two before u turn trashy news paper!

Ilekokonit:
5 Signs You Are Dealing With A Dangerous Female Narcissist

A narcissist’s greatest fears are exposure and a victim that they cannot control.

It is quite easy to overlook female narcissists and their even more ruthless cousins, sociopaths. Since female narcissists engage in the same type of relational aggression that teenage girls do, they can easily fly under the radar as the “mean girl” motif coming to life in high definition – something we all assume they will eventually grow out of.

Yet research indicates that adolescent girls who use high levels of relational aggression also demonstrate low levels of empathy and caring towards others (Centifanti, et. al 2015). This suggests that the behaviors of gossiping, exclusion and sabotaging relationships may actually be more common among those with existing narcissistic and antisocial traits.

The problem is, the malignant female narcissist rarely outgrows her excessive sense of entitlement, lack of empathy and thirst for interpersonal exploitation – she merely adjusts these traits to her changing environment. The female malignant narcissist is not just vain and self-absorbed. She is also a covert bully who ensnares fellow female friends, relationship partners and family members into her toxic web.

The female narcissist (or sociopath) is just as dangerous as her male counterpart and yet she is protected by prevailing stereotypes of the “gentle young girl,” the “maternal mother,” the “sweet old grandmother,” or minimized by archetypes like the “catty best friend.” No one suspects the older woman, assumed to be nurturing and sweet, to be vindictive, cruel and ruthless. Nor do they expect mothers to abandon, neglect or abuse their children.

Yet what happens when the demented narcissistic mother drives her adult children to suicide after years of chronic childhood abuse? Or when the catty best friend from middle school becomes the conniving co-worker in the corporate world, employing underhanded tactics to sabotage her colleagues? Or when the malignant narcissistic girlfriend uses her harem of male admirers to terrorize her significant other?

Female narcissists do not “grow out” of their childhood aggression; eerily enough, they evolve into even more effective aggressive behaviors in adulthood, using their manipulative tactics to serve their selfish agendas and to exploit others.

While it has been estimated that 75% of narcissists are male, this may be due to a bias of women being more likely to be labeled as borderline or histrionic; it may also be due to confusion resulting from differing presentations of certain disorders due to gendered socialization (Sansone & Sansone, 2011). It’s becoming clearer from survivor stories, however, that there are a far greater number of female narcissists than one would assume.

Female narcissists, especially if they also possess antisocial traits, can cause just as much psychological harm as male malignant narcissists. Here are the top five traits and behaviors to watch out for if you suspect someone might be a malignant narcissist and some tips on how to cope:

1. A sadistic sense of pleasure at someone else’s pain.
Perhaps one of the most understated qualities of the female malignant narcissist is the pleasure and joy she takes in bringing down others. She enjoys making covert jabs and watching gleefully as the formerly confident victim looks crestfallen, shocked and offended. She displays a lack of empathy when the conversation turns to more serious emotional matters, engaging in shallow responses or cruel reprimands that invalidate her victim’s reality.

She is ruthless in her ability to first idealize, then devalue and discard her victims without a second thought. She cannot engage in healthy, emotionally fulfilling relationships, so she enjoys sabotaging the relationships and friendships of others for her own personal entertainment.

2. An insatiable sense of competitiveness, due to pathological envy and the need to be the center of attention.

Relational aggression is thought to be a more common method of bullying among girls, who are socialized to be less physically expressive in their aggression than their male counterparts. The female malignant narcissist is no different; in fact, perhaps some of her most abusive tactics are deployed in the realm of female friendships.

In her group of female friends, the female malignant narcissist scopes out who is a threat and who is a blind follower. Those who threaten the female narcissist in any way (whether it be through their success, appearance, personality, resources, status, desirability or all of the above) must be extinguished, while those who are obedient will be kept around until their resources have been sufficiently depleted.

