Legendoo:



If she's a millionaire like you said then let her continue providing.

Does it matter where the money is coming from?

You're just assuming the guy is useless without evidence. I mean, she chose him and knew he was a drummer before marriage, why is she now acting shocked.

If it was the other way round, we'll hear why can't he invest in her .

They lack maturity and she's hypergamous. Simple.

Ok

johnfem321:
So you see ahm for bibble say divorce is allowed ?

Yes, on grounds of adultery.

Romanoff:


Separation is advised till he or she gets their acts together but outright divorce?

Haba

Haba

Kharfi and her husband got married since 2012. Do any of us know how much any of them has tried?

Na until one of them kill each?
Many culture don’t preach divorce but it is part of humanity and our history. Culture evolving this days mean high rate in divorce and I think that is the way we can balance liberation.

As people get more liberty this days then it’s very hard to keep people bound to something for so long especially if they are not willing to take part in it anymore.

Joseph Ameh fine die

When woman get money pass man... Na so so grammar she go dey speak...

What happens to "for better for worse"?

Kaffy is a lifetime dancer, the husband is a lifetime drummer. These are professions each of them was into before the marriage. When did that suddenly become lack of ambition again?

We4all:


Try to read between the lines and understand where she is coming from.

You do not need to marry a million times for your destiny to align with your partner. You also do not need to wait a million years to be both on the same page.

Even from the public point of view, one can easily tell that the one who has been keeping the marriage going is Kaffy.

That guy hasn’t had a professional growth in years and has choose to be a lifetime drummer.

Kaffy obviously is tired of pushing and has now realized that he doesn’t possess her kind of ambition and determination to succeed in life.

Her decision: “Endure or tow a different path”. Of course she choose the latter!

This situation is not based on adultery ( I doubt that f there is any part in the Bible that support divorce for any reason … what chapter and verse?

michaelwilli:

Yes, on grounds of adultery.

Romanoff:
So people leave their marriages because "their destinies don't align".

How many do you now want to marry before your "destines align"?

You dey bust my head today.

This guy is a professional drummer, he plays/played for Psquare. I don't know how he is doing now but if/that things go south doesn't translate to him being lazy or useless. This is when the wife should support and keep the family together. This is what marriage is all about
There could be another reason for the breakup but I'm just saying dumping your struggling partner because of financial status when he/she needs support most in marriage isn't totally fine.

Or we should just cancel the word MARRIAGE if a partner is justified to neglect his/her other half in distress.

BTW, you guys should stop tagging every poor people lazy or useless. Being poor doesn't always mean being lazy and being rich doesn't always mean being hardworking. Time and life happens to everyone.

Simran94:

You think kaffy is an ordinary dancer? Kaffy is a professional dancer both home and abroad. Not just a dancer, she does other gigs too that fetch her millions. How do you think she’s being able to afford an expensive lifestyle?

Besides, there are some men that once their wives are rich and famous, they prefer to continue living idle without doing anything else. How long will kaffy continue to provide for the family alone? How long will the husband continue to be a drummer boy without a job? You think it will be easy for her to do till forever?

Please what did she say?

Romanoff:
So people leave their marriages because "their destinies don't align".

How many do you now want to marry before your "destines align"?

It's simple! She will simply ensure that the "destiny" of whoever she is going to marry next aligns with hers BEFORE their marriage.
I want to believe that she clearly understands what she wants in a marriage now. So identifying the "right" man shouldn't be a problem.

Crypted message... but alignments comes in a place of prayers and excellent advices ...10 years you try sha .....How I wish someone won't be too

All this useless feminist wannabe Wailers always wanted to to be the ones to announce a breakup..
No wonder e pain that Ubi Franklin Ex.. Sandra .. as that guy first her run go IG go announce am...

Yes you should...food don ready, sadist.

Ihavethingstodo:
I am patiently waiting for the husband 's side of the divorce story,!

LOL. Drumming is not a profession, but dancing is?
They couple explained what you listed below to you or you dove to this conclusion yourself?

Simran94:

And modern men have the capacity? The guy is a drummer, he doesn’t have a profession. It is obvious laggy has been the breadwinner of the family while the guy still remained a drummer. How can you as a man watch your wife take your role as the head of the house and you sit there doing nothing?

Joseph is a free man from now on. redpillers association application form is open, somebody gats register and Feminists association just got a new member. For better for worst now for better I stay and a bigger dick I jump.

This husband drums for some of the top musical acts in Nigeria and is also a music director. Which one is "professional dancer" that she is and how is the husband not a "professional drummer" abeg?
Did she tell you she's providing anything alone?
Did he just start drumming after the marriage?
Which gigs fetching millions did she disclose to you exactly?

