What follows are the 3 sure signs that she really loves you and wants it to work. And by ‘love’ here, I mean genuine love, not the euphoric head over heels love that typically characterizes a phase of romantic relationships.

She understands and accepts you for who you are:

This is the most essential and healthy sign of genuine real-world love. It lets you know that she is really interested in you as you are and not some romanticized/fantasized version of a partner, and she sees you as a real person and not just some object to be admired.

You should, however, know that nothing stops people who accept you as you are from wanting or encouraging you to be a better version of yourself. So, the fact that she nonetheless tries to push you to be better does not mean her acceptance isn’t genuine.

Like in everything else there is always room for improvement, and if someone cares enough to encourage you to begin the journey into becoming the best version of you, then there is a good chance she will also be patient and supportive as you undertake your journey.

Acceptance and understanding also bestow on your significant other the ability to lift you up whenever you are down because they can easily brighten your day instantly with just the right words because they know what makes you tick.

This is the point where you take a breath and thank your lucky stars that you have found someone who accepts you for who you are despite your flaws. You should return some of that acceptance and understanding. And is it not ironic that the acceptance of the flaws you may have been worried about, now help you realize your significant other really cares about you?

She cares about how you feel:

If she is someone who always follows through on her promises to you and also takes the trouble to explain when she can’t, then she really cares about how you feel. People who love you will always care about how you feel.

This is can be reinforced by empathy. Empathy is found at the heart of enduring relationships. Therefore, real love usually involves some degree of empathy. Its presence always enhances the positive ways you react to each other’s feelings. Empathy also guards against excessive hurtful criticism that can corrode the very foundations of a relationship and other inappropriate reactions to certain situations. Empathy makes it impossible for partners to turn a blind eye to each other’s struggles.
Contd: https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/3-sure-signs-that-tell-you-she-genuinely-loves-you/

The Short Guide To Dealing With Difficult People
Four golden rules for more peace of mind.

Difficult people can be a drag, and they come in a variety. They can be self-centered, controlling, mean, passive, perfectionists…or your boss. You know them by how they affect you, but these simple rules help in dealing with them for happier, more productive living.

1. First, know thyself and what irritates thee:
This knowledge enables emotional distancing, so it’s harder to push your buttons. Therefore, understand what exasperates you, and know that some attitudes you find challenging may not even register with others.

2. Explain thyself:
I always let them know where I’m coming from in case they see me as problematic, and their attitudes are merely reactionary. Communication can bridge gaps and resolve impasses.

3. Understand ye, them:
This is so you navigate them better because trying to change attitudes can lead to resentment. It can also be frustrating and distracting, especially when time is critical. Don’t lose sight of your goals.

4. Avoid their toxicity lest they infect thee:
If all else fails, keep your distance and/or establish buffers. Ignoring them works too if the interaction isn’t necessary.
Obs’rve these rules and thee shall has’t peace of mind.


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