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Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by illicit(m): 3:53pm On Nov 24, 2021

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Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Newyorkitis(m): 3:54pm On Nov 24, 2021

Delegate and follow up.
Plus don't be tempted to give your invitation card to your ex.... That is more stressful!

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by nonut: 3:54pm On Nov 24, 2021

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Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Graciousnaija: 3:55pm On Nov 24, 2021

1. Focus on the major - venue, food, drink, mobility, etc.
2. If you are man, don't get involved with aso ebi
3. Engage a caterer and a delegate someone to monitor
4. Don't be dragged into non-essentials - distracting family demands
5. Share some responsibilities with your partner
6. Rest, rest and rest as much as you can
7. Pray to God for a hitch-free wedding

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Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by tmtech: 3:56pm On Nov 24, 2021

I can relate..

E no easy..

Try as much as possible to delagate duties to your trusted friends and siblings.

Very importantly, make a list of what you want and let it fit in to your budget.
If your parents are inviting people, make sure they are ready to cater for them.
Try to samples as many vendors as possible to get the best price .
relax your mind as much as you can.

run things by your man , especially if it involve money that he needs to pay.

Find time to breath...

God will bless your wedding and family .

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by missuzoma: 3:57pm On Nov 24, 2021

Relax! Those ceremonies are over- rated. If I were to do it again, I'll sleep and snore and not lose a moment's peace. The important thing is to live happily ever after.

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Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Amudeneogu: 3:58pm On Nov 24, 2021

My friend, you can't go thief because you are marring, discuse with your partiner and do according to your pokect

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Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by xynerise: 3:58pm On Nov 24, 2021

Jesus! The pressure was..... embarassed

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by lexy2014: 3:58pm On Nov 24, 2021

bbride484:

Yours is better, your family members adhere to your instructions.

We printed just 50 cards, but my mum in particular has invited everybody she knows verbally.
Just few people, they keep inviting.

The church on the other hand is something else. They've told us what we should buy for the church. It's very expensive. Every side is just choking.

Supposing Dem beg una say leave church wedding, una go say lie lie

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by sukar886: 3:59pm On Nov 24, 2021

Don't you have friends? form a committee to help out @least 20 men committee or don't you go people occasion, like wise me, I have wedding on December , am facing the same problem too, I want it low but with what am seeing now, the crowd will be much, I have no option than to form committee to help out, cos I can't do it alone

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by ProphetofOdin: 4:00pm On Nov 24, 2021

As someone said above delegate some duties to friends. Be assertive and stick to your plans and budget don't allow new ideas to slip you into debt.

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by petite626: 4:02pm On Nov 24, 2021

Is like we're going to do something too big in our lives and we're too under pressure not to disappoint people.

this comment above is the reason you are under undue and unnecessary pressure ...........

marraiges have become so simple and classy that nobody cares about anything as long as food is available

do what you can and leave the rest

my hubby said whatever we couldnt do before the wedding morning so be it he cant be angry or pressured on his most memorable day and that kept us all livey thru out.......

do ur best, seek understanding from both families and pray.

finish..................my candid advice.

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by armyofone(m): 4:03pm On Nov 24, 2021

bbride484:
I just can't sleep. It's been like this for a while now.
Had to create this account to post this.

My wedding is few weeks from now and it's been very difficult for me to manage the pressure.
Too many things to be done.
And many, still undone.

Pls, share..
How did you handle the pressure? Especially, when you both are trying to make it low key, but family members (bride's family in particular) aren't letting you, Yet, all the expenses is on you.

Is like we're going to do something too big in our lives and we're too under pressure not to disappoint people.

Stand your ground. Don't make anyone get you started on something you can't afford. Be firm!

Sit all those trying to force you to do it differently down and tell them you can't afford the kind of wedding style they want...especially your wife to be.

Ask them to contribute financially if they want a bigger wedding.