Even the jobs that you may deem "professional" can be lost in a second, so next thing na divorce?

https://www.nairaland.com/6933881/standard-chartered-shut-half-nigeria
(examples of professional jobs about to be lost)

Simran94:

You think kaffy is an ordinary dancer? Kaffy is a professional dancer both home and abroad. Not just a dancer, she does other gigs too that fetch her millions. How do you think she’s being able to afford an expensive lifestyle?

Besides, there are some men that once their wives are rich and famous, they prefer to continue living idle without doing anything else. How long will kaffy continue to provide for the family alone? How long will the husband continue to be a drummer boy without a job? You think it will be easy for her to do till forever?

During the time of your foreparents, women were on the farm planting lesser crops to provide support for the family, birthing average of 6 children and living in massively polygamous homes, not snapping pictures in front of peoples' cars for the gram.
Aunty, where your farm?

Simran94:


During the time of our foreparents, the men where in charge of providing for the home financially while wives took care of the children and the husband. But nowadays, men want women who would help split financial responsibilities with them in the home.

Simran94:

And modern men have the capacity? The guy is a drummer, he doesn’t have a profession. It is obvious laggy has been the breadwinner of the family while the guy still remained a drummer. How can you as a man watch your wife take your role as the head of the house and you sit there doing nothing?

But drumming is a profession na.

The matter sef tire me o.

Elxandre:

But drumming is a profession na.

Romanoff:
So people leave their marriages because "their destinies don't align".

How many do you now want to marry before your "destines align"?

Her destiny aligns with that of Don flex

What a shame? poor children.

We4all:


Try to read between the lines and understand where she is coming from.

You do not need to marry a million times for your destiny to align with your partner. You also do not need to wait a million years to be both on the same page.

Even from the public point of view, one can easily tell that the one who has been keeping the marriage going is Kaffy.

That guy hasn’t had a professional growth in years and has choose to be a lifetime drummer.

Kaffy obviously is tired of pushing and has now realized that he doesn’t possess her kind of ambition and determination to succeed in life.

Her decision: “Endure or tow a different path”. Of course she choose the latter!

You are talking rubbish. So I will divorce my wife because she chooses to be waht she wants. Mtchweee

oz4real83:
Our foreparents without education\civilization had marriages lasting almost for eternity, even when they married wives they had never met before but were chosen by their parents. 'Too much sense or book" is what is killing marriages today, nobody is willing to eat the humble pie to make the marriage work.

Only u spoke de truth. Tok much sense n over Sabi. Especially from our ladies.

We4all:
I see. At least they tried to keep it together for some time. But I think the one in control was Kaffy cos that guy seems to me like a figure headed husband.

On a flip side, that Ameh guy has a very fine face. His pointed noise is outta this world. Too bad none of his kids is his replica.

Please
Don't
Cause
More
Wahala
DNA loading?

Simran94:

And modern men have the capacity? The guy is a drummer, he doesn’t have a profession. It is obvious laggy has been the breadwinner of the family while the guy still remained a drummer. How can you as a man watch your wife take your role as the head of the house and you sit there doing nothing?

Aunty please no vex o. Make I ask you
What was he doing before they got married?

Marriage is always sweet when it the man that is the main provider but reverse is the case when a woman is the main provider. Hmm, Una destinies are always good together when things are not that smooth but when a woman can stand on her own financially then destinies are no longer good together again. No sacrifice and no tolerance in marriages any longer. God help this generation

oz4real83:
Our foreparents without education\civilization had marriages lasting almost for eternity, even when they married wives they had never met before but were chosen by their parents. 'Too much sense or book" is what is killing marriages today, nobody is willing to eat the humble pie to make the marriage work.

When a man complaints about his jobless wife/gal friend.... everyone starts question why can't he use his influence/post/resources to get her a job/start up a business for her/ invest in her

But when a wife complaints about her jobless husband, every women are of the opinion she dump him, he is useless..........but then women seem not to understand how red pill theory began.

Kaffy really is older than the husband, so what do you expect than the age factor playing into the marriage and likewise the Boss factor of cash and expectations of the husband listening to her or everything she says.

On the other side of the coin too, probably the husband's financial and society standard of Fame is not marching hers again, so it could be a problem.

Her separation speech is not bad at all, very apt and well articulated. We wish them all the best as they both journey through different paths in life.

Simran94:

You think kaffy is an ordinary dancer? Kaffy is a professional dancer both home and abroad. Not just a dancer, she does other gigs too that fetch her millions. How do you think she’s being able to afford an expensive lifestyle?

Besides, there are some men that once their wives are rich and famous, they prefer to continue living idle without doing anything else. How long will kaffy continue to provide for the family alone? How long will the husband continue to be a drummer boy without a job? You think it will be easy for her to do till forever?

u be foolish fool

johnfem321:
This situation is not based on adultery ( I doubt that f there is any part in the Bible that support divorce for any reason … what chapter and verse?

Matt 19:9