Dear All,

Am a christian and my boyfriend is a moslem he wants us to get married and am so scared what do you all think should i accept his proposal am so confused.
He wants me to remain a christain while he practices his religion and we should be happy in the house without problems. i love this guy so much i need you candid opinion everyone i would appreciate a good response. thanks

1st i want to say i'm a strong believer of the fact that true love knows no religion, language, tribe or colour, it just breaks all barriers and obeys no law or custom.
hey wait there, yes a serious one, there is need to look left and right before you go on and cross that line. its really very important you know this. where will you guys be living, up in the north or down here in the south/west? this is so important because of the devilish influence of the north and the madness that goes on freely in the air out there. else your love might just be another useless sacrifice. abi what does it profit anyone if you go on and love him while you guys are going to be up there in the north and then someday he is brainwashed that you are an infidel and thus should be slaughtered as an animal? impossible she? well thats if you are going to be living down here in the west or south(Lagos especially)
then also you need rto be convinced the guy is trully educated not that he went to school but trully educated well enough to understand that you are worth more than your colour,race and even religion, that we are who we are not where we are from or what we do.
then also you need to consider his family influence.
tick this three correct, then i would say jump into it dear and enjoy a blissful relationship but word of caution do not decieve yourself for that would be the worst thing. be very sincere even if it would hurt you what your answers are after your analysis. remember its your future and life we are talking here not story land

WTF. . Are you out of your mind?

You can't even spell it, it's muslim not 'moslem'

@georgem
seconded.

Marry him and you'll have to be a Muslim and raise your kids as Muslims, if that is fine by you then you have no problem. If you believe him that he'll allow you to practice your religion then you are surely living in fools paradise very soon the current heat will cool off and you'll be faced with reality.? A word is enough for the wise

tunnytox:

Marry him and you'll have to be a Muslim and raise your kids as Muslims, if that is fine by you then you have no problem. If you believe him that he'll allow you to practice your religion then you are surely living in fools paradise very soon the current heat will cool off and you'll be faced with reality.? A word is enough for the wise

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gbam.

Deluded man for a deluded woman. What will you do when you have children ?

@ poster

go ahead and marry the guy if you really love him. love is really strong,
hope you have a blissful married life
be humble be noble
don't criticise anything pertaining to his religion
and practise being a christian but don't become a freak or go the extra mile of trying to convert him( since he hasn't tried to convert you
one problem though( which i hope you will let be)
is that for sure your children will be Muslims
that you cant stop
good luck

If you are a CHRISTian,then who are you supposed to seek HIS opinion?

It MUSLIM not moslem, gosh it is like a different world. Anyway I think you should consider your values, and your family's values first. If you love him you can marry him of course, but know what you are getting into. Not that I am saying you will be in trouble, because NO matter what anybody says MUSLIM husbands are very awesome. Just make you sure you are prepared first.

Hello all,

I said u all should advice and not insult

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You can't even spell it, it's muslim not 'moslem' @ pweetyme; i think you should have not bothered at all to write anything.
@ everyone thanks for your advice i will follow my heart and pray to God.

wee2 don't worry what they say, it is usually the ones who have no GOD that believe those things about muslims, moost of us are taught about respect, if he didn't ask you to convert he wont do it unless it's out of your own freewill also it's good if both of you can learn about each others religions, it makes things easier as we are living in a world of misconceptions

if u are prepared to become a muslima nd train ur children in d muslim way den u can go ahead, buh if ur values and ideals dont ff d muslim way pls help urself by opting out. Cuz even if ur hubby wnts to support u, he mite get influenced by his ppl so tink twice

Moslem and muslim are both in d dictionary, mean d same thing. Seriously pple shld google spellings b4 commenting @wee the bible says do not be unequally yoked. 4get all love-love follow ur heart thing, use ur head too. One of u has to convert for it to be peaceful or u seperate. Word!

bobeefc:

Moslem and muslim are both in d dictionary, mean d same thing. Seriously pple shld google spellings b4 commenting @wee the bible says do not be unequally yoked. 4get all love-love follow your heart thing, use your head too. One of u has to convert for it to be peaceful or u seperate. Word!

we also pronounce it as mslm,mouslim,moslm,mouslem,muslem,muslm,msalam etc., same words

Go ahead, marry him! Gudluck gal

@ poster,
I think your finance loves and respects you a lot which is why he’s letting you practice your religion. As a Muslim myself, I want to let you know that he has shifted a lot of ground on his side and you should appreciate that cos not very many Muslim guys will like to marry outside their religion.

