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Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by bluestone: 10:10pm On Jun 24, 2007 |
I'm very comfortable with my girlfriend and we have a very trusting relationship - but how far should I be comfortable with? I am on an internship in Europe for six weeks and she went to the playboy mansion in LA with her friends for a party. That is okay - even though she is dressing very sexy. Well she has been invited back for the 4th of July and she is planning on wearing american flags over her nipples and small bottoms. Is this appropriate? I believe in not being jealous but this makes me feel wierd. Where do I draw the line and should I draw the line here and tell her "please don't do that, it makes me too uncomfortable?" She says I am over in Europe, so she should be allowed to do these things - but I'm doing work! She's just making her body an object of other men's desires. How much freedom do I allow? |
Re: Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by Nobody: 10:24pm On Jun 24, 2007 |
Is she african? Do you intend to marry her? A real man shouldnt be scared to confront his girlfriend on issues that bother him and speak his mind because it might be said that he's jealous I sense that u have a complex problem, no offence. And your relationship is one-sided. Do not be afraid of loosing her. Be a man and tell her what you think.I she thinks you are too rigid for her it's because she's not right for you. She's got u in your balls man. 1 Like |
Re: Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by bluestone: 10:28pm On Jun 24, 2007 |
yah she's black. i suppose i want her to have her liberty, especially when I am away in Europe. She can only 'trust' me while I am here - i should trust her as well. I agree that I could be more straight-forward in what makes me feel uncomfortable. Is she not just making herself an object when she parades around like that, even if, as she says, "all her friends do it and I'm not going to do it when I'm married." |
Re: Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by ghengis(m): 10:54pm On Jun 24, 2007 |
My broda, if u no jealous then something must be wrong with you! My own girlfriend will not think of attending a playboy party, let alone tell me she intends to go back but since u knw yours better , i think you shd just open ur mind to her, let her know u feel funny about it. I doubt that u can really set limits for her cos she's gotta be an iundependent person. If talking doesb't reassure you, i guess u just have to be "the man": let your jealousy boil and cool within you without it causing much trouble, might just be her own way of catching some fun. but if na me sha, i go wonda wetin fit don happen behind my back! |
Re: Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by Nobody: 11:11pm On Jun 24, 2007 |
Friend in this present age that we are in ,I will advice u on 2 things, 1.If u intend to get married to her someday,man,better voice it out oh, 2.if theres no future in the whole thing,give her a little break and all u have to do is advice her and let her do her mind, all is left to u, If na just girl friend,i no go too bother,i can always find another spare somewhere |
Re: Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by luxoire(f): 1:13pm On Jun 25, 2007 |
whether u wanna marry her or not, if ur unhappy about ANYTHING she has done or is doing, TELL HER how u feel about it. its up to her to try to calm ur worries, or disregard ur feelings |
Re: Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by winney(f): 1:57pm On Jun 25, 2007 |
I strongly agree with xjovial,it all depends on wat ur intention with her is all about,even as a friend tell her hw u feel abt it,then its her choice,but if she is someone u intend/hope to marry,then its high time u put ur foot down with her,wateva u fail to streamline now,u wil never in near future,goodluck as u mk d wise decision |
Re: Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by iice(f): 2:27pm On Jun 25, 2007 |
Gotta go with Luxoire on this one, you have to tell how uncomfortable you are with this. It's up to her to heed you or not. You can't keep it bottled up, no use there. |
Re: Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by moondust(m): 2:40pm On Jun 25, 2007 |
There's vacancy for a full time stripper up in here o. tell her to call this number 0800-girl-g0ne-wild |
Re: Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by Bolarge(m): 2:48pm On Jun 25, 2007 |
The way things're going she'd be the star of the next black porn flick if u keep up this "liberal" attitude. Better sit her butt down and tell her where the line's drawn. 1 Like |
Re: Setting Limits On Girlfriend Behavior? by bluestone: 11:29am On Jun 26, 2007 |
good deali - thanks felas |
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