letty45:

sincerely speaking i didnt some of all these

im not sure it's being muslim, but NLers, is it only christians who believe in power of the tongue and what proceeds from our mouths? In my home, statements like the fff are commonspeak.
- "I pray by God's grace, armed robbers will kill you"
- "I am the unluckiest woman in the world, to've married you"
- "You will never see anything good"
- "you are a miserable life, and you'll continue to be"

i never said you will never see anything ,  i said if you keep doing all these things dat good things will not come his way, and  i didnt say you are miserable life,  i said he his a saddest and find happiness when i cry and unhappy, and most esp,  i didnt say armed robbers will kill him, he wore very dark shades when he was going out,  and i told him not to because he looked like an armed robber b4 they kill him,  and i ve appplogised severally since then,  

letty45:

now, in the present of the GOD u married, was i a virgin or not?, i didnt tell this to my but u told her?   now you lying i had an affair with an man. if i had affair with any man may the Almighty God punish me. you have been my only intimate partner in my entire life and you it. cause i told you a man was asking me out,  see what you turned it into.  God sees all of us. i have never made love to anyman apart from you in my life,  always lying

letty45:

some of these statements are big lies,  im being sincere because i want God favour


i ve only slapped him once and that was on monday.
he went out usual on monday night and came back when i was alseep, i didnt hear d door because of the gen and sent me a txt which i saw @ about 3am when i woke to feed our baby,  i didnt lock him out,  me that im scared of staying home alone,  i dont smash anything,  i slammed the door one day when got home really late.

letty45:

Some of these statements are big lies, im being sincere because i want God favour

[b]i ve only slapped him once and that was on monday.[/b]he went out usual on monday night and came back when i was alseep, i didnt hear d door because of the gen and sent me a txt which i saw @ about 3am when i woke to feed our baby, i didnt lock him out, me that im scared of staying home alone, i dont smash anything, i slammed the door one day when got home really late.

jennykadry:

Uju abegii go away joooo, no spoil show for us, leave them to continue disgracing themselves abeg, i need the show abeg


BTW whatever anger he feels , he brought upon himself, if he wasn't sniffing into women's underwear and dashing her diseases, the wife wouldn't have confronted him and the confrontation wouldn't have led to anger. His lifestyle brought about the confrontation

Ujujoan:

SHUT UP!!!!

Why on earth will you slap your husband    

Don't you have respect? What kind of anger engulfed you? Were you possessed!


Woman listen  . . . . . Nobody can ever be as rude as me but there are somethings you just DON'T say. The things you said to your husband, no matter the provocation, are just not acceptable. Don't you know you are a woman? Do you know the power that lies in your tongue? Don't you have self control  

I swear if you were my younger sister,  I would bet you up just to get some sense into you.

You need to develop some sort of dignity and stop being a drama  queen.


@ GP

I know you feel a deep seated anger for your wife and so you want to punish her, but I will tell you what I tell my man . . .  Punishing a woman doesn't help her, it only makes her bitter.

If you really want your wife to change, you need to be a better person, you need to teach by example; you need to make her understand that she's far too old to be behaving like a child.

You guys have a kid for God's sakes, uou both need to GROW UP!

jennykadry:

Uju abegii go away joooo, no spoil show for us, leave them to continue disgracing themselves abeg, i need the show abeg

BTW whatever anger he feels , he brought upon himself, if he wasn't sniffing into women's underwear and dashing her diseases, the wife wouldn't have confronted him and the confrontation wouldn't have led to anger. His lifestyle brought about the confrontation

Sicherheit:

@ Letty
If you know what is good for you, leave that house as soon as possible. You have to put some space between you and the fool you married until he is ready to be a husband. Your parents will prefer to be disappointed parents than grieving parents.

Sicherheit:

Why don't YOU SHUT UP!
Respect a man who has no respect for her? You are okay? Being a doormat is not an attractive quality to men, let me clear that up for you if that's what you have been hearing and aspiring to.
As a man, if I ever treat my wife the way that woman's husband has treated her, I pray she slaps me, maybe it will knock some senses into me.
See how he came here and was very selective in what he responded to and how he twisted her words. If all the men on this thread are honest, they will tell you they know the real deal from the moment they read his reply.

@ Letty
If you know what is good for you, leave that house as soon as possible. You have to put some space between you and the fool you married until he is ready to be a husband. Your parents will prefer to be disappointed parents than grieving parents.

Ujujoan:

These two people are annoying jor . . .

She dated him for 2 years Jenny, she can't say she didn't know he was the type. And then when she caught him red-handed, she forgave him. She should have left then instead of staying back to make both their lives miserable.


The doofus of a man is obviously irresponsible and he should hang his head in shame for giving his virgin wife and STD. Some people are just really really terrible!

But they are both married, they need to act more llike it!

gorky_park:

thank you everyone. i still love my wife,  please no more comments. i appreciate

jennykadry:

lmaooooo hahahahahaha  but d reply on this thread are funny sha.


Lol uju I don't believe in violence but honestly they are some slaps that are called for. If my husband treats me half the way this man treats his wife believe me I will castrate him before I leave the house.

Sicherheit:

So you know this?
If she came here after she caught her husband cheating the first time and said she was leaving, no be una go say she too stubborn and she should try to work it out and pray for him to change?
And the nonsense that because you dated someone so therefore you must know them inside out is just that - nonsense. People are people, you can not know the finish. My twin sister still displays some behavior that surprise me and we grew up together. Do you want to tell me to expect any man who dates her to know everything about her when there are some things I'm still learning? Does that make any sense?!

gorky_park:

thank you everyone. i still love my wife, please no more comments. i appreciate

coogar:



she should leave her husband's house and then what? move into yours? are you even considering their baby in your moronic advice?

gorky_park:

thank you everyone. i still love my wife,  please no more comments. i appreciate

Sicherheit:

Why don't we ask Titilayo Arowolo about Moronic advice. I'm sure you are one of them who think you must die in marriage to gain value.
If you had any sense you will know that when a situation has reached a boiling point like this, the best thing to do is for everyone to get a time out. At least if she moves out, it will call the attention of the elders to their problems and they can help them work it out than remaining in the house, slapping each other until one person is pushed to the wall and reacts more violently.

Ujujoan:

This I agree with . . .  slap him and walk away.

Don't slap him and expect to see a change. He's her husband and not some 6-year old for God's sakes!


My prayer for you is that you get a wife who will slap some sense into you . . . Amen!

I've seen marriages that started out worse but today, they've settled into a mutualy respectuly, loving and caring relationship and beleive me, this did not come about by slaps!

I cannot entirely blame the man because when a woman resorts to nagging, lose mouth and worst of all, violence, she looses her right to be treated like a human being.

She should have known how her husband reacts to situations and learn to follow him so. That my firend, it maturity.

BTW, do people still attend marriage courses these days ? I wonder . . . .

Sicherheit:

Why don't we ask Titilayo Arowolo about Moronic advice. I'm sure you are one of them who think you must die in marriage to gain value.
If you had any sense you will know that when a situation has reached a boiling point like this, the best thing to do is for everyone to get a time out. At least if she moves out, it will call the attention of the elders to their problems and they can help them work it out than remaining in the house, slapping each other until one person is pushed to the wall and reacts more violently.

Ujujoan:

Stop trying to rationalize stupidity!

Did you hear the OP say anything about physical abuse? Instead it's the other way round. She's already praying for Armed Robbers to kill him on the road, what if he gets impatient and decides ota pia pia will be faster?

Mttcheeeeeeeew!