Lifeinbits:
For those of you thinking I am young, I am a 40 years old man while my girlfriend is 28 years old. We had some conversation this morning and it's so glaring that she wants me to go through the study route or try another country then she can come and join me. She said that going as a dependent means I want to settle for crumbs while i can also get the big bones. And I am insisting to her that it's doesn't matter even if F2 does not work, I can always do under the table job.

Forget about the girl! You will be okay 2 months after she leaves. Cut off communication with her if she is no longer interested in you. Man up and find your own japa route

Lifeinbits:
Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and I encouraged her to do so. I also supported her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam.

While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten admission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

Whatever decision she takes to your detriment is well deserved.


How can you pay for someone else's Exam and fees when you still have same ambition.

That one kwansign you sha

Lol!!, Op get ready it's coming

Lifeinbits:
Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and I encouraged her to do so. I also supported her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam.

While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten admission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

She has not seen anything yet, highest 2 years after graduation she will either return to Nigeria or have to run to the next country. To get H1B visa is not beans again. She's still ignorant. And even if she gets there's no husband in the US. Why are you worrying yourself? For her to even get visa out of Nigeria now is not less than 2024. You should be happy you have found out who she is and how foooolishness you are to be spending your money because you believe someone is in love with you

A lot of you guys are visionless, waiting for another person to push you before you can do better for yourself. A lot of you feel relaxed about your present situation without upgrading your skills or anything

nicerod:
U too travel out without marrying her



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Best advice

Imagine a guy telling me that i am dreaming big all because I said i want to acquire skills. The lady is struggling, you are also struggling too because why didn't you wife her since all these while. It's now that she has admission you want to rush wedding, just make you are scared of failure. Make una shift abeg.

Lifeinbits:
Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and I encouraged her to do so. I also supported her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam.

While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten admission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

Anything you are doing for love, don't expect payback. You will only be setting yourself up for disappointment.
Give what you know you can afford to lose.

Lifeinbits:
Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and I encouraged her to do so. I also supported her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam.

While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten admission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

Lol, she's so small minded. Cut your loss and move on. Visa never even show, lol.

Sisib15:
A lot of you guys are visionless, waiting for another person to push you before you can do better for yourself. A lot of you feel relaxed about your present situation without upgrading your skills or anything

Shut the eff up,broke girls are talking...I knew Nigerian girls would take sides with the girl actions,you wey wan marry man that's divorced a man older than you by far person wey you suppose call brother you dey advice guys see ehn just dey play


All Nigerian girls are useless

You are not wise at all. Capping on another person's intellect so he can relocate. Alll of you are opportunist

clydecarson:



Shut the eff up,broke girls are talking...I knew Nigerian girls would take sides with the girl actions


All Nigerian girls are useless

Sisib15:
You are not wise at all. Capping on another person's intellect so he can relocate. Alll of you are opportunist

As you wan marry man of 40years what are you...broke biattxhhh

I have no business with you. All of you broke ass guys

clydecarson:



As you wan marry man of 40years what are you...broke biattxhhh

Sisib15:
I have no business with you. All of you broke ass guys

That song small doctor sang 'if you no get money hide your face' I'm sure thst song is for you

You suppose dey waka with pillow case covering your face you wan marry grandpa,you think say you be Regina Daniel's

Useless girls

Lifeinbits:
Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and I encouraged her to do so. I also supported her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam.

While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten admission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

E shock you? Buahaha. Person wey no get naija girlfriend get peace of mind.

Val is approaching and I feel at peace.

Continue wailing on another person's post

Rat!

clydecarson:



That song small doctor sang 'if you no get money hide your face' I'm sure thst song is for you

You suppose dey waka with pillow case covering your face you wan marry grandpa,you think say you be Regina Daniel's

Useless girls

The funniest thing is she gave you the best advice anyone can give you. Don’t go to Usa on F2 you will get frustrated. Most f2 end up changing to f1 when they get here, the chances of both of you getting the visa if you go together is also very slim. Uk is easier to go with a dependent but usa hmm. I have so many colleagues here that both husband and wife came on f1 separately. People that are over 40years sef are coming through study route so I don’t think your age is a problem. Dust your credentials, ask her to put you through or better still surf the internet and process your own admission to.

Sisib15:
Continue wailing on another person's post

Rat!

