Dear nairalanders
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This question have been bothering me for long
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Is it good for parents to love one of their child more than one.

What is your view?

The truth is, as long as our personalities differ as humans....Parent/parents will always love one child more than other/others.

What is not good is making it obvious to the extent that everyone including the sibling/siblings notice.

It's better to keep it to themselves and care equally for all the children.

Is it 'good'? Well it's not ideal, but it probably happens more often than parents would like to admit and I don't think it's something you can always control.

The most important thing is that your children never actually know, don't make it evident. You do this by putting in EQUAL efforts into showing and providing them with love in their own (possibly very different), personal love languages. None of them should feel deprived of it compared to another

Not good but happens quite alot. I think it's almost natural for every household. The best thing is every parent should try not to make it obvious so as not to breed jealousy among the children which can last a life time if care is not taken

Funny enough no matter how much a parent tries to hide it, it is usually an open secret. At least favourite children always know. To take it further, most times each parent has their own favourite.

Hmmmm, we will always develop preferences as humans no matter how hard we try.

Actually, there's nothing bad in it as it comes natural


However, it becomes bad when you start showing it and making the others feel they are less important...

Very bad.
It has destroyed relationships.
Bred hardened children.
Has killed so many siblings.

Wish parents can see what this is causing.

The love a parent has for the child is unique. For the child, it is often good to inculcate a lot of responsibility and instill discipline. If indulgence is what a child is starved, it is not a denial of love. The treatment varies across gender and also the time lapse; and I believe it requires a lot of education to be a parent especially in the absence of good experience such as your own upbringing.

Life events, child character etc could make a parent love a child more than another, but maturity demands you love them equally and give them equal right that they won’t notice who is more loved.

Else you will create a problem for yourself and the children in the future: my daddy didn’t show me love because I am a female. Abandoned us at the hospital, never allowed me in his car, didn’t pay my school fees etc until he died I can’t tell if I ever had a father .

While it's is human nature to fàvour one individual over the other... It is also nature to have sense. Parents who favour one child over the other are setting the stage for bitterness, greed and envy. I expect any reasonable parent to never publicly favour a child over the other one....by doing this you are already setting your family on fire... He that have sense, let them use it

That's true but they don't show it and what can cause this is due to some character that one child may showing. There are things that are beyond our control and I think showing love is one of it. No matter how harder u are trying not to make it obvious, it is not going to work most time. My people check on this EQUAL-RIGHT>>. The only thing I can say about this is that personality is a factor that contribute majorly to one child being loved and preferred over another. As a beneficiary of the highest love ratio from my own parents, I am always not comfortable with it. I just have to accept that it is not something I can change.

Anumpama:
Dear nairalanders
.
This question have been bothering me for long
.
Is it good for parents to love one of their child more than one.

What is your view?

It is natural for a parent to have a favourite child among others.

The thing is, make sure other children don't suspect or know about your love for one.

Try to love them all equally.

It is bad for a parent to love one child more than the other.
Even though sometimes it cannot be helped that a parent likes one more than the other, it is important for that parent not to show it openly as such can lead to grudges, discord, and disunity in the future.

Wrong! It creates hatred between the children and it goes on to spread to their unborn children.
Children can never be the same, you just have to love each for who they are.
My friend has a boy and girl twin, both are brilliant. The boy works in the kitchen well and every other chore but the girl only Sabi book, always on point with grades. The girl hates chores. Which would you favour if you were their parents? Parents should learn to reduce favoritism.

It's not just dangerous but dangerful.

Badder than bad when it becomes too obvious.

It causes resentment and hatred.

Tears a family apart.

It's one thing for parents to like one child more and it's an entirely different thing to make it obvious.

It's normal as humans to definitely prefer one person to the other. The reason you probably have a best friend is because you like that one more than other friends that you have,

Ok

It is nature and it is normal
Just like you love one of your Brother/Sister than others.
Probably because he/she is understandable, generous, loving, etc.
Parents too do likewise, there must be a uniqueness in whom ever they love most. So again, it is normal and that is nature.

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Ok

Na this thing make Joseph brothers nearly kill am.
Its very wrong for a parent to openly prefer one child to another..you may have your favourite child but you are not allowed to show it.

You should be fair on how you deal with them to prevent jealousy and envy spirit from brooding in them.

Dangerous. Not an ideal thing to do. It leads to resentment amongst siblings and except God helps, they may never be united in the future. Loving a child more than the other and showing it only leads to negative competition and distrusts among the children.