Love and respect are two different concepts. The bible admonishes wives to submit to their husbands and husbands to love their wives. We know our Nigerian men like respect alot. But do they prefer being respected, more than being loved? Also, women put up with disrespectful poo in relationshps, al in the name of love. Whats ur take on dat?
I know dat d best type is wen love and respect work in sync in a relationship. But if as a (wo)man, you can't have d two from your partner and you had to choose one, which would it be? Love or respect, which do you prefer?
Your wise contributions would b very much appreciatd.

Lovin me doesnt mean he cant hurt me
bt if he respects me its lyk him worshipin me

i really feel both cant be separated, with love comes respect. what is love then if there isn't respect?

I choose love coz respect follows love bt respect might be induced by fear.

Respect first, everything else will follow in due time.

Love induces respect.

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not necessarily.

Carolece:

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not necessarily.

Yeah it does.

I don't think you can be truly loved without being respected unconditionally.

For relationships, it is either both of them or none of them. They go together for a relationship to work. Respect does not mean you have to worship anybody. You can't love someone without respecting them. You can respect without loving tho.

^ wot do u say about the naughty son who disregards his mum's admonitions? Wud u say he doesnt LOVE her, because he didnt RESPECT her feelings?

Are we talking about relationships or family/friends here?

^^^my bad, we're talking relationships. Picture a girl dat disrespects her man, does dat mean she doesnt love him?

Respect is a two way street. For relationships and for friendship / family. It also goes deeper than listening (or not) to other people's advice or admonition. Who ever advises you, or admonishes you also has to respect your decision to follow their advice or admonition or not.
In a relationship, you give respect and you get it in return.
In my family, I do not have to do everything or live my life the way my mom wants me to. She has to respect my decisions/ choices as an adult too. I expect she will not embarrass me intentionally just like I wouldn't.

aameyah:

^^^my bad, we're talking relationships. Picture a girl dat disrespects her man, does dat mean she doesnt love him?

Love is not about words but actions. Say you and I are dating. And I continually disrespect you and embarrass you. If I told you I loved you, will you believe me based on my actions?

A man is obsessed with a woman. He kidnaps her, ties her down, assaults her in everyway you can think of. If he told you or anyone else that he loves the girl, will you not just think he is sick in the head.

Tough 1.
I believe both of them hold almost equal value. ! without d other is worthless in a relationship.
Gats 2 hv both.

love attract respect,which means if there is love,then it's automatically bring respect.

@deniyor-i get what you're sayin especially with the illustration.

@all-it seems our men love love alot nwadays. please dnt 4get 2 cast your votes in the poll.

You can't not respect someone without love. The love doesn't necessary apply to the person whom you are married or dating but it can come from within. Many people who are in relationships are not in love nor love the person they are with. But, because they love themselves they are able to project some type of respect.

For example, there are people who are still in marriage and are falling out of love with each other still have respect for their children and themselves. Often time we confused respect with love when the entities are two separate emotions. A person who is in love with their significant will respect their lovers in a different fashion than a person who doesn't love their significant other.

Being cordial is another form of respect, we can still disagree but we will respect each other opinions. There are many levels of respect but ultimately the type of respect you think you deserve will project through your conducts.

Both work hand-in-hand but RESPECT comes first. Dats what inspires Love. Before a gurl wud fall inlove with a man, she must first respect the man otherwise its a waste of time.

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Just give me my respect and all wil be well. I mean what is Love without respect?

Neither. Love fades; so does respect - humans are creatures of impulse and caprice. And their feelings of 'love' and 'respect' are exceedingly whimsical due to sheer perversity. If you rely on their so-called love and respect, you shall be ruthlessly disappointed when you least expect.

>>>>>>> I'd rather she has a positive FEAR of me. . .and of the repersussions of any kind of misbehaviour on her part. ["my husband is typically sweet and caring oh, ah but he is also a mad man and could be a demon when offended, I don't want his trouble abeg"]. Fear is more enduring (and potent) than the ephemeral and unreliable feelings of love and respect. I learned from Machiavelli.

Love: a strong feeling of AFFECTION for sb/sth
Respect: a feeling of ADMIRATION for sb/sth because of their good qualities or achievements
Affection: feeling of LIKING or loving sb/sth very much and caring for them
Admiration: feeling of respect and LIKING for sb/sth

you cant say you LOVE without having RESPECT for someone
nor can you say you truely RESPECT someone without truely having LOVE for them.

i just saw the poll and i was amazed by the result. My people let me be blunt. women always want something or someone to look up to in a relationship. respect comes first before anything. love will eventually dull away with time and it is only respect that keeps the flame burning.

if there is love definately there should be respect.

both are important
its like asking which is more important between hearing and speaking

without one the other doesn't stand much chance of keeping the relationship going

a lot of nigerians either have a hard time with or intentionally disregard the difference between respect and fear, love and submissiveness. during dialogues,

when you exercise your freedom of speech they say you have no repect.just cos you respect someone doesn't mean you should fear them and hold bac your

opinions.secondly, a lot of nigerian archeic ,crude and highly conservative traditions encourages submissiveness on the part of the woman and claims that the

man is always right.hence the domestic verbal and physical abuse afflicted on the woman.here in the USA a man who puts his hand on a woman goes to

jail.nigerian men know their boundaries here and dare not try it, i wish you could see how nigerian women in the US are so prejudice towards african american

people.nigerians are so judgemental but they look past the bad name they have here for committing all sorts of million dollar frauds from medi -care fraud to

check fraud.i can go on and on.my point is that when i took sociology here in the us, we were taught not to judge a sample by an entire population. just cos

some african americans have their flaws doesnt mean there aren't good ones.of course they got good ones.a lot of nigerians here go to college and hope to

get a job. what if they went to an interview session and the prospective employer said to them " you are nigerian,i am sorry you cant get the job because you

stand a chance of being a fraudster".nigerians need to desist from this or sooner you will hear of them being killed by the people they talk down on.

get to know the individual before you judge

Respect is more important,if u respect som1 u wouldn't want to hurt the person at all.You may love some1 and u can still hurt the person,