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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Olakunleyakub(m): 8:05am On May 30, 2020
I really appreciate and salute all the people that contributed so far with a fountain of knowledge. Kudos to those who are not in this line of profession and yet giving ideas and advises.

Based on my own little understanding I think the problem is dyslexia and not dyscalculia or Autism. I will advice the OP to google the best hospital rendering that service for better solution.
Humanoid01:
I have no idea what this is, but the part where you said he doesn't know the difference between 17 and 71 got me thinking about dyslexia or dyscalculia. From your narrative, the greater part of his problem points towards arithmetics, so it's more likely to be dyscalculia. It's also possible to have more than one learning disability, so chances are he's suffering from both.

People with learning disabilities are not necessarily dull (or unintelligent), it's just that the parts of their brains that are responsible for the performance of generally easy tasks which are difficult to them, are in a state of disorder. I'm a slow learner, but I don't consider myself dull, and that's because I believe every individual needs specific conditions to enable them learn effectively.

That boy may be even more intelligent than all of you. He needs to visit a psychologist or learning specialist who understands what it means to have an LD. Stop wasting money on lesson teachers.

I got the following from a website and it fits with some of the descriptions you made:
Dyscalculia

A specific learning disability that affects a person’s ability to
understand numbers and learn math facts. Individuals with
this type of LD may also have poor comprehension of math
symbols, may struggle with memorizing and organizing
numbers, have difficulty telling time, or have trouble with
counting. https://ldaamerica.org/types-of-learning-disabilities/
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by drehdinho(m): 8:18am On May 30, 2020
Yustash001:
In other words, your brother cannot form zero with the shape of the bottom of a bottle...


If Yoruba tells "kole fi idigo ko 0"

just know that you are finished..

You're a disgrace to human generation. May God forgive you.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Shormiey(m): 8:22am On May 30, 2020
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

Do you know whether it's spiritual?
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Rexymania(m): 8:23am On May 30, 2020
Your brother has a deceased...

He may one day become a prophet like Muhammed (s.w.s)
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by AdaUc2(f): 8:23am On May 30, 2020
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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by sleekone: 8:23am On May 30, 2020
He could be autistic. Get him tested. Could also be Dyslexia. Try not to use the word 'dull' to characterize him.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by sleekone: 8:24am On May 30, 2020
Shormiey:

Do you know whether it's spiritual?

It's not spiritual.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by sleekone: 8:25am On May 30, 2020
Egoveen:
Ask your mum who the father is undecided

Stop displaying your ignorance. SMH
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Kingzeez10: 8:25am On May 30, 2020
Yustash001:
In other words, your brother cannot form zero with the shape of the bottom of a bottle...


If Yoruba tells "kole fi idigo ko 0"

just know that you are finished..
Give advice and you're saying this no difference between you and the boy.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by sleekone: 8:27am On May 30, 2020
K4daniel:
Ahhh autism ko leleyi o..(This is not autism)since he could still do simple task of moving about to sch, listening to teachers , having his bath, communicating with you guys and recognising all these simple activities make him a normal person just that he couldn't understand basic learning tips and mathematics be it in simple form.See in Africa, many glory and stars are taken at birth, reason you must be spiritual!.

Solution, Tell daddy to start laying hands on that his head and speaking life into it in the name of jesus the dry brain shall resurrect. Lastly, you and your parent sow a dangerous seed to God on his behalf and watch him improve.Goodluck.


Your level of ignorance is astounding...... unbelievable really.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Fijobaba(m): 8:34am On May 30, 2020
Some people are born with learning disabilities and tend to struggle academically. Let him push and secure his WASSCE then He can proceed to learn a skill or go to a vocational school if He can't cope with the rigours of university education.

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by umbre(m): 8:35am On May 30, 2020
Sorry young man. I think your brother has a condition called Dyslexia. He will have problems identifying numbers and alphabets. The solution is, he needs a special teacher who is am expert in this, and In a short while he will be fine. Nobody is dull!
I hope this works.

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Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by bummyla(m): 8:38am On May 30, 2020
His case is not mental or spiritual! His case is LOVE & ATTENTION from somebody he RESPECTS! Period! When you stop comparing him with other kids of his age, he will start making progress! Stop COMPARING him and he will blossom! https://www.bummyla.com
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by bummyla(m): 8:39am On May 30, 2020
bummyla:
His case is not mental or spiritual! His case is LOVE & ATTENTION from somebody he RESPECTS! Period! When you stop comparing him with other kids of his age, he will start making progress! Stop COMPARING him and he will blossom! https://www.bummyla.com
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Prolificdeman: 8:45am On May 30, 2020
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee


Have you watched "Like Stars of the Earth"?
He might be suffering from the same issue as that little boy. Kindly take him to a therapist, he would be fine sooner or later.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by snowblaq(f): 8:49am On May 30, 2020
Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

Your brother is Autistic. Simple. You guys should take him to a hospital for proper diagnosis.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by olurili(m): 8:56am On May 30, 2020
Yustash001:
In other words, your brother cannot form zero with the shape of the bottom of a bottle...


