Good day everyone.

Good day everyone.

Let me hit the nail on the head, I'm a semi-introvert, but I swing between extrovert and semi-introvert depending on my environment.

1. I have friends that we do see and talk casually, but something I notice is; I do get betrayed often by people. I'm not dull, I wouldn't say I'm intelligent. As people would say, I have a good sense of humour. I'm humble as people do comment about this also. But I find it very difficult to gain the loyalty of people. At this stage of my life, I think I need not only people's loyalty but also how to indirectly manipulate them.

2. People are shy when talking to me, I'm not rich for now nor do I possess anything special, even those that are older than I am. They seem not to be comfortable when discussing with me as touching the reason I gave above.

I'm in my early 20s.

I need advice please...

lalasticlala abeg

-brings my seat and sits-

To earn loyalty, you have to give it first.

Try to modify your posts sha, it's hard understanding it

Akintundexxy:

1. I have friends that we do see and talk casually, but something I notice is; I do get betrayed often by people. I'm not dull, I wouldn't say I'm intelligent. As people would say, I have a good sense of humour. I'm humble as people do comment about this also. But I find it very difficult to gain the loyalty of people. At this stage of my life, I think I need not only people's loyalty but also how to indirectly manipulate them.

2. People are shy when talking to me, I'm not rich for now nor do I possess anything special, even those that are older than I am. They seem not to be comfortable when discussing with me as touching the reason I gave above.

You seek ways to gain people's loyalty so as to manipulate them?

People are shy when talking to you. They seem not to be comfortable when discussing issues with you?

Have you considered that maybe the problem is you don't really understand yourself as well as you may think?

Na their loyalty you go chop?

You be "ambivert"

Kobojunkie:
You seek ways to gain people's loyalty so as to manipulate them?

People are shy when talking to you. They seem not to be comfortable when discussing issues with you?

Have you considered that maybe the problem is you don't really understand yourself as well as you may think?

Explain more sir, am I not OK?

Akintundexxy:

Explain more sir, am I not OK?

You ought to be the one telling us this since you never did tell us what it is about you that makes them uncomfortable or shy.

Come let we wise men bless you with knowledge...

I counted the 'I' in your opening post and it was close to 20. And half of it is what you want from others. You want them to be loyal, are you loyal? You want to manipulate them, can they manipulate you? They are uncomfortable with you, are you comfortable with them?

You are demanding things you are incapable of giving. You are demanding things that are beyond your pay grade.

Please focus on making money and making yourself someone worthy to be call a friend.

Kobojunkie:
You ought to be the one telling us this since you never did tell us what it is about you that makes them uncomfortable or shy.

What do you think is the problem?

luvmijeje:
I counted the 'I' in your opening post and it was close to 20. And half of it is what you want from others. You want them to be loyal, are you loyal? You want to manipulate them, can they manipulate you? They are uncomfortable with you, are you comfortable with them?

You are demanding things you are incapable of giving. You are demanding things that are beyond your pay grade.

Please focus on making money and making yourself someone worthy to be call a friend.

Hmm..I'm touched

Akintundexxy:

What do you think is the problem?

I am afraid only you can reveal that answer to us. You haven't really told us enough about you to help us help you in figure out that part. You need to give us more to go on here about your own self not others..

SILENTandSMART2:
Come let we wise men bless you with knowledge...

I'm at your feet sire..

Akintundexxy:

I'm at your feet sire..

Hehehe I'm almost have the same characteristics as yours just the difference is dat people always want to stay with me i try to be savage or arrogant but it won't still work....... Because i have trust issue I don't make new friends neither do i trust anybody but I'm a live of a discussion because I'm very funny and have different experience to tell about any fuckin' situation , what you need is to make people laugh that's all , don't trust anybody and don't make friends because you can't read anybody's mind....

Enjoy your day sir....

Kobojunkie:
I am afraid only you can reveal that answer to us. You haven't really told us enough about you to help us help you in figure out that part. You need to give us more to go on here about your own self not others..

I'm handsome, neat and also a student of a popular federal university.
I don't smoke nor drink.
I read a lot, books like the laws of power and also books on creating thinking.
I speak well, and I make people laugh. I visit people but not frequently.
What else do I have to say?

SILENTandSMART2:



Hehehe I'm almost have the same characteristics as yours just the difference is dat people always want to stay with me i try to be savage or arrogant but it won't still work....... Because i have trust issue I don't make new friends neither do i trust anybody but I'm a live of a discussion because I'm very funny and have different experience to tell about any fuckin' situation , what you need is to make people laugh that's all , don't trust anybody and don't make friends because you can't read anybody's mind....

Enjoy your day sir....

