Hello all,

So I want advice on this.

Background is I am the average guy that was very broke in the past, jobless for some time, doing my little hustling, and now after some big breaks doing well (thanks to God). There are many of my guys we were all hustling together, for some, things are better, for some, not yet. Along to the way to my present position, I've made lots of new, well off friends, in professional and social circles.

I'm comfortable been with very rich friends who can spend 1m in a day, at the same time also comfortable going to bukka with my other guys for 200 naira eba and okro soup. I dont use money to judge if someone is a friend. Now some people have been advising that this is naive, and I should maintain my new social class. There is some truth there because I've experienced a few drag downs, but overall it's still ok.

So if I am getting married now, all the rich guys want to show up for me, do I invite some friends who are still gathering themselves? Is it unfair to them to ask them to be groomsmen? Or to ask them to pay xx amount for clothes? I've toyed with the idea of paying for those who dont have enough, dunno if that makes sense.

One person fi dey ask me 10k support, the other one go dey invite me for event wey go chop 500k. Loyalty is a big value for me, so I guess that's why I still hold dear all my old guys. I notice the well off are sometimes snobbish, or want to maintain certain standards. In the past, I might have thought that was bad, but with some experience, I also understand why people do that.

What's the best way to handle these different types of friends?

What's the best way to handle these different types of friends?
Thanks

. I dont use money to judge if someone is a friend.

do I invite some friends who are still gathering themselves

Don't you think your claim is contradicting?

The moment you even start thinking of leaving some other guys out of your invite because they don't have enough already shows you discriminate.

Be humble man. Tables will turn.

boss, I'm only interested in knowing how the big break came about.
I'm currently in need of a big break but nothing seems to be working.
I'm a civil engineering graduate.

All my friends are poor

I don't even have a rich one

i stick with d rich and leave d poor in d mud. if my poor friends takes dis as an offence den we shouldnt be friends in d first place

Officialgarri:



Don't you think your claim is contradicting?

Yes it is contradicting, I think that is the essence of why I am feeling conflicted. I want to invite them. But is it fair to them? If I dont have much, and my guy is inviting me to come and spend a lot of money, I wont be comfortable.. In that moment, that isnt helping me life. So should I just invite them anyway, and they'll sort themselves out? Some of these guys ask me for support from time to time, or even owe me. Its no wahala, I know they'll return when they have.

Am still broke nw i cant give u any advice.

Marinog:
Hello all,

So I want advice on this.

Background is I am the average guy that was very broke in the past, jobless for some time, doing my little hustling, and now after some big breaks doing well (thanks to God). There are many of my guys we were all hustling together, for some, things are better, for some, not yet. Along to the way to my present position, I've made lots of new, well off friends, in professional and social circles.

I'm comfortable been with very rich friends who can spend 1m in a day, at the same time also comfortable going to bukka with my other guys for 200 naira eba and okro soup. I dont use money to judge if someone is a friend. Now some people have been advising that this is naive, and I should maintain my new social class. There is some truth there because I've experienced a few drag downs, but overall it's still ok.

So if I am getting married now, all the rich guys want to show up for me, do I invite some friends who are still gathering themselves? Is it unfair to them to ask them to be groomsmen? Or to ask them to pay xx amount for clothes? I've toyed with the idea of paying for those who dont have enough, dunno if that makes sense.

One person fi dey ask me 10k support, the other one go dey invite me for event wey go chop 500k. Loyalty is a big value for me, so I guess that's why I still hold dear all my old guys. I notice the well off are sometimes snobbish, or want to maintain certain standards. In the past, I might have thought that was bad, but with some experience, I also understand why people do that.

What's the best way to handle these different types of friends?

When you are growing friends will be dropping anyone that drop don't go back to him and if he call don't pick

Invite who you deem fit.. there is nothing like friendship.

Any friendship that isn't adding any benefit to my life isn't deserved to call a friend.

So far,all I got is family.

With all sincerity bro, you'll only be good as the people who surround you. Having a large number of people around you doesn't actually mean they are your friends.

