Good morning Nairalanders.
There is this girl I've been dating for over two years. When she comes to my house, she's as respectful as a woman can be.
She cleans everywhere, cooks, does her best. She has a twin sister.

One day, according to the story I heard, the mum called the sister and asked her to clean up the house. But she murmured and refused. The mom started shouting and saying angry words, and my GF supported her sister against their own mother.

The sister then said that she can always present herself as a good girl when she is out there in the public.

Her mum then made a statement. She said that her any woman who puts on a bad attitude when she is with her family, and then puts on a good attitude when she steps out of the house will be exposed sooner or later.

Her mum really respects me and she called me to complain about the attitude of her daughters. She was so heartbroken that she spoke to me on phone for 37 minutes. She cried the whole time. She's a widow and she brought up these twin daughters alone since their dad died.

I then called my girlfriend and told her that she is restricted from coming to my place for two months for the insults she gave her mum. Babe flared up and said that I should have heard her own side of the story. Lol. She said that my relationship with her doesn't involve anyone including her mum.

She insisted that I should have heard her own side of the story first before judging. I said okay. Sorry Nne, cos that's what she wanted.

I then told her again to go and apologize to her mum. The tears of a mother can cause a great catastrophe in a child's life.

This morning, I called again to find out if she has apologized. The young woman said that she will do so when she feels like.

People of Nairaland, I am not a sissy guy. I recognize red flags in a relationship. This girl appears to have a heart of stone. If she can't apologize to her own mum, then it is a great red flag indeed.

Some children behave very well in the open, or in a man's house, but when they get back to their own family, their true color comes out. If I wasn't close to the mother, perhaps I would never have known that she is like this.

I think when dating a woman, or a guy, one should try to relate with other members of the person's family so that you may know some things about that person that you're dating.

I'm thinking of ending this relationship. A girl in her 20s who finds it hard to tell her mum sorry is a great danger indeed.

I need your opinion my people.

hmm!

We are officially tired of boyfriend and girlfriend matters on Nairaland.

Bros it's simple... She will have no regard for your own mother and by extension for you.

Flee.....truth is the way a person treats members of their family is a reflection of who they really are.

What was her upbringing like?
Was she maltreated as a child growing up?

Is she rude to strangers and other people??
How does she treat her relatives and friends?

Lots of people have toxic relationship with their parents but they are really nice to other people.

Reason because their childhood was hell.
So don't make a decision without an inquiry.

This is strong

Ezennwa:
hmm!

We are officially tired of boyfriend and girlfriend matters on Nairaland.

It is better to tackle bf and gf matter than to tackle marriage matters ooo

fykes:
Bros it's simple... She will have no regard for your own mother and by extension for you.

I think so too

Most girls are like this

Why not call her one on one talk some sense into her before thinking of ending the relationship.

she will not respect your mother also

MasterRahl:
It is better to tackle bf and gf matter than to tackle marriage matters ooo

what law establishes the union of a man and woman to be bf and gf?

Na by force to date. If bf and gf aren’t happy with each other, let them find their ways instead of disturbing the cybersphere

very deep.

thank God you are seeing these sign now
this is the type of girls that pray they should not meet their husband mother at home, they're very good pretender to get what they want.

Try to hear from her too before you conclude

You should have called her to hear her side of the story.
There must be a reason the girls treated their mother that way. Maybe the mother was not kind or supportive to them while growing up. Call her, have a face to face convo with her.

The rate at which guys seek relationship advice on Nairaland pass women o.


OP abeg free that babe,
She go soon show you pepper.

Shes bad for u

Amotolongbo:
what law establishes the union of a man and woman to be bf and gf?

Na by force to date. If bf and gf aren’t happy with each other, let them find their ways instead of disturbing the cybersphere

I am officially dead . Why are you taking offence? This is not a matter between me and madam. It is a matter between madam and her mother and I'm taking precautions in order not to be a victim. Besides, it was someone else I mentioned not you.

MasterRahl:
Good morning Nairalanders.
There is this girl I've been dating for over two years. When she comes to my house, she's as respectful as a woman can be.
She cleans everywhere, cooks, does her best. She has a twin sister.

One day, according to the story I heard, the mum called the sister and asked her to clean up the house. But she murmured and refused. The mom started shouting and saying angry words, and my GF supported her sister against their own mother.

The sister then said that she can always present herself as a good girl when she is out there in the public.

Her mum then made a statement. She said that her any woman who puts on a bad attitude when she is with her family, and then puts on a good attitude when she steps out of the house will be exposed sooner or later.

Her mum really respects me and she called me to complain about the attitude of her daughters. She was so heartbroken that she spoke to me on phone for 37 minutes. She cried the whole time. She's a widow and she brought up these twin daughters alone since their dad died.

