Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good morning all. My wife and I separated in 2020 for seven months we have reconciled in september 2020 and she took in the same month but I still have doubts because while she we were separated she had cheated on me with her colleague at work. Which I had Proofs.

The reason why I have accepted her back was because the fault was mine I didn't cheat on her. I lost my job and my boss gifted me 300k I didn't know tell her anything and I confided to my sister in Benin Republic I sent her 200k to buy goods for me and she duped me. When she found out she started abusing me to the extend I had to leave the house and moved away to stay with my mother.

I still doubts about the paternity of our fourth child because she doesn't look anything like me nor her mother. I strongly believed she was already pregnant that is why she came back begging me to return back home. The more the baby is growing up the more she is looking like her colleague. Ever since we had reconciled everything is perfectly fine our relationship is stronger than before but I can't stop thinking about the baby not being my own.

I want to take her for a secret dna test but if the result came out I am not the father my family will be ripped off and I don't want divorce but i can't also live not knowing if I am truly her father or not. What would you advise me to do should I go ahead with the secret dna or not I just want to know the truth bur I am scared of the outcome

My brother, the deed has been done and for the sake of your sanity and mental health, I suggest you start making plans to relocate and leave that harlot you call wife.

As for those bastards dwelling with you, kindly tell them to go and ask their mother to show them where their father is living . Once you can do this , you will know peace

how can such a deceitful/disrespectful/unfaithful/dishonest marriage ever work?! you can still be a great father to your kids without being married to this woman.

Sorry bro,so many men have trained and some are still training kids that are not there's,things most women do to men are better imagined

This is sad and disheartening at the same time, some women are just plain wicked, they were born by the devil

If you the rest of your kids are yours then your 4th child was exchanged at the hospital by the nurses
Your wife is innocent
Don't be a stupid

na waooh. Are you not satisfying her or there is no free flow of money in the relationship

Pells:
If you the rest of your kids are yours then your 4th child was exchanged at the hospital by the nurses
Your wife is innocent
Don't be a stupid

Omode lo n se e.

Read his previous topics.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father. Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed. . I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.
I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

So bad. While we v bad women, we also v the good ones.
May God heal you sir.
Meanwhile, have you ran DNA test on the other kids? If they are yours then I suggest you tell her to return the child to the owner.
I can't take such thing if I m a man.
Try and see if the relationship can work after she returned the child. If it can't work, separate. A broken heart can heal. A damaged home can't heal. Consider your children's upbringing/welfare before making a final decision. You v 3 legitimate kids and 1 illegitimate kid.
If you buy four shoes and one of them isn't your size, will you return the 4 shoes or only the one that's not your size?
Seek marriage counselors if you can't bear it alone or spiritual father/mother and the relation of you and your wife if necessary cos this matter no suppose reach public at all. You ll get more crazy advice like you are getting on Nairaland.
It's well with you.
Link to the previous thread of the op
https://www.nairaland.com/7252543/unsure-father-fourth-child

MrBrownJay1:
how can such a deceitful/disrespectful/unfaithful/dishonest marriage ever work?! you can still be a great father to your kids without being married to this woman.

Be calming down you this boy.
You really need prayers.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father. Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed. . I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.
I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

I am really happy for you.. don't get depressed,it is a win win situation for you. If I were close to you I would have bought enough weed for us to celebrate. You now have the decision to either love the child as an adopted or kick both of them out but you should know your other kids have already bonded with that child and will be affected.
Mehn, I don't envy you bro.. you are going through a lot right now but can take solace on the fact that you knew early not too late.

mariahAngel:


Omode lo n se e.

Read his previous topics.

I just read it now
My bad
The wife cheated

Sweetplum:

Be calming down you this boy.
You really need prayers.

but of course, i guess you believe that this man should stay married to this deceitful/disrespectful/unfaithful/dishonest woman, and raise another man's child, abi?! i guess in your world, no woman can do any wrong!

Have to edit after reading your previous post. The situation get k-leg already.

The bad part is that you know the person she cheated with. Make I drink come back and reply

MrBrownJay1:


but of course, i guess you believe that this man should stay married to this deceitful/disrespectful/unfaithful/dishonest woman, and raise another man's child, abi?! i guess in your world, no woman can do any wrong!

Shebi your eyes no get pepper and you can see my response above.
No just do face black like charcoal and be prejudice about women. After all na woman born you and your mum is a Nigerian.

