Hello everyone, ‘my story is long but I will skip some to try to make it short, sorry for my grammatical error, I am not a writer and I am writing with pains and I might made some mistakes, please bear with me.

I have been dating my wife to be since 2017, I have been taking care of her and everything, the truth is I was hearing some funny stuff about her since I met her but I didn’t take it serious because I trusted her and I really thought she was decent from every other girls.

When I met her, she told me she had only dated 3 boys for have sex only three times, her first boyfriend and two other girls she met in school. I really believed her because she was acting decent.

At a point I began to suspect her when I started hearing some stuff about her but I didn’t pay attention because I trusted her, sometimes when I asked her if she ever dated some one else or cheating on me, she will just turn the whole thing to quarrel and I will just lock up.

Fast forward to 2020, I got her pregnant before I left Nigeria, we did introductions, but she lost the baby during child birth which was so painful to us, but after some month I begin to hear some news about her, and I confronted her and threatened her that I have proof, which she confess to me that she has dated about 3 boys, slept with them several times, she also bleeped 2 girls just once and they didn’t date, she just had crush on them and bleeped them before she met me, and she cheated on me when she found out I was chatting with my ex’s, she couldn’t bear the pains even after begging her, sex her and still give her money to school, the same week she met a guy and bleeped him because she wanted to ease her pains, and 2019 when we had little quarrel, she met a guy and bleeped twice because she thought we broke up (what happened was that we had little argument and I have her money to sch and we didn’t talk for a week, that week she met a guy and stayed dated him because she thought we broke up).

I was heart broken when she told me, and I wanted to brk up, her parents begged me and they never supported her and they were even surprised she could do such thing because she came from a very decent background. I forgave her but I still have the pains in my heart, we always chat everyday, because of corona things are some how and I don’t have money like before, she begins to show me some attitude which is not really comfortable and I explain things to her and she apologized.

So last month she told me since I left she have been having sexual urge to sleep with a girl because she have been watching lesbian porn, that she promised never to cheat on me with a man and it’s taboo but she wanted to have sex with a female, I was so shocked and didn’t know what to do. She said she just started having the strange feelings because she have been watching lesbian porn since I left, I feel like I don’t know anything about her, I wanted to brk up now because she is begging me and she is saying she is just trying to be truthful to me because she promised herself never to hide anything from me or lie to me. What should I do? Should I continue to be with her and marry her? Or run away? Mine she have never slept with a woman before and she has always hated lesbian but because I have been a way since feb 2020, she usually watch porn to help herself. Pls what should I do?

She wants to marry because women are meant to marry. A lesbian will never change. Never. Marry her and be ready to cope with cheating.

Marry her.
Heheheh

I mean when I met her, she said she only dated 3 guys and have sex only 3 times ,her first boyfriend and 2 other boys, not girls please

Orishirishi something ... If u feel u deserve long life, now is the time to lay the foundation. No sentiments. You know with this girl, your life is like a bird perching on a tin rope. You will dance surugede for the rest of your life. U can choose a problematic life or a fairly decent life. The choice remains yours. Don't let it get late!

Sorry I read my message and I found out i made a lot of mistake , I am just writing with things , she has not really had sex with girl before , she said she just started having sexual urge with girls because she has been watching lesbian since I have been away, she told me she only dated 3 boys, which later I found out she has dated 3 guys, bleeped 2 she had Crush on and they didn’t dated , and cheated with 2 guys , which is making it 7, but she has been denying all these and telling me she only dated 3 boys and had sex 3 times since 2017(3 years) until last year October but she confess to me�

MOLOTOVcockTAIL:
Orishirishi something ... If u feel u deserve long life, now is the time to lay the foundation. No sentiments. You know with this girl, your life is like a bird perching on a tin rope. You will dance surugede for the rest of your life. U can choose a problematic life or a fairly decent life. The choice remains yours. Don't let it get late!

This is deep, please what should I do? I am confused, she is in my house right now in Nigeria, this is some one I have her house and everything,

Hmmm..

Tough one, just chill and lookout.

The fact about life is either you creat problem(s) where there is none or you solve problem(s) to keep the train moving

Please you all should stop speaking in parable and give me advice , since October , I have been drinking and start smoking sometin I have never done before , I’m not myself anymore , I’m confused and don’t know what decisions to take

Just barbecue her


Contact MANNABBQGRILL , he would DHL the spices to you

Tbadbad:
Please you all should stop speaking in parable and give me advice , since October , I have been drinking and start smoking sometin I have never done before , I’m not myself anymore , I’m confused and don’t know what decisions to take

Wake up young man, which other advice do you need, Isn't it obvious that your relationship was built on lies? You better focus on the reason you travelled abroad and forget her totally.
As for your house she's staying, if it's just a rented appartmet then free her till the rent expires if she can continue footing the bills herself fine, if not then she should seek accomodation somewhere else. But if it's your own personal building then tell her to vacate it that your brother/sister/parents or relations wants to make use of it shikina and then block her line asap cos o ce a cheat always a cheat.

