Shelumiel:
Oga, her biological clock is ticking. So do the right thing and propose to her. Simple

Jeff121212:


She's in her mind d twenties and she said she doesn't want to settle down until she starts her business and gets it running.

Shelumiel:
Well give her time to do as she pleases. But still ask her after a year.

Jeff121212:

I'm not sure I can stay celibate with a woman living under the same roof with me for a year bro

JackStephans:
So Her pastor deems her squatting with a guy ok, but bleeping unholy abi?.. Hasn't she got female friends or family?

SimplyFacts:
Does she tell her Pastor she's staying with a man? No, I guessed.

Ere ki laja n b'ekun se?

We are reading a rape story or allegation soon.

Jeff121212:
Guys I'm pretty popular on nairaland but to avoid banters, I created this account. Do pardon my typos and mistakes, I'll try to be as brief as possible.

I dated this girl for like a year and during that period we sure did have intercourse frequently. After a while we broke up because according to her, she lost feelings for me. I pleaded but she insisted that her decision was absolute so I let it slide.

Recently, I became better than I was financially, way better. I wouldn't want to attribute her coming back to it but she did come back and we got talking again.

About a month ago she said she had accomodation issues and pleaded to move in with me. I obliged. We became as close as we were when we were dating (,or so it seems to me).

I noticed that she changed churches and she is more fervent now. Although it didn't change much, we still do get intimate in the heat of it but for about a week or so now, she refused to give in to my advances. I confronted her and she said her pastor asked her not to.

Now the issue is I'm a one woman man who doesn't believe in philandering (sleeping around). Coupled with her living with me, I'm lost as to how to address this issue. I need suggestions guys, I really do like her and would love to settle down with her (God willing).

Thanks Guys

About a month ago she said she had accomodation issues and pleaded to move in with me. I obliged. We became as close as we were when we were dating (,or so it seems to me).

1beat:
you will regret if you marry the girl I don't see true love between you

Jeff121212:

I'm not sure I can stay celibate with a woman living under the same roof with me for a year bro

beehivedata:
This girl is just using u to fix her accommodation challenge and she's just tired of paying with sex for it. The onus lies with you. You say u really care about her and want to settle down with her God-willing but she isn't ready to settle until she starts a business. Lemme guess, you're already thinking of setting up a business for her. Lol. My brother, you're on a long tin. She'll use u to live in a free house and get a business set up as a bonus so that when she's financially strong, she'll tell u bye bye. Na that time u go dey hear more about "my pastor dis, my pastor dat". Can't the pastor give her money to start business and accommodate her? . Just let her be for now and don't fall for any of her gimmicks to make u keep spending money. Meanwhile, confront her that you are no longer cool with the way things her. I'm sure one of the reasons u were cool with her staying is cos u saw it as an opportunity for you both to come back together. Now after when it seems like things are finally coming into places relationship wise between u two, she distances herself in the name of "pastor". Ask her what u and her are doing cos u need to know. And that u plan to rent the room out. That she telling u how long she intends staying will help you know when to put it up for rent. Or that a family member of yours is planning to come live with u to learn a trade or something. Just to make her see that you have plans for the apartment rather than giving it out for free to her and getting toyed with. In the end, the girl is just a user. Especially cos like u said, u have true intentions towards her but she's not entirely reciprocating.

SavageResponse:


The only reason you let her move in with you is so you can be getting sex regularly, now that she has said no you're now having issues with the arrangement

Shelumiel:
Well give her time to do as she pleases. But still ask her after a year.

Jeff121212:
Guys I'm pretty popular on nairaland but to avoid banters, I created this account. Do pardon my typos and mistakes, I'll try to be as brief as possible.

I dated this girl for like a year and during that period we sure did have intercourse frequently. After a while we broke up because according to her, she lost feelings for me. I pleaded but she insisted that her decision was absolute so I let it slide.

Recently, I became better than I was financially, way better. I wouldn't want to attribute her coming back to it but she did come back and we got talking again.

About a month ago she said she had accomodation issues and pleaded to move in with me. I obliged. We became as close as we were when we were dating (,or so it seems to me).

I noticed that she changed churches and she is more fervent now. Although it didn't change much, we still do get intimate in the heat of it but for about a week or so now, she refused to give in to my advances. I confronted her and she said her pastor asked her not to.

Now the issue is I'm a one woman man who doesn't believe in philandering (sleeping around). Coupled with her living with me, I'm lost as to how to address this issue. I need suggestions guys, I really do like her and would love to settle down with her (God willing).

Thanks Guys

femi4:
Stop fornicating!
She wanted to stop but you are just a bad influence on her making her submit to her weaknesses

Jeff121212:
Guys I'm pretty popular on nairaland but to avoid banters, I created this account. Do pardon my typos and mistakes, I'll try to be as brief as possible.

I dated this girl for like a year and during that period we sure did have intercourse frequently. After a while we broke up because according to her, she lost feelings for me. I pleaded but she insisted that her decision was absolute so I let it slide.

Recently, I became better than I was financially, way better. I wouldn't want to attribute her coming back to it but she did come back and we got talking again.

About a month ago she said she had accomodation issues and pleaded to move in with me. I obliged. We became as close as we were when we were dating (,or so it seems to me).

I noticed that she changed churches and she is more fervent now. Although it didn't change much, we still do get intimate in the heat of it but for about a week or so now, she refused to give in to my advances. I confronted her and she said her pastor asked her not to.

Now the issue is I'm a one woman man who doesn't believe in philandering (sleeping around). Coupled with her living with me, I'm lost as to how to address this issue. I need suggestions guys, I really do like her and would love to settle down with her (God willing).

Thanks Guys

Jeff121212:


Did I forget to mention that I'm literally footing all her bills?
We're both adults, she doesn't let me even talk to other ladies without getting jealous. How am I supposed to handle my urges?