I don't believe in marriage.

Kobojunkiee:
Businesses can fail...and so also marriages. Life goes on whichever one happens.

yes bt business can also fail and ome back up. it depends on the choices u made and continue making.

it doesn't always have to crash especially if u get the foundation right.

Kobojunkiee:
God told you over 2000 years ago that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 - so where do you lot get this idea that it is God that keeps your marriages?

Who instituted marriage?

Tboy222:
Who instituted marriage?

The same God that cursed marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16 and later on in Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 reminded you that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God. So stop ignorantly dragging God's name into that which is not of God.

nony43:
That’s why I love Oyibo, they understand themselves a lot of them don’t want to marry they have partners , they knack, have kids and still stay with each other. They want everything that marriages brings but they don’t want it to be legally binding. My friend has a partner and they have stayed together for 36 years. I told him to put a ring on it , he said he and his partner doesn’t want marriage. So many people are like that.

Believe me it is the best.

And you know this......how?

harmony75:
Marriage becomes toxic?! It means lot's of their misunderstanding have been swept under the rugs they're not communicating well with each other to see the problem solved! And when keep on not discussing these issues it becomes a problems in the marriage. No matter what let's talk about it! I have seen marriages destroyed by the 2 parties with shitty characters and I have seen marriages saved where there's multitudes of councils!

We call it ego or pride

jaxxy:
Yes bt business can also fail and ome back up. it depends on the choices u made and continue making.

it doesn't always have to crash especially if u get the foundation right.

How many businesses fail and come back up again?

What exactly is this "right" foundation you speak of?

Can we please stop propping these things up as if on pedestals? That happens to be some of the core reason why many marriages fail - people having unrealistic expectations of others and forgetting to work on themselves at the same time.

Romanoff:
The moment you stop wishing your partner well, the moment you don't wish them to succeed, the moment you start wishing bad things happen to them, e done become toxic be that.

If God was in the center of your marriage, na to carry the marriage go meet God wey dey involved in the marriage.

The marriage can still be fixed if both of you are still in tune with God and his leading.


Many marriages we celebrate today, the 40 years anniversary, 30 years anniversary, even the 60 years own, do we think they were free from toxicity?

As long as both of you can come together and agree to make the marriage work, it will work.

The only time to leave a marriage is on grounds of adultery and domestic violence.

Very apt and correct. But what about if there is an allegation of cheating on the part of the wife though not caught red-handed. What advice can you give?

Kobojunkiee:
How many businesses fail and come back up again?

What exactly is this "right" foundation you speak of?

Can we please stop propping these things up as if on pedestals? That happens to be some of the core reason why many marriages fail - people having unrealistic expectations of others and forgetting to work on themselves at the same time.

I was going to explain what I meant by foundation bt he helped me out. ur choices are ur foundation.

purehustle101:


Men get married to belong to the class of he is responsible, not necessarily for kids, because kids can be gotten outside wedlock.
The only reason you should have a wife at home is only if she brings peace and companionship aside these your a mad man for depriving your self the comfort you deserve... Youngmen should forget love and emotions is a mental disorder and focus on there happiness .

that sound logical,so in other words marry a woman who makes you happy but what if she’s not doing her best as mother,you need someone who can also be a good mother to your kids

Ezeanna:



Hahaha.

African men, the Saints; the modern day Mother Theresas.

Hahahahahaha

Na really modern 'Mother Theresa'

jaxxy:
I was going to explain what I meant by foundation bt he helped me out. ur choices are ur foundation.

I guess I have a problem with the use of the word "foundation" here as it suggests once the marriage has been entered into, it no longer requires work to be done on it.

Michdear:
that sound logical,so in other words marry a woman who makes you happy but what if she’s not doing her best as mother,you need someone who can also be a good mother to your kids

Can't the father of the kids take on that role instead?

Yes.

hartopher76:
Married people, have you ever come to a point were you feel that outside your children, you have no other business with your wife.

purehustle101:


Men get married to belong to the class of he is responsible, not necessarily for kids, because kids can be gotten outside wedlock.
The only reason you should have a wife at home is only if she brings peace and companionship aside these your a mad man for depriving your self the comfort you deserve... Youngmen should forget love and emotions is a mental disorder and focus on there happiness .

What you just said has fact

If at one time in marriage you have not felt that way, you have not been married long enough. But when you persevere, you find reason or overtime rekindle what you had in your earlier times.
Nna, marriage is not all roses.

