Chii59:
That goes to say that the average Nigerian man wants a MAID, not a wife in the sense of the word, PARTNERSHIP, but a subservient, docile, baby maker, who's only good for the kitchen and the other room, but never an equal who's capable of making and taking decisions in the homestead when and where necessary.
What you want is what you get.
Cool.

Of course, our wives are not our equals, we don't need them for any decision making, we provide for them and in return they perform their conjugal and domestic duties.

Full meaning of wife is:
Washing
Ironing
Fvcking
Eating

Chii59:
That goes to say that the average Nigerian man wants a MAID, not a wife in the sense of the word, PARTNERSHIP, but a subservient, docile, baby maker, who's only good for the kitchen and the other room, but never an equal who's capable of making and taking decisions in the homestead when and where necessary.
What you want is what you get.
Cool.

Do not purposely misinterpret the writer's intentions. You know what he meant
You just want to bash Nigerian Men (as usual, it's getting really boring).

Moral of the story - teach your daughters to be dutiful, obedient and responsible. Don't over- pamper them.

EOD!

richie240:
Simple stuvv: they (maids) show d true submissive nature of wives!
No sane man wants a combative woman as wife!

Ephesians 5:22
"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord".
Feminism
"Me and my husband are mates, equals!"

All ye 'equality' crusaders, '50-50' chanters, sebi una see una life for bus-stop now.
Ndo!

Slackerpenguin2:


That you are not ready to be humble enough to lay down your life for your wife.

This is where 'Christian-feminists' (sounds like 'beautiful-beasts', 'holy devils' to d ears ) r getting it twisted.

The commandment of God for d husband to 'love d wife' doesn't negate His commandment for the 'wife to submit to her husband'. The 'love' doesn't change d fact DT d wife must recognize his husband as her lord!.

The 'humility/love' of d man for his wife doesn't change d fact that that same woman is under him; he is her lord!

Thatrt's the issue....you don't want to be like Christ, who though he was God, lowered himself, and humbled himself to die on the cross to save us from sin.

Did Christ die for us so that sin can abound?
That same 'Christ of love' is also a 'Christ of judgement'!

The fact DT Christ proved His love 4 us by dying on d cross 4 us doesnt give us d licence to disrespect him by sinning; same goes for d woman: the love her husband has for her shdnt be taken for granted and used to be disrespectful/insubmissive to her husbandman!

From your comment...you don't want to love your wife to the point where you would be willing to lay down your life for her.

Once again, u missed d mark!
I can love my wife to die, to protect her, but that shdnt be an excuse for her to be unsubmissive/disrespectful/combative to me as her husband/lord!

Why won't suitors go for the maid when your daughters are spoilt brats without good attitude?

RedPanthar:
E be like say one Bobo Don carry Zzor go. This one we nor dey too see her break light

ask her partner pegi23

chinchonglee:
Knowing how to cook, how to behave and clean to me can never be a criteria to marry a girl.
What turns me on is smartness!

Yes bro, that’s what your uncle, Thomas also look out for. Keep it bro, it will surely end same way

Who said its the only criteria?

chinchonglee:
Knowing how to cook and clean to me can never be a criteria to marry a girl.
What turns me on is smartness!

It becomes irrevocably bad when such over-pa mpered daughter of a rich man makes friends with a useless Nairaland feminist.

Let men who want to marry maids marry maids and those who want daughters marry daughters.


This thread is a stupid attempt at bashing daughters, who stoops that low.

May our daughters be like pillars in their palace sturdy and strong enough to support their homes been held together.May they have partners who know they are wives,helpmates and partners on journey of purpose and not maids

Aabheaven:
why blame the male gender or was the article written by a man. Or is it that u lack understanding and uncouth. Such Ill mannered piece of thing. Put your frustration someone daft thing

Very frustrated being, I tell you

She just purposely misinterpreted the writer's intentions.

Any thread like this, she and her ilk will fly towards it and look for opportunities to bash. Threads like this give them orgasms and make them wet down there.

TruthHurts1:
Maybe the maids are more endowed...........


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Blueelf:


When she mistakenly poisons you in the name of cooking, you go know how far. Let's see if her "smartness" will be the antidote to your stomach troubles...

May the good food remove all the troubles in ur marriage.

chinchonglee:
Knowing how to cook and clean to me can never be a criteria to marry a girl.
What turns me on is smartness!

Are you aware that it takes smartness to know how to cook and clean

Dirakamara:
Only a mumu guy go settle with an illiterate, almost all gals nw are graduates, gals just need to work on their characters and just that

Gbam!
U've just hit d nail on d head.
A popular saying: "talent/skills/beauty (etc) can get u 2 d top, but discipline (aka character) keeps u there".

No matter how beautiful and educated a woman/wife is, if she refuses to submit and see her husband as her leader/lord, the marriage won't last!

mrksquare:
I couldn't agrees less. Now I know why my uncle came back from America and got married to a maid he met at his friends house. At first I was surprised at his choice of wife given that he is very educated, but now it is becoming clearer why he opted for her. His wife is domestically grounded and parades acceptable mannerism.

EOD!

A word is enough for the wise

angelfallz:
Who said its the only criteria?

