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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by anigbajumo(m): 3:44pm On Jun 15, 2021
gregyboy:



Thanks to nairaland if not for nairaland
We men would have been at mercy of our money... By our ladies chaii

The questib is why do ladies fuckfor money and if you call them olosho they will deniel it
And rather point to the ones on the street


She probably bleeped them both fir less than 10k

Seems we have to go back to the ages were ladies are totally subjected to our rules this freedom they have they are abusing it



I don't understand, am taking care of her as if am her father. The two guys were to be her exs' when she was in secondary school. They met on Facebook exchange watsapp contact and tricked her for penny. Right now her sister is on my DM on watsapp begging me to accept her back, I don't knw if it's by force to date. If the begging is too much, I will block her. My guy 98% of them are coded olosho, just that many were smart and dribble their BF so they av not been caught.

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by anigbajumo(m): 3:47pm On Jun 15, 2021
Kirkman:

Don't listen or succumb to any begging o! Thank God she was exposed now and not later in marriage. She allowed greed and material things to take over her senses. You were ably providing for her needs, what else did she want again? Let her go back in peace to her sister and start searching for someone new and whilst you are at it confiscate the 40k phone that you got for her it's now the property of the Federal government (you) the tenure of girlfriend or supposed wife to be has elapsed.

The begging is too much, am thinking of blocking her number right now. As am typing right now she's even calling, I don't bother to read her messages any more. Once it entered, I press delete button instantly.

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by charlsecy(m): 3:53pm On Jun 15, 2021
Draslo:
Advise - Verb
Advice - Noun.
In American English, I think it's the other way round.
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by gregyboy(m): 3:58pm On Jun 15, 2021
Kaybae:
Not all Ladies.....

That's their headache, most ladies had their fun fucking rich guys on campus and giving attitude to the broke bro's


When we have d money to have our fun we will use our money to Bleep youngster our wives did same fucking niggas for money too,when they had tge chance

See the other thread were a guy was trying to woo a lady she was giving attitude as soon as the lady saw his car she went to his dm to say hi, pure olosho moves

If he was really a broke dude he will never see the lady's attention ever again so were is true love...

So when we men get married lets us cheat in peace afterall we are mercyful enough to our wives not to have our side chick as second wives and yet we are not cheating with their money unlike when women cheat they cheat with fellow men money

So why strsss us

If you're a married man you aint cheating you are not using your privilege most ladies exploited their olosholism in their time, while they trying to talk down on you exploiting for yours

If she cheat because you cheated have her dumped to her father's house when her kid grows up they would love to hear her excuse of her olosho doing

No lady should take offense if men cheat they should see it as pure mercy for not having them replaced by side chick most ladies would replace a broke nigga with a rich dude without thinking twice

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by kushme: 4:11pm On Jun 15, 2021
gregyboy:



Leave that bullshit so many men never had their fun of life, when they were young bcus ladies demanded the impossible from them finically they gave sex and love to whom had the money

I know countless of ladies that have abandoned good guys for a money bagging dudes and i have seen ladies who gave hard time to struggling guys but soon as these guys make it the ladies begin to rush them....


Ladies had their fun earlier than guys if you were a lady and u fuvked based on the pocket of a guy then karma awaits you in your marriage


Are you going to tell me ladies with their sane mind would be attracted to married men, they are simply doing it for the money and fun not for feelings, you are complaining because youre the victim....

If cheat in marriage have to stop it would have start from ladies and their love for financial desires in men

Am fucking gonna cheat, and have my fun, since am not opportune to be having the fun now because of my financial disabilities

This what I am talking about. Better oil dey your head. Illustrious son.

Sometimes, I laugh young men wey dey say to cheat na bad thing.. Na because dem never get dough and some no get style to follow up the game... Men don't cheat, there is nothing like that.

Men just fvck other females when they could do it.. Man fit give plenty women belle in one year but woman only carry one belle in one year...

