JONNYSPUTE:
....So why then did she not tell her husband before accepting his marriage proposal?.

Or she too can't do a research about her condition?

How is a virgin in this case supposed to KNOW if penetrative sex will be painful to her until she's about to try it??

Magnoliaa:


How is a virgin in this case supposed to KNOW if penetrative sex will be painful to her until she's about to try it??

Magnoliaa:
Mscheew. Many will still come here, bragging in their ignorance.

They won't even know what to do with the virgin wives they want when they get them.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Lol.@ virgin. Shortcut never mentioned that. But then,even if she married as a virgin,she is supposed to go findout what's wrong with her once she noticed such pains atleast to save her marriage.

JONNYSPUTE:
...Odiegwu. How many virgins dey sef?

Magnoliaa:


And now that they are married, what's the point of it if they cannot solve issues together instead of one person considering cheating, for something she has no control over?

Men should learn to be more selfless, that's a point from the thread.

Shortyyy:
Most times, a woman crying during penetration or afraid of sexual intercourse doesn't mean she's avoiding you.
She is not cheating on you, she isn't deliberately running away from you.

You know I read y'all comments here often and I call it sarcasm or just cruise catching. But I'm beginning to believe y'all aren't really enlightened at all, and not ready to learn.

I went through this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6385801/two-months-after-wedding-no#98489107 and I realized that it's either it's only children that are filled on this forum or baby adults. Including the poster. Talking about cheating on her because he's fade up. So you married her just because of sex okwa ya?

If you are a man here, and you're in this same boat with this poster, your woman is suffering from a condition called VAGINISMUS. It can be a medical condition or emotional.

The assignment I'm giving y'all is to research it. Read everything there is to know about it. Y'all should stop being foolishly ignorant.

Women go through a lot, they tend to not speak up because no one will believe them. They're the strongest being I've ever seen.

So before you bash a woman for being afraid of intercourse, kindly research the cause of it. Y'all problem is that you're impatient and selfish. It's always about you, not giving a damn what your partner might be going through. Once that thing in between your legs rises, nothing else matters. So pathetic.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....And she cannot try to findout exactly what her problems are if the man doesn't make an effort.?

What's her role in the marraige? Must the man be the one to do everything?

Magnoliaa:


Ok. If you cannot get my point of cooperation and working hand-in-hand, fine.

JONNYSPUTE:
....I asked a very simple question. Ma'am.

Shortyyy:
Most times, a woman crying during penetration or afraid of sexual intercourse doesn't mean she's avoiding you.
She is not cheating on you, she isn't deliberately running away from you.

You know I read y'all comments here often and I call it sarcasm or just cruise catching. But I'm beginning to believe y'all aren't really enlightened at all, and not ready to learn.

I went through this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6385801/two-months-after-wedding-no#98489107 and I realized that it's either it's only children that are filled on this forum or baby adults. Including the poster. Talking about cheating on her because he's fade up. So you married her just because of sex okwa ya?

If you are a man here, and you're in this same boat with this poster, your woman is suffering from a condition called VAGINISMUS. It can be a medical condition or emotional.

The assignment I'm giving y'all is to research it. Read everything there is to know about it. Y'all should stop being foolishly ignorant.

Women go through a lot, they tend to not speak up because no one will believe them. They're the strongest being I've ever seen.

So before you bash a woman for being afraid of intercourse, kindly research the cause of it. Y'all problem is that you're impatient and selfish. It's always about you, not giving a damn what your partner might be going through. Once that thing in between your legs rises, nothing else matters. So pathetic.

Magnoliaa:


Lol... And was I saying anything about the woman being helpless or "useless" or not doing anything in the marriage? You wouldn't expect your wife to leave you to go solve your sexual or financial problems, would you? You would prefer her not to do anything when you're having issues because, she's not supposed to do everything?

Magnoliaa:


Ok. If you cannot get my point of cooperation and working hand-in-hand, fine.

JONNYSPUTE:
...You weren't saying she is useless but you were implying it. See any sensible woman who wants to save her marriage wouldn't even want her husband to start suspecting she is having issues inrespect of sex except she is not sexually attracted to him.

My stance is that a good woman should start solving or looking for ways to sort her self out before involving the husband. The husband can only be said to be selfish if he refused to follow up her issues after putting him on the know.

Magnoliaa:



Seriously @bolded?? ?? ?? Implying. Oh. You were asking me a question when you are fixed on your belief. Like I said, it's fine. Choose to see it how you want to. I don't believe marriage should be a place where we still try to live as we once were when we where single. If everybody is going to start solving their ish independently, no p.

The other texts in bold, how can she be sexually attracted to a man without him working her up to it? So, at the end of the day, the husband is still supposed to DO something, isn't it?

There's really no way for a woman to know if she has vaginismus except when engaging in penetrative acts, so the husband/boyfriend will come to know as at time she's finding out. Whether married or dating, it is something for both partners to work through together.

It is not every woman that'll know about it when they are single to work on it. And even when she knows and doesn't do anything it, I'm sure wouldn't have been consenting to sex at the initial stage of dating or would have been experiencing pain - why will you go ahead to stay with her or marry her to be suspecting her of cheating or leaving her to deal with it?

Cutehector:
Prick no dey send all these bullsheet.. Its job is to drill and drill it shall. Your inability to be wet is your personal problem.

Shortyyy:


I used to see you as an educated person, but alas.