Jennyclay:
Biko, Someone should come and take me to U.k, honestly I won’t end the relationship/marriage

Jennyclay:
Biko, Someone should come and take me to U.k, honestly I won’t end the relationship/marriage

madridguy:
It is too much freedom.

Well, to me I still blame the men in such position, I no go sell my property, borrow money for us to travel you come reach foreign land make you come say you no do again. E no possible. We must talk am very well before we comot for Naija.

Mindlog:
Were they truly "happily married" while still in Nigeria?

The Nigerian environment tends to subsidize a lot of unhealthy marriages and then tagged a "happy marriage".

A lot of things need unlearning but some are stuck in their ways... one said it was emasculating doing the dishes.😆😆😆

That reminds me of a draft dissertation of a Nigerian Psychology postgraduate student, I read and it was really insightful as it focused on the breakdown in marital relationships of some Nigerian migrants to the UK as the focus.

The project detailed how the UK system hits hard on Nigerian husbands who are so high on control and submission as the UK system deflates these. The researcher also brought up the demystication of income which counters many threads here that advocates a man should not let his wife know how much his income is but here in the UK, the wife knows it before it even reaches the man's account and the system forces the couples to be more open about their finances and they are forced to make joint decisions as it forces accountable leadership on husbands as against the lordship status, they "enjoyed" in Nigeria ....d person write many, many for the dissertation.😆😆😆😆

princeabdul:
“ their husband also agreed to end the their marriages” did you heard from these husbands ??

eben97:
Our marriages are subsidized here...a lot of things we claim as right(particularly for the man) over here appears totally wrong in UK and we know the average woman like "freedom of everything"!!and once UK system favors Thier course ,what do u expect ?there's no family member to report cases of misbehaviors to, no pastor (in real sense as most hardly attend church after sometime due to wanting to meet up Bills and satisfy desires) to help settle differences, and because the average woman can be short fused ,u see explosions interms of divorce.Most women over there won't cope with the family life style we manage with over here.So no matter the level of unity , understanding the couple display here in Nigeria, it would surely be tested overtime as they try to settle there, finally, negative influence from friends and other fully settled relatives play the major role here.

Mindlog:


That reminds me of a draft dissertation of a Nigerian Psychology postgraduate student, I read and it was really insightful as it focused on the breakdown in marital relationships of some Nigerian migrants to the UK as the focus.

EBMedia:
A human right lawyer, Bolanle, has decried the high rate of divorce among ‘happily married' Nigerian couples after they relocate to the UK, IGBERETV reports.

He wrote on his Twitter handle;



https://twitter.com/BolanleCole/status/1657282890005196800?t=03ImUcp6y2jvwnJ8xWaP6A&s=19

JovialJune:



Very funny

The problem with you Nigerian men is that you think all the nonsense permitted in our society which you get away with, also applies there when you travel out, very funny.

There are so many women earning their living in Nigeria because the economy permits it, there are so many women earning more than their husbands in this Nigeria, so what exactly is the difference between Nigeria and U.K?

The real reason why Nigeriaan women refuse to take your bullshit abroad is because you think you can eat your cake and have it, the constant polygamous in nature bs, treating her like she is nothing, cheating anyhow, controlling mindset with subjugation and dominance, will not be tolerated in a society where people's mental state and health especially that of women is important for a sane and functioning society, unlike here that it is expected of women to remain in abusive marriages because society says so.

If you like keep being pained that Nigerian women are on a fvcking spree same as you men that take pride in it, something that has been going on and rampant in Nigeria what exactly will be the difference abroad? How exactly is it a new found freedom?

You nl boys really over rate yourselves sha.

xynerise:
The thing just tire me o. My uncle is going through same issue

Bigmouth3:

What makes you think women's mental state of health is expecially more important?
This is the same character that makes you guys become lonely at 40 and 50 , clutching on teddy bears and crying every night .
Me me me me will be the death of you all.
Normally I don't even see myself living in any western world , expecially the UK. A lady there has paid almost 40million naira to a male friend of mine ,all in the name of marriage cos she is lonely in the UK. They already did a wedding here and she went back ,now the guy is building a house ontop her head all in the name of our future . U go suffer like her if u no get sense

Jennyclay:
if you also take me there is it a bad thing??