Thanks my brother, but how can I be successful in politics with this attitude?

Lala,mynd44, Seun

Akintundexxy:

I'm handsome, neat and also a student of a popular federal university.
I don't smoke nor drink.
I read a lot, books like the laws of power and also books on creating thinking.
I speak well, and I make people laugh. I visit people but not frequently.
What else do I have to say?

So why do you think people don't open up when speaking to you?

Why are they, as you described, uncomfortable around you?

Kobojunkie:
So why do you think people don't open up when speaking to you?

Why are they, as you described, uncomfortable around you?

That's exactly what I don't understand. They laugh and also stylishly say I'm funny. But find it hard to express themselves, sometimes they look down when talking and also do that with their utterances garnished with respect. They seem somehow careful not to offend me with their speech.

Akintundexxy:

That's exactly what I don't understand. They laugh and also stylishly say I'm funny. But find it hard to express themselves, sometimes they look down when talking and also do that with their utterances garnished with respect. They seem somehow careful not to offend me with their speech.

If say you dey school, I for say make you go talk to your school counselor to help put words to what it may be.
You need an honest opinion and a counselor can maybe give you one. Or if you have a friend or even sibling, try to ask them for an honest assessment of your personality to help you maybe understand the possible reason for what you are worried about there.

Kobojunkie:
If say you dey school, I for say make you go talk to your school counselor to help put words to what it may be.

I don't understand bro, can you be more elaborate..

Akintundexxy:

I don't understand bro, can you be more elaborate..

You need an honest opinion and a counselor can maybe give you one. Or if you have a friend or even sibling, try to ask them for an honest assessment of your personality to help you maybe understand the possible reason for what you are worried about there.

This is most definitely not to say that there is indeed something wrong with you.

Kobojunkie:
If say you dey school, I for say make you go talk to your school counselor to help put words to what it may be.
You need an honest opinion and a counselor can maybe give you one. Or if you have a friend or even sibling, try to ask them for an honest assessment of your personality to help you maybe understand the possible reason for what you are worried about there.

School counselor in a Nigerian University? Guess you school in London.

I'm afraid to ask people how I behave so they won't laugh at my case

Akintundexxy:

School counselor in a Nigerian University? Guess you school in London.

I'm afraid to ask people how I behave so they won't laugh at my case

Ask your siblings or even your neighbors. There is nothing to to ashamed of.

Kobojunkie:
Ask your siblings or even your neighbors. There is nothing to to ashamed of.

Alright bro, thanks

Akintundexxy:

Alright bro, thanks

No! Use this opportunity to truly discover how others see you as opposed to how you think they do and maybe you will find the real issue.

Kobojunkie:
No! Use this opportunity to truly discover how others see you as opposed to how you think they do and maybe you will find the real issue.

But how do you see me?, from the little discription I wrote about myself above.

Akintundexxy:

But how do you see me?, from the little discription I wrote about myself above.

Oh, I still don't see you. That is why I suggested you should get the opinion of those who have known you longest or your neighbors.

Kobojunkie:
Oh, I still don't see you. That is why I suggested you should get the opinion of those who have known you longest or your neighbors.

Some say I'm proud. Some call me pastor.
Some say I smile a lot...

Akintundexxy:

Some say I'm proud. Some call me pastor.
Some say I smile a lot...

Don't take all of what people say to heart or you might end up flogging your self-esteem in to the gutter. Just take the parts that will help you work on what you really want to work on , and file the rest under "to be reviewed at a later date".

Why do you want to manipulate them?

You come off as a narcissistic fellow, which I may be wrong.

People can only envy if you have something they admire or want.

If they're not intelligent or rich as you claim, then you're probably living in self-delusion.

I'd advise getting across a therapist to help put your feelings into perceptive.

For me though, it's more of intimidation, garnished with envy.

Even without trying, some guys feel intimidated when in my presence.

My therapist said I'm smart. Perhaps that could be it...

I'm financially stable and dresses well.. Great body too...

Maybe that's contributing to it too...

I exude confidence... Not that I'm perfect. I'm just self-contented and carefree thanks to personal development.

Or maybe because I'm handsome, young, and kinda like an overachiever for my age.

Not bragging... Trying to make you understand something here.

These qualities make me a target to people who feel inferior.... cause I never know who I might unintentionally intimidate and he'll start planning evil for me.

What I do is bury myself with work, and limit my contact with people.

I would advise selecting your association... People who are on the same level as you, both in intelligence and wealth.

Ever wonder why the rich flock around with other rich people?

Why do the intelligent go with other intelligent people?

Likes attract. If they aren't at your level, it repels and that can be dangerous cause they can even kill you.

Be wise.