Sorry I had to post this here because I need more views
I will make it brief
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So I have this friend, he was my coursemate back then in school. He had been there for me during tough times, not financially though but in foodstuff, rice. They get am plenty
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So we found ourselves again in Lagos and we do see ourselves almost every day and he continues giving me rice. I'm a driver while he works in a bakery and because am always at home, he does come to stay with me throughout the day whenever he was on the night shift, sometimes pass the night on a day shift because I live closer to his work place. He knew I like bread a lot so he did justice to that by bringing bread most of the time, the ones that won't be sold probably because it's not properly baked, or get burnt
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Now the issue is this guy selects foods since we all come from different backgrounds, I manage a lot. I can take anything as far as its food. But this guy won't, all he does is sleep from morning till evening, when I cook, he would be like "is there fish? Is their meat" and all that. If there is none of the above, he would say he can't eat such food and would beg me to prepare indomie for him instead but I see it as nothing, I will do it for him
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This guy will take anything from my room and use it anyhow he likes without letting me know. Things like watches, necklaces, caps, etc. I talked to him, I told him using all these accessories for bakery work is not necessary as I don't like it but he didn't change, he would rather hide them in my presence and put it on when I'm out of sight because I don't always use them and whenever I noticed, I would call him and shout, I d shout well well no be a lie.
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The recent incident, my birthday was 3days ago so someone got me an expensive perfume
Which I had no use since then because I had one I'm currently using. So this guy came this morning, so when he was getting ready to go to work this evening, I notice he had tore the carton of the new perfume and sprayed it. I was like guy why? Something I had not used, why didn't you use the old one? The idiot says because the old one was cheap and he doesn't use that in his house. That woke up the demon in me and I shouted a lot at him. I didn't insult him though but he felt bad as much as I do..
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In short, he didn't manage a single thing at all. He use everything excess, while I manage them. I'm on a 30k salary while he's on a 50-60k salary but won't give me a dime apart from the raw rice and bread.
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Please what would you do in this case?

Chai.. I no even know say I don type long episode oo
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Sorry oo

My brother life is too short to be managing someone's wahala. If you can't cope with him just stop him from coming to your place. There's nothing as peaceful and refreshing as living alone.

What's hard for you to tell what's in your mind?

Ok

He knew I like bread a lot so he did justice to that by bringing bread most of the time, the ones that won't be sold probably because it's not properly baked, or get burnt
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He's really trying for you seeing the kind of bread he gives you.


Do you really need this kind of discomfort because of burnt offering bread?

Tell him to give you space

every man for himself. tell him to leave your place that you cant cope with his character

Stop taking his gift and begin to set your boundaries… Some people lack courtesy And they are always a pain in the ass..

doggedfighter:


He knew I like bread a lot so he did justice to that by bringing bread most of the time, the ones that won't be sold probably because it's not properly baked, or get burnt
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He's really trying for you seeing the kind of bread he gives you.


Do you really need this kind of discomfort because of burnt offering bread?

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Lol honestly I almost told him to stop coming to my place but that might lead to something else. Like he fit say na because of perf.
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Sometimes when I tell him to minimize the way he consume things in my house, he would say I stingy for myself and for people.. I think it's high time I told him if he can't manage the way I'm managing, he should stop coming. I was only rendering help o cos his place is far and sometimes he doesn't have tp. And baba won come burn my happiness finish

because of bread n rice u sold your comfort n peace of mind @op

Bro tell him your mind and be sincere with him that if he can not adjust he should leave your home, it your house and properties for God sake, also set boundaries and if he continues change where you normally keep your keys and distance yourself from him if not you will not have rest of mind in your own house, it is well.

you need to set boundaries. just because you guys are best of friends doesn't mean you shouldn't respect each others property and space.
He knows already that what he is doing is wrong but let your temper be moderate

Qpid5:
Sorry I had to post this here because I need more views
I will make it brief
.
So I have this friend, he was my coursemate back then in school. He had been there for me during tough times, not financially though but in foodstuff, rice. They get am plenty
.
So we found ourselves again in Lagos and we do see ourselves almost every day and he continues giving me rice. I'm a driver while he works in a bakery and because am always at home, he does come to stay with me throughout the day whenever he was on the night shift, sometimes pass the night on a day shift because I live closer to his work place. He knew I like bread a lot so he did justice to that by bringing bread most of the time, the ones that won't be sold probably because it's not properly baked, or get burnt
.
Now the issue is this guy selects foods since we all come from different backgrounds, I manage a lot. I can take anything as far as its food. But this guy won't, all he does is sleep from morning till evening, when I cook, he would be like "is there fish? Is their meat" and all that. If there is none of the above, he would say he can't eat such food and would beg me to prepare indomie for him instead but I see it as nothing, I will do it for him
.
This guy will take anything from my room and use it anyhow he likes without letting me know. Things like watches, necklaces, caps, etc. I talked to him, I told him using all these accessories for bakery work is not necessary as I don't like it but he didn't change, he would rather hide them in my presence and put it on when I'm out of sight because I don't always use them and whenever I noticed, I would call him and shout, I d shout well well no be a lie.
.
The recent incident, my birthday was 3days ago so someone got me an expensive perfume
Which I had no use since then because I had one I'm currently using. So this guy came this morning, so when he was getting ready to go to work this evening, I notice he had tore the carton of the new perfume and sprayed it. I was like guy why? Something I had not used, why didn't you use the old one? The idiot says because the old one was cheap and he doesn't use that in his house. That woke up the demon in me and I shouted a lot at him. I didn't insult him though but he felt bad as much as I do..
.
In short, he didn't manage a single thing at all. He use everything excess, while I manage them. I'm on a 30k salary while he's on a 50-60k salary but won't give me a dime apart from the raw rice and bread.
.
Please what would you do in this case?

helping in life does not mean doing anyhow ,if en no like food make en use money prepare food ,stop giving your personal belongings

How some people take dey mumu na him i no understand... If you cant send him away urself, why do you need our advice...
Let him keep doing it till ur sense tells you wat to do

Guy, staying with someone isn't easy oo
I can vouch for myself, but I don't know of others..
You own better, the one I'm staying with (complete adult o) doesn't support when it comes to buying of food stuff..