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by gregyboy(m): 4:22pm On Jun 15, 2021
kushme:


This what I am talking about. Better oil dey your head. Illustrious son.

Sometimes, I laugh young men wey dey say to cheat na bad thing.. Na because dem never get dough and some no get style to follow up the game... Men don't cheat, there is nothing like that.

Men just fvck other females when they could do it.. Man fit give plenty women belle in one year but woman only carry one belle in one year...


Women should be at our mercy instead dragging us out for cheat

Men don't literally cheat only women cheat

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by abike12(f): 4:23pm On Jun 15, 2021
AloneTK:


I agree with you Sis.
If I may ask, would you advice a male friend to marry a stingy woman?
I'm curious because I feel both should compliment eachother.

No, I would not advice a friend to marry a stingy woman either. Life is about give and take and either spouse can be a destiny helper to the other one. Either of them should have an attitude of service toward the other person but the bible is clear on whose primary responsibility it is to provide. I use the word primary because I don't expect any woman in this day and age to not contribute to the household as well.
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by AloneTK: 4:25pm On Jun 15, 2021
abike12:


No, I would not advice a friend to marry a stingy woman either. Life is about give and take and either spouse can be a destiny helper to the other one. Either of them should have an attitude of service toward the other person but the bible is clear on whose primary responsibility it is to provide. I use the word primary because I don't expect any woman in this day and age to not contribute to the household as well.

Fact!
You just confirmed my philosophy about the subject.
Thank you.
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by 1Sharon(f): 4:32pm On Jun 15, 2021
Mecka:
I'm different. Give me great sex in all positions and i'm all yours

Then you'd get bored...
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by ogubolokento(m): 4:37pm On Jun 15, 2021
Go get a girl or pay a man,impregnant her, take care of the child and move on cos the fake attitude of women after marriage is much

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by gregyboy(m): 5:04pm On Jun 15, 2021
Kaybae:
Thanks sir, but to be honest, I am not the type, I do pray one prayer point that I want my children to live the kind of life I lived when I was growing up, the only man I know and will forever know in my life is my husband, I married at the age of 24, immediate I graduated before National youth service, and my husband was 10years older, to cut the story short, I dated him for 2yrs before marriage and I went into relationship when I felt I was ready then because that was my vow, so I'm not the type and my husband cherished me alot, just that as a woman, your flesh will react when you see your man being intimate with another, though on phone, and to be sincere, I do tell him whenever he is traveling back to his base that if at all u can't hold your body, please use condom cos I know it's a man, and we see on public holidays, he stays far.......So am not seeking unnecessary attention on this.


Wow am astonished, most ladies have messed the society we let them have back in the days ladies were betrothed and we saw it as inhumane and we decided to say not anymore
Our daughters should marry who they want
We stop polygamy to ease things out for our women we stop all practice that was unfair to women

But these days we men are now at the mercy of the women we tried to give equal right to
They have decayed the society with their unclothedness we men cant even caution them anymore, they sleep and cheat with who they want especially for money not even for love their pride has female is governed by money

But none them advanced to be self dependent just imagine we men are facing all this now despite our financial contributions to our homes and imagine when the female are now doing same in equal contributions we would forever be at their mercy

If Everylady was your type there would be sanity in our culture and society everyman would know the appropriate time to seek for relationship from his dream lady if men cheat then he would be called out for it

Men are now well dressed than females this days is it the ladies that wears tight out and raise their shirt so their buttocks would be viable all to be yanshed by the highest bidder
Like an olosho
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Kaybae(f): 5:12pm On Jun 15, 2021
Rubbiish:

The bold is sad...
What went wrong?
Could he have changed just like that?
. I do stay off his phone right from onset but never knew what pushed me to his phone lately, my biggest Mistake though, to be honest I do expect that cos we see once in blue moon but curiosity kills the cat........ Though he said something out of anger but really sober now.... I caused it by checking his phone, should have continue to stay clear of.