Those who present a threat are initially placed on a pedestal to keep up appearances in the social circle, but later set up to fail and promptly thrust off. The malignant female narcissist’s starry-eyed admiration of her target is soon revealed to bear an undercurrent of contempt, envy and rage.

As psychotherapist Christine Louis de Canonville puts it, “When it comes to envy, there is no one more envious than the narcissistic woman.”

3. She sabotages your friendships and relationships, stirring chaos within social groups.

The female narcissist may use her affiliation with her target to gain access to resources or status, but as soon as the idealization phase is over, the devaluation and discard follows. She then engages in rumor-mongering, smear campaigns and creates ‘triangles’ where she feeds others false or humiliating information about the victim. She may pit her friends against each other by claiming that they are gossiping about one another, when in fact, it is her falsehoods that are actually manufacturing conflict within the group. By subjecting her victims to covert and overt put-downs, she is able to then confirm her own false sense of superiority.
You are probably dealing with a female narcissist or sociopath in your group of female friends if:

You notice an uncomfortable silence, a covert exchange of looks or odd energy when you enter the room. The friend who is overly friendly in contrast, happens to be the very person who is speaking about you behind your back.
You are idealized by your female friend, sweet-talked, admired, praised and shown off in the beginning of the friendship. You might have found yourself sharing your most intimate secrets early on, due to her disarmingly sweet and trustworthy demeanor. Later, you find yourself being excluded by them in group conversations, social events or invites. You hear about your deepest secrets being spoken about with derision among the group or rumors based on vulnerabilities and fears you confided in your friend about. You also notice a chilling smugness when your female friend talks down to you or as she devalues your accomplishments.
You bear witness to the narcissistic female friend frequently speaking ill of your other friends in an excessively contemptuous tone, while appearing friendly and engaging with them in public. This is evidence of her duplicity and ability to deceive. An authentic person might vent about others occasionally in the event of stress or conflict, but would not engage in excessive gossip or indiscriminate character assassination. He or she would be more likely to cut ties with those they thought were toxic or address it to them directly rather than bashing them unnecessarily. Make no mistake, the way they’re speaking about others is the way they’ll eventually speak about you.

4. She has an obsession with her appearance as well as a high level of materialism and superficiality.

This could also translate into a haughty sense of intellectual superiority, if the narcissist in question is more cerebral than somatic (focused more on her mind rather than her body).

As Christine Hammond, LMHC (2015), notes in her article, The Difference Between Male and Female Narcissists, the female narcissist “battles with other females for dominance” and while male narcissists use their charm along with their appearance to achieve their goals, “females use it to gain superiority.”

Female narcissists fit the ‘femme fatale’ stereotype quite well. Many of them are conventionally attractive and, much like the male somatic narcissist, use their sexuality to their advantage. Since females in our society are also socialized to objectify themselves, the female narcissist follows this social norm to use whatever physical assets she has to assert her power.

Hammond (2015) also observes that while males are more likely to obtain money, female narcissists tend to excessively spend it. This may result in a highly materialistic female narcissist who enjoys adorning herself with the best designer clothing, indulging in luxuries at the expense of her loved ones or allowing herself to be excessively catered to by a wealthy significant other. Female narcissists can also accumulate their own wealth and use it as an indication of her superiority as well.

For the more cerebral narcissist, the female in question might use her accumulation of credentials, degrees, and accomplishments to control and terrorize others. For example, a narcissistic female professor may routinely subject her students to hypercriticism, bullying and cruel taunts under the guise of “constructive criticism,” usually targeting her most talented and brilliant female students in the classroom. This is because, despite her own expertise and position of power, she is still threatened by any other female whose intellect might surpass hers.

5. A blatant disregard for the boundaries of intimate relationships, including her own.

In keeping with typical narcissistic behavior regardless of gender, the female narcissist is likely to have a harem of admirers – consisting of exes that never seem to go away, admirers who always seem to lurk in the background and complete strangers she ensnares into her web to evoke jealousy in her romantic partner. She frequently creates love triangles with her significant other and other males (or females, depending on her sexual orientation). She rejoices in male attention and boasts about being the object of desire. She engages in emotional and/or physical infidelity, usually without remorse and with plenty of gaslighting and deception directed at her partner, who usually dotes on her and spoils her, unaware of the extent of her disloyalty.

