Please see this DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:
http://efemenaoreoluwa..com/2011/06/what-exactly-is-going-on-with-domestic.html
There are quite a number of unhappy couples in our society and nothing is being done about their plight. We have no institutions to cater to married ppl having problems
yet society makes single women seem unworthy or divorcees seem wayward. Please girls, dont give into pressure by marrying a guy that you do not know well enough. if you want to getmarried; do u know how this guy's father treats his mum? Has he ever beaten his sisters? is he prone to getting really drunk? What is he like when frustrated by friends or life challenges? these r important questins dat should be answered b4 u commit to marriage. Also, please forget about rich guys as I have noticed dat is one of d top reasons naia girls choose a guy (he should have a job and be responsible though cos a jobless man can easily become a frustrated beast), but dont fall for d hype. A HUGE % of rich naija men beat d living day ouutt of their wives after a day or weekend of gamblim, drinking and womanizin. Trust me, I know a few personally(especially d political ones and theiving nigerian elite). I always wonder y Nigerian girls want that famous guy or politician's son to marry them or whatever, but trust me u would be in for a rude awakening when u discover d crap d gold-digging wives they marry go through.


FINALLY, if u are a married woman going through domestic violence, seek help somehow, talk to your parents, talk to your friends, OPEN UP, dont let your life go to waste, dere is a reason every woman is created and u should live your life FULLY, u have a right to enjoy a happy marriage, or atleast a happy life, your kids have a right to enjoy U and u have a right to enjoy them, Please seek divorce and try as much as possible to leave b4 it gets tooo bad, cos there is still d chance he can come looking for u to kill after d divorce, So bottom line is LET US LOOK B4 WE EVEN GET INTO a POTENTIAL DEATH SENTENCES called MARRIAGE. look at the likes of Nike Oshinowo (I dont know any other examples, but please readers list any if u know better examples) who never got married or got married late, dey have a life that they enjoy, these women glow inspite of their non marriage status, find what u enjoy, concentrate on it, D right person who would admire u, value and cherish u would come around someday, as long as u r happy and glowing, age is not but a number, happiness is attractive. This is very personal to me cos right now, I have a cousin (I know i keep talkin about cousins, but i have so many female cousins) who married a very famous and wealthy nigerian man's son, d guy is stinkinlgy rich (i am sure u know who but i wont mention names of course), but she has known no peace since dey got married, HE BEATS HER LIKE A BLOODY ANIMAL (and trust me it has nothing to do with having a bad mouth; he just comes home drunk and frustrated after losing money from gambling). All she does is ask what he wants to eat and if he is ok, but any word from her mouth ends up causing a massive beating. Now we have told her not to ever ask any questions or say a word and should just go to bed once he gets home. WHAT kind of life is dat? where  u cannot communicate with your loved one?
Anways, peace out guys (enough ramblings)

when Jesus in a family happy happy home(2X)
when Satan in a family trouble everywhere(2X)

Marriage is not by force oooo. . . . . Sista-jay don talk am too!! You only have ONE life, live it well!

@190@ did u see d images on d link dat I posted? mehn dis is a serious issue, jokes aside

@BABE, it is not a way of validating being single o, just look at the link i posted and u might understand what I mean.
it is not just a message to single girls, it is a message to women who are married and r having problems (dat they shouldnt
be afraid or ashamed to seek help). Domestic violence is causing a lot of deaths and nothing is being done to address it in Nigeria.
instead d women r blamed, it can b a very lonely and depressing situation to be in

temiade:

@190@ did u see d images on d link dat I posted? mehn dis is a serious issue, jokes aside

. . . My dear go and marry - Its not whatever Beyonce says you must follow

Please good men are still out there, Im begging you go and marry



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LOL, i am just 22 so i still hv about 4 yrs, no hurry yet. but i hv a bf dat is really good so i know dere r still good guys out dere.
i am just alarmed at d rate of desperation and violence lately.

OP Sorry Angel, I only read the topic (heading)--so that prompted my reply. I've been seeing so many topics like this around lately (marriage is not by force) and its kinda getting on my nerves.

But it's aight though. I get the domestic violence thing. It's no news. And Yes, They need to get help.

In as much as you are right. Domestic violence is wrong and the women should opt out. Several measures should also be taken on the abusers.

You have to also know that:

Women are like flowers. If u cross 30, its difficult to get settled except u look 16 because beautiful ones are not yet born. Men like catching them young. Delay can lead u to arrangee marriage that you won’t see your hubby till after the wedding or end up marrying a man that goes mad at every 3 hours interval. So enjoy your single life a bit. But if u see an upcoming brother who would give u peace, don't dull as long as u r happy.

Forget all these babes that say I'm happy being single bla bla, how long do u want to stay like that. When these babes get into the toilet they would be weeping that they are single or cursed and waste all the tissue in there. They start attending all the church singles seminars.

A man can marry at 50 and even re-marry at 100, men don't age like that and their manhood is always up and doing. They do the chasing so it’s easier for them to delay. Plus they have Viagra and other local concoctions (alomo and jedi-jedi) to assist them.

Need I remind you that, Menopause has started hitting some women in their early 30s.
Don't turn to a meal for prophets. That they would ask you to shout the word "husband" 10 times, the 1st man you see is your husband. If it’s crippled John or your little nephew u see first. That’s another wahala.
That is why lesbianism and the use of dildos are now rampant but it can never be like what your hubby has, that is living and not plastic.

Yes, it’s not by force to be single but it was ordained by God and it’s enjoyable if you marry your own. Just select wisely that’s all.

op
can i marry u for 2weeks?

i could do a nite, marry mii, one nite only pls, i promise-i'll b good

^^^ but i have 2 nyash u 1st,
B4 marriage.