I have been in a serious 5 years relationship with my girlfriend.
She is all I want in a woman, beautiful, intelligent, loyal and faithful. Am her first guy though and she is just 22. She is a Nurse.
I decided to take the relationship to the next level this year. I surprised her with an engagement party and put the ring on her finger. She was very happy.
I met her parents and started with the Introduction. They accepted my proposal and requested for a medical test to ascertain
our genetic compatibility before proceeding with the bride price payment.
I took her to a private medical laboratory for the test and the result said we are both AS.
It was a devastating experience for us but we decided to go for another round of test in two separate reputable hospitals to confirm the test result but the results were the same AS.
The parents decided the marriage will not continue while my girlfriend have been crying since then. It was a heartbreaking experience for me. Seeing my girlfriend cry is shattering my heart. I decided to call off the relationship but she has been pleading with me not to leave her.
Am just confused. Please your advice is needed.
What do I do in this situation considering the love and commitment we built for 5 years now.

FTC, let's make our seal.

It's a hard moment most times especially when you've gone far in the relationship.

The best suggestion is to call it a quit. The certainty of giving birth to an SS free birth is not guaranteed.

Looking at the emotional trauma this will cause you and your bae, I'll advice that you don't withdraw immediately, rather gradually.

State it clearly to her that the marriage won't work again and it's for the benefit of the both of you. There's no point giving birth and loosing your children at their peak or prime.

No family will agree to this in this our current age. Even churches won't agree to join you both.Though you can still be friends.

Lastly, take caution. In your next relationship, ensure you know the genotype of your partner on time before getting deep into emotional connection.

She is all I want in a woman, beautiful, intelligent, loyal and faithful.

Guy, where you waka go see a Nigerian girl with all these attributes? God dey really ordain your footsteps

Permutate A.S and A.S and see that the probability of you having Children of genotype A.A is 25%, S.S is 25% and A.S is 50%


Don't forget that the cards can sometimes be in the hands of your village people

She's still very young, leave her alone to live her life and find someone with a compatible genotype.

No risk am, no claim say you get faith.

If you go ahead, you've made your self a murder of innocent babies that never asked to be born.

Before una start relationship, make una dey normalize genotype test, even if na situationship una dey do. Cause I've seen situationships wey lead to marriage as belle enter.

I guess cos I was her first guy and started dating her when she was 17. I was always their for her too.

Romanoff:
She's still very young, leave her alone to live her life and find someone with a compatible genotype.

No risk am, no claim say you get faith.

If you go ahead, you've made your self a murder of innocent babies that never asked to be born.

Before una start relationship, make una dey normalize genotype test, even if na situationship una dey do. Cause I've seen situationships wey lead to marriage as belle enter.

Yes I understand. I have tried to control the situation by allowing her to go but she is finding it difficult.
Even myself it's not easy for me.

Persephone1:
5 years relationship and genotype talk no show face for your relationship until you are ready for marriage? Nawa ooooo

I know you are both heartbroken right now but please don't forge on. May God comfort you with AA ENP. Take heart.

I knew I was AS but was scared about her being the same with me.
I asked her before, she said almost all her family members are AA.
One day, I saw her medical report before she entered nursing school, the result said she was AA. So I never bothered again until this issue came up. I reminded her about that report but she said the medical report was forged.

Both of you should visit a general hospital, visit the ward where sickle cell patience are taken care of, observe the difficulties they are in. Spend sometime and then ask yourselves if this is what you wish your children to look like . If yes go ahead.

charlesdprof:

Yes I understand. I have tried to control the situation by allowing her to go but she is finding it difficult.
Even myself it's not easy for me.

Both of you will be okay.

Zonefree:

Guy, where you waka go see a Nigerian girl with all these attributes? God dey really ordain your footsteps

I guess cos I was her first guy. I started dating her when she was 17. So loyalty will not be a problem

Marry her. Before una go born one or 2 sickle cell children, you go know wetin e mean to love.

charlesdprof:
I guess cos I was her first guy and started dating her when she was 17. I was always their for her too.

at your age, you never cared to know your genotype and blood group until now. You sound stupid man

Bush man

Mehn Sorry bout that!!

Genotype be serving people hot breakfast since time immemorial.

Babe has got all the qualities and tick all the boxes of Op but genotype wont let them enjoy their union in peace.

Now Op's searchlight is only gonna focus on a lady with AA genotype. But the big question is......Will the lady with AA have loyalty and love towards the Op just like his AS girlfriend??

Op, abort mission with the AS girlfriend however her love towards you...... Go search for AA partner but not AA partner with olosho tendency oooo. Toh!!!

Chris2863:
at your age, you never cared to know your genotype and blood group until now. You sound stupid man

I knew I was AS but was scared about her being the same with me.
I asked her before, she said almost all her family members are AA.
One day, I saw her medical report before she entered nursing school, the result said she was AA. So I never bothered again until this issue came up. I reminded her about that report but she said the medical report was forged.
Please mind your language.

