I have been struggling with some attitudes. I find out that I struggle to love or be in love. I might ask a girl out today. Chat and call her for few days and start losing interest. Mind you, its not because she is not reciprocating, it is just me. I once had a girlfriend who thought I was cheating or not serious with her just because I don't call always. I might be online but don't chat her up. Sometimes I will just be viewing status

When people leave, i don't miss them. I might just experience an emptiness for few days especially if you are close to me, and that's all.

We are in the same shoe...U are an introvert i guess...in my compound we have more single ladies than guys, once im back from work or lecture...i lock myself in, u'll neva notice my presence at home
...i hate ladies company, i dont acept visiting or visiting em, i dont pay attention to green light or sexual advances...calling or wanting to converse on fb for a long time, it a no for me
...someone once asked me, u no dey f*ck, i just laugh, person like me b*ng ur babe, nah after 10yrs u know, bcus i dont discuss my love and sex with people
...the craziest is that i dont smile
...i dont see my attitude as an issue, i got to undastand i tend to save more, focus more on important things than wasting positive chasings ladies.
once i hit my goal, i will have fun. calm down, u are doing the rite thing.

A found my Twin.

I don't think you have a problem.

Same happened to me , focus more on your career, with time, you'll start getting the feelings back.

I for one had to date multiple girls, had to go through peaceful breakups because I wasn't deep into the relationship.
Today I hype the lady, get her attention, talk to her and we got cool,,,Tomorrow I get tired of the lady and life goes on. I just focused on building my life en career and I just started having those feelings back. Now she means alot to me and she broke that habit of mine forcefully with her constant love and care....

Op you ain't a Robot.... The feelings will definitely come back.
My 10cents

musa234:
I don't think you have a problem.

...u r rite bro

my guy let dance duduke together no be only u we pleñty gañ.

Learnstuffs:
I have been struggling with some attitudes. I find out that I struggle to love or be in love. I might ask a girl out today. Chat and call her for few days and start losing interest. Mind you, its not because she is not reciprocating, it is just me. I once had a girlfriend who thought I was cheating or not serious with her just because I don't call always. I might be online but don't chat her up. Sometimes I will just be viewing status

When people leave, i don't miss them. I might just experience an emptiness for few days especially if you are close to me, and that's all.

this describes me, I think I'm incapable of feeling intimacy

It's common among guys. It happens to me too. Generally guys prefer the least stress. If the attention is becoming extreme or dominating, it gets tiring. I prefer moderation than extremes too.

I tried wooing a girl this morning on Nairaland, I discovered her questioning was getting too much, I just left her.

Learnstuffs:
I have been struggling with some attitudes. I find out that I struggle to love or be in love. I might ask a girl out today. Chat and call her for few days and start losing interest. Mind you, its not because she is not reciprocating, it is just me. I once had a girlfriend who thought I was cheating or not serious with her just because I don't call always. I might be online but don't chat her up. Sometimes I will just be viewing status

When people leave, i don't miss them. I might just experience an emptiness for few days especially if you are close to me, and that's all.

We are in the same shoe bro

We go dey alright las las

Exhales...You are not alone(In MJ's voice) bruv

chinedi7:


this describes me, I think I'm incapable of feeling intimacy

U r not, u r simply not interested

Ugaboy:
U r not, u r simply not interested

i don't really know, I get intimate with girls, but even after that, I don't feel anything. cos of this attitude, two gals have told me they wanna break up, the worst thing is that i still didn't feel any pain

Wankers

chinedi7:


i don't really know, I get intimate with girls, but even after that, I don't feel anything. cos of this attitude, two gals have told me they wanna break up, the worst thing is that i still didn't feel any pain

it becus u can nurse and curb heart break, u cant threaten me wit a breakup...i will simply let u know that we have no history.
dont let bother u, supposing they have done something meaningful in your life, you woudnt let them go... there is not special spot or impact they have shown u.
we r stil exploring d miss rite

chinedi7:


i don't really know, I get intimate with girls, but even after that, I don't feel anything. cos of this attitude, two gals have told me they wanna break up, the worst thing is that i still didn't feel any pain

it becus u can nurse and curb heart break, u cant threaten me wit a breakup...i will simply let u know that we have no history.
dont let bother u, supposing they have done something meaningful in your life, you woudnt let them go... there is not special spot or impact they have shown u.
we r stil exploring 4 d miss rite