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Kaybae(f): 5:20pm On Jun 15, 2021
gregyboy:



Wow am astonished, most ladies have messed the society we let them have back in the days ladies were betrothed and we saw it as inhumane and we decided to say not anymore
Our daughters should marry who they want
We stop polygamy to ease things out for our women we stop all practice that was unfair to women

But these days we men are now at the mercy of the women we tried to give equal right to
They have decayed the society with their unclothedness we men cant even caution them anymore, they sleep and cheat with who they want especially for money not even for love their pride has female is governed by money

But none them advanced to be self dependent just imagine we men are facing all this now despite our financial contributions to our homes and imagine when the female are now doing same in equal contributions we would forever be at their mercy

If Everylady was your type there would be sanity in our culture and society everyman would know the appropriate time to seek for relationship from his dream lady if men cheat then he would be called out for it

Men are now well dressed than females this days is it the ladies that wears tight out and raise their shirt so their buttocks would be viable all to be yanshed by the highest bidder
Like an olosho
I am from a Muslim home, though not using hijab but I trained myself , that is why my man cherished and adore me because he knows me,just that men will be men..... I don't believe in exposing body to look beautiful and I distance myself from any unholy relationship right from my teenage time. I don't do social media, my husband introduced me to this platform himself

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by gregyboy(m): 5:23pm On Jun 15, 2021
Kaybae:
. I do stay off his phone right from onset but never knew what pushed me to his phone lately, my biggest Mistake though, to be honest I do expect that cos we see once in blue moon but curiosity kills the cat........ Though he said something out of anger but really sober now.... I caused it by checking his phone, should have continue to stay clear of.

Stay clear off your partners phone for sanity sake we men become sexualy active when we become finically ok
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Nobody: 5:24pm On Jun 15, 2021
AutoChick4U:
She doesn't have a job at d point of marriage doesn't mean she won't get one. A lady might a job and decide to quit when pregnant.


Oga pls dont nag her out when she asks for everything...Your second statement is a different scenario, she will still get another one if she is zealous.
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by gregyboy(m): 5:28pm On Jun 15, 2021
Kaybae:
I am from a Muslim home, though not using hijab but I trained myself , that is why my man cherished and adore me because he knows me,just that men will be men..... I don't believe in exposing body to look beautiful and I distance myself from any unholy relationship right from my teenage time. I don't do social media, my husband introduced me to this platform himself

Dont take a man cheating to heart see it as nature and dont try to cheat back

If i had your type i would reconsider my manly privilege of cheating on my spouse since there is none sm gonna use my privilege
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Kaybae(f): 5:51pm On Jun 15, 2021
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gregyboy:


Dont take a man cheating to heart see it as nature and dont try to cheat back

If i had your type i would reconsider my manly privilege of cheating on my spouse since there is none sm gonna use my privilege

. I will never in my life cheat on my husband,, no matter what, I never did that in courtship while will I do that in marriage, any woman that does that is destroying the future of her children to be honest

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Mecka: 6:02pm On Jun 15, 2021
1Sharon:

Then you'd get bored...
how
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by kushme: 6:31pm On Jun 15, 2021
gregyboy:



Women should be at our mercy instead dragging us out for cheat

Nen don't literally cheat only women cheat



Straight up
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Strech(m): 6:42pm On Jun 15, 2021
AutoChick4U:
How come? Just say your wife does not like sex or find you attractive abeg
but you fit find me attractive na, so! How is it gonna be ?I fit do you all day non stop because the thing don too gather, I gather to offload.
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Nobody: 6:42pm On Jun 15, 2021
abike12:
Ladies, stay single until you find someone that respects you, respects women in general an uhis role as a husband in the Bible (if you're Christian). Don't ever marry a stingy man, there's no love without giving, especially with men.