I then called my girlfriend and told her that she is restricted from coming to my place for two months for the insults she gave her mum. Babe flared up and said that I should have heard her own side of the story. Lol. She said that my relationship with her doesn't involve anyone including her mum.

She insisted that I should have heard her own side of the story first before judging. I said okay. Sorry Nne, cos that's what she wanted.

I then told her again to go and apologize to her mum. The tears of a mother can cause a great catastrophe in a child's life.

This morning, I called again to find out if she has apologized. The young woman said that she will do so when she feels like.

People of Nairaland, I am not a sissy guy. I recognize red flags in a relationship. This girl appears to have a heart of stone. If she can't apologize to her own mum, then it is a great red flag indeed.

Some children behave very well in the open, or in a man's house, but when they get back to their own family, their true color comes out. If I wasn't close to the mother, perhaps I would never have known that she is like this.

I think when dating a woman, or a guy, one should try to relate with other members of the person's family so that you may know some things about that person that you're dating.

I'm thinking of ending this relationship. A girl in her 20s who finds it hard to tell her mum sorry is a great danger indeed.

I need your opinion my people.

First comment after a long time.

If she has no regards for her mother, she has no regards for anyone including YOU and your family.

If she can do it to her mother, the woman who carried her for nine month in the womb, labour to earn money to feed and train her in school.

NO ONE, I REPEAT NO ONE will be excluded from such treatment in her life.

If you don't believe me, do something you know she didn't like or that will likely hurt her feelings (a forgiveable offence oooo - I am not suggesting you cheat on her ooo) and see how she treats you.

A word is enough for the wise.

MasterRahl:
I am officially dead . Why are you taking offence? This is not a matter between me and madam. It is a matter between madam and her mother and I'm taking precautions in order not to be a victim. Besides, it was someone else I mentioned not you.

No jare.
The bf gf people are disturbing us too much more than the married couples legally meant to be with each other.

Shey Na by force to date ni

Married people are not disturbing us. Na wetin con be the problem with dem bf gf thingy.

You the real one, i just love the way you handle things like a Boss.....well its time to cut her off...

Amotolongbo:


No jare.
The bf gf people are disturbing us too much more than the married couples legally meant to be with each other.

Shey Na by force to date ni

Married people are not disturbing us. Na wetin con be the problem with dem bf gf thingy.

Abi. All the same, it is well. We no wan make mistakes ooo :

to me is a matter of dumping,the baby ass.

Ezennwa:
hmm!

We are officially tired of boyfriend and girlfriend matters on Nairaland.

seconded, it's LA gazette

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MasterRahl:
Good morning Nairalanders.
There is this girl I've been dating for over two years. When she comes to my house, she's as respectful as a woman can be.
She cleans everywhere, cooks, does her best. She has a twin sister.

One day, according to the story I heard, the mum called the sister and asked her to clean up the house. But she murmured and refused. The mom started shouting and saying angry words, and my GF supported her sister against their own mother.

The sister then said that she can always present herself as a good girl when she is out there in the public.

Her mum then made a statement. She said that her any woman who puts on a bad attitude when she is with her family, and then puts on a good attitude when she steps out of the house will be exposed sooner or later.

Her mum really respects me and she called me to complain about the attitude of her daughters. She was so heartbroken that she spoke to me on phone for 37 minutes. She cried the whole time. She's a widow and she brought up these twin daughters alone since their dad died.

I then called my girlfriend and told her that she is restricted from coming to my place for two months for the insults she gave her mum. Babe flared up and said that I should have heard her own side of the story. Lol. She said that my relationship with her doesn't involve anyone including her mum.

She insisted that I should have heard her own side of the story first before judging. I said okay. Sorry Nne, cos that's what she wanted.

I then told her again to go and apologize to her mum. The tears of a mother can cause a great catastrophe in a child's life.

This morning, I called again to find out if she has apologized. The young woman said that she will do so when she feels like.

People of Nairaland, I am not a sissy guy. I recognize red flags in a relationship. This girl appears to have a heart of stone. If she can't apologize to her own mum, then it is a great red flag indeed.

Some children behave very well in the open, or in a man's house, but when they get back to their own family, their true color comes out. If I wasn't close to the mother, perhaps I would never have known that she is like this.

I think when dating a woman, or a guy, one should try to relate with other members of the person's family so that you may know some things about that person that you're dating.

I'm thinking of ending this relationship. A girl in her 20s who finds it hard to tell her mum sorry is a great danger indeed.

I need your opinion my people.

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Lol!

Barred for two months
This one dey form demigod
I no blame you, na the girl I blame.

Well, it's a lowlifer situation, what else would anyone except?