Ugaboy:
We are in the same shoe...U are an introvert i guess...in my compound we have more single ladies than guys, once im back from work or lecture...i lock myself in, u'll neva notice my presence at home
...i hate ladies company, i dont acept visiting or visiting em, i dont pay attention to green light or sexual advances...calling or wanting to converse on fb for a long time, it a no for me
...someone once asked me, u no dey f*ck, i just laugh, person like me b*ng ur babe, nah after 10yrs u know, bcus i dont discuss my love and sex with people
...the craziest is that i dont smile
...i dont see my attitude as an issue, i got to undastand i tend to save more, focus more on important things than wasting positive chasings ladies.
once i hit my goal, i will have fun. calm down, u are doing the rite thing.

Guy seriously that's the kind of character I want to be displaying and tired of been seen everywhere and also chating with numerous number of girls......



Dude put me through on how to show this kind of your character..... honestly tired if the way girls do treat me just because they have a hole

HELP A BROTHER PLZ

Is that all?

Ablemax:

Guy seriously that's the kind of character I want to be displaying and tired of been seen everywhere and also chating with numerous number of girls......
Dude put me through on how to show this kind of your character..... honestly tired if the way girls do treat me just because they have a hole
HELP A BROTHER PLZ

lolz, it simple
1. do not procratinate, anything u want to do, fix it at that moment
2. Be organise, tidy up ur room and clothes, make ur room neat
3. Get a hand dumbbell Or gym in ur room
4. Study..Select important, relevant and career book and study
5. Dont talk too much, cus people dont care about who or what u know until u make it or famous
6. Be personal, dont tell people more abt urself, let it b their problem to discover u...it very dificult to hurt or harm a more secretive person(i get gosiped while im inside, they get shock once im outside, i stil smile as if i head nothing, i dnt let my feelings show
7. Try not to MASTURBATE LOL

OLDESTWARRIBOY:
OP your village people sabi work o. All of ona for this thread dey miss o, kpanshing na my way of life. Everyday things, e get wan Isoko gal wey dey come later today, I dn set every thing dey wait am. If dat toto no red eh, I no go leave am

dat does nt mean we dont kpansh, but we kpansh responsibly

We're in the same shoes bro. My own worse gan! I've not been able to keep a girlfriend till date. There was one I asked out the other day and she accepted. Immediately she did I lost interest and now she's dating herself.
She's a typical example of many past relationships I've had before. As long as I'm in a relationship with you just know that I'll be the one to initiate the break up. I won't lie I have met beautiful souls. I've always had the good fortune of dating well-mannered ladies. The problem is always from me. I dunno but I'm not proud of my character. Lots of ladies see me as one hell of an intelligent chap and hell yes, I'm also a sweet talker; not the loquacious type. I emit signals unconsciously, signals that draw them to my persona. Most times they'd say, "Hey! You've got a melodious baritone, a confident poise, a captivating smile and a tongue laced with saccharine"
And before you know it they fall in love and that's when crazy me takes over. I don't know if I can ever get married with this attitude

Ugaboy:

dat does nt mean we dont kpansh, but we kpansh responsibly

exactly bro, kpanshing dy compulsory na, it's just that we don't feel any connections, so we can't be hurt, I'm trying to have feelings sha, i want heartbreak, i wanna see how it feels

chinedi7:

exactly bro, kpanshing dy compulsory na, it's just that we don't feel any connections, so we can't be hurt, I'm trying to have feelings sha, i want heartbreak, i wanna see how it feels

nah express u dey go brother

Ugaboy:
We are in the same shoe...U are an introvert i guess...in my compound we have more single ladies than guys, once im back from work or lecture...i lock myself in, u'll neva notice my presence at home
...i hate ladies company, i dont acept visiting or visiting em, i dont pay attention to green light or sexual advances...calling or wanting to converse on fb for a long time, it a no for me
...someone once asked me, u no dey f*ck, i just laugh, person like me b*ng ur babe, nah after 10yrs u know, bcus i dont discuss my love and sex with people
...the craziest is that i dont smile
...i dont see my attitude as an issue, i got to undastand i tend to save more, focus more on important things than wasting positive chasings ladies.
once i hit my goal, i will have fun. calm down, u are doing the rite thing.

