If you buy a guy that is just a friend something expensive a lot will he eventually like you or would he think you're really desperate?

It depends on your prospective movements

have you eventually fallen for him or are you really desperate to have him as your boyfriend?

Friendships and relationships should not be bought.

Carolece:

Friendships and relationships should not be bought.

In your case, I understand


However, for pretty people, someone needs to pay for their up-keep

^^touche

WHY not
if you have the dough

but be careful, it is a sticky situation,

but buy me one and i'm yours,

depends on d guy sha n hw he views u.

@ strangerf,
Your mentality of someone having to pay for the upkeep of preety girls is bad. Thats one difference between how Nigerian women and western women reason and its really bad. When you walk up to a Nigerian girl, she transfers all her father's responsibilities to you like you are her new father.
Cant you guys just learn to have some level of financial independence? You guys want to be treated as equals with men but your reasoning is still centuries behind.
Sorry if I used some harsh words but its the truth. Try and build a career

[b][/b]buying expensive gift 4 a guy is not bad but dat guy must be ur boyfriend.u can't just buy a gift 4 someone guy on less u either hv affection 4 d guy or u want 2 hv a quarrel wit d guy's girl.

Of course he'll think your desperate, and if you really think buying someone things to get them to like you will work then he'll definitely be right.

You overall attitude to the person matters.It is how you behave towards him that will make him read meaning to your offer.

Your mentality of someone having to pay for the upkeep of preety girls is bad. Thats one difference between how Nigerian women and western women reason and its really bad. When you walk up to a Nigerian girl, she transfers all her father's responsibilities to you like you are her new father.
Cant you guys just learn to have some level of financial independence? You guys want to be treated as equals with men but your reasoning is still centuries behind.
Sorry if I used some harsh words but its the truth. Try and build a career

Honestly this is how it suppose to be but difficult to find one with this mentality meanwhile if the resources is there, there's nothing bad for one to cater for his or her friend needs. but Nigeria girls will never understand but few without opportunity to meet who will appreciate them. Even among the few that are doing it also do it for a comfortable guy who count what they do as normal or being desperate for hookup.

I think you should hold off on buying that gift considering your emotional state now. When you buy the gift do so because you value his friendship and it is your expression of that rather than in the hopes that he'll fall for you. If he has not managed to fall in love with you for you instead of what you can do for him than no amount of affection from him is worth it because it will be measured against your next best gift. So I recommend that if you give it to him, give without expectation. Can you give him this gift and be happy when he decides to settle for someone else, as he is just your friend? If the answer is no, no matter how difficult it is, do not do it.

Why don't you talk to him about it if you know each other well enough to buy him extraordinarily expensive stuff. As you friend, the worst he can do is let you down nicely, that way you know exactly where you stand. Take him to lunch or take him for a picnic. It's a lot less expensive and painful than a broken heart.

I was once in your spot years ago and I did just that and to this day we're still friends but I dare say he does regret his decision now. At times we under estimate how sensitive guys can be. Even though he let me down, I was happy we continued being friends and he pretended nothing ever happened. As God would have it, it was through him I met my husband of 6 years now. So never put your eggs in one basket and invest your money and emotions wisely.