Romanoff:


You can tell the maid she's not to do it.

That's why it's even important to run tests on your maids before taking them.

Kobojunkie:
Are you saying your behavior did not change at all as a result of the abuse?

Kingpin1000:
Why won't a child's behaviour change

Kobojunkie:
You said that there was no way for your parents to have noticed because you weren't a gal and I wonder if you meant that that experience did not cause a change big enough for your parents to have noticed.
That's typically how parents notice these things... by monitoring change in behavior.

Kobojunkie:
Good fathers have no qualms kissing their sons and daughters on the lips
https://www.quora.com/At-what-age-should-fathers-stop-kissing-daughters-on-the-lips-Or-was-it-ever-appropriate

Kingpin1000:

Most times when female toddlers get molested, it's the mother who first notices, maybe while bathing the child.
mothers do examine their female kids to see if there's any mark of molestation the way they will be the first to notice if their daughter is pregnant sometimes even before the woman notices it and with interrogation the child will say what happened to her.
In a boy's case only few mothers will look out for any sign of molestation to her boy.
Also male children tend not to be too dramatic about situations like that, so far as they don't feel physical pain they tend not make it a big deal.
It becomes a big deal when the child doesn't like such play and you force the child by instilling fear in that child.

teemy:
Check time 1:16 to 2:12

Kobojunkie:
Why should I check a random video of some random guy whose opinions means nothing in the end?

illicit:
She is taking it too far

If a man can not kiss his daughter as such, why should a woman do such to her son

Remember that what a man can do, a woman can do worse

Midas01:
By your logic the man should breastfeed his son na since what a man can do a woman can do right ?

teemy:
@ topic, The OP made mention that a young girl in the house could see the expression of affection and want to replicate such. Tying to tell the girl otherwise could cause a form of confusion in her which she might decide on her own definition when she grows up. Yorubas have a word called 'boju mu' meaning appropriate.

Cheeks, foreheads are there and I sure did my own shave of kissing my kids but where appropriate which was why I could correct when one of them wanted to kiss a baby on the lips which did not make mummy and daddy kissing a confusing thing because I could define kissing on the lips as for lovers only.

The video excerpt was an extract to buttress 'boju mu'. wink*

Bornsinner7:
I see nothing wrong as it is her child.. that you were sexualy abused have left a scar in your memory but you have to deal with it..

Maybe you should let her understand your point of view rather than just prohibiting her authoritatively from the act...

Everybody loves the feel of the lips of babies bro.. don't be mad..

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused.

This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it.

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

I hope you also made sure he did not come in contact with her vagina during birth? Cos your house help might know that and make him touch her p@$#
Just kidding......
I understand your worries and she herself is a troublesome wife. Why can't she stop if she knows your story and worries? Some spouses are terrible partners. That said, if you decide to take serious action, please see it to the end cos if you surrender half way your wife will just think you are not worth listening to.

JovialJune:
Nothing wrong with it, she will stop when he is close to a year or like 9 months, I stopped kissing my babies when they started walking at 10 months, it is just a show of motherly affection.

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused.

This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it.

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

LANRYUS:


It is very wrong. I made that mistake and my son end up having tonsillitis. It took the intervention of God and medical care but now he has outgrown it. The reason is that there are some bacteria that adults has already developed immunity for which can easily become an issue for children.

euniquea:
There is no mother that has not, did not,will not,do not, does not kiss their babies....do u no how many times your mother kissed you when u were a baby... I still remembered my mom chewing food for my baby sister to eat... I'm sure if she tries that madam load will be outside for trying to poison your "son"

Akinboyo1:
Many people see it as a normal thing but it is a wrong practice as it is not hygienic for the baby. It is wrong for anybody to kiss a baby.

I advise you to take it likely with your wife.

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused.

This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it.

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

Chigorkizz:

Oh!! So she can't infect the child with breast disease.