You gurls just sit down n propagate fantasies as standard, what will a woman do with respect when her nature is a sucker for love.
If you believe in the bible, "where is it written husband respect your wife" you want a man that understand the bible while you live by your own theory grin reality await you.
As much as i support no woman should marry a stingy man i will also advise no man should marry a liability entitled wife, there is no marriage without support. marry a woman that can serve as backup @least.
Don't marry a gurl that thinks are only worthwhile gain in marriage is money undecided what a myopic reasoning

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by abike12(f): 7:27pm On Jun 15, 2021
larryjonze:




You gurls just sit down n propagate fantasies as standard, what will a woman do with respect when her nature is a sucker for love.
If you believe in the bible, "where is it written husband respect your wife" you want a man that understand the bible while you live by your own theory grin reality await you.
As much as i support no woman should marry a stingy man i will also advise no man should marry a liability entitled wife, there is no marriage without support. marry a woman that can serve as backup @least.
Don't marry a gurl that thinks are only worthwhile gain in marriage is money undecided what a myopic reasoning



Ladies, what I mean by respect is a man that won't come online to attack women like this person here. also, watch out for men that talk bad about their exes, or sisters or women in general. A man who sees no value in women can never make a good husband. Good luck to all.

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Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by sanmtiago(m): 7:29pm On Jun 15, 2021
Lolachef:
You are more useless sir.
if you’re not among the useless why did you retort to my comment? angry
Simpleton
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by austynbch(m): 7:35pm On Jun 15, 2021
Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this shocked Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.
Over wisdom.... Too much knowledge
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Strech(m): 7:45pm On Jun 15, 2021
Ninisun:



Na selfish wife she be! 1yr3months? hian.
Something is wrong somewhere cus dryness is when she no longer finds you attractive. Go and spark up your sex life o.
marriage is so over rated abeg. I don dey reason side chick make I forget her side.
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by streetfabulous: 7:50pm On Jun 15, 2021
Love is not a feeling, it is a decision. Don't wait to feel like, decide to Love anyhow. Once you see Love as a deliberate decision, you'll be alright.
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Nobody: 8:26pm On Jun 15, 2021
abike12:


Ladies, what I mean by respect is a man that won't come online to attack women like this person here. also, watch out for men that talk bad about their exes, or sisters or women in general. A man who sees no value in women can never make a good husband. Good luck to all.




Alol !! have you ever wondered what makes forbidden fruit unresistable, you tell a child not to go near fire n suddenly fire becums alluring grin they will not hear won ma'waa ijn grin
I wasnt expecting much from you anyway,i support ur advise n i think it should go both ways. men should just fvck & dump gurls that carry entitlement mentality. no marriage without collective support. reality await you abike grin
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Lamanii22(f): 9:23pm On Jun 15, 2021
SeunOshewaWife:


Lamanii22, please, disregard that advice. Do NOT insert anything into your vagina. Cervical cancer is real.


Oh wow... Thank you very much ma... I really appreciate you
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Lamanii22(f): 9:24pm On Jun 15, 2021
sofiscatedmoron:

Y d dryness


It's Inevitable... It's normal especially if you're breastfeeding.... P
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Lamanii22(f): 9:25pm On Jun 15, 2021
dimexy247:
Forget this one, na lie. If your puzzy gets dry, don't generalize it.

I wonder why people make a general assumption because of their personal episodes. Dry ko, dry hump ni


I said after a baby o... Especially if you're breastfeeding...
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Lolachef(f): 9:25pm On Jun 15, 2021
Ask your sisters buffoon
sanmtiago:
if you’re not among the useless why did you retort to my comment? angry
Simpleton
Re: Married People: What Advice Do You Have For Singles? by Lamanii22(f): 9:26pm On Jun 15, 2021
Dagger111:



Psychologically, you've made us know your marital problem. There's solution for such.

It's not a problem... It's a normal phase for a breastfeeding mom...

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