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| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by grandstar(m): 2:18am On May 30, 2020 |
Gmajor:
I don't think so. Behaviorally he MAY be on the spectrum but that alone does not account for his stunted academic growth. Your brother does have some learning disability. The sooner you accept it, the better. It does not stop him from being successful in life. He just thinks in a different way that's all. Most importantly, learn to love him unconditionally. That is what he needs most. He is no longer your brother but a "learning disability". There is God o! |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by mikeaims: 2:26am On May 30, 2020 |
take him to an educational pyschologist urgently.
U need to assess him to know what is wants..
no child is dull. only the environment makes some dul. |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by grandstar(m): 2:26am On May 30, 2020 |
Squillaci:
Maybe he has a learning disability.
Or he is mentally ret@rded. It is wrong to call him that. What if your child had similar problems? (Read Matthew 7:12). No one knows tomorrow (Read Eccl 9:11) I once interacted with an inlaw whose child could not hear. I called the boy deaf and she subtly said "hearing impaired". |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by AFONJACOW(m): 2:34am On May 30, 2020 |
Send him to Onitsha or Aba to go and do boy boy maybe that is his calling |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by madjune(m): 2:37am On May 30, 2020 |
Bluetooth2:
That is myth. Autism has nothing to do with being born by an ageing mother ! Better get some modern biology journals and apprise yourself. Aged genes/ DNA increases the chances of birth defects and malfunctions in the child. |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by jasent(m): 2:38am On May 30, 2020 |
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.
My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.
He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.
I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.
He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.
He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.
This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..
We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.
Please help me push this pleaseeeeee
pls download and watch an India movie called "like star on earth".. Your brother may be a genus and like someone up there said,he may be more intelligent than all of you..Comeback to me after watching the movie. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by K4daniel: 2:38am On May 30, 2020 |
Ahhh autism ko leleyi o..(This is not autism)since he could still do simple task of moving about to sch, listening to teachers , having his bath, communicating with you guys and recognising all these simple activities make him a normal person just that he couldn't understand basic learning tips and mathematics be it in simple form.See in Africa, many glory and stars are taken at birth, reason you must be spiritual!.
Solution, Tell daddy to start laying hands on that his head and speaking life into it in the name of jesus the dry brain shall resurrect. Lastly, you and your parent sow a dangerous seed to God on his behalf and watch him improve.Goodluck. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by rose54321: 2:43am On May 30, 2020 |
As rightly pointed out by most here, he likely has a learning disability. Contact Synapse Services - they have a center in Abuja and Lagos i believe. http://www.synapseservices.org/0909 696 5483 They have Child Psychiatrists and ADHD experts that can assess and properly diagnose him. The key is to first identify the problem then let professionals create a treatment plan |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Beey(f): 2:44am On May 30, 2020 |
Squillaci:
Maybe he has a learning disability.
Or he is mentally ret@rded. That word retarded is archaic.We no longer use it in mental health.It’s like using the N word to describe a black person. |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Nobody: 2:45am On May 30, 2020 |
Try to watch this indian Movie "Like Star on earth" by Amir Khan and thank me later. You will learn many approach to help you brother. It's not his fault. It's a brain issue.. try to discover one thing he is good at , let him be happy doing that thing, then you will see him improving in other areas. But don't Fraustrate the dude, if you do, the poor boy will hate you all, and eventually get depressed and commit Suicide. The boy is helpless. It's not as if he doesn't want to get better too . After all you just said it that he doesn't play , he keeps to him self. Not that he is playful that's why he is dull. You have to deal with this matter Carefully.. and with Love. Not condemning him.. Just try to watch that movie first. It's a Good Guide for you to help him!! |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Nobody: 2:49am On May 30, 2020 |
K4daniel:
Ahhh autism ko leleyi o..(This is not autism)since he could still do simple task of moving about to sch, listening to teachers , having his bath, communicating with you guys and recognising all these simple activities make him a normal person just that he couldn't understand basic learning tips and mathematics be it in simple form.See in Africa, many glory and stars are taken at birth, reason you must be spiritual!.