My advice for you is that you separate yourself from those broke people as they'll subconsciously serve as an hindrance to your progress due to their incessant requests. Believe it or not, the people you move around with have a huge influence on you and also determine your outcome. You should only keep around you the people who are beneficial.

This thread should give you some insight:

https://www.nairaland.com/6425951/machiavellian-tactics-bitter-life-lessons

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Neither turn your back on nor discard your struggling friends. If you can help them, do so.

I believe my day1 niggas till the day they turn their back on me, cos they've been with me at my worst moments, em new class niggas only hang out cos of what you have at the moment....

l don't have rich friends maybe when l start mingling with the rich l will get to be of help to you

Marinog:
Hello all,

So I want advice on this.

Background is I am the average guy that was very broke in the past, jobless for some time, doing my little hustling, and now after some big breaks doing well (thanks to God). There are many of my guys we were all hustling together, for some, things are better, for some, not yet. Along to the way to my present position, I've made lots of new, well off friends, in professional and social circles.

I'm comfortable been with very rich friends who can spend 1m in a day, at the same time also comfortable going to bukka with my other guys for 200 naira eba and okro soup. I dont use money to judge if someone is a friend. Now some people have been advising that this is naive, and I should maintain my new social class. There is some truth there because I've experienced a few drag downs, but overall it's still ok.

So if I am getting married now, all the rich guys want to show up for me, do I invite some friends who are still gathering themselves? Is it unfair to them to ask them to be groomsmen? Or to ask them to pay xx amount for clothes? I've toyed with the idea of paying for those who dont have enough, dunno if that makes sense.

One person fi dey ask me 10k support, the other one go dey invite me for event wey go chop 500k. Loyalty is a big value for me, so I guess that's why I still hold dear all my old guys. I notice the well off are sometimes snobbish, or want to maintain certain standards. In the past, I might have thought that was bad, but with some experience, I also understand why people do that.

What's the best way to handle these different types of friends?

Maintain your class. You can try to help and be cool to those who were there for you jn your humble days but still be careful. Misery loves company

I dont have any rich friend at all. I'm not talking about yahoo boys. Like you came from a wealthy family,na 2005 i get ,no be now. Na poor wrerched bastards i get as friends who dey drive glk,avalon but their family house na mud house.

Loyalty is all I look for and its getting rare this days. And I hardly borrow folks money, I'll rather teach you how to fish, so the undesired ones eliminate themselves by their laziness. Anybody who drops loyal friends because of mundane things like money/marriage/immigration/class is not worth keeping around, A dog is better than them. Life is not all about money & class, but most won't learn until its too late.

Marinog:
Hello all,

So I want advice on this.

Background is I am the average guy that was very broke in the past, jobless for some time, doing my little hustling, and now after some big breaks doing well (thanks to God). There are many of my guys we were all hustling together, for some, things are better, for some, not yet. Along to the way to my present position, I've made lots of new, well off friends, in professional and social circles.

I'm comfortable been with very rich friends who can spend 1m in a day, at the same time also comfortable going to bukka with my other guys for 200 naira eba and okro soup. I dont use money to judge if someone is a friend. Now some people have been advising that this is naive, and I should maintain my new social class. There is some truth there because I've experienced a few drag downs, but overall it's still ok.

So if I am getting married now, all the rich guys want to show up for me, do I invite some friends who are still gathering themselves? Is it unfair to them to ask them to be groomsmen? Or to ask them to pay xx amount for clothes? I've toyed with the idea of paying for those who dont have enough, dunno if that makes sense.

One person fi dey ask me 10k support, the other one go dey invite me for event wey go chop 500k. Loyalty is a big value for me, so I guess that's why I still hold dear all my old guys. I notice the well off are sometimes snobbish, or want to maintain certain standards. In the past, I might have thought that was bad, but with some experience, I also understand why people do that.

What's the best way to handle these different types of friends?

My guy as your level keeps going up, you will notice the following with rich and struggling friends.

