BigDawsNet:


Which one is bastard money again

So what's your plan with having kids

virginprincess:
So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you .

thorpido:
Your wife and the so-called friend don't appear to be clean.There is something they are both hiding.
It is a good thing you severed your relationship with him.Stand your ground too that your wife can't have any communication with him.

I hope you have plans to bring your wife abroad to be with you.

Qtrpst4:
Something dey worry you for head, no be every body dey useless like you

Osama2478:
Nairalanders,

Please I need you to help me have a third eye into a personal matter. Although, I have taken a position, I just wanted to be sure I never overreacted.

I am a guy based in Europe and my wife is in Nigeria. I have only been away for a year.

There was a day I was calling my wife on phone and her other phone was ringing which I asked her to pick up but she never did only to say that it was my friend calling her. I was surprised and asked her immediately how did my friend get know her other number. She gave some not-so-convincing explanation but I let it slide.

Curiously, when I returned to Nigeria, I discovered that this friend sent money to her and she never told me about it. The so called friend also didn't tell me anything. In fact, he has always acted as if he wasn't having any contact with my wife.

When I saw the transaction, my wife wanted to manipulate the situation to make it look like I was invading her privacy. I stood my ground to know what purpose the money was meant for but no reasonable explanation.

I called the friend too to know what the money was meant for but only retorted if he couldn't give my wife money as a friend. He couldn't offer any reasonable explanation. With high sense of modesty, this is a guy that would wish to be in my position economic wise and I have always been very generous to my wife when it comes to money. Therefore, financial lack could not be an excuse.

After this experience, I severe my friendship with the guy and rein in on my wife too. I felt that was not the kind of friendship any reasonable person should keep because I felt betrayed by his actions and inactions in relating with my wife behind me. I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.

Please I will like to know if I overreacted.

Thank you.

MOD please take it to front page for wider views and opinions

Mustiboy:


May our good intentions not be deemed as cynical.

What's the point of calling him a friend when he can't be nice to your family? That means you don't trust him.

What's the point of calling him a friend when he can't seek travelling help from you or even lend your money? Perhaps, you never meant well for him.

"This is someone who would wish to be in my current position economic wise..."

The above quote confirms my deduction that you never meant well for your friend and always wish that he comes begging you for crumbs.


In my opinion, he should be the one avoiding you and not the other way around.

I've always wished that all my friends and I attain success in life and lift each other. Seems that's not the case in your own world.

virginprincess:
So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you .

Richy4:
<< Trust is really dead in this weird world..
***Does it mean that this can never be a possible scenario any more in this weird world?**

<< John my friend stays in France, the wife Sandra stays in Nigeria...
<<On a good day, out of my kind and benevolent heart, gave Sandra 30K to buy icecream for the kids and herself.. thinking I was looking out for the interest of my friends John..
<<John came back to Nigeria, saw the alert on the wife's phone and began to "Meleske"
<< My goodness, suddenly turned into betrayal, adultery and infidelity
<< Na waaaOo!!

Antimarraige:
surrogacy bro I'm taking care of my kid myself and yes I only want one child boy or girl, it's always been my dream... And another reason is to prove people that always argue with me wrong... Killing two birds with one stone

virginprincess:
So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you V.

Blunttruth:


You didn't overreact, there is something going on between them, the way you handle it will make her confess. Meanwhile what is your plan for your wife, are you bringing her to join you? Do you intend to leave her here while you will getting your groove on over there and thinking money will keep her body and soul together.

virginprincess:
So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you .

DukeNija:

They both owe it to him. His friend has no right to send money to his wife without his consent. There’re boundaries you don’t cross especially with marriage, otherwise complete transparency should suffice.

Osama2478:
As for me, I don't engage in any private discussion with my friends' girlfriends let alone wives.

For any man that engages in private discussions with his friend's wife without his knowledge and to the point of sending money to her especially when the man is not around if nothing is happening at the moment, it clearly showed that he has got a plan. That was my conviction. These are the kind of people that will keep pretending to care for the woman because her husband is not around till they get in between their legs.

Funny enough, this was a guy that was owing me money and never talked about it again because I have traveled abroad.

Richy4:
<< Trust is really dead in this weird world..
***Does it mean that this can never be a possible scenario any more in this weird world?**

<< John my friend stays in France, the wife Sandra stays in Nigeria...
<<On a good day, out of my kind and benevolent heart, gave Sandra 30K to buy icecream for the kids and herself.. thinking I was looking out for the interest of my friends John..
<<John came back to Nigeria, saw the alert on the wife's phone and began to "Meleske"
<< My goodness, suddenly turned into betrayal, adultery and infidelity
<< Na waaaOo!!

anthonyuncle:
the woman you married wished that your friend was the rich one -and not you.
she married you because you were ready for marriage (and not him).

i pity you

Osama2478:
I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.

Data600:
Could it be the money he gave her was for abortion?

thinking aloud

DukeNija:


You’d be shocked that the wife instigated this plan. You think men are comfortable leaving behind their families? Women are daughters of Eve for a reason. You plan with them and they turn and do something else and still pin it on you. You take the fall for something you didn’t even do.