What other qualities do house maids have?

chinchonglee:

May the good food remove all the troubles in ur marriage.

Amen

And u shall enjoy with glee. After all, its my food

TeemahBeddings:
Okkkk.

If you want someone who will do all your chores for you. Hire a maid. You are your partner helper. Simply because you are the man doesn't mean you should turn your wife into a slave. During our forefather's time, the sole responsibility of the woman is to hold the home front and help on the farm once in a while, the man brings the food and money to the table. But now, you want a maid and someone who brings money to the house.

Shameless bunch of men

It's not by force madam. You can remain single and do the same chores for yourself and still go to work and hustle for your living.

If you are already married, stop nagging and forcing your husband to do house chores because you are the one bringing in the money.

Don't you know that a man performs better when encouraged and giving room to think for himself?

angelfallz:
Wow, i did not think you would agree with it.

Why won't I agree with it? That's just the gospel truth.

Some people think they are giving their children the best life by not letting them touch any domestic work but they don't know they are training them to become lazybones and useless to themselves and people around them.

The same way we were trained is how my sisters are training their children. My first nephew is just 14 but he cooks and takes care of his younger ones. In fact, he handles one of his dad's ATM cards and manages the account.

You train a child in a way that when you're not there, he can independently handle certain things. That's the kind of family I come from.

Komu1048:




Yes bro, that’s what your uncle, Thomas also look out for. Keep it bro, it will surely end same way

Why my own opinion dey vex you
Marry house maid and leave me to my opinion.

phineas:
Let men who want to marry maids marry maids and those who want daughters marry daughters.


This thread is a stupid attempt at bashing daughters who stoops that low.

May our daughters be like pillars in their palace sturdy and strong enough to support their homes been held together.May they have partners who know they are wives,helpmates and partners on journey of purpose and not maids

Meanwhile that's a proverbs verse "That our daughters may be like pillars polished after the similtitude of a palace"

I have also read guiding verses in islam on this.

1 suggests a woman may be married for 4 reasons..her beauty,her wealth,her lineage or her spirituality


.it's a simple matter choose your reason and let others be.

The daughter of the rich wields a power that any man or woman will be stupid to ignore.Rich girls know your worth and don't grovel to any silly suitor that doesn't know it

TeemahBeddings:
Okkkk.

If you want someone who will do all your chores for you. Hire a maid. You are your partner helper. Simply because you are the man doesn't mean you should turn your wife into a slave. During our forefather's time, the sole responsibility of the woman is to hold the home front and help on the farm once in a while, the man brings the food and money to the table. But now, you want a maid and someone who brings money to the house.

Shameless bunch of men

No go learn how to cook and manage home..stay here dey disgrace urself.

Jman06:
Are you aware that it takes smartness to know how to cook and clean

If her smartness is only on how to cook and clean, i nor marry

Your point correlates with the writer’s in a way.

However, the standard for the definition of a wife dates back to the creator. Adam first, then Eve as a helpmate for Adam.

There are other definitions as various individuals and cultures come up with from time to time, but the fundamentals have endured throughout the existence of man. That man leads the family, and the wife supports the man to achieve the family goals.

Chii59:
That goes to say that the average Nigerian man wants a MAID, not a wife in the sense of the word, PARTNERSHIP, but a subservient, docile, baby maker, who's only good for the kitchen and the other room, but never an equal who's capable of making and taking decisions in the homestead when and where necessary.
What you want is what you get.
Cool.

Gerrard59:
This article has been recycled countless times on the FP. Don't you guys get tired?

BTW, like in most Nigerian written articles, no surveys or peer-reviewed studies on how they came about the outcome. Just vibes, cobwebs and coconut in their heads.

Wowwww. The article isn't valid enough since it is not empirically proven.

It is very important as a girl to know how to cook. The way to a man's heart is his stomach

TeemahBeddings:
Okkkk.

If you want someone who will do all your chores for you. Hire a maid. You are your partner helper. Simply because you are the man doesn't mean you should turn your wife into a slave. During our forefather's time, the sole responsibility of the woman is to hold the home front and help on the farm once in a while, the man brings the food and money to the table. But now, you want a maid and someone who brings money to the house.

Shameless bunch of men

With this stupid mentality




You no go fit stay for man house.

Chii59:
That goes to say that the average Nigerian man wants a MAID, not a wife in the sense of the word, PARTNERSHIP, but a subservient, docile, baby maker, who's only good for the kitchen and the other room, but never an equal who's capable of making and taking decisions in the homestead when and where necessary.
What you want is what you get.
Cool.

No these ones do not represent the average Nigerian man.Only the jobless ones with a lot of free time on their hands.No succesfull man underestimates the role of a thinking ,smart ,connected or spiritual helpmate to weather the storms of life with them.

Underachieving men with challenges on their perception of self,either in wealth or size cant deal with such partners those are the type that marry a yes yes woman or maid.They are not the average Nigerian man just a small vocal minority.You know what they say about empty barrels

honest1480:

Why won't they prefer maids for marriage while they are the ones that do all the house chores perfectly. Men love women that take care of home and their stomachs with right delicacies.

Gerrard59 this dude's comment refute the writer's view. Am sure there are still men who aren't moved by domestic house chores