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Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 11:16pm On May 11, 2020
The long and short of this article is written in bold.

Men spend money on the things they care about. If they aren’t spending money on you they don’t care about you!!.

That's the simple truth sweetheart.


The way they demonstrate that something is important to them is by putting money into it. They can spend money on bet9ja, on a suit, on PS5 and so on because that is what they care about. This is why so many fathers are completely emotionless with their children, yet they have no problem giving them money and gifts. That’s the only way they know how to display affection. Children of emotionally unavailable fathers grow up to be adults that complain about this in therapy.

If the reason is because he’s broke, you shouldn’t be dealing with him anyway. Stop worrying about broke men’s feelings and stop trying to explain your decisions to them. It doesn’t matter why you arent interested in them. The fact that you’re one less woman they can’t have access to will infuriate them, making them open lady bashing threads to vent their frustration. Regardless of your reason why. The fact that you have the agency to choose the better man for your needs will infuriate them, regardless of your reason why. E.g Ubunja Martinez39 Greatresearcher1 Kennedyiheme02 and the other so called woke guys of the REDPILL troupe.


Poor men hate women too and are not more likely to treat you any better than a man who has money and resources, just because he came from hUmbLe bEgiNnIngs. There are millions of poor men in both first and third world countries who abuse women. Their socioeconomic level has nothing to do with how much empathy they have for women. In fact, you’ll hear many poor men blame their mothers for their poverty. E.g childofdoom


Money is the only real security in the society we’re in and men know it, yet they like to tell women it’s not important but it is. Poverty has a way of making love take the backseat. It’s in men’s best interest to hoard wealth, it’s in their best interest to make sure women continue to be paid less than them. They don’t think your high paying career is “too masculine and therefore unattractive” simply because you are in the highest position in an office full of men and are wearing a suit. They know if you have a job that pays you well, you are much less likely to put up with their bullshit and bend over backwards for them. Men are turned on by women who show signs of socioeconomic instability, hence the “damsel in distress” trope that they love. A great example of this is the abundance of pornography where the Roleplay is all about how the woman couldn’t afford to pay for a service, so she used her body as payment.

All men know that deep down they are energy vampires and most women would have no incentive to put up with them if they didn’t need something. They want to be needed. They’ll even say it themselves sometimes. “Men like to feel useful and needed! If you feminists women don’t need us for anything what’s the point?” They don’t see a point in being romantic with you if you are self sufficient, but when you hold them to what they say and start asking for things, suddenly they have an issue with that too.

Sex is the easiest thing to get out of a man. They’ll give you plenty of sex and attention because it’s free, it’s the main thing they care about, and they don’t lose any of their wealth or resources doing it. What they don’t like doing however, is giving women security. I browse many forums and groups because I like to hear the perspectives of all sorts of women. I have seen women in the sugar baby/sex work game complain about how men have no problem giving them their allowance or payment in the form of physical gifts like a purse, a pair of heels, or a necklace. When the women stress that they want physical cash for their time so they can split that money up in ways that’s most beneficial for them, suddenly the “it’s too transactional” excuse jumps out. It’s bullshit. They don’t want you in a better financial position because that means you’re less likely to need them in the future. These same men are usually high rollers in the fields of finance, or they’re entrepreneurs. They understand why certain items are a bad investment and if someone tried to pay them for their time with a new suit instead of cash, they’d sue.

It doesn’t matter how much men tell you they care about you. If they cared they’d provide you with security whether that is through cold hard cash or investing in your business. Hell, maybe you do really just want expensive gifts, whatever floats your boat. Define what security means to you, define what devotion from a man looks like to you and make sure they’re giving it to you. Otherwise, don’t waste your time.


To all the broke blokes who might want to vent their frustration on my thread, pls go and hustle and mind the business that pays you.

I'm that elder sister who tells it to you as it is ladies without the politeness and eye service. I don't try to be politically correct.


Remember to put yourself first.