Speak your truth. Pretending all is well while feeling the crutch is what got Nigeria into wahala.

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Graciousnaija: 4:08pm On Nov 24, 2021

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Kobicove(m): 4:09pm On Nov 24, 2021

bbride484:
I just can't sleep. It's been like this for a while now.
Had to create this account to post this.

My wedding is few weeks from now and it's been very difficult for me to manage the pressure.
Too many things to be done.
And many, still undone.

Pls, share..
How did you handle the pressure? Especially, when you both are trying to make it low key, but family members (bride's family in particular) aren't letting you, Yet, all the expenses is on you.

Is like we're going to do something too big in our lives and we're too under pressure not to disappoint people.

Don't let anyone pressurise you into making expenses you did not plan for, especially expenses that are not an absolute necessity!

Good luck

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by scofieltm(m): 4:09pm On Nov 24, 2021

bbride484:
I just can't sleep. It's been like this for a while now.
Had to create this account to post this.

My wedding is few weeks from now and it's been very difficult for me to manage the pressure.
Too many things to be done.
And many, still undone.

Pls, share..
How did you handle the pressure? Especially, when you both are trying to make it low key, but family members (bride's family in particular) aren't letting you, Yet, all the expenses is on you.

Is like we're going to do something too big in our lives and we're too under pressure not to disappoint people.

Mine wasn't really stressful, we prepared for 800 guests, our parents gave us all the support we needed, the church wasn't demanding, we made payments for all the things we needed (such as hall, clothing's, hotel bookings, food and decor, musician, DJ and many other things) months before the main day, we had no debt and less stress after the event...I think you should try as much to plan ahead and get the support of your spouse and parents...and if the financial stress is too much you can postpone it to make it easier for you... Its just a day or two event, don't kill yourself because of your wedding.

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by scofieltm(m): 4:11pm On Nov 24, 2021

bbride484:
I just can't sleep. It's been like this for a while now.
Had to create this account to post this.

My wedding is few weeks from now and it's been very difficult for me to manage the pressure.
Too many things to be done.
And many, still undone.

Pls, share..
How did you handle the pressure? Especially, when you both are trying to make it low key, but family members (bride's family in particular) aren't letting you, Yet, all the expenses is on you.

Is like we're going to do something too big in our lives and we're too under pressure not to disappoint people.

Mine wasn't really stressful, we prepared for 800 guests, our parents gave us all the support we needed, the church wasn't demanding, we made payments for all the things we needed (such as hall, clothing's, hotel bookings, food and decor, musician, DJ and many other things) months before the main day, we had no debt and less stress after the event...I think you should try as much to plan ahead and get the support of your spouse and parents...and if the financial stress is too much you can postpone it to make it easier for you... Its just a day or two event, don't kill yourself because of your wedding.

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by armyofone(m): 4:12pm On Nov 24, 2021

otokx:
It is a terrible thing, had great friends who were ready to fight, when you settle this one, another one will come up, settle it another one will come up, ahn ahn. The Nigerian poor mentality is embedded inside the culture.

I tell you! It is like no other day exists!

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Myexdisturbs: 4:13pm On Nov 24, 2021

bbride484:

Yours is better, your family members adhere to your instructions.

We printed just 50 cards, but my mum in particular has invited everybody she knows verbally.
Just few people, they keep inviting.

The church on the other hand is something else. They've told us what we should buy for the church. It's very expensive. Every side is just choking.

Must you use that church?

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Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by 4Ije(f): 4:13pm On Nov 24, 2021

bbride484:
I just can't sleep. It's been like this for a while now.
Had to create this account to post this.

My wedding is few weeks from now and it's been very difficult for me to manage the pressure.
Too many things to be done.
And many, still undone.

Pls, share..
How did you handle the pressure? Especially, when you both are trying to make it low key, but family members (bride's family in particular) aren't letting you, Yet, all the expenses is on you.

