You got married to your sweetheart only to find out she was a runs-girl throughout your dating period. what would you do?

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I see you are enjoying yourself. a man down abi?

well divorce is not that simple in this part of the world.

Den u hv 2 4giv her even tho it wont be easy.

that's a tough one. Well, considering this person has been cheating the entire time while you were dating would definitely make me immediately distrust this person upon finding out. The way I see it, if she/he was cheating then, what would make them stop now? Marriage is NOT an antidote to permanently stopping infidelity. I don't know why some people think that.

A strong prayer life along with marriage counseling is definitely in order for this situation. I would want to get down to the root of why the lies, infidelity and the betrayal. Which brings me to another question, how do this person NOT know the entire time their partner is cheating? Maybe those who refused to see the truth perhaps? The signs are there? We were all blessed with intuition, not just women? God gave us all common sense. I feel, you gotta know something is not right at some point in time. I know they say love is "blind" but I don't believe nobody is that darn "blind".

I l 4give cos dat was dating period. but she dont try it now dat we r maried cos i l divorce her.

As long as she is changed and currently gives you no vibe or indication that she is still doing such, then forgive her . . . the past is the past and shld remain there. Nothing anyone can do about that.

if u knew this, why open the thread?

I would chase her over the boarder of the country
Who's ready for rubbish . . . , . and i Would later send her the divorce letter!!!

Thank you guys for your contribution.

Guess it was my mistake. I should have done a little due diligence. I knew her as decent lady when I met her actually. Then distance separated us due to my job.

Considering what went into the wedding, I wouldn't call it quits yet. That would be a big loss on my part.

Still figuring out what to do. For now, still acting everything is alright.

^^^^^ i understand perfectly what you mean but you also have to look at it as LIFE.

IMHO thinking about your "investment" rather than the foundations of this marriage will have you fail.
you should cut your losses and run while you can and stop thinking about what people may think of you or what you have invested because its just like throwing money into the wind eventually.

if she was having these runs while you were (long distance) dating and preparing for that said wedding then you have a LovePeddler as a wife and, if you have accepted that fact, always remember what whores do best (so you dont get surprised in the future)

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@ foreman
d truth is dat no one does not have a past. we all had in one way or d other done sumtin(s) wayback when which we r nt too proud of today, as the saying goes 'd past makes us who we are, don't make it ur burden'. divorce will not solve ur problem, wat u need do is sit urself down and permanently delete d part of ur memory dt is harbouring dt info, ask God 4 d grace 2 move on wit her and pls dnt think u have a better option called divorce

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@ op: am truly sorry. What i would do, Wil let it out, all d anger and hate am feeling, not on her but jst find a way to pour it out, den sit her down and try and see if i wrk tinz out. She nidz 2 show me remorse and u nid 2 4give. Dn't 4get God 4gives us 4 much worse.
*p.s: 4 all dose sayin divorce, d bible only allows it when der is concrete evidence of adultery, Wld nt want 2 go against d great book wld we?*

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@ op: am truly sorry. What i would do, Wil let it out, all d anger and hate am feeling, not on her but jst find a way to pour it out, den sit her down and try and see if i wrk tinz out. She nidz 2 show me remorse and u nid 2 4give. Dn't 4get God 4gives us 4 much worse.
*p.s: 4 all dose sayin divorce, d bible only allows it when der is concrete evidence of adultery, Wld nt want 2 go against d great book wld we?*

Sorry guy, there is nothing like forgiveness in this case. Only trying to make something out of my investments now.

come on forman, will just let your marriage go like that because of your discovery? you can only take it that far if she is still into her past life. you are married to her now, i willl advice that you take your marriage to her as a new beginning in both your life, forge ahead to make your marraige work. just like i sad before, except she is carrying on with that attitude,pls dont look at your marriage to her as an investment. do forgive her.

Your marriage was long gone before it even started.

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