In my next post, I'll get around to how to get men to spend money on you.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by LovelyDude(m): 11:36pm On May 11, 2020
Big trash ���

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 11:39pm On May 11, 2020
LovelyDude:
Big trash ���
pls go and hustle.
Goodbye

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 8:50am On May 12, 2020
Ladies always remember that these men are selfish and manipulative even in love

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 11:08am On May 12, 2020
Victoria234 Riele isilove
Khia purples25

What do you think?
Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by khia: 11:24am On May 12, 2020
This is ridiculous. Just because a man spends on you doesn't mean anything more than him purchasing you like he purchases a who.re, once he gets what he wants he's on to the next new toy. Putting a price tag on a man's emotions is illogical.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by purples25(f): 11:29am On May 12, 2020
I've spent some good portion of my life giving all to my erm, love. I didn't have much, but I gave all my money and stuff. It still didn't work out.

A guy being broke does not make him an angel and doesn't mean he deserves you. At the end of the day, he will leave for greener pastures and a woman who NEEDS him, a woman who makes him feel like a MAN. This is that woman that probably never worked or suffered with him, the one that just looks pretty and has her hand out for money. For staying there and managing, you become his masculine partner, a work mule

The truth is bitter. Truth is everything you put up there, OP. So hypergamy and co. really works. Keep up the teaching abeg.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by jimyjames(m): 12:30pm On May 12, 2020
khia:
This is ridiculous. Just because a man spends on you doesn't mean anything more than him purchasing you like he purchases a who.re, once he gets what he wants he's on to the next new toy. Putting a price tag on a man's emotions is illogical.

I agree completely

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Nobody: 12:32pm On May 12, 2020
and u will still cheat on the nigga who spends on u and spend his money on a nigga who dont know weda u exist cos dat nigga can smash well in za oza room

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by jimyjames(m): 12:32pm On May 12, 2020
The bitter truth is a lady that can be bought with money is not different from the pets we keep at home

purples25:
I've spent some good portion of my life giving all to my erm, love. I didn't have much, but I gave all my money and stuff. It still didn't work out.

A guy being broke does not make him an angel and doesn't mean he deserves you. At the end of the day, he will leave for greener pastures and a woman who NEEDS him, a woman who makes him feel like a MAN. This is that woman that probably never worked or suffered with him, the one that just looks pretty and has her hand out for money. For staying there and managing, you become his masculine partner, a work mule

The truth is bitter. Truth is everything you put up there, OP. So hypergamy and co. really works. Keep up the teaching abeg.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by HundredWays(m): 12:33pm On May 12, 2020
angry

Women are the best creature ever!

But the society is corrupt !!
Men are scared of spending on women coz they have witnessed how marriage and relationship got broken over infidelity, betrayal and selfishness! They begin to wonder why should they get married or in a serious relationship if these occurs in our society and families!

I once dated a girl who spend so much on me... All they need is time, advice, company and positive spirit to drive them to greatness!

I still remember,
During my undergraduate and postgraduate days, girls have always want me to be their best friend, mayb coz i play basketball, quite or other stuff that got their attention to me! tho I was a mathematics student which they find the relationship wit benefit cz I help them wit assessment and Tutorials (not dating)! Girls are nice if u appear real and natural! I don't double date coz I find it immature and annoying..one step at a time and always strive for greatness and success.. Women are moved by ambitious men., be one of them

Relationship is bigger than spending and expenses, its pure knowledge of understanding!

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by purples25(f): 12:35pm On May 12, 2020
jimyjames:

The bitter truth is a lady that can be bought with money is not different from the pets we keep at home


So for a man to do good things for his woman, and for a woman to choose a man who can provide, she is being bought?

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 12:38pm On May 12, 2020
purples25:
I've spent some good portion of my life giving all to my erm, love. I didn't have much, but I gave all my money and stuff. It still didn't work out.

A guy being broke does not make him an angel and doesn't mean he deserves you. At the end of the day, he will leave for greener pastures and a woman who NEEDS him, a woman who makes him feel like a MAN. This is that woman that probably never worked or suffered with him, the one that just looks pretty and has her hand out for money. For staying there and managing, you become his masculine partner, a work mule

The truth is bitter. Truth is everything you put up there, OP. So hypergamy and co. really works. Keep up the teaching abeg.
Thank you.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by purples25(f): 12:39pm On May 12, 2020
grin
Lol these guys that want to kill a woman with suffering have come. Okay, then men are also body diggers. I have never seen a woman who is less attractive say 'Manage with my current looks and age, when things get better, we will enjoy my beauty' and a guy will agree. The men always go for what they want, they get list and preferences.

But if a woman chooses, she is a LovePeddler.