Rich friends aren't loyal (most of them), they may steal an opportunity or idea from you and impliment it, and may not compromise their lifestyle for you, mostly they don't care about you but the strategic advantage you bring to them etc

Struggling friends may act loyal, just to fit in and not get you offended, else they lose their support structure (most of them), all your suggestions are okay and the likes, Some are always putting their problems on you and will not seek for tangible ways to become financially independent etc

My advice

Search among your rich and struggling folks sincerity; the willingness to remain true and want to be right and honest in all they do, only keep this kinds close and mingle with them.

Not perfection, bkos everyone is a work in progress, even more importantly you cannot be going up and be keeping certain struggling or rich friends, you will have to edit your circles to keep people of integrity, else your attacks will come from friends without character, opportunist, pretender's etc.

You should edit your circles along your lines of convictions, you cannot love God and keep friends who don't, you cannot love hardwork and appreciate process and entertain those who don't, bkos friendship influences big time.

There's a lot to talk about, but I hope this helps.

SKhanmi:
Loyalty is all I look for and its getting rare this days. And I hardly borrow folks money, I'll rather teach you how to fish, so the undesired ones eliminate themselves by their laziness. Anybody who drops loyal friends because of mundane things like money/marriage/immigration/class is not worth keeping around, A dog is better than them. Life is not all about money & class, but most won't learn until its too late.

come and teach me how to fish

I never turned my back on my Niggas that were still hustling, when they came up they held me in my time of crisis. That's life.

Because I was loyal they paid same to me even in abundance.

Mind you i got rich friends. Not just rich I'm talking trust fund guys and ladies sitting on over #400M funds to their name.

And you know rich people can be nosy, self centered. I deal with them on that level, same time i roll with my G's from way back.

It's all About loyalty & balance.

Tillatalk:
come and teach me how to fish

Didn't see this. Check the 5th to the last of my posts. Read up the thread. If interested, contact the owner of the thread for training to speed you up to date. Then I can mentor you from that stage.

Keep both but limit the time you spend with the poor ones.

I don't really Ave friends but colleagues...most of them are great financially...

Few are struggling tho...and I look after them

Who cares what you have and don't have.



So far you get sense and you're humble sha, we go vibe well.

SKhanmi:
Loyalty is all I look for and its getting rare this days. And I hardly borrow folks money, I'll rather teach you how to fish, so the undesired ones eliminate themselves by their laziness. Anybody who drops loyal friends because of mundane things like money/marriage/immigration/class is not worth keeping around, A dog is better than them. Life is not all about money & class, but most won't learn until its too late.

Loyal friends are more valuable than some relatives

I never responded to this. Thank you, this is very good advice.

Yusufisraelj:


My guy as your level keeps going up, you will notice the following with rich and struggling friends.

Rich friends aren't loyal (most of them), they may steal an opportunity or idea from you and impliment it, and may not compromise their lifestyle for you, mostly they don't care about you but the strategic advantage you bring to them etc

Struggling friends may act loyal, just to fit in and not get you offended, else they lose their support structure (most of them), all your suggestions are okay and the likes, Some are always putting their problems on you and will not seek for tangible ways to become financially independent etc

My advice

Search among your rich and struggling folks sincerity; the willingness to remain true and want to be right and honest in all they do, only keep this kinds close and mingle with them.

Not perfection, bkos everyone is a work in progress, even more importantly you cannot be going up and be keeping certain struggling or rich friends, you will have to edit your circles to keep people of integrity, else your attacks will come from friends without character, opportunist, pretender's etc.

You should edit your circles along your lines of convictions, you cannot love God and keep friends who don't, you cannot love hardwork and appreciate process and entertain those who don't, bkos friendship influences big time.

There's a lot to talk about, but I hope this helps.

Marinog:
I never responded to this. Thank you, this is very good advice.

Welcome sir

SKhanmi:


Didn't see this. Check the 5th to the last of my posts. Read up the thread. If interested, contact the owner of the thread for training to speed you up to date. Then I can mentor you from that stage.

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