merieam16:
U dey mind them ni, women av nt suffered and will never suffer unless u choose to suffer in their hands

Zzor:
where is the feminism in my comment,stop the hate already

SweetCunt97:
Which husband? What qualifies him as a husband? He simply donated his sperm pls.

If a nigga can't be there for you when it's rough, when you need him the most, then that nigga does not deserve nothing when things are cool.

abouzaid:
If this story is real, don't hesitate to accept him back, not only do you have a child for him but he's the devil that you know. He sounds like a solid guy too. That he walked out on you then might be because he has too much on his mind then. I did just that after graduating with extra year, family financial problem and many other things going on then.I just dropped everything and everybody and focused on myself then. It wasn't a bad decision. I guess many Nigerian young men are prone to such early life crisis.

Dynamite789:
The question you should ask yourself is... it he has been very successful and rich after leaving you, Whould he have come back?

If you convince yourself that the answer is yes, then take him back. But if NO. Please throw him out. Because if you help him back on his feet? He may still abandoned you again

Chanchit:



Op, whatever you do. Don't take the advice of this poster into consideration. Because she's always present in topics like this and she's a feminist.
As for your husband, follow your heart.

Chanchit:



If I were to go by the comment you made, it is fair enough. But then, I've seen many of your comments on threads like this and they are most times biased. That's why I do not look forward to seeing your comments.

Goldp5988:



Don't mind them, na kidney some of them take dey reason.

Divanona:
According to him, he couldn't graduate, he tried going back to school, he couldn't achieve that, he was not bold enough to face me nor my family because he felt he has hurt me so much and couldn't face my family.

Bessppectt:
Life eh. Only God knows tomorrow

Good evening all.

Please as we all know, life can be so unpredictable that
today, I can longer take care of my family due to untimely
death and loss of job. It's unfortunate it has gotten to this.
Please help a mother (with kids) with any amount as
starvation coupled with high cost of living in the country
have really dealt with us.
Also, please I want to appeal for any job opportunity be it
private or public. I'm a degree holder from one of the
federal universities in the country. I pray I get a job very
soon and get back to my feet. May God keep prospering
you as you help.
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Divanona:
Eight years ago, with tears in my eye, I held his hand, begged him to stay with me that we will struggle together and succeed, but he refused. He walked away living me pregnant. Now, he's back without anything.

We were friends from the University, I graduated before him because I was studying a 4years course. The very first time, we tried to take our relationship serious was after my graduation. We had s.e.-x for the very first time and I became pregnant.
The truth is, the guy have always been good to me throughout my stays in school.
I remembered that day he sacrificed his school fees for mine so I could be able to do my final clearance. But when I became pregnant, he walked away after convincing me to keep our baby.
I went through everything all by myself.
Since last year, he has been apologizing on phone, so last week, I asked him to come. He traveled down to my place. Without being afraid of anyone harming him from my family, he believed in me and came. He's around in my family house, staying in my brother's room for the past 3days.
He has opened up everything to me, my family members and have apologized.

now, I'm so confused with my life.

He couldn't graduate, he had problem in school after I left and all this years, he has been struggling, but now he wants to take responsibility and be with us, but he had nothing. No certificate, except diploma which he later did from another school, no job, no place of his own to stay. He had nothing. He wants us to get married and have a family.


I feel I'm about to add more burden to my already stressed life.
The only positive thing here now, is the excitement my son is having seeing his father and the relationship they're building.

A part of me wants to see this guy have a great life and have direction and not see him live like this, even if I don't settle down with him. because when I meant him, he was kind, a good person, he had dreams, vision and good plans.
But living us alone all this years, with all his explanations, I'm not contented.

Another part of me is confused, afraid and I feel ishould push him away and let him go back to his life and keep moving with my son because I don't have the strength to shoulder all these.

Please matured mind in the house, what do you have to say? This is my life and it's getting more confused.
What would you advise? What should I do?
I don't want to make more mistakes.

Sorry for my lengthy write-up

Liposure:
the lord will be your strength

Richy4:
<<< He doesn't have any certificate except a diploma.. Hmmm!!! I'm hearing it for the first time that diploma is not a certificate is this supposed to be a criteria to accept him.. check

<<<< Unemployed... is this suppose to be a criteria to accept or reject the Null hypothesis considering the fact that it's not a permanent thing check

<<<< He left u when u needed him the most.. is this a good and valid criteria to reject him.. check

<<<< Do u still have feelings for him after treating you poorly? Do u see a future with both of u together? Do u think he has changed and ready to make amendment/ settle down without taking off again? Check

<<< you are the only one that will answer these questions.. don't let anyone do it for you.

cococandy:
I even wonder what the lady’s parents have to say about him living in their house.
It’s a bit weird

Divanona:

My dad is late. He would have been in the best position to help me decide this

PeacenLove2:
He left Again Part II story loading. Take him back, you hia?

To be serious, there is need to find out what occupied his life for 8 years when he abandoned you. So it's very important to know what kept him away. Only wicked, selfish people could do that ... forget how great he was back in school. Men can do anything just before climbing the mountain No be today. No

Yeah, your kid is having a ball with a dad in his life and you are probably lonely too but use your head, madam. You can help him out from a safe distance. He can have access to his child as well as long as it's good for the kid. You could even date him if you want but don't be quick to commit yourself to anything. Looks like guy is just desperate and you're making it too easy for him. Chances are he would bolt again when he feels comfortable enough.

In other words, let guy go get his act together first before you let him in again. You have a good heart sha. I hope this doesn't land you in soup. I don't know how you can trust such a person again. Be very careful and good luck whatever you do. I hope his intentions are good this time and he does right by you if you take him back.

Zzor:
Obviously you still want him,have him all you want if you care less about money and comfort and ready to add more burden to your already stressed life as you rightly put it ,what has he been doing since all these years he abandoned you thats what you should be most concerned about.You are not his mother,let him go and find solace abi wetin sef with his family,thats why I hate all this school love,i can't count stories of heartbreaks that I've heard and seen.If you are strong enough to carry him along,do so but if you know you don't have the capability,please tell him to go stay with his family first.hmmm I have been looking for stories like this to read here since,it is well madam op