Sweetplum:
Shebi your eyes nongetbpepoer and you can see my response above.
No just do face black like charcoal and be prejudice about women. After all na woman born you and your mum is a Nigerian.

get your mind out of the gutter... this has NOTHING to do with women and all to do with RIGHT vs WRONG!
stop trying to make any issue about men vs women, and instead use your mind to judge each and every issue.

Be strong and reject depression, by immersing yourself in whatever to keep you busy.
For the sake of your dependants, man up.



A colleague who is having issues with the husband told me that they didn't have a proper marriage, after 3 kids o.

She wants to put my heart at rest so that I can 'chop'. Not me.
Another mumu is sleeping with her and feeling like Romeo.

Sometimes I blame our fellow men for breaking people's homes.

Serves you right, shebi you no want get sense ni

MrBrownJay1:


get yor mind out of the gutter... this has NOTHING to do with women and all to do with RIGHT vs WRONG!
stop trying to make any issue about men vs women, and instead use your mind to judge each and every issue.

I don use my mind. Go and read again. You ll see my post above. And yes, it's about right and wrong. The man sensed something wrong and went to investigate.

CalmElder:


A colleague who is having issues with the husband told me that they didn't have a pr
Sometimes I blame our fellow men for breaking people's homes.

You re a strong man. This is what most men can't admit

DNA on your other kids and you will be surprised.

CalmElder:
Be strong and reject depression, by immersing yourself in whatever to keep you busy.
For the sake of your dependants, man up.



A colleague who is having issues with the husband told me that they didn't have a proper marriage, after 3 kids o.

She wants to put my heart at rest so that I can 'chop'. Not me.
Another mumu is sleeping with her and feeling like Romeo.

Sometimes I blame our fellow men for breaking people's homes.

It is the married person who owes their spouse faithfulness, and therefore should be blamed for cheating.

You need to tell your wife that the 4th child is not yours. If she wants to argue with you then show her the DNA result. If she know who owns the baby you can give her time to return the child. But if she didn't know the person please train the child. But don't hide this issue from her parents.

Jashub:
My brother, the deed has been done and for the sake of your sanity and mental health, I suggest you start making plans to relocate and leave that harlot you call wife.

As for those bastards dwelling with you, kindly tell them to go and ask their mother to show them where their father is living . Once you can do this , you will know peace

Do your "father" have your DNA test result that you are here calling those children bastards?

Sweetplum:

So bad. While we v bad women, we also v the good ones.
May God heal you sir.
I suggest you tell her to return the child to the owner.
I can't take such thing if I m a man.
Try and see if the relationship can work after she returned the child. If it can't work, separate. A broken heart can heal. A damaged home can't heal.
Link to the previous thread of the op
https://www.nairaland.com/7252543/unsure-father-fourth-child

She can't return her to her father because she is only 1 year 3 months and she is still nursing her.
I can't never separate the innocent child from her mother to save my marriage. I would prefer that she leaves with the child and continue to take care of her outside of my house.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father. Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed. . I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.
I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Now that you have confirmed that the 4th child is not biologically yours, how can you get to confirm the child is biologically your wife's. Once it is proven your wife is the birth mother that eliminates baby-switching......you then make your decisions.

Mindlog:


Now that you have confirmed that the 4th child is not biologically yours, how can you get to confirm the child is biologically your wife's. Once it is proven your wife is the birth mother that eliminates baby-switching......you then make your decisions.

Here is the link to my previous post
https://www.nairaland.com/7252543/unsure-father-fourth-child#115180469

Simplyfun:
You need to tell your wife that the 4th child is not yours. If she wants to argue with you then show her the DNA result. If she know who owns the baby you can give her time to return the child. But if she didn't know the person please train the child. But don't hide this issue from her parents.

Did she buy or pick up the baby, that should be returned?

Whether the marriage ends or not, she is obligated to nurture the child.

obiekunie01:
DNA on your other kids and you will be surprised.

I have no doubts about my other 3 children because they are mine 2 are my carbon copy and the other one is his mother carbon copy

Johnnyjohnnyman:


Here is the link to my previous post
https://www.nairaland.com/7252543/unsure-father-fourth-child#115180469

Whatever decisions you are going to make, just make sure that at least the 3 children you believe are biologically yours are continually provided for.

Johnny, it seems you love to eat shit. Get ready to eat more shit from the LovePeddler you call a wife. You never did her wrong by sending money to your sister.
If the money you sent to your sister made you a millionaire, would she have complained? No. But because you were duped temporarily, then she went wild.

For me I can't harbor the thoughts of someone pounding my wife to the point it bore a bastard fruit.

prior to your previous topics ...
Your wife no try at all!!!
you are a good man and you deserve better