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Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 1:19pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
rain21:How do you know what happens when Indians visit their in-laws? 3 Likes |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by Nobody: 1:24pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
crackkhaus:What sorta question is this, coz I can see that you are trying so hard to trap me, so I won't answer u. I still stand my ground: MARRIAGE ISN'T ALL ABOUT MONEY. |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by rain21(f): 1:25pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
crackkhaus: lol.. see question don't they portray that and more in zeeworld? |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 1:28pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
MissGodOwn: Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you... Lol 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 1:29pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
rain21:Zeeworld |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by Fountainofyouth(f): 1:31pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
bukatyne: Not all Yoruba's, and we do not give gifts to the groom's family, we only host the grooms family if they are not in the same state as the bride's family, And not all Yoruba's return the bride price, it is an individual preference, and it is a very wrong thing to do if we should follow the biblical standard. 3 Likes |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by rain21(f): 1:42pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Of course India is deep rooted in their culture and they portray that in their movies and series.i go by what they show me and what actually happens in their country. Remove bride price and this same scenario will still remain and continue.women are always willing to adapt to the man's family and that situation will occur unless it has to do with two different wealthy and well exposed families,then everyone will learn to respect themselves 1 Like |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by yeyeosoronga: 1:44pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
Acidosis: That is where you get it wrong. Anyone can be a care giver. In nature, there are some animals where it is mainly the male species who do the nurturing and care for their offspring. You cannot term such animals as unnatural. There are some animals who never ever nurture their young, and neither the male nor female species ever do and once those offspring are born or hatch, they are left to their own devices. Nature also makes sure those offspring have the necessary skills to survive. Of course some die in the process, while others don't. There is no special skill needed to be a human parent or carer which cannot be developed by either gender. That is the way nature has made humans. Because such skills have been fine toned in women (not naturally, I might add but purposefully by parents / society eg girl children are used more to baby sit their younger ones, they are specifically taught to cook, clean and serve others) does not mean it came naturally. No. It was developed, and can be developed by men too. Same way women have developed themselves and are becoming Drs, Engrs, lawyers etc despite the society still trying to tell us otherwise (even abroad, you still find many of their older generation referring to every female Dr as a nurse and every male nurse as a Dr, despite these professionals introducing themselves properly to them). I have female friends, and one only specialised in making eggs, the best eggs you could eat but cannot do anything else because she wasn't raised to cook. I have another one who cannot even make the eggs sef. At the same time too, growing up I remember one of our family friends where the husband was a military officer and they had 4 children, the oldest was a boy. I swear, this boy at 11 or so years could make the best amala . The boys (2 of them) were cleaning and cooking even more than the girls, and their mum was not taking any nonsense from any of them, even if you were the last born. You would think she was the officer and not her husband. Anyway, I digress. It is natural for only the female human to get pregnant, breastfeed its young because nature has provided only them with the tools needed to do so. However, other things such as care giving, providing has nothing to do with nature. 4 Likes |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by Fountainofyouth(f): 1:47pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
sassysure: This is quite a funny analysis, seems as if you did not do the usual traditional and white wedding for you to come up with this, because I do not know why you feel in the world of today, specifically the men of today, will solely fund the flamboyant wedding that we see around, it didn't occur to you that the bride's family can be the richer one, and the said groom will still feel he owns the wife, and still treat her badly, what do you say to that? My point is, a man spending lavishly for wedding has absolutely nothing to do with treating his lady badly, its a two way thing, either positive or negative, so even if they decide to abolish bride price and other stuffs along with it, men will still look for a way or something to hold on to so that they can feel like a boss that has a possession, they have an overbloated ego with an over bloated mindset to think and behave like that cos that is the only thing that gives them a sense of worth over women, even if it means going to the ends of the earth, they must find it, they are very entitled like that. 4 Likes |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by Nobody: 2:51pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth: You might be right buh the subtle truth is "women wants to be possesed". and when i say say not just talking about women around the world. when you watch int'l event or local event esp. ones that involve couples, almost every woman wants to be held by the waist, women want to be shown off. Men are boss we don't need to feel like it,what we do is just what nature as instilled into us, we don't feel entitled we are just exercising our right. I am a man & you're a woman i don't need to beat you to feel my strength .... i just know am stronger than you that is my point. 1 Like |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by Amhappy(f): 3:33pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
Reason i don't stay long or hardly go our villa is they drain you. Visiting my parents is a whole lot easier. Though all of them you go still work. |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by worworbabe: 7:15pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
crackkhaus: This analysis is flawed. If she is now a part of that family, why is the burden on her? Are her husband's sisters expected to behave the way she is expected to? Can she get away with the same things as they do? The woman is almost treated as a slave who must serve every member of that family. It is wrong by all means. 2 Likes |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 8:31pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
worworbabe:Sometimes when some of you come up with these hypothetical scenarios, I wonder if you live under a rock. Is there anyway a husband's sisters will sit down with legs crossed in their own father's house while their brother's wife does ALL the domestic work and serves everyone including them? Where does that happen? In your family house? Next time you want to exaggerate to make a blunt point, at least keep it within the parameters of reality. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 8:36pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
