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Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by larrypourl(m): 9:13pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Let your mother enjoy herself and let your father also enjoyed his planned retirement. 1 Like |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by NoToPile: 9:31pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
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Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by NoToPile: 9:37pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
bukatyne: The stories are just too common. An elderly woman once told me that she can't be packing shit and taking care of her (seperated from and trying to do isonu reconciliation ) husband in old age when she never enjoyed his youth.' Let those he was with back then be with him in old age' 5 Likes |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by Eyeness: 9:41pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
bukatyne:I don't agree with point 1&2. No one owes his father anything. Life is not a cheap budget yoruba movie 4 Likes |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by Crossroad1(m): 9:44pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Eyeness:u dey vex I bro.. But truly, every one should own up to his actions. |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by Eyeness: 9:45pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Crossroad1:he made his bed, let him lie on it. This is the cost of being a deadbeat 3 Likes |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by mariahAngel(f): 9:50pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Eyeness: Did you experience a similar situation? |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by Kobojunkie: 10:15pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
NoToPile:Na wa oo! |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by Kobojunkie: 10:18pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
mariahAngel:There ought to be a whole novel series circulating all of Nigeria filed with these stories to help educate this and the next generation of men and women in Nigeria. It ought to be more popular than pacesetters and mills &boons combined. 3 Likes |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by mariahAngel(f): 10:22pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: No wonder so many young people (especially young men) are so angry. 1 Like |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by Kobojunkie: 10:34pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
mariahAngel:What bothers me most is that many of those raised in these homes turn around and repeat the mistakes of their parents before them rather than learn from them. 4 Likes |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by mariahAngel(f): 11:19pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Exactly. 1 Like |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by Kobojunkie: 11:25pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
mariahAngel:It boggles the mind how after all that suffering and pain, the children would turn around to repeat the same mistakes of their parents... 3 Likes |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by faithfull18(f): 7:23am On Sep 15, 2021 |
Some men always thinking they can eat their cake and have it. 3 Likes |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by NoToPile: 8:30am On Sep 15, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Yes Ooo. |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by Eyeness: 9:15am On Sep 15, 2021 |
mariahAngel:No, my father is still with my mom. I know what both sacrificed to put food on the table and send us to school, and make us useful members of society. As I got older, I am grateful for that. So someone who chooses instant gratification than to provide for the children he brought into this world deserves no pity and everything bit of bad luck that comes his way 2 Likes |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by MsFaith: 5:04am On Sep 21, 2021 |
cococandy:well spoken 1 Like |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by bepositive11: 4:42am On Sep 22, 2021 |
Crossroad1: Beautifully written. If your dad really wants what's best for your mom, he should let her be. She deserves all the happiness she can get. If he wasn't where he is right now, I doubt that he would be apologising and begging for forgiveness Men need to remember that their wrong actions will catch up with them. Your dad was so lucky to have a wonderful woman like your mom as a wife but he didn't see her value There's only so much a woman can and should tolerate. This is why it's important for a woman to be financially stable. That way, she won't tolerate any form of mistreatment from a man. Unfortunately, many women are stuck in abusive relationships because they can't fend for themselves financially 2 Likes |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by PuZZyNegro: 5:28am On Sep 22, 2021 |
Ishilove: Marriage remains one of the best mediums of bonding in traditional African societies. The ancient odesan (inter-cousin) marriage in Okaland and the arokun so omiye (conjugal union between relatives) in Akungba-Akoko played a key role in the strong bond between the different communities that make up the two prominent Akokoland towns. This marriage system has proved helpful in the survival of the traditional political institution and the overall progress of the two towns in the period of the study. Although this marriage system had been practiced as far as the history of the two towns are known, the period of its commencement is not the concern of this paper but the bond of kinship and fraternal ties it has engendered up till the late 1990s in the two towns. Through this marriage system, family members related to the throne of the two towns married close relatives which have produced strong extended bond among the different interest groups. In most cases, daughters of powerful chiefs with potential of creating serious problems for the throne were the ones married to either the king or relatives. This is what I found on Google from a research work on this Odesan practice in akoko. So, Odesan is an inter-cousin marriage which I think should be abolished by now. |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by PuZZyNegro: 5:35am On Sep 22, 2021 |
NoToPile: The world no balance. Men that truly worked to take care of their children don't live to reap their fruits in old age. Deadbeat fathers live to suffer the consequences of their actions. There's possibility that OPs father would have been dead if he had been the good, caring husband and father that we all expect all men to be. Life is not linear |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by Nobody: 6:08am On Sep 22, 2021 |
PuZZyNegro: Two questions for you... 1. would you rather be a dead beat dad and live long than be a responsible father and die early? 2. what kills a responsible father early that cannot kill a dead beat father in the same way? And the bolded is such a lie. A lie you tell yourself. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by Ishilove: 9:36am On Sep 22, 2021 |
PuZZyNegro:Thank you |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by PuZZyNegro: 4:47pm On Sep 22, 2021 |
Citygal: When you die early as a responsible father, your responsibility still falls on your wife which is not different from a deadbeat father. The only difference is knowing that you don't exist rather than you exist without providing. And yes, most men die struggling everyday to provide for their family. I am not endorsing deadbeat parents, just that there's no guarantee that the man will live to enjoy the fruit of his labor if he had been responsible. |
Re: My Family's Story, (my Mum Won This Time) by JovialJune(f): 8:58pm On Sep 22, 2021 |
PuZZyNegro: Are you trying to say that Op's dad being a deadbeat is actually better because he is alive? There are also good men who lived to enjoy the fruit of their labour and deadbeat dads who died early, so what is your point exactly? Deadbeat dads should be appreciated because they are alive? 3 Likes |
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