Let me tell you the real truth, you will suffer with him, ask him for nothing, and he will ridicule you! You will be a foot mat that he rubs mud on!

Any guy that wants to summersault should do so! I'm only returning the savagery you guys lash out with here!

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 12:44pm On May 12, 2020
khia:
This is ridiculous. Just because a man spends on you doesn't mean anything more than him purchasing you like he purchases a who.re, once he gets what he wants he's on to the next new toy. Putting a price tag on a man's emotions is illogical.
I do not appreciate the language you use on this thread @the bolded. Kindly desist from such


On to the topic. I understand that we have different opinions, But a man spending on you is not the same as purchasing you. If a husband spends on his household, is he purchasing them?

The thing is this. A man will spend money where he sees value, be it a business venture or his PS4. If he is spending money on you, regardless of motive, you are of value to him at that time. If men are not spending on you khia, then ask yourself why they don't see you as valuable?

If a man sees a person he is spending on as property, that's because he has a twisted orientation, not because you are a bad person or you are not valuable. That he spends on you is not a license to treat you badly or tolerate bad behavior from him.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by purples25(f): 12:45pm On May 12, 2020
jimyjames:

The bitter truth is a lady that can be bought with money is not different from the pets we keep at home


And the truth is that you love those PETS than the woman that would ask for nothing, and so therefore deserves everything.
Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by jimyjames(m): 12:45pm On May 12, 2020
purples25:


So for a man to do good things for his woman, and for a woman to choose a man who can provide, she is being bought?

It should be a 50/50 responsibility once it becomes one sided then she's being bought , one person can't just be giving and the other one be receiving all the time without giving back

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 12:46pm On May 12, 2020
purples25:
grin
Lol these guys that want to kill a woman with suffering have come. Okay, then men are also body diggers. I have never seen a woman who is less attractive say 'Manage with my current looks and age, when things get better, we will enjoy my beauty' and a guy will agree. The men always go for what they want, they get list and preferences.

But if a woman chooses, she is a LovePeddler.

Let me tell you the real truth, you will suffer with him, ask him for nothing, and he will ridicule you! You will be a foot mat that he rubs mud on!

Any guy that wants to summersault should do so! I'm only returning the savagery you guys lash out with here!
you say it like it is. If a man rejects a woman because she is ugly, she will go and improve.


But he'll will let loose when women reject broke men

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 12:46pm On May 12, 2020
jimyjames:


It should be a 50/50 responsibility once it becomes one sided then she's being bought , one person can't just be giving and the other one be receiving all the time without giving back
what on Earth is 50/50?

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by jimyjames(m): 12:48pm On May 12, 2020
purples25:


And the truth is that you love those PETS than the woman that would ask for nothing, and so therefore deserves everything.

As much as I love my pets I can sell them out and get new ones anytime I want , I can even kill my pets no questions asked

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by jimyjames(m): 12:50pm On May 12, 2020
Eyeness:
what on Earth is 50/50?

Taking each others responsibilities 50/50 not one sided

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 12:51pm On May 12, 2020
jimyjames:


As much as I love my pets I can sell them out and get new ones anytime I want , I can even kill my pets no questions asked
Wow, you have a really terrible personality

I have 2 dogs, the oldest is 13years, slow and half blind and I would never trade him or his brother for anything, neither would my family members not to talk of killing them. You obviously don't know the point of having a pet.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 12:52pm On May 12, 2020
jimyjames:


Taking each others responsibilities 50/50 not one sided
I actually don't believe in 50 50. It's a very vulgar term.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by purples25(f): 12:53pm On May 12, 2020
jimyjames:


It should be a 50/50 responsibility once it becomes one sided then she's being bought , one person can't just be giving and the other one be receiving all the time without giving back

Who said it was one sided? Unless she wants to be a fool. No, but at least that man will do something. Most men, once you cuddle them and leave them in peace, ask nothing, they will overstep. They will neglect you badly. And that woman who always shouts for money, who will never take it from them, they quickly arrange what to do for her. It is even that woman, that they will later respect so much and marry..... And try to impress. Then women should stop being mute, and start expecting something, because most times, that poor love that yields fruit is usually a pipe dream.

He will later apologize to you and move on with a younger mistress that just enjoys the money. So, women, dont be cheated!