rain21:Lol... I don't even know how to respond to you. Zeeworld.. Okay I've read what you typed. |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by rain21(f): 9:51pm On Mar 06, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Well, you quoted me first and I told you where I got my facts from |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 8:06am On Mar 07, 2020 |
rain21: |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by TonyeBarcanista(m): 8:55am On Mar 07, 2020 |
How can a sensible person even put that up? For a start the man marrying the wife is taking her into his family not marrying himself into his wife's family. By marriage, the wife's is deemed a member of the husband's family and enjoys all privileges that comes with being member of the husband's family as well as responsibilities. She is never a visitor in her in-laws house but a member of the family. Depending on family, you don't expect her to sit down while chores are being done by other members of the house (the husband inclusive) based on division of labour If you are not comfortable kindly remain unmarried. It is not by force. BTW any woman who marries into a family that expects wife to do all chores in family house when others are there is on her own! |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 10:35am On Mar 07, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista:I don't know how the people who are having a problem with how I broke it down on the first page missed this common sense. Perhaps typing in pidgin would have made it easier to comprehend. 1 Like |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:48am On Mar 07, 2020 |
crackkhaus:Don't mind them. They always have something to complain about... They nag over any and everything 1 Like |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by Acidosis(m): 12:12pm On Mar 07, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Majority of the issues about MILs, SILs, and husbands's families today are based on mere conjectures from Hollywood, and perceptions passed down from generations. Many of them haven't been to their husbands' family home more than one or two occasions, yet got so much and a lot to say about them. The only time they visit is period (burial, wedding, Christmas, etc.) when everyone is busy and they expect to sit and be served. Where is that done? How many of them visit their in-laws on a regular weekday or weekend? They compare their regular weekday in their father's house (when there is little or no work to be done) to the wedding party or event at their in-laws place. Women ehn..! |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 12:18pm On Mar 07, 2020 |
Acidosis:I don't even understand 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by worworbabe: 8:40am On Mar 08, 2020 |
crackkhaus: A lot is wrong with you and if at all you have a family that you respect or is worth respecting at all, you won't mention my family in such a moronic way. But of course, sharing this cyberspace with nonentities like you, this is not unexpected. Downplay it as much as you want, anywhere the sentiments you put forth are expected, there is so much burden on the wife, how she is expected to behave, greet or relate with others without same being accorded to women born in that household. 3 Likes |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by fekani: 9:15am On Mar 08, 2020 |
op, this table you are shaking ehn, but you are so on point. some mother in laws even go for omugwo and expect the new mum to serve them and care for them morning afternoon night. without offering any help with the new born. if she doesn't do that well, her matter will be well tabled when she goes back home. |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 12:13pm On Mar 08, 2020 |
worworbabe:Cry me a river bimbo... You're confidently yapping about how it happens anywhere and everywhere, yada yada yada... but when you're asked to confirm if you treat women married into your family like that, you start catching feelings. Everytime you fvckers come here to speak of these things, you're so simple-minded that you fail to see that everything you accuse other families of doing to wives married into them, is exactly the same thing your family will be doing to women married into it. Abi women no dey marry your brothers, cousins, and uncles? So how do you treat them? Do you sit down and watch your brothers'/uncles' wives do all the work and serve you? Or you're the only well behaved sister-in-law in this your imaginary world of gumball... Rubbish 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by worworbabe: 11:41pm On Mar 08, 2020 |
crackkhaus: I come back to the site to realise that this jobless foool from the gutters has quoted me again. I said what I said. Let it pain you to oblivion. |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 6:24am On Mar 09, 2020 |
worworbabe:At this point, you ought to take take several seats and think of your life. I'm pained, yet you were the one crying about how your family was mentioned? World worst sister-in-law... Why don't you tell us how you treat your brother's wives by burdening them & making them serve you while you sit your leprous ass down. Maybe someone out here will be able to counsel you on how to act right and not treat wives married into your family like slaves. 3 Likes |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by worworbabe: 7:03am On Mar 09, 2020 |
crackkhaus: You are very dumb and stup!d at the same time. Your several attempts at bringing my personal experiences into this as yielded no result. A self respecting man would have realised this antics won't work, but you are obviously one who lacks anything worth respecting. It will explain why you are constantly on the forum trying to earn the types of accord you'd never even dream of in the real world. It must also explain why you support anything that appaers against the female gender. They aren't giving it to you abi?? pele Now if you have a bit of sense, you would see that your last post is highly demented. It's as if, by each post your IQ depreciates. From trying to prove that women aren't that badly treated to now suggesting that they are actually badly treatedd by me. How more stup!d can anyone be, to suggest that I do what I vehemently oppose. Even a 5yr old's attention span can't be that poor. Fucxktard!!! |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by crackkhaus: 7:10am On Mar 09, 2020 |
worworbabe: Cry me a large body of salty STD/yeast-infested waters... 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by Omar09(m): 10:15am On Mar 09, 2020 |
worworbabe: Nne desist of name calling and all what not. They way you treated in your husband's family is how you will treat another woman married into your home for one single reason: RESPECT If you don't give any woman her chair in your home, she disrespects you and you wouldn't like that, so don't feel bad when treated the same way. It's way of people saving their ego and keeping their respect intact because once one is loosened up around people especially women married into their home, that woman takes it for granted and disrespects them. No one wants that. Not even you. |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by worworbabe: 11:23am On Mar 09, 2020 |
Omar09: What are you saying? Did you read my position on this subject at all? |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by worworbabe: 11:25am On Mar 09, 2020 |
crackkhaus: Lmao. The more you post, the more you show you are a cretin |
Re: The Reason Most Married Women Don't Visit Husband's People by Bbbwings: 1:01pm On Mar 09, 2020 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Please this is not a place for a 6-worded reply. Kindly go back and expatiate your thought process on why his comment is crap. |
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