She also crosses the boundaries of her female friendships by attempting to “make a move” on the partners of her friends. She is disappointed and envious when her “seduction” falls flat or when her friends enjoy more attention from their partners than she does. To a baffled outsider, a female narcissist’s betrayal is incredibly hurtful and traumatizing – but to the observant eye, it is a clear sign of how far the female narcissist’s pathological sense of entitlement goes.

Understanding Female Narcissism
I suspect I am dealing with a female narcissist. Now what?

If you are dealing with a female malignant narcissist in a friendship, relationship or in a formal or professional setting, be on guard. Remember that they can “turn” at any moment, so don’t be fooled into thinking you will ever be the exception to their interpersonal exploitation. If you are dealing with one in a professional context, stick to e-mail or small talk that can be easily documented. Do not reveal personal information in the early stages of a budding relationship that can later be used against you.

If a female narcissist wants to spend all her time with you and is pressuring you to spend time with them constantly, minimize communication and slow things down. According to life coach Wendy Powell (2015), this can be an excellent way to discourage narcissists from dating you as well. In addition, it can reveal her ‘true self’ more quickly, whether in a relationship or friendship.

A female narcissist’s response to your boundaries will tell you all that you need to know. Most narcissists cannot stand to be ignored; they feel entitled to your constant attention, so they will continue to make persistent efforts until they get it or attempt to sabotage you if they fail.

If you notice that a female friend of yours tends to spread rumors or engages in malicious gossip, try to cut the interaction short and excuse yourself – remember that the toxic person will try to convince others that you are the one speaking ill of them, so anything you say in agreement can and will be used against you.

Stay calm whenever a female narcissist tries to provoke you; your indifference and courage in the face of their threats or insults is actually your greatest ‘tool’ against their tactics. It unsettles them when a target is not so easily rattled, because that means there is something more powerful about their victim than they expected.

If you’re being smeared by a female narcissist, calmly state the facts of the situation to your friends and take note as to who stands up for you and who believes in the female narcissist.

Remember that in the presence of a persuasive narcissist or sociopath, there will always be a few people who are fooled. Do not waste your energy on trying to convince them; if they are that easily fooled by someone else’s claims rather than your track record of loyalty and support, they do not deserve your friendship. You’ll find that they will uncover the truth for themselves eventually – and even if they continue to enable the narcissist’s behavior, they still get the short end of the stick because they chose the fake friend who can turn on them at any point.

Detach from the narcissist’s harem and stick with the people who do support and defend you. Do not be swayed by flattery or charm in the early stages of any interaction – if it is genuine, it will be given as positive feedback throughout your friendship or relationship and you will not be blindsided by a sudden personality transplant.

Remember that a narcissist’s greatest fears are exposure and a victim that they cannot control. So long as you are deeply grounded in your own self-validation, any narcissist – whether male or female – cannot truly use the threat of tarnishing your reputation or friendships against you, because they know you will see any loss of such disloyal friends as a gain. They also know that deep down, while they will spend their entire lives trying to protect their false image, your own integrity will continue to speak for itself.

Culled from :-
https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/01/the-female-narcissist-is-just-as-dangerous-heres-why/

This is deep!
I didn't want the post to end.

I recommend this timeless
post for anybody in business
and/or romantic relationships.

Watch out for the "mean girl"
at a high school, and some adult
female introverts who display
haughtiness and self-entitlement.

Men have been falsely accused
of rape or harassment by these
devious female narcissists if
they get a hint that a man they
like or love is not giving them attention!

Female narcissists are bad news
to mankind. But then some of
these people might actually be
bipolar (manic-depressive) and
may need psychotherapy or brain
electroshock.