Bros.....Dem no dey tell pikin say fire from lighter dey hurt.

Reason am

Ask your woman what her mother did that made her not to apologise. Maybe there's history between them. You never can tell. Family aren't always relationship between blood

OsuIgboIpob:
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Lol!

Barred for two months
This one dey claim demigod
I no blame you, na the girl I blame.

Well, it's a lowlifer situation, what else would anyone except?

Your point is

1. Support the girl in insulting her mum so that she won't see me as a low life?
2. Keep mute and assume that same won't happen to me if I eventually marry her?

I really don't understand the lowlife aspect though. Dancing to a woman's tune in order not to be seen as a lowlife is the reason why we have lots of sissies in Nigeria.

Cc: Ubunja, iLegend

MasterRahl:
Good morning Nairalanders.
There is this girl I've been dating for over two years. When she comes to my house, she's as respectful as a woman can be.
She cleans everywhere, cooks, does her best. She has a twin sister.

One day, according to the story I heard, the mum called the sister and asked her to clean up the house. But she murmured and refused. The mom started shouting and saying angry words, and my GF supported her sister against their own mother.

The sister then said that she can always present herself as a good girl when she is out there in the public.

Her mum then made a statement. She said that her any woman who puts on a bad attitude when she is with her family, and then puts on a good attitude when she steps out of the house will be exposed sooner or later.

Her mum really respects me and she called me to complain about the attitude of her daughters. She was so heartbroken that she spoke to me on phone for 37 minutes. She cried the whole time. She's a widow and she brought up these twin daughters alone since their dad died.

I then called my girlfriend and told her that she is restricted from coming to my place for two months for the insults she gave her mum. Babe flared up and said that I should have heard her own side of the story. Lol. She said that my relationship with her doesn't involve anyone including her mum.

She insisted that I should have heard her own side of the story first before judging. I said okay. Sorry Nne, cos that's what she wanted.

I then told her again to go and apologize to her mum. The tears of a mother can cause a great catastrophe in a child's life.

This morning, I called again to find out if she has apologized. The young woman said that she will do so when she feels like.

People of Nairaland, I am not a sissy guy. I recognize red flags in a relationship. This girl appears to have a heart of stone. If she can't apologize to her own mum, then it is a great red flag indeed.

Some children behave very well in the open, or in a man's house, but when they get back to their own family, their true color comes out. If I wasn't close to the mother, perhaps I would never have known that she is like this.

I think when dating a woman, or a guy, one should try to relate with other members of the person's family so that you may know some things about that person that you're dating.

I'm thinking of ending this relationship. A girl in her 20s who finds it hard to tell her mum sorry is a great danger indeed.

I need your opinion my people.

And you want to marry her?

Skmoda360:

And you want to marry her?

Well, this is the first time I'm seeing this side of her, that's why I brought the matter here.

Try to know and find out why she's doing that coz there may be a secret u don't know... Naturally, children don't disrespect their mother.


Meanwhile check my signature for your University admission without jamb

MasterRahl:
Your point is

1. Support the girl in insulting her mum so that she won't see me as a low life?
2. Keep mute and assume that same won't happen to me if I eventually marry her?

I really don't understand the lowlife aspect though. Dancing to a woman's tune in order not to be seen as a lowlife is the reason why we have lots of sissies in Nigeria.

Cc: Ubunja, iLegend

You feel you're indispensable nau. For you to make such silly threath of 2 months ban.
If the girl was well to do, rich and independent, can you try such nonsense?

Instead of you to think of a reasonable and matured approach to solving the problem, you're making senseless threath.

I pray you lose her to someone far better than you.

OsuIgboIpob:

You feel you're indispensable nau. For you to make such silly threath of 2 months ban.
If the girl was well to do, rich and independent, can you try such nonsense?

Instead of you to think of a reasonable and matured approach to solving the problem, you're making senseless threath.

I pray you lose her to someone far better than you.

I don die. So baba, in all honesty, you think it is all guys that get intimidated by a woman's wealth? That shit only happens if the guy is jobless or depending on the girl's money.
This country has many problems
Mr OsulgboIpob, every reasonable guy must work his ass to the top. Every reasonable guy should be able to stand his ground as a man whether he is dating a rich or a poor girl.
If I'm dating a rich lady who has no respect for her mum, I will tell her straight to the face and end the relationship. Same with a poor girl.

You said I should think of a reasonable way to solve the problem between madam and her mother. I brought it here so that I can hear people's opinion, and instead of saying what you think I should do, you're saying something else?

Baba, u don kill me with your reasoning

dump her now! by the time you get married to her, she will reveal her true self to you.
her true character is what she is currently exhibiting at home with her mother.