Great0ne1:

What do you expect her to do ? Go and fight him, and end up in the hospital, with no one to look after the kids ? I will rather ignore him totally.

Princedapace:


I am 31 years old. I am married. 3 years of marriage. I am not naive.

WHat do u want her to do? Marriage is not by force. If the man has found love, she too can find love. Marriage has ended.

Tyche:


What would you have her do?

cococandy:

I don’t subscribe to physical violence.
Ignoring is great but let to me, let him stay where he’s packed out to. I’ll be changing the locks. Ihukwa trouble

Simran94:


Give me a bible passage where God permitted polygamy.
Even in the new testaments where God was talking about marriage, he said “And a man will leave his father’s house to join his wife and they shall become ONE” not half.

It is only the Muslim religion that it was stated that a man can have more than one wife.

God doesn’t even supports divorce unless it’s becoming a threat to life. It was in the Old Testament that Men made the laws claiming a couple could divorce but Jesus in the New Testament said: “It is said that you can separate from your partner but I tell you it is not so, as God doesn’t support it”

You should go and read your bible if you are truly a christian that follows the commandments which I doubt.

cococandy:

I don’t subscribe to physical violence.
Ignoring is great but let to me, let him stay where he’s packed out to. I’ll be changing the locks. Ihukwa trouble

Mariangeles:


Ok. Maybe I am. A little.

One of my “flaws” is that I don’t know how to pretend.
It gets me worked up.
So, when I feel the strong need to do something, I have to do it for my peace.

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

Simran94:


Give me a bible passage where God permitted polygamy.
Even in the new testaments where God was talking about marriage, he said “And a man will leave his father’s house to join his wife and they shall become ONE” not half.

It is only the Muslim religion that it was stated that a man can have more than one wife.

God doesn’t even supports divorce unless it’s becoming a threat to life. It was in the Old Testament that Men made the laws claiming a couple could divorce but Jesus in the New Testament said: “It is said that you can separate from your partner but I tell you it is not so, as God doesn’t support it”

You should go and read your bible if you are truly a christian that follows the commandments which I doubt.

Toks2008:


Are you sure you are a Bible scholar or "my pastor said" kind of person?

If i give you scriptures, do you promise to change your mindset?

Let me know so i can give you the scriptures you need.

And please mind you, the old testament is 100% part of the bible cos even Jesus said he hasnt come to abolish it.

JaskanFactor:
there is no such thing as cheating, give him room to do what he wants so long as he does it respectfully, keeps it far away outside the house and community. People need to stop acting like human being is an angel.

Nobody eats rice for life, variety is the spice of life. Variety within reasonable means.
And using separate bed rooms will help improve relationship.

JONNYSPUTE:
...Lol @ changing of the locks.

That action will provoke him more. And non of here knows his temperament. Lest we start hearing another story of domestic violence.

LilMissFavvy:
Go spiritual how? I don't want to believe it's what I'm thinking. Very bad suggestion.

Simran94:


She can as well relocate na? Or is she supposed to stay there forever until he decides to come back?

JONNYSPUTE:
....What will changing of the locks solve? He can easily break into the house.

She alone knows how to solve this problem.

ibechris:
Madam u see this fight is worth every stress.

Every married woman should fight for what belongs to them. Because this kind of woman is ready to tear your home apart and can do any thing possible to destroy good families out there.

As far as u are not ready to fight the lady,it is very good u fight to get your husband back,because as it is,your husband is about crossing to the other side. And do not also forget,that some of these ladies usually charmed married men and after which u see such men behaving like mumu and spending their life savings on such a LovePeddler.

Continue the fight after all,if anything happens to him tomorrow,people will not speak well of u. Now is the time to get your husband and his senses to order.

Good luck to u.

Toks2008:


You are still naive.

That a man chooses to be with another lady does not mean he does not want his wife anymore.

The guy left the house cos of the heat the wife is giving him not because he no longer wants her.

.
See, most marriages that collapsed nased on man's infidelity is the womans fault.

I dont know who is lieing to these ladies that a man must be with only them..

A man choosing to be with only his wife is a choice and not a yardstick to measure how responsible a man is.

A man can be fauthful to one woman and be totally irresponsible and a man can marry 3 women and can be the definition of a perfect guy.

Any woman who leaves her marriage because her husband has eyes for another lady is the most foolish woman in the entire universe.

If you like change men a thousand times, nah your under go suffer cos men will always be men.

Toks2008:


You are still naive.

That a man chooses to be with another lady does not mean he does not want his wife anymore.

The guy left the house cos of the heat the wife is giving him not because he no longer wants her.

See, most marriages that collapsed nased on man's infidelity is the womans fault.

I dont know who is lieing to these ladies that a man must be with only them..

A man choosing to be with only his wife is a choice and not a yardstick to measure how responsible a man is.

A man can be fauthful to one woman and be totally irresponsible and a man can marry 3 women and can be the definition of a perfect guy.

Any woman who leaves her marriage because her husband has eyes for another lady is the most foolish woman in the entire universe.

If you like change men a thousand times, nah your under go suffer cos men will always be men.

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

Amazingbaby:


He hardly wants to have a conversation,he prefers leaving any place I am trying to have the conversation,this is the first time he left the house.he was such in a rage that I refuse him hiring the girl.

Cleanworld:


Let me give you a genius advise but first make sure that you are not totally depends on this man if not please don't try this...

1,Call his family and tell them what happened please don't add jara or lie to them then do same with your family.
2, Get a fake signed divorce letter and make sure its delivered to him directly .. ASK someone to do the job for you.
3, Break all communication with him
4, Put your faith in God and pray.
5, wait for few weeks and see how things will unfold

Don't fight him or the lady in question. if you have her number then you can mistakenly send his '' Health report to her'' from a diffrent number ofcourse. Health issues includes all unimaginable condition.

Don't do this if you are not bold. If he want to Go by force he will have to come back by Force.

wish you well.

pocohantas:


You know what is weird in all of this? It is the fact that you come off as the opposite. Your outbursts are peculiar to people who bottle in a lot, then one day they go BOOM. And you are wondering, how did we get here?

You are an interesting person though. I sometimes think you are a very jealous and possessive woman. One who is capable of stabbing her husband:

ibechris:
Madam u see this fight is worth every stress.

Every married woman should fight for what belongs to them. Because this kind of woman is ready to tear your home apart and can do any thing possible to destroy good families out there.

As far as u are not ready to fight the lady,it is very good u fight to get your husband back,because as it is,your husband is about crossing to the other side. And do not also forget,that some of these ladies usually charmed married men and after which u see such men behaving like mumu and spending their life savings on such a LovePeddler.

Continue the fight after all,if anything happens to him tomorrow,people will not speak well of u. Now is the time to get your husband and his senses to order.

Good luck to u.

Simran94:


Guy please move abeg