Should a married woman accept a gift from her ex boyfriend?

there is noting wrong with dat if only there is noting els attach to the gift in return.

nurabela:

Should a married woman accept a gift from her ex boyfriend?

I feel its Not right,I could be wrong though.Personally,The only times I can accept gifts from an ex is during my wedding or my children birthdays.I expect ex'es to channel their gift giving abilities to their next or current GFand leave my hubby to shower me with gifts.

It depends on what type of gift and the timing. A congratulations gift is quite subtle but xmas,vals day and bday gifts might bring up old nostalgic emotions and could be disastrous in a case where a spouse is wondering if he/she married d right person. Its best 4 exes 2 stay off as humanly possible. There is no such thing as a "secure " marriage. Human beings are prone 2 change and subject 2 emotions.

@ Topic
Yes, only if she doesn't have a problem with her hubby showering gifts to his ex.

no

naijafrend:

@ Topic
Yes, only if she doesn't have a problem with her hubby showering gifts to his ex.

Exactly.

most definitely not,you shudnt start things you can't finish

in my own opinion, i dont think it is right. those gift could bring back old memories which could eventually lead to one thing or the other and , God helps us oh. Dont even start what you know u cant finish babe.

naijafrend:

@ Topic
Yes, only if she doesn't have a problem with her hubby showering gifts to his ex.

lol

Personally I dont see anything wrong in it ( if donefor the right reasons). If you consider someone good enough to share a relationship with at somepoint in your life , you should be able help ( can be in the form of a gift really) when the time and situation warrants or permits

If its an open gift accepted by hubby anyway. Dont want any misconception from both parties.

Depends on the gift, depends on the motive.

Say he buys her some recharge card, because they bump into each other while she's trying to re-charge her phone, there's nothing wrong with that, abi?

But supposing he buys her some sexy lingerie and asks her to model it for him - for the good 'ol days. Now that's a big no, no!

Situation becomes a little more blurry when the gift is both inappropriate and the motives are wrong, but she needs the gift. For example, supposing he buys her a car and neither she nor her husband has one. I say, take the car babe! And tell your husband you won it in a raffle draw!

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Actually, this is conditional if the gifts are personal items i.e directed to her usage alone then

Its not right to accept gift from an ex because accepting those gift means the feelings that was there before will definately rekindle.

But in situations were by the ex remebers the good times they hard and decides to buy something for her new family then i dont see anything wrong with that.

why shld my wife's ex shower her with gift.yoruba says"whereevr you say goodnite,you dont go back saying good evenning same day".i wont give such french gift and wont appreciate my wife taking such as well.let bygone be!

it's not good at all. women get carried away easily, the more the gift the more the feeling.

there is noting wrong with that,and it means he or she still appreciate yoy

A big NO. Why should a married woman accept a gift from her ex boyfriend? To do so would mean an open invitation to her ex that she is available to continue from where they left off, even in her matrimonial home. I dont even agree with the fact that a wedding gift should be accepted. To me it is a very subtle invitation by the ex to the married woman. He probably later discovered he made a mistake by not marrying her & wants to try & win her back. So whose fault is that? Please let us all learn from the mistakes of others. It will save us a lot of agony in the end. There is no need rushing into marriage. Afterall it is till death do you part.

capital NO

naijafrend:

@ Topic
Yes, only if she doesn't have a problem with her hubby showering gifts to his ex.

If her husband has money or gift to shower in the first place, she wouldn't be looking at the hands of her ex.

for me there's nothing wrong as long as her husband also alert, and the wife must no hiding it from her husban

Finecat:

If her husband has money or gift to shower in the first place, she wouldn't be at the hands of her ex.

zayhal:

Exactly.

@naijafren, #WORD well said #GBAM

I wont object to my wife collecting a gift from her ex because I know her level of commitment to our relationship.

u can accept a gift, depending on wat d gift is,
if d gift is a car, a flower, a phone, an attire/dress/cloth/bag/purse/perfume/electrical appliance etc, No do, don't collect. bt if it's a broom, card, exercise book,biro, calendar etc, u may collect, bt first show it to your hubby in a mocking manner, like "see me see trouble o, so so so drop this off 4 me, " else, neva ever neva ever accept a gift from an ex,
bt if him give u amper pack, hmmmm collect am, na corporate gift be dat!

nurabela:

Should a married woman accept a gift from her ex boyfriend?

If on the ground that you are doing your marriage and the ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend brought gift, you are free to collect but outside this, it is not adviseable to collect.

The reason most women go back to their ex to collect money or gift is that they realize that they made a mistake and married the wrong person for the wrong reasons. Most women marry men based on what he has or can give at the present time NOT based on his potentials. Most women are so blind to the future and and also blind to the potentials that a man possess.

Olayinkaoj:

I wont object to my wife collecting a gift from her ex because I know her level of commitment to our relationship.

Regardless of the reason for which the ex may be giving her the gift? Why allow someone move near a tempting situation when you can avoid it altogether?Human beings will continue to be humans.  Once you have started an action like this, you can never be absolutely certain of the outcome. While I won't go into how you 'know' her level of commitment, I think that it is better to 'believe' that someone can be trusted and then leave the remaining part to God.

@ OP.
Hell no. She must not accept. If she accepts, then she must declare it. An undeclared gift automatically becomes contraband in the home over which there may be sanction.

Neither should she ask! To some men, a request for assistance coming from a pretty girl is an instant turn on- unless you deliberately want to wake up old feelings or want him back to play a certain role in your new life

Dependin on the type of gift, Buy my wife undies?, dependin on type of the gift.

OKAFORS LAW must not be allowed to creep back into your Marriage,

NO gift, No text No BBM sef,

okafor's law is still very propound-able, so she can accept and have a re knack.

Finecat:

If her husband has money or gift to shower in the first place, she wouldn't be looking at the hands of her ex.

SO IF THE HUSBAND IS NOT SHOWERING ENOUGH GIFT, THE WIFE CAN START COLLECTING THE GIFT FROM HER EX

I TIRE NO BE SMALL IS MARRIAGE ALL ABOUT COLLECTING GIFTS.

WELL ANY WOMAN COLLECTING GIFTS FROM HER EX. SHOULD BE ABLE READ THE HAND WRITING ON THE WALL.