Lmaoooooo broke baittchhh no worry you go see 57 years old man marry

Sisib15:
Continue wailing on another person's post

Rat!

clydecarson:



Lmaoooooo broke baittchhh no worry you go see 57 years old man marry

you are talking as if age of her future husband will stop her from getting married. You know very little bro

alphaNomega:


you are talking as if age of her future husband will stop her from getting married. You know very little bro

Okay..next

HumbleTrader:
How about you speak to your partner instead of random strangers online.

Bros you get sense
Dem gp dey carry family and personal issues cone ask faceless people for advise.

He better use the route

Girl dey struggle tp jappa u dey pay for her and ypu dey find the same link..

Mumu no dey hard tp know

Jennyclay:
If you support her with application fee nko? Mtcheeww.

Men should learn to help and not expect anything in return. Nawa oo!

If the lady decides not to marry you after spending on her, it's her choice and not a sin against God.

Biko, don't spoil her show oo!

And can your lots spend and not expect anything in return. Olosho kobo kobo.

Lifeinbits:
Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and I encouraged her to do so. I also supported her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam.

While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten admission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

Conclusion: your babe is not interested in marrying you now, She believes she can get a better guy in US.

My opinion is that you leave her be. And develop yourself.

Lesson learnt. Never develop a woman first before developing yourself. It's like washing car for someone to drive.

Collect your L and go.

sholay2011:
Errmmm...will somebody tell him?

No no no. The breakfast still dey untop fire

Guy I have shared a story on nairaland. No be tales by moonlight I see am and know the people. No be sat they tell me.
Ppl will tell you abroad it is work wok and school school school, no time to date blah blah n.a. big lie!!
This babe got visa n ticket left her state to Lagos to prepare to head to obodo oyinbo. N.a. so she and her bf come to Lagos. Bf no get visa but he came to see her off. Lol. They slept in the same room in Lagos. Guy, she told her friend who I know that nothing for the guy. So understand even before she left she had dumped the guy. As I'm typing she has married a guy in obodo oyinbo and given birth to 2 kids. That BF was...naija girls well plenty no value their body or can sleep around. I know another babe she come Lagos to get visa and ticket. N.a. so this babe dey sleep around for area before she travel. Guy thank God she has told you go plan your life and move on. Only God will save Nigerians. The immorality in the land..

mastermaestro:


You couldn't have said it better. Dude had zero plan for himself all along. He laid his entire being on another person's plan, which I find very stupid for an adult.

How can your girlfriend's plan be your plan? OP needs a hot healing slap.

Tankio.. who dey raise these boys…

You don't advise you need to be flogged 100 lashes.

ITbomb:
Free the girl please, both of you are still struggling to stand, don't be a burden to each other.
If you can, remain friends.

That's life, no need to be hard on yourself

This is the best comment I ever seen here, relationship shouldn't be ended bwith fighting now

Mkelv0106:
Don't stress urself man, she'll still need you, like you said, she haven't started the visa application process yet, chill bro, if she isn't keen on getting married to you, fine, draft out a contract, if she still want you to help, the both of you shud sign an agreement for her to pay you back, let it be purely business, you're not running a charity organization. Hope you read about a man that sued his ex after he trained her in law sch, and she left him and won 12k dolls, if I'm not mistaken..
If you guys can't be married partners, you might as well be business partners, everything no suppose lead to quarrel and malice.

Where e go see am to sue?

Na so them the do but as soon as they get disappointed them go carry long and tear face come the rub you like dog wey hunger wan kill

Lifeinbits:
Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and I encouraged her to do so. I also supported her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam.

While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten admission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.

Chai who will tell him

You dey pay money for "girlfriend"? Pele.

Lifeinbits:
Myself and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years that she sometimes stays in my house too. I have always had the intention of traveling abroad but i don't know how, so last year my girlfriend brought the idea of traveling and how she wants to try US study route and I encouraged her to do so. I also supported her so much with my money by helping her to pay her application fee and TOEFL exam.

While doing all these, we had a conversation and she told me that if she is able to get a fully funded offer that we will be going together and I will be going with her as dependent. Now my girlfriend has gotten admission but she is yet to apply for visa and she has changed plans. She does not want me to go with her rather she is advising that I should also use the study route ifi want to travel.

Note : we had the intentions of getting married but right now she doesn't want us to get marry.