Nice bro. I think i share some behavioral traits with you

Katsuke:
Same happened to me , focus more on your career, with time, you'll start getting the feelings back.

I for one had to date multiple girls, had to go through peaceful breakups because I wasn't deep into the relationship.
Today I hype the lady, get her attention, talk to her and we got cool,,,Tomorrow I get tired of the lady and life goes on. I just focused on building my life en career and I just started having those feelings back. Now she means alot to me and she broke that habit of mine forcefully with her constant love and care....

Op you ain't a Robot.... The feelings will definitely come back.
My 10cents

Exactly, nobody is immune to love. I hope I can get that connection with a lady soon

Lordfranklin:
We're in the same shoes bro. My own worse gan! I've not been able to keep a girlfriend till date. There was one I asked out the other day and she accepted. Immediately she did I lost interest and now she's dating herself.
She's a typical example of many past relationships I've had before. As long as I'm in a relationship with you just know that I'll be the one to initiate the break up. I won't lie I have met beautiful souls. I've always had the good fortune of dating well-mannered ladies. The problem is always from me. I dunno but I'm not proud of my character. Lots of ladies see me as one hell of an intelligent chap and hell yes, I'm also a sweet talker; not the loquacious type. I emit signals unconsciously, signals that draw them to my persona. Most times they'd say, "Hey! You've got a melodious baritone, a confident poise, a captivating smile and a tongue laced with saccharine"
And before you know it they fall in love and that's when crazy me takes over. I don't know if I can ever get married with this attitude

Yes. That's the point. You attract a lot but struggle to keep any. I think it's not about pride or ego. Its behavioral

Ugaboy:
lolz, it simple
1. do not procratinate, anything u want to do, fix it at that moment
2. Be organise, tidy up ur room and clothes, make ur room neat
3. Get a hand dumbbell Or gym in ur room
4. Study..Select important, relevant and career book and study
5. Dont talk too much, cus people dont care about who or what u know until u make it or famous
6. Be personal, dont tell people more abt urself, let it b their problem to discover u...it very dificult to hurt or harm a more secretive person(i get gosiped while im inside, they get shock once im outside, i stil smile as if i head nothing, i dnt let my feelings show
7. Try not to MASTURBATE LOL

Thanks dude I'll put them into practice

Learnstuffs:


Yes. That's the point. You attract a lot but struggle to keep any. I think it's not about pride or ego. Its behavioral

Exactly. Your personal text is the perfect summary of my kind of behaviour

Lordfranklin:

Exactly. Your personal text is the perfect summary of my kind of behaviour

Wow. And you know one of my biggest challenges. Communication with average Nigerian ladies. They seem to hate intellectual discussions, they find it very boring and out of their league. They want you to talk about love, Bbnaija, gossips. Only few cope with deep interactions

Ugaboy:
lolz, it simple
1. do not procratinate, anything u want to do, fix it at that moment
2. Be organise, tidy up ur room and clothes, make ur room neat
3. Get a hand dumbbell Or gym in ur room
4. Study..Select important, relevant and career book and study
5. Dont talk too much, cus people dont care about who or what u know until u make it or famous
6. Be personal, dont tell people more abt urself, let it b their problem to discover u...it very dificult to hurt or harm a more secretive person(i get gosiped while im inside, they get shock once im outside, i stil smile as if i head nothing, i dnt let my feelings show
7. Try not to MASTURBATE LOL

All the girls for ur compound go like u die ...the ones wey dey act like Dem no reason you...na lie...
But then...ur attitude no gas dey too much like that... because u will sometimes need info Abt what's happening...that's one bad thing Abt been too secretive and too private

Me like girls Sha... but then I have got discipline and when I say discipline....u know what I mean...I don't tolerate shiit