Werey want to marry a very calm person. Person who is used to sleeping around want to marry someone faithful, person who is very sting want to marry a generous person. Person who no like work want to marry a hardworker. Dat marriage no go work, oil and water do not mix. Marriage is beautiful if you marry the right person and you are the right person

Wotoporiously speaking

Not an easy road but some cars still pass through it and some don't make it.

Moniya4Real:

Very apt and correct. But what about if there is an allegation of cheating on the part of the wife though not caught red-handed. What advice can you give?

Unless you have evidence, don't put a crack in your marriage and don't let anyone else do with baseless accusations without evidence.

hartopher76:
Married people, have you ever come to a point were you feel that outside your children, you have no other business with your wife.

most women feel so in marriages because the often expect too much from the man..

#placing d cart b4 d horse!

That question is what shd've bn considered in d first place b4 marriage, not after: "outside (legimate) children what else I'm I to gain in marriage?"

hartopher76:
Married people, have you ever come to a point were you feel that outside your children, you have no other business with your wife.

If ur woman can't see you as her lord and accord u the respect that goes along with it, then the marriage is bound to have challenges except the man is d submissive type.

Says who?
I'm glad you mentioned God, bcus God has given us d manual, na mankind dey do over-sabi.

Colossians 3:18-19 (KJV)
"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them."

Na d 'operating manual'be that.
Theres no woman that will fully do away with pride and submit 100% to her husband and still have problem with the man; and there's no husband that will love his wife 100% that will still 'look outside'

There's no couple/marriage dt will follow it (God's instructions aka 'God's manual') to the fullest that will still have challenges.

Tboy222:
Marriage is an institution that has no operating manual, only God keeps marriages nothing else.

God has given us d manual for a successful marriage; it's now our decision to either follow that manual'or not.

I can't give u food and still help u to eat it; whether u get filled with it or die of starvation is a function of whether you choose to either eat d food I provided for u or not. You can't blame me (again) for your own refusal to chopulate d food I provided for u.

Whether our marriages survive or not, na awa hand e dey; God don do hin own (tey-tey) and e don rest!

nony43:
That’s why I love Oyibo, they understand themselves a lot of them don’t want to marry they have partners , they knack, have kids and still stay with each other. They want everything that marriages brings but they don’t want it to be legally binding. My friend has a partner and they have stayed together for 36 years. I told him to put a ring on it , he said he and his partner doesn’t want marriage. So many people are like that.

Believe me it is the best.

For them... Not everybody

Tayorshd2:
It's well oo make una no let us they fear marriage

Today's young chaps can't keep marriage... It's difficult than making money... Marriage is not for all these selfish sef love people ooo... You gats make it work putting in the work...

frozen70:


Circumstances can lead to such situations

But if tackled at the early stage, it won't become a critical case that will lead to such

And when it gets to that bad stage, it ends up with no regards or feelings for each other

You can only find love and happiness with your children and not your spouse

So we have to prevent it getting to that level in our marriage

What is so special about housing a woman if not for just having kids

masmnd8:
Werey want to marry a very calm person. Person who is used to sleeping around want to marry someone faithful, person who is very sting want to marry a generous person. Person who no like work want to marry a hardworker. Dat marriage no go work, oil and water do not mix. Marriage is beautiful if you marry the right person and you are the right person

You have to be the right person yourself... that is all you can be sure of in marriage. No matter how long you search, you will never be sure of whether the other person is right enough or not, or if that person will not up and change the next day. So it is key that one at least is sure he/she is the right person for that particular union and goes from there.

gassbee:
shey na life b dat

You dey mind am... Talk rubbish up and down... Make person carry him own daughter like that na...

HIPROFILE:
most women feel so in marriages because the often expect too much from the man..

Same goes for men who almost always expect too much from their womenfolk as well. These days, you have some even going as far as suggesting that the way to have it all is to marry more wives and/or have side chicks.

Hassanmaye:

I agreed

Smiles...

Kobojunkiee:
How many businesses fail and come back up again?

What exactly is this "right" foundation you speak of?

Can we please stop propping these things up as if on pedestals? That happens to be some of the core reason why many marriages fail - people having unrealistic expectations of others and forgetting to work on themselves at the same time.

Your last statement is what I see as major problems