If all you said above is true, then in your best interest, I'll advice you leave that lady. Please you deserve happiness in your life! Don't compromise and take foolish risks you will certainly and obviously regret in the future. First, the fact that she said she's only slept with two men doesn't even look like its true then lesbian porn? Maka why? Oga you will one day have children I believe, and the best you can give them is a decent mother please. Don't allow pressure from her family make you take foolish steps towards your future. I won't even be surprised they're aware of all her behaviours, forget the drama they're putting up before you!
And see you saying you've started smoking, something you don't do before. Don't you see your future doesn't look like what will bring peace to you with that lady? You won't even be able to travel and have peace, you won't only be thinking of the fact that your woman could be cheating, you'll then be wondering if she's cheating on you with a man or woman. Is that how much you hate your own future and peace?
Imagine you one day get to see your wife on the bed with another man, worse still another woman? Or maybe not even you, your daughter gets to see that. Isn't that the start of a crack in their own mentality about sexuality too? Please apologise to her family, tell them about the whole development, the lesbian thing and let her go. Like I stated earlier, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. Of course except you think otherwise!

Tbadbad:
Please you all should stop speaking in parable and give me advice , since October , I have been drinking and start smoking sometin I have never done before , I’m not myself anymore , I’m confused and don’t know what decisions to take

Oga just know say that lady don dey fucck anything fucckable as u travel. She fit even get serious relationship sef. Fear bisexuals oh. Them sabi fucck for Africa. Na only u know whether to keep the relationship or not, cuz i no fit tell u to end ur relationship. I know say some people indirectly like wetin dey bring phony dramas to their lives. Na so one mumu man recently tell me say him like ladies wey dey stress am, give am hard time.

I am still Waiting for the V.agina person that will come here to Tell you to marry her if you love her

Zzor Virginprincess shortyy Calidora Johda Your Attention is Highly needed

You have an olosho as fiancee. Dump her now and regain your sanity before you go completely bananas. The drama is already too much and you have not even taken her abroad. This will end in premium tear. If your mumu never do, listen to her parents and continue with your olosho woman.

Lol..this one is trying to paint his babe good because her parents said she is from a good background You have a olosho/bisexual as a fiancee...she has been fvcking girls and will never stop..that's what trills her and makes her enter cloud 96.9. Better tell her to invite her friends so you can all have a groupie

Tbadbad:
Please you all should stop speaking in parable and give me advice , since October , I have been drinking and start smoking sometin I have never done before , I’m not myself anymore , I’m confused and don’t know what decisions to take

Guy don't ruin yourself over an issue that you can solve.

You are really a simple minded person and anybody can easily manipulate you. Any girl that claims to have had 3 boyfriends and sex only 3 times is a mumu liar only Lai Mohammed can beat. Worse is that YOU believe her. A girl that personally told you she slept with random guys will now not have been a freegiver to her own historical boyfriends? Reason am nah! This one don loss body count.

There's no future in this relationship founded on lies and deception.

First, I strongly feel you are non-Nigerian.

For your type of people, this is the method to use to end the relationship. It is a bad investment and if you continue, you will keep throwing good money and resources to chase a bad resource.

1. Start by gradually cutting down on communicating with her. Like if you used to call her once everyday, reduce it once in 2 days to once a week to once a month to 'forgetting' to call her.

2./Remember, nothing you do will stop her from cheating with boys or girls. I believe she has done it already, she is just trying to sample your response if you hear it was a girl. Tell her you have a girl for yonder that always needs your help to sleep in their house because all her family has deserted her. Women hate competition. She go adjust. But don't change the plan.

3. Her living in your house is a small deal. Tell her parents, that you are never going to report her to them anymore because she has really been a good girl lately. But you realise that you are growing far apart and you don't want her to suffer because you now find that your intentions towards her are not pure. You don't want to hurt her so you'd like her to return to their house. Meanwhile, you don't tell the girl anything like that. Read that again.

4. Way easier if you have a sister. Sisters know how to deal with nasty girlfriends/wives. Tell your sisters all that has happened and tell them you don't even know how to go about it. Na dem go go help you put pressure.

I wish you well in your search for a BETTER half.

Na wa oo!
Making it in Nigeria and finding a good wife, I dunno which is more difficult.