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 12:56pm On May 12, 2020
purples25:


Who said it was one sided? Unless she wants to be a fool. No, but at least that man will do something. Most men, once you cuddle them and leave them in peace, ask nothing, they will overstep. They will neglect you badly. And that woman who always shouts for money, who will never take it from them, they quickly arrange what to do for her. It is even that woman, that they will later respect so much and marry..... And try to impress. Then women should stop being mute, and start expecting something, because most times, that poor love that yields fruit is usually a pipe dream.

He will later apologize to you and move on with a younger mistress that just enjoys the money. So, women, dont be cheated!
The previous generation learnt the hard way.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by jimyjames(m): 1:02pm On May 12, 2020
Eyeness:
I actually don't believe in 50 50. It's a very vulgar term.

There is nothing vulgar about 50/50 as I treat you I want you to treat Me the same way

Its just like love making as I give you pleasure let the pleasure return

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by Eyeness: 1:05pm On May 12, 2020
jimyjames:


There is nothing vulgar about 50/50 as I treat you I want you to treat Me the same way

Its just like love making as I give you pleasure let the pleasure return
you really are vulgar. I will Ignore you from now on.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by jimyjames(m): 1:14pm On May 12, 2020
purples25:


Who said it was one sided? Unless she wants to be a fool. No, but at least that man will do something. Most men, once you cuddle them and leave them in peace, ask nothing, they will overstep. They will neglect you badly. And that woman who always shouts for money, who will never take it from them, they quickly arrange what to do for her. It is even that woman, that they will later respect so much and marry..... And try to impress. Then women should stop being mute, and start expecting something, because most times, that poor love that yields fruit is usually a pipe dream.

He will later apologize to you and move on with a younger mistress that just enjoys the money. So, women, dont be cheated!


Men respect women who add value to their lives , you can't just come to me empty and all you can give me is sex then shout for money and expect me to respect you and marry you, I will respect you as long as the sex last once that sexual taste for you clears from my tongue I'm will dump you

But when you add value to my life you help me when I'm in need I help you when you are in need I will always respect you and I will marry such a lady


Beauty fades sex gets boring , what keeps a man is beyond that

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by jimyjames(m): 1:20pm On May 12, 2020
Eyeness:
Wow, you have a really terrible personality

I have 2 dogs, the oldest is 13years, slow and half blind and I would never trade him or his brother for anything, neither would my family members not to talk of killing them. You obviously don't know the point of having a pet.

I once killed my dog who killed and ate my chickens

I once sold my dog who usually runs out of the gate and starts chasing people , I can't keep a pet that stresses me

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by purples25(f): 1:20pm On May 12, 2020
jimyjames:



Men respect women who add value to their lives , you can't just come to me empty and all you can give me is sex then shout for money and expect me to respect you and marry you, I will respect you as long as the sex last once that sexual taste for you clears from my tongue I'm will dump you

But when you add value to my life you help me when I'm in need I help you when you are in need I will always respect you and I will marry such a lady


Beauty fades sex gets boring , what keeps a man is beyond that



So because we said the man should contribute, now means that the woman is not doing anything, that is the meaning of you giving money? Omo, i think i have explained this thing to you, but you want to look at it in a one sided way. Nobody said the woman will not bring value.

Yes, men do prefer those women that bring only sex and collect money. They treat them better than the woman that waits patiently for whatever he can bring.

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by purples25(f): 1:24pm On May 12, 2020
Lol preaching value, value. You bring value, support and care, and watch that well maintained lady in high heels enter his car and go on various outings and spoiling.

He will now keep you in the corner of his house, in the dark corner, like egungun idol grin cheesy and after treating his expensive babe, comman have sex with you for free
grin grin

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Re: Why your guy(s) doesn't want to spend on you. by jimyjames(m): 1:28pm On May 12, 2020
purples25:


So because we said the man should contribute, now means that the woman is not doing anything, that is the meaning of you giving money? Omo, i think i have explained this thing to you, but you want to look at it in a one sided way. Nobody said the woman will not bring value.

Yes, men do prefer those women that bring only sex and collect money. They treat them better than the woman that waits patiently for whatever he can bring.

Let the both care for each other financially emotionally spiritually that's what love is



You can tell me men love and respects proustites cause they buy sex from them and take them to the best places to enjoy with them

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