Crafteck1:


Nonsense talk from nonsense individual, if not for tithes and offering Christianity for don die.

Jennyclay:
Biko, Someone should come and take me to U.k, honestly I won’t end the relationship/marriage

JovialJune:



Oh so you want Nigerian women to keep taking nonsense from men as it use to be in Nigeria abi?

Nigerian men exercise marriage freedom with their cheating and the rest right here in Nigeria, then take same freedom outside, why is it that you all get pained when Nigerian women also exercise same marriage freedom in a country where equality is the watch word? You want women to remain slaves instead of being free right?

The Nigerian system allows the men chase their wives out with nothing after divorce after building a household for years, nobody bats an eyelid, all of you see it as normal and not being evil right?, western world recognise that as far as the marriage is legal and binding, whatever is attained in the marriage belongs to the husband and wife, and will be shared equally or unequally as the case may be, but in your head the right thing is to leave the wife high and dry abi? that to you is being fair, just and sane? You think it's only men that get to part ways with half or more of their money? No woman has being in this situation before and ongoing?

The way you guys regurgitate same bile as if enlightened makes one see you all as below par, sincerely.

Blue86:
The thing is, in every geo location, there is a ruler of darkness influencing and perpetrating the darknesses in that location.

In U.K for instance, divorce is one of the darknesses.
So don't be surprised, when a lady lands in there, and gets influenced or seduced to divorce, and actually do it.

Just like in The States ; where Homosexuality is one of the prevailing darkness in it.
So don't be surprised when a lady or young man gets into that place, and suddenly says he or she has found her truth ; that they were born gay.

Therefore, don't be influenced by whatever God is against, that is prevalent in the geographical location you find yourselves.

princeabdul:
if at all you wrote this from your head ,then your head is a hollow tank .

Jennyclay:
Biko, Someone should come and take me to U.k, honestly I won’t end the relationship/marriage

JovialJune:


Enough with the bs gaslighting and ad hominem

Women didn't abuse the privilege of any system, they left abusive marriages because they can, same way men leave too. Women didn't divorce themselves, their husbands also agreed to end their marriages.

bukatyne:


Marriages are subsidised here?

😃 😀 😄 😁 🤣 😂 😃 😀 😄 😁 🤣 😂

malcom1X:
The man fails to work on himself or improve himself. When he reaches there.

Indians, Chinese, Kenyans, people who are more educated than an average Nigerian do this same thing but you'll never hear them divorce. They settle their family issues.

But Nigerian women?

Perhaps you don’t know, most of the marriages they’re talking about are “arrangee” for the japa pple..the man signs a contract to marry and sponsor the woman(especially nurses), just to make it easier for him to move. They then stay over there for a while and get a divorce. Na d new trend now, nurses na hotcake

Hmmm 🤔

Odin13:
Nigerian women are basically the problem.. take you wife to Uk and understand the phrase..” they don’t really know what they want”

. Another is the freedom that comes with it.. especially ones that claim they don’t love…and marry out of sentiment.. and the very young once’s that fantasize

. The shamelessly age without husband.. after dining with reality ..

Jennyclay:
Biko, Someone should come and take me to U.k, honestly I won’t end the relationship/marriage

eben97:
you don marry,??I you are not,else, there lots of temperamental ouburst out here that ain't required, other way round ...you opted out of your marriage !!na una worst case scenario be that.ñmarriage is designed to be worked out and not walked out of.Keep your wrong outburst of anger and bitterness out of marriage.Let all parties ensure they are all ready to make the thing work..abuse or no abuse.That man /woman that abused the other spouse tomorrow may eventually become a great role model after sorting out things and working to get the home front right.If all of us carry anger for head like some of una...there won't be homes to look after by now. Grow out and overcome your weaknesses gradually ,that's my language for all wanna be wedded or already IN