Solution, Tell daddy to start laying hands on that his head and speaking life into it in the name of jesus the dry brain shall resurrect. Lastly, you and your parent sow a dangerous seed to God on his behalf and watch him improve.Goodluck. SMH |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Nobody: 2:53am On May 30, 2020 |
Ebenezer2O2O:
This is what you get when you visit babalawo to ask for children Some of you are retarded and senile in this forum . |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by bitex2(m): 2:55am On May 30, 2020 |
wrose:
Your brother is likely suffering from dyslexia since he has problems differentiating between numerics like 17 & 71 as u claim.Autism isn't the problem as some people claim here, infact, autism should make smarter. I d advise u see a specialist He may be on autism spectrum.It's not true that he should be smarter with autism.About 60% of autistic patients have associated mental retardation. Only few have the idiotic savant syndrome with special abilities. With that said he has a Learning disability in mathematics from the history.Other question that need to be asked is if he has impairment in other activities of daily living like errand,bathing etc to rule out intellectual disability His problem is more than dyslexia.it shouldnt stop him from counting numbers.dyscalculia is closest but he doesnt have a finger agnosia or failure to count with thumb |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by tcharrisson(m): 3:11am On May 30, 2020 |
I don talk am, e Don happen. .. Make your mama come explain who the father of the child is..... We get matter to settle tomorrow morning.... ������ |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by doctor306(m): 3:13am On May 30, 2020 |
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| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by bigfish3k: 3:17am On May 30, 2020 |
idu1:
FEDERAL MEDICAL CENTER. It's in all the 36 states.
YOU ARE IN LAGOS. SIMPLY GO TO PSYCHIATRY HOSPITAL YABA OR LAGOS STATE UNIVERSITY TEACHING HOSPITAL IKEJA OR LAGOS UNIVERSITY TEACHING HOSPITAL IDI ARABA. I don't think it's in all the 36 states I heard they are in only the states that doesn't have federal teaching hospitals. So it's an alternative to teaching hospitals Or can you tell me where it is in Lagos or Benin |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by idu1(m): 3:32am On May 30, 2020 |
bigfish3k:
I don't think it's in all the 36 states
I heard they are in only the states that doesn't have federal teaching hospitals. So it's an alternative to teaching hospitals
Or can you tell me where it is in Lagos or Benin You are right. I have heard that before. But lagos state has two university teaching hospitals and yet still have FMC. FMC lagos is at Ebute metta. |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by nedekid: 3:40am On May 30, 2020 |
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.
My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.
He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.
I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.
He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.
He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.
This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..
We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.
Please help me push this pleaseeeeee
Similar traits to one man called bubu. |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by bigfish3k: 3:47am On May 30, 2020 |
idu1:
You are right. I have heard that before.
But lagos state has two university teaching hospitals and yet still have FMC. FMC lagos is at Ebute metta. OK thanks |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by uchrikk(m): 3:53am On May 30, 2020 |
Find out one or more things he likes and allow him to do them. If you and other people have been making uncomplimentry remarks about him, he may think that the whole world see him as unfit and that explains why he won't go out to mix up with people nor play football.