If Yoruba tells "kole fi idigo ko 0"

just know that you are finished..
but why are you people like this,is mot fair,if you can heal wound,pls don't put salt
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Ibman: 9:11am On May 30, 2020
He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.




on the above, I think you guys need to take him to a psychiatric for evaluation
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by REALretep(m): 9:19am On May 30, 2020
I find it hard to accept that "he doesn't have interest in anything".

You may have to make effort to find out what he likes and possibly use it to stir up his interest in education and in life generally.

It may also be possible he may have had a psychologically devastating experience at a time in his life which you are oblivious of. You may need to investigate further by making him feel cool around you. This may make him to later open up to you.

It's well. I share your concerns brother
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Evangkatsoulis: 9:25am On May 30, 2020
madjune:


Better get some modern biology journals and apprise yourself.
Aged genes/ DNA increases the chances of birth defects and malfunctions in the child.

The ageing mother is what age range?
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Yxxx: 9:26am On May 30, 2020
Hope it's not what I'm thinking.
I've heard of things in this life.
Op ask your parents questions.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by veave(f): 9:29am On May 30, 2020
He might be dyslexic
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by favinvest: 9:31am On May 30, 2020
here comes our problem created by the British system..

once a person fails academic examination, we call him or her a dull person ..

before the academic world, in Africa, we rate people based on what they are gifted on.. what u can do...

so @ op, he is not dull... just try and find something else for him to do..

just like my friend`s landlord, a primary 6 drop-out, that cant speak correct English, yet he is happily married, good Christian, has 2 shops in Ladipo markets & 2 houses in iyana Ejigbo with tenants in Lagos.
meanwhile, my friend a graduate with 2.1 plus his big big grammar, is this man`s tenant, he is older than his landlord yet he still earns less than 100k per mth, just got married etc.

so do not call anyone dull because he is failing academics..

how many A1 does Jay-z, Kim kadansha, Davido, tiger woods, Messi, Bill gates etc have?
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by moshino(m): 9:52am On May 30, 2020
TheSourcerer:
Definitely Autism , as the first comment stated ,

So you have met the op's brother in question, put him on medical/psychological tests before you came to your diagnosis that it is "Definitely Autism"? What's the name of your hospital again? And could you remind me of that medical school you attended?
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by emmaoria16(m): 10:06am On May 30, 2020
Try to register your brother through this https://www.neeuro.com/stress-relief-kit-btdc
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by charllykay: 10:06am On May 30, 2020
He could be suffering from dyslexia/dyscalculia. Take him to a psychologist.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Stressy: 10:23am On May 30, 2020
[quote author=Humanoid01 post=90070638]I have no idea what this is, but the part where you said he doesn't know the difference between 17 and 71 got me thinking about dyslexia or dyscalculia. From your narrative, the greater part of his problem points towards arithmetics, so it's more likely to be dyscalculia. It's also possible to have more than one learning disability, so chances are he's suffering from both.

People with learning disabilities are not necessarily dull (or unintelligent), it's just that the parts of their brains that are responsible for the performance of generally easy tasks which are difficult to them, are in a state of disorder. I'm a slow learner, but I don't consider myself dull, and that's because I believe every individual needs specific conditions to enable them learn effectively.

That boy may be even more intelligent than all of you. He needs to visit a psychologist or learning specialist who understands what it means to have an LD. Stop wasting money on lesson teachers.

I got the following from a website and it fits with some of the descriptions you made:
Dyscalculia

A specific learning disability that affects a person’s ability to
understand numbers and learn math facts. Individuals with
this type of LD may also have poor comprehension of math
symbols, may struggle with memorizing and organizing
numbers, have difficulty telling time, or have trouble with
counting. https://ldaamerica.org/types-of-learning-disabilities

chai you spoke my mind,I was once dull,like that,even at 20 I couldn't differentiate, 18 and 81 iam serious, it was bad for me,every body gave up on me,except my mom,today iam the brightest amongst my siblings,I think this could be a difficiency on the part of his brain,what Iam saying is that,the family should leave him to his fate,and sheild him away from inferiority complex, he will be fine,I was so bad academically,to a point the changed my name to Mr.Repeater all my juniors were three classes ahead of me,but today the story has drastically changed, look at me now I am controlling large crowd of folks.#happyme
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Alexaonfleek: 10:27am On May 30, 2020
Takotsubo:
Very very clear your brother is in the autistic spectrum and may also have a learning disability,maybe dyslexia

It's not the poor boy's fault that his brain is wired to see 17 and think it's 71,not his fault that reading appears so overwhelming..the alphabets musy appear scrambled to him & his brain can't cope.