What I most confused about is 'why you still tolerate and even let her stay in your house after all this'. As the first commenter said: she only wanna get hooked because society expects every lady (if we can even call her that at all) to be married. Give her that 'security' and she get the perfect cover to do all her shenanigans. And I feel you got a bit of a low self esteem to even debate whether or not she should leave. Just tell her straight to her face to leave your house and your life. Marriage doesn't change bisexuals; it only gives them impetus.

You saw all these red flags and you still went on with the relationship? Some men are just evolutionary DUMB!.

I don’t even know what to say to this.
Why staying in a relationship with a woman that has a fickle mind in the first instance?

If you don’t have plans to arrange for her papers and live together overs, bros let her go. Body no be firewood

Women will always test you to see if they can misbehave.

The moment i notice any sign of lesbianism, or just a dot of long calls from lots of guys, that rship is over that minute.

Tbadbad:
Hello everyone, ‘my story is long but I will skip some to try to make it short, sorry for my grammatical error, I am not a writer and I am writing with pains and I might made some mistakes , please bear with me.

I have been dating my wife to be since 2017, I have been taking care of her and everything, the truth is I was hearing some funny stuff about her since I met her but I didn’t take it serious because I trusted her and I really thought she was decent from every other girls.
When I met her, she told me she had only dated 3 boys for have sex only three times, her first boyfriend and two other girls she met in school. I really believed her because she was acting decent, at a point I begin to suspect her when I started hearing some stuff about her but I didn’t pay attention because I trusted her, sometimes when I asked her if she ever dated some one else or cheating on me, she will just turn the whole thing to quarrel and I will just locked up. Fast forward to 2020 , I got her pregnant before I left Nigeria, we did introductions , but she lost the baby during child birth which was so painful to us, but after some month I begin to hear some news about her, and u confronted her and treat her that I have proof, which she confess to me that she has dated about 3 boys, slept with them several times, she also bleeped 2 girls just once and they didn’t date, she just had crush on them and bleeped them before she met me, and she cheated on me when she found out I was chatting with my ex’s, she couldn’t bear the pains even after begging her, sex her and still give her money to school, the same week she met a guy and bleeped him because she wanted to ease her pains, and 2019 when we had little quarrel, she met a guy and bleeped twice because she thought we broke up(what happened was that we had little argument and I have her money to sch and we didn’t talk for a week, that week she met a guy and stayed dated him because she thought we broke up). I was heart broken when she told me, and I wanted to brk up, her parents begged me and they never supported her and they were even surprised she could did such thing because she came from a very decent background, I forgave her but I still have the pains in my heart, we always chat everyday, because of corona things are some how and I don’t have money like before , she begins to show me some attitude which is not really comfortable and I explain things to her and she apologize, so last month she told me since I left she have been having sexual urge to sleep with a girl because she have been watching lesbian porn, that she promised never to cheat on me with a man and it’s taboo but she wanted to have sex with a female, I was so shocked and didn’t know what to do. She said she just started having the strange feelings because she have been watching lesbian porn since I left, I feel like I don’t know anything about her, I wanted to brk up now because she is begging me and she is saying she is just trying to be truthful to me because she promised herself never to hide anything from me or lie to me. What should I do ? Should I continue to be with her and marry her? Or run away? Mine she have never slept with a woman before and she has always hated lesbian but because I have been a way since feb 2020, she usually watch porn to help herself. Pls what should I do?

She lies through her teeth! She is a lesbian. Please divorce her now or cry later! Such women are evil. Her interest is in Women not men. I try to warn men, never marry a former lesbian or a repentant lesbian. They will still go back to their evil ways!

Una never even marry e don dey start

She's bisexual and a Nymphomaniac

Tbadbad:
Please you all should stop speaking in parable and give me advice , since October , I have been drinking and start smoking sometin I have never done before , I’m not myself anymore , I’m confused and don’t know what decisions to take

You have enough advice but you won't use them. You will still call her to say you love her. If you want to live long, tell her to get another guy that will satisfy her sexual urge while you keep working on your life over there. There will be trust issue later in your relationship which might cause a lot of wahala.

Booda, if you want the woman, you no go come here to seek for advise ooo.


Do the needful abeg

One of the indicators of a man's success in life, as well as his longevity, is the kind of woman/women he marries.

You know best, but don't be like Nii Odartey Lamptey.

...and I thought I had problems


I have been single and celibate for almost a year and I like it laidat. I can’t allow any babe to come and mess with my mind like this brother is suffering. Damn

This one is bigger than me, you already know what to do but you're still here seeking for validation..

Read the handwriting on the wall and move on, but if after all these mountain of advise given to you by well meaning nlanders you still decide to wife her then that's your problem.

Let me go back to bed!