Is like we're going to do something too big in our lives and we're too under pressure not to disappoint people.

Hi I sent you a PM

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Shokoloko(f): 4:14pm On Nov 24, 2021

Muyiwaipere:
I never even get girlfriend talk less of engagement before we talk about marriage preparations... But you see @shokoloko...that lady dey my eyes she's just my spec

lol,

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by ImaIma1(f): 4:15pm On Nov 24, 2021

Take it easy so that you are not a stressed bride. Try to get your friend to help you with some things that don't need your presence.

In my case, my sisters were very helpful, they practically followed me everywhere and made it fun. Besides, they were helping subsidize expenses. One took care of the makeup artist, one paid for catering, while one cooked a special dish for the trad.

So it depends on your family and support. Stick to your budget. If your family wants some extra, let them pay for it.

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Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Kizyte(m): 4:19pm On Nov 24, 2021

bbride484:
I just can't sleep. It's been like this for a while now.
Had to create this account to post this.

My wedding is few weeks from now and it's been very difficult for me to manage the pressure.
Too many things to be done.
And many, still undone.

Pls, share..
How did you handle the pressure? Especially, when you both are trying to make it low key, but family members (bride's family in particular) aren't letting you, Yet, all the expenses is on you.

Is like we're going to do something too big in our lives and we're too under pressure not to disappoint people.

Same here

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by colestephan86: 4:22pm On Nov 24, 2021

bbride484:
I just can't sleep. It's been like this for a while now.
Had to create this account to post this.

My wedding is few weeks from now and it's been very difficult for me to manage the pressure.
Too many things to be done.
And many, still undone.

Pls, share..
How did you handle the pressure? Especially, when you both are trying to make it low key, but family members (bride's family in particular) aren't letting you, Yet, all the expenses is on you.

Is like we're going to do something too big in our lives and we're too under pressure not to disappoint people.

First u should go strictly with what you have .
Don't borrow cos of your wedding if you do , you are n ttoible

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Hydronium(m): 4:28pm On Nov 24, 2021

Please watch this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cpxxPAp1X9A

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Allwell96: 4:29pm On Nov 24, 2021

I'll advise: please don't borrow too much. Try as much as possible to do your size, I believe your wife's family won't take her away because you didn't give them a ceremony they expected.
Involve your good friends to help out as you prepare, but be ready to help them when their time comes also.

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by OwaliZiz(m): 4:41pm On Nov 24, 2021

Native Doctors even threaten to spoil my uncle's marriage with if he didn't give them their share

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by TheGift: 4:45pm On Nov 24, 2021

The best thing is for both of you to decide how you want it and stick to it as much as possible without being confrontational about it.

Have a detailed budget with items prioritized- separate between things that are nice to have and those that are necessary to have. Try as much as possible to stick to it.,

Let Her manage Her people, you manage yours.

After the wedding which will be over in a few hours, they will all leave you two to deal with whatever is left and the rest of your lives.

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by adeniyi65(m): 4:47pm On Nov 24, 2021

ChizzyBuna:
Op if you like spend 30 million USA American Dollars for your wedding.

That will not change the fact that your wife will not cheat

That is why I have baby mama
Because at the end of the day
Adam and Eve no do wedding
Mary and Joseph no do wedding
Moses and Miriam no do wedding
Abraham no do wedding

Mad oO!!

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by Beegrace: 4:49pm On Nov 24, 2021

Truly.......... ain't common(fill the gap)

ChizzyBuna:
Op if you like spend 30 million USA American Dollars for your wedding.

That will not change the fact that your wife will not cheat

That is why I have baby mama
Because at the end of the day
Adam and Eve no do wedding
Mary and Joseph no do wedding
Moses and Miriam no do wedding
Abraham no do wedding

Re: How Did You Manage Marriage Preparations Pressure? by adeniyi65(m): 4:51pm On Nov 24, 2021

Really enjoyed every lines of all comments grin

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