It’s the misconception about Islam and Muslims that has generated some of this kind of fears.

I’ll tell you something, a Muslim friend of mine traveled to the US and after getting there got engaged to and married a Christian American lady. Less than a year after they got married, she of her own will decided to be a Muslim, to cut short the story, the lady’s sister and her mother eventually became Muslims too. It is my sincere hope that you shall see the real Islam through your fiancé.
Wishing you the best of luck

Living as couple practicing different religions is not without its challenges but also is not impossible if both you and your fiance are preparing yourself to learn and constantly trying to reach out to the other with patience depth and tenderness
Each one of you must remember each day that the person with whom you sharing your life comes with his or her own history wounds sensitivities and hope I hope you guys learn to listen to understand to observe and to stay away from the fanatics from both side who might have a hidden agenda to convert you and lure you to their religion

U've done d right thing by going 2 with ur heart.but i just want u 2 know dat luv is stronger than religion so make d religion d last 2 consider.u need 2 convince urself dat his d right person 4 u cos if u made d right step,u've made a paradise from earth.i pray u made d right decision.lol

I go to the mosque while my wife goes to the church. Occassionally, I drive her to the church. Every morning, she wakes me up for morning devotion, when I feel like, I join her, sometimes, I tell her to let me sleep and just pray for me. However, I don't invite her to the mosque, religion and salvation is a personal thing. We are very happy together. Some of her/my friends (both christians and moslems) who are married to people of same religion still tell us about their marital problems. We are so grateful to GOD for bringing us together. GOD is truly one.

@poster.go buy their bead (for prayer), rubber kettle (for washin their ish) and mat (for salutation). Arm urself wit these becos e clear say ur ready 2becom a musulumi.

@OP

height of naivete


smh

OP

Congratulations.

OP.
CONGRATS

firstly,with all faithfulness ISLAM IS A RELIGION OF PEACE.forget the crisis in the north or rather ask ur self are there no muslim in the U.S or Lagos?ever heard of religious crisis there,my point = we in this part of the world have are misconcepted many things with religion.to ur topic,consider his religious & cultural belief,family among others but please not the religion but how he does it.rember Rev.king saga,so its not just muslim.THE MOST IMPORTANT IS THE LOVE.

If sincerely u luv d guy go ahead and marry him. Gettin married 2a fellow xtain doesn't gaurantee a sucesfu marriage, so just ensure u both understand each oda very well, communicate, trust nd above all lov each. Know dis 'it is different stroke 4different folks' i pray urs b a hapi endin ever afta, So gudluck 2u,

If sincerely u luv d guy go ahead and marry him. Gettin married 2a fellow xtain doesn't gaurantee a sucesfu marriage, so just ensure u both understand each oda very well, communicate, trust nd above all lov each. Know dis 'it is different stroke 4different folks' i pray urs b a hapi endin ever afta, So gudluck 2u,

Poster,
a dude proposes and you run to nairaland for advise.
did you tell him to wait for you to get an answer from nairaland before you accept or reject his proposal?
In other words, what did you say when he proposed? Because I think you may already have accepted the proposal. If so why this post? But if you have not yet accepted, here is one thought for you:
1. People say love is blind, No! Use your head! Always use your head. Am glad you are using your head cos if you weren't you wouldn't post this here.

2. Is he a northern Muslim? If yes please keep away. After hearing the bau hi governor dismiss corners death as destiny, I came to the conclusion that life means nothing to them.
3. If he is southern muslim, you may go ahead. If seen very educated and liberal Yoruba Muslim men in a fantastic relationship with Christian women. And your kids most likely wouldbe Muslims.
4. Always use hour head to make decidions. I use mine and havensver regretted it.
5. Goodluck with the decision you make infuture