Academics, though important, is not the only way to develop human brain. Try and introduce him to simple games that involve only one or two persons, such as puzzle game, brick game, snake and ladder game, ludo game, ncho , scrable game, table tennis, badminton, etc. Since he likes sitting in one place, put TV in front of him and allow him to choose the channel to be watched. Allow him to watch them even if it is cartoons. These extracurricular activities will develop his brain gradually. |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Realmenlovetruly(m): 4:00am On May 30, 2020 |
So many views have been shed on this but let me drop my cents too
Do you want to hear the truth? The problem is not from the boy
You guys are the problem
You keeps on dulling him with your words and reactions towards the boy
Am very sure it is not today you notice this boy cant comprehend things easily
You would have have noticed even at the age of 5
But instead of you to make the boy cheerful you kept on ruining his self esteem with your words
See not everyone is born genius but the environment,words and people we mingle with can make us one
See have taught in different schools and i love to mingle and teach kids
Children are not the same when it comes to learning
The methods you used for A might not work for B
My best advice for you is to make that boy cheerful notice what he loves most and applied in teaching him
Dont ever shout on him but always motivate him even when he got it wrong
There are more to this but i think you should be able to get one or 2 things from this
Tell your brother i love him and he can be the president of a nation one day 2 Likes |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by juman(m): 4:02am On May 30, 2020 |
Gundel001:
what's FMC please?? Federal medical center. He has learning disability. He need help. |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by LivingSage: 4:03am On May 30, 2020 |
You've been advised well. I also had to add this. PLEASE, DO NOT MAKE HIM FEEL DIFFERENT, DO NOT SCOLD HIM OR IN ANYWAY THAT WILL MAKE HIM DEPRESSED. DEPRESSION ALONE CAUSE A LOT. IT'S NOT HIS FAULT HE'S DEFINITELY DESTINED FOR SOMETHING GREAT, HE'LL SOON DEFINE HIMSELF. Humanoid01:
I have no idea what this is, but the part where you said he doesn't know the difference between 17 and 71 got me thinking about dyslexia or dyscalculia. From your narrative, the greater part of his problem points towards arithmetics, so it's more likely to be dyscalculia. It's also possible to have more than one learning disability, so chances are he's suffering from both.
People with learning disabilities are not necessarily dull (or unintelligent), it's just that the parts of their brains that are responsible for the performance of generally easy tasks which are difficult to them, are in a state of disorder. I'm a slow learner, but I don't consider myself dull, and that's because I believe every individual needs specific conditions to enable them learn effectively.
That boy may be even more intelligent than all of you. He needs to visit a psychologist or learning specialist who understands what it means to have an LD. Stop wasting money on lesson teachers.
I got the following from a website and it fits with some of the descriptions you made:
Dyscalculia
A specific learning disability that affects a person’s ability to
understand numbers and learn math facts. Individuals with
this type of LD may also have poor comprehension of math
symbols, may struggle with memorizing and organizing
numbers, have difficulty telling time, or have trouble with
counting. https://ldaamerica.org/types-of-learning-disabilities/ |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by learner007(m): 4:03am On May 30, 2020 |
You should watch the movie, 'Like stars on earth, every child is special'. That movie will open your eyes, and this will help your understanding a great deal |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by SATANworshipsME: 4:25am On May 30, 2020 |
cant write arithmetic dosnt mean he is dull. wtf. when did arithmetic become the yardstick to determine dullness. give am toto and see whether he go dull there |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Amberon: 4:29am On May 30, 2020 |
 Bluehill1051:
Which one be top federal university again..
Ode people full everywhere I swear |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Nobody: 4:45am On May 30, 2020 |
Alhajiclem:
He needs spiritual growth Bro forget, spirit no dey go school |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Nobody: 4:47am On May 30, 2020 |
SATANworshipsME:
cant write arithmetic dosnt mean he is dull. wtf. when did arithmetic become the yardstick to determine dullness. give am toto and see whether he go dull there Ability to ride Toto na natural instinct |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by chris81964(m): 4:49am On May 30, 2020 |
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.
My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.
He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.
I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.
He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.
He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.
This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..
We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.
Please help me push this pleaseeeeee
Have your parents test him for autism. There are so many things that fall under autism. Go on YouTube and look it up and see which patterns he fits. Good luck with your special brother 2 Likes |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Jabioro: 5:00am On May 30, 2020 |
Get original honey,I repeat get original honey, measure it is original.let him be taken a baby spoonful every morning around 6am..Watch him for a better memory changes and learning prowl.You be amazing at his new learning and capturing way in next 90 days Thanks me later |
| Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by JayPeeOham: 5:14am On May 30, 2020 |
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.
My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.
He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.
I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.
He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.
He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.
This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..
We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.
Please help me push this pleaseeeeee
OP there's an Indian movie called: LIKE STARS ON EARTH I advise you to see that movie as it has the solution to your brother's problem.... You can thank me later!! 1 Like |
