justnock:
Dude go and get married. Virgin at 28?! Why won't your gbola misbehave?

Im telling you, how can someone be a virgin at 28, i started penetrating women at 16 and when i was in university, i had this older woman who used to visit me almost every weekend and would wear me out completely.

4eyededoboy:
I masturbated last year as a recommendation to stop the problem, but it only made it worse.


I was advised to do it every time before leaving for any outing

I know u would think if u masturbate to ease the tension.. U would b cool around ladies.. Never.. The moment u start handling, handling girls. U know what I mean?, from that moment u would b able to control ur self

ralphyoung123:
Wear more shorts inside, and wear double jeans next time u want to approach a girl for a relationship, and put a hand in ur pocket if u feel ur self getting an erection, it makes it less visible. In time u won't need to follow these procedures

legend

shawnfamous:
I know u would think if u masturbate to ease the tension.. U would b cool around ladies.. Never.. The moment u start handling, handling girls. U know what I mean?, from that moment u would b able to control ur self

hmmm

mafiano1986:

Im telling you, how can someone be a virgin at 28, i started penetrating women at 16 and when i was in university, i had this older woman who used to visit me almost every weekend and would wear me out completely.

Badman tings! LOL I feel you

don't pick a fight you can't win,you can't control the dick but don't do anything adverse to try and control it,you are normal and there's nothing wrong with you,just youthful libido,it happens with ladies also,I have seen a babe wet the chair she was sitting on after some dirty talking, when we are still in school what we do to aviod such embarrassing scene in a girl dominated school is to find a good strong hinges pant with thick linings and wear whenever a situation like that will come up .

This topic, every day?

shawnfamous:
I know u would think if u masturbate to ease the tension.. U would b cool around ladies.. Never.. The moment u start handling, handling girls. U know what I mean?, from that moment u would b able to control ur self

Na to start engine body nor wan gree let me start.

I'm just really tired.

scoundrel:
This topic, every day?

I've never posted here before.
Also, thank God you're a female. So let me ask you this question:

Would you consider me a creep if while I'm chatting with you for the very first time and and two minutes into the conversation, you suddenly notice a massive bulge poking through my clothing? Would you still take me serious? Or run the other way?

I know you're going to say yes you'd see me as a weird man!! Which is why I actually came to NL's romance section to get solid advice on how to fix this!!! I can't keep leaving like this o.

4eyededoboy:
I've never posted here before.
Also, thank God you're a female. So let me ask you this question:

Would you consider me a creep if while I'm chatting with you for the very first time and and two minutes into the conversation, you suddenly notice a massive bulge poking through my clothing? Would you still take me serious? Or run the other way?

I know you're going to say yes you'd see me as a weird man!! Which is why I actually came to NL's romance section to get solid advice on how to fix this!!! I can't keep leaving like this o.

I can’t help you. Let the older male members give you advice. I have seen this topic time without number in this section. What I will help you with is finding older threads about this and linking them here.

OP, see an example here. I have come across a thread which was exactly your query, but for unknown reasons I can’t find it.

https://www.nairaland.com/2950418/always-getting-wet-when-chating

Try to always put on jeans trousers. Lmao

Seriously, that's the only solution to this your challenge.

You can also get a packed smart pant.

Then, try to see beyond sex when holding a convo, even with a lady you like to date.

Pray to God about your ordeal. Also, staying selibate this long implies by a way or the other that you have maintained inhibition on the basis of a sustained worldview, that's great.
[b][/b]Try these, might help you in you quest for erection control.
1. [b][/b]Practice mind & thought control.
there are lots of guide online indicating how this works.
2. [b][/b]Get into sustianed routine of physical exercise/ gym.
3. [b][/b]Since the though of asking a lady out triggers your hard on, think of adopting a different approach in passing the message.
You could call her, text her, or drop a note on her desk; in her absence (for office colleagues)
4. [b][/b]Study online, get books and resources that can help you.
5. [b][/b]Take to prayer and meditation.

drehdinho:
Try to always put on jeans trousers. Lmao

Seriously, that's the only solution to this your challenge.

You can also get a packed smart pant.

Then, try to see beyond sex when holding a convo, even with a lady you like to date.

I do really see beyond sex, but I'll try harder next time.
Thanks for this advice

jay8oy:
Pray to God about your ordeal. Also, staying selibate this long implies by a way or the other that you have maintained inhibition on the basis of a sustained worldview, that's great.
[b][/b]Try these, might help you in you quest for erection control.
1. [b][/b]Practice mind & thought control.
there are lots of guide online indicating how this works.
2. [b][/b]Get into sustianed routine of physical exercise/ gym.
3. [b][/b]Since the though of asking a lady out triggers your hard on, think of adopting a different approach in passing the message.
You could call her, text her, or drop a note on her desk; in her absence (for office colleagues)
4. [b][/b]Study online, get books and resources that can help you.
5. [b][/b]Take to prayer and meditation.

thank you sir. I work out a lot here. Still searching how to learn and master the mind control aspect.

Thanks for your advice

4eyededoboy:
I can't believe at 28, I'm still yet to overcome this big challenge of mine.



It's the sole reason why I can't seem to successfully ask a girl out let alone get into a relationship with them. Because whenever I get hard it points 90degrees poking out like a pole and I usually quickly end the conversation and walk towards the other direction to save me from embarrassing myself in public. Because it would be visible even to the blind.



I don't know how guys control or not get hard, but each time I approach a lady on the streets, clubs, parties, pools, you name it. I get super hard in less than 30seconds of exchanging pleasantries.



Its always so embarrassing when it happens in public.

If my intentions aren't towards dating them, I don't get hard.





When I was in the University I had female friends we could talk forever and I won't get hard one bit; At my place of work right now, I'm very good at holding conversations with female colleagues and I never get hard.

But as soon as the thought of me asking them out crosses my mind, I instantly become rock hard.



And it's really funny that, 99% of the time I don't always imagine them being naked. But it just happens.





I really need your help great nairalanders in the house as this problem is killing me inside.

I've tried masturbating to ease my nerves but it never works.



As anyone faced this challenge before, how were you able to overcome it

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