May you not have to see the effects of Sickle cell anemia, it starts with a decision to walk away today!
You love her but love is not enough fo sickle cell genotype

For these 2022 going to 2023 man is still talking about love. We came into these world alone and nobody will follow you to the grave when you die, so tell me what stupid love are you talking about.

charlesdprof:
I have been in a serious 5 years relationship with my girlfriend.
She is all I want in a woman, beautiful, intelligent, loyal and faithful. Am her first guy though and she is just 22. She is a Nurse.
I decided to take the relationship to the next level this year. I surprised her with an engagement party and put the ring on her finger. She was very happy.
I met her parents and started with the Introduction. They accepted my proposal and requested for a medical test to ascertain
our genetic compatibility before proceeding with the bride price payment.
I took her to a private medical laboratory for the test and the result said we are both AS.
It was a devastating experience for us but we decided to go for another round of test in two separate reputable hospitals to confirm the test result but the results were the same AS.
The parents decided the marriage will not continue while my girlfriend have been crying since then. It was a heartbreaking experience for me. Seeing my girlfriend cry is shattering my heart. I decided to call off the relationship but she has been pleading with me not to leave her.
Am just confused. Please your advice is needed.
What do I do in this situation considering the love and commitment we built for 5 years now.

You already know what to do about the relationship

Forget about her crying tears

Gradually both of you will get tired and things will get in to places

Whenever you see...

She is all I want in a woman

know immediately OP only wants to waste your time.

"She is all I want in a woman" seriously? A Nigerian girl?

There is nothing you can do at this juncture than to go your separate ways as going ahead to marry her will make you regret in years to come, when you begin to take your children who re now with genotype SS from one hospital to another. Love should not push you to do the wrong thing.

Go ahead and marry her, it will all end in premium tears.

Marrying a 9ja girl is a death sentence, you now want to marry the one with full stop.

I don't blame you. Love is blind but marriage will open your eyes.

charlesdprof:
I have been in a serious 5 years relationship with my girlfriend.
She is all I want in a woman, beautiful, intelligent, loyal and faithful. Am her first guy though and she is just 22. She is a Nurse.
I decided to take the relationship to the next level this year. I surprised her with an engagement party and put the ring on her finger. She was very happy.
I met her parents and started with the Introduction. They accepted my proposal and requested for a medical test to ascertain
our genetic compatibility before proceeding with the bride price payment.
I took her to a private medical laboratory for the test and the result said we are both AS.
It was a devastating experience for us but we decided to go for another round of test in two separate reputable hospitals to confirm the test result but the results were the same AS.
The parents decided the marriage will not continue while my girlfriend have been crying since then. It was a heartbreaking experience for me. Seeing my girlfriend cry is shattering my heart. I decided to call off the relationship but she has been pleading with me not to leave her.
Am just confused. Please your advice is needed.
What do I do in this situation considering the love and commitment we built for 5 years now.

She being a nurse is supposed to have given her the in depth analysis of the consequences that you both will face in the future.

Guy, run ooO, or tomorrow your national anthem will be "Had i known"

Romanoff:
She's still very young, leave her alone to live her life and find someone with a compatible genotype.

No risk am, no claim say you get faith.

If you go ahead, you've made your self a murder of innocent babies that never asked to be born.

Before una start relationship, make una dey normalize genotype test, even if na situationship una dey do. Cause I've seen situationships wey lead to marriage as belle enter.

Did you read the story before spitting this trash?

Chris2863:
at your age, you never cared to know your genotype and blood group until now. You sound stupid man

Stop talking nonsense and read before commenting

Qatar2022:

Did you read the story before spitting this trash?

Yes I did. Next?

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charlesdprof:
I have been in a serious 5 years relationship with my girlfriend.
She is all I want in a woman, beautiful, intelligent, loyal and faithful. Am her first guy though and she is just 22. She is a Nurse.
I decided to take the relationship to the next level this year. I surprised her with an engagement party and put the ring on her finger. She was very happy.
I met her parents and started with the Introduction. They accepted my proposal and requested for a medical test to ascertain
our genetic compatibility before proceeding with the bride price payment.
I took her to a private medical laboratory for the test and the result said we are both AS.
It was a devastating experience for us but we decided to go for another round of test in two separate reputable hospitals to confirm the test result but the results were the same AS.
The parents decided the marriage will not continue while my girlfriend have been crying since then. It was a heartbreaking experience for me. Seeing my girlfriend cry is shattering my heart. I decided to call off the relationship but she has been pleading with me not to leave her.
Am just confused. Please your advice is needed.
What do I do in this situation considering the love and commitment we built for 5 years now.

I am also in this bro, I am just so confused. Well I am looking at options sha cause medicine has advanced. The good thing is you are both aware of the genotype and know that bringing a child without necessary precautions could be fatal