Think about it,do you think he would choose not to know the difference between 17&71 by choice?

If someone gives you a book and places it upside down,would you be able to read it?

The poor boy must have been struggling for so long,his self esteem must be in tatters.

You and your family should see a paediatrician or a child psychiatrist or psychologist for a diagnosis then hopefully point you to a specialist that manages kids with learning disabilities

You all must be frustrated and i empathise but think of how much your brother is suffering.
This isn't autism.
Autistic children mostly have problems with speech and communication.
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Kennydoc(m): 10:34am On May 30, 2020
Takotsubo:
Very very clear your brother is in the autistic spectrum and may also have a learning disability,maybe dyslexia

It's not the poor boy's fault that his brain is wired to see 17 and think it's 71,not his fault that reading appears so overwhelming..the alphabets musy appear scrambled to him & his brain can't cope.

Think about it,do you think he would choose not to know the difference between 17&71 by choice?

If someone gives you a book and places it upside down,would you be able to read it?

The poor boy must have been struggling for so long,his self esteem must be in tatters.

You and your family should see a paediatrician or a child psychiatrist or psychologist for a diagnosis then hopefully point you to a specialist that manages kids with learning disabilities

You all must be frustrated and i empathise but think of how much your brother is suffering.

Doesn't seem like Autism, but you've made a nice submission, Ms Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy grin
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by MarthaGlobal: 10:34am On May 30, 2020
Too dool? Laff, bro don't be relased. That guy might,be the richest in your family soon. I am talking fromn experince. Every if my mate that we call fool then by now,cam even buy private jet. How it happened no body knows. 14yrs old boy is still very young. write today's date down and tell me his position in the next 20 to 25yrs. Bro, wake up. That guy will cope and explode in success soon. Thank you for your care but trust me he is not doll. smile.
Humanoid01:
I have no idea what this is, but the part where you said he doesn't know the difference between 17 and 71 got me thinking about dyslexia or dyscalculia. From your narrative, the greater part of his problem points towards arithmetics, so it's more likely to be dyscalculia. It's also possible to have more than one learning disability, so chances are he's suffering from both.

People with learning disabilities are not necessarily dull (or unintelligent), it's just that the parts of their brains that are responsible for the performance of generally easy tasks which are difficult to them, are in a state of disorder. I'm a slow learner, but I don't consider myself dull, and that's because I believe every individual needs specific conditions to enable them learn effectively.

That boy may be even more intelligent than all of you. He needs to visit a psychologist or learning specialist who understands what it means to have an LD. Stop wasting money on lesson teachers.

I got the following from a website and it fits with some of the descriptions you made:
Dyscalculia

A specific learning disability that affects a person’s ability to
understand numbers and learn math facts. Individuals with
this type of LD may also have poor comprehension of math
symbols, may struggle with memorizing and organizing
numbers, have difficulty telling time, or have trouble with
counting. https://ldaamerica.org/types-of-learning-disabilities/
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by AussiePlayboy(f): 10:36am On May 30, 2020
ThothHermes:
Sounds like autism

Not his fault.
Easily could have been you.
Sounds more like dyslexia
Re: HELP! My Brother Is Too Dull by Kennydoc(m): 10:37am On May 30, 2020
favinvest:
here comes our problem created by the British system..

once a person fails academic examination, we call him or her a dull person ..

before the academic world, in Africa, we rate people based on what they are gifted on.. what u can do...

so @ op, he is not dull... just try and find something else for him to do..

just like my friend`s landlord, a primary 6 drop-out, that cant speak correct English, yet he is happily married, good Christian, has 2 shops in Ladipo markets & 2 houses in iyana Ejigbo with tenants in Lagos.
meanwhile, my friend a graduate with 2.1 plus his big big grammar, is this man`s tenant, he is older than his landlord yet he still earns less than 100k per mth, just got married etc.

so do not call anyone dull because he is failing academics..

how many A1 does Jay-z, Kim kadansha, Davido, tiger woods, Messi, Bill gates etc have?

Please go back and carefully read what the OP wrote. You're saying something else, cos I can't see where the OP talked about failing exams.
For you to succeed in anything in life and earn money, you must know how to deal with numbers. If you don't know the difference between simple numbers like 17 and 